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Candyce Ossefort-Russell @cortherapist.bsky.social · 4h

Our human evolutionary wiring for learning to manage emotions within the context of an attuned relationship continues throughout the lifespan...& deficits & wounds that emerge out of the parent/child relationship can be healed within the context of a safe and caring relationship.

Candyce Ossefort-Russell @cortherapist.bsky.social · 17h

E39: "Heartcore" Grief Science with Candyce Ossefort-Russell

Candyce Ossefort-Russell went from having a healthy husband to a dead husband in a matter of two months. A bizarre heart-consuming virus was at the root of i...

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Candyce Ossefort-Russell @cortherapist.bsky.social · 1d

#Grief is not a monster in the darkness that we should fear and flee from, or battle and fight against so that we will ultimately #prevail over it to regain control. Grief is actually the brain/body/soul’s natural, necessary, healthy response to this universal wound. #healing

Candyce Ossefort-Russell @cortherapist.bsky.social · 1d

The Wisdom of Pulling Back from the News

Finding light in the fragments

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Candyce Ossefort-Russell @cortherapist.bsky.social · 2d

Feeling supported to go all the way through my own traumatic loss led me to embrace the privilege of becoming a therapist myself. Because the darkness taught me some very important things.Going through darkness & coming out changed taught me wisdom, acceptance & compassion

Candyce Ossefort-Russell @cortherapist.bsky.social · 2d

85 Deb Dana | Loss Through the Lens of Polyvagal Theory - Nathalie Himmelrich

Deb Dana’s influence first started with her publications and her online workshops, through which she allowed me insights into Polyvagal Theory from a

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Candyce Ossefort-Russell @cortherapist.bsky.social · 2d

When you’re facing life events and emotions that threaten to break you, turn to nature. Nature will be able to match your intensity. Nature won’t judge you. Nature won’t fall apart if you scream or cry or thrash around. #lifeevents #lifeafterloss #emotions #nature #intense

Candyce Ossefort-Russell @cortherapist.bsky.social · 3d

The key to all help we offer to those grieving is for us to learn to bear our own unease in the face of the helplessness we feel as caregivers when we witness inconsolable suffering in our loved ones. #bearourownunease #deeptherapist

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Candyce Ossefort-Russell @cortherapist.bsky.social · 3d

Widowed at Age 30, Feeling Lonely, and Seeking Support on Grief With Candyce Ossefort-Russell

Podcast Episode · So Sorry For Your Loss: Not Your Average Grief Group · 07/05/2022 · 43m

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Candyce Ossefort-Russell @cortherapist.bsky.social · 3d

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Candyce Ossefort-Russell @cortherapist.bsky.social · 3d

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Candyce Ossefort-Russell @cortherapist.bsky.social · 3d

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Candyce Ossefort-Russell @cortherapist.bsky.social · 3d

@marifromky.bsky.social, @effectivealtruist.bsky.social, @frengible.bsky.social,
@trendingrussia.bsky.social, @dakinispirit.bsky.social, @nonzerosumjames.bsky.social, @valeter.bsky.social, @soundawakeworld.bsky.social, @skypilot.social,

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Candyce Ossefort-Russell @cortherapist.bsky.social · 3d

Once again, sending my sincerest appreciation for your likes, repost, follows and continuous engagement with our online community.

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Candyce Ossefort-Russell @cortherapist.bsky.social · 3d

Dark and torn open is okay. Paralyzed, numb, and afraid is okay. Upended and in transitional turmoil is okay. That little crack in your emotions that’s beginning to show is okay. #YourGriefIsYourOwn

Candyce Ossefort-Russell @cortherapist.bsky.social · 4d

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Candyce Ossefort-Russell @cortherapist.bsky.social · 4d

If you don’t name & soothe what you’re really feeling, all the tools— distraction, productivity, etc.— are simply band-aids. We all need band-aids when we’re bleeding. But we also need help to see the wounds clearly, so we can accurately tend to them & help them heal.

Candyce Ossefort-Russell @cortherapist.bsky.social · 4d

Three Ways to Process Grief

We all experience loss and learning how to process that loss is a vital component to fostering resilience and overcoming adversity.

www.mentalhealthfirstaid.org

Candyce Ossefort-Russell @cortherapist.bsky.social · 4d

The #attachment-oriented therapist can directly help with emotional #regulation and encouragement, and in fact, this kind of help is more attuned than just following the patient around all day.

Candyce Ossefort-Russell @cortherapist.bsky.social · 5d

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Candyce Ossefort-Russell @cortherapist.bsky.social · 5d

Because you’re a beautiful, tender, emotion-laced human. And sometimes, what we all need is another human to help us over the shattered shards of life and through those important changes. Until you can finally look deep within yourself and see the small glimmer of light that was there all along.

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Candyce Ossefort-Russell @cortherapist.bsky.social · 5d

Speaking of Psychology: How grieving changes the brain, with Mary-Frances O’Connor, PhD
Episode 184

www.apa.org

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Candyce Ossefort-Russell @cortherapist.bsky.social · 5d

There’s no way to move, no way to grow, if it feels like you’re required EITHER to love and appreciate your parents, OR to admit their flaws and therefore feel anger or grief. That’s an unsolvable dilemma for many people.

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Candyce Ossefort-Russell @cortherapist.bsky.social · 6d

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