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TheFlirtyPineapples

@theflirtyswingers.bsky.social

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Hi! I’m Bella - Retired Sex Therapist & your favorite Swinger Wing-Girl! Pineapple Tips & Flirty Fun! I ♥️ Newbies, got questions? Ask away!

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TheFlirtyPineapples @theflirtyswingers.bsky.social · Jun 14

Speaking up about intentions won’t ruin connections but staying quiet might. Flirting all night with no plan to play? That’s fine, just say so early. People deserve to know where you stand so they can invest their energy wisely. Being clear is sexy. Mixed signals aren’t. #ENM #speakup #dontbeshy

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TheFlirtyPineapples @theflirtyswingers.bsky.social · Jun 1

Love these sparkly shoes but I have the hardest time keeping the straps up! Anyone have any good tips?

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TheFlirtyPineapples @theflirtyswingers.bsky.social · Jun 1

We decided to go to a toga swinger party about an hour before it started. At first I thought I might have to dress off-theme…but luckily I was able to pull something together! #swinger #togaparty #sparkle #fun #enm

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TheFlirtyPineapples @theflirtyswingers.bsky.social · May 22

Survey says... ⬇️

One woman on Family Feud said she’d invite her best friend ❌ Her opponent said, "I wouldn’t go," which was the #1 answer.

I think some women who think they'd hate it would actually be surprised how fun it is! What’s your take?

#familyfeud #nonmonogamy #waitwhat

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TheFlirtyPineapples @theflirtyswingers.bsky.social · May 21

Here’s the truth: Betrayal sucks - but you can handle it. You've survived hard things before, and you’ll do it again. Trusting your partner is important…and so is trusting yourself! Don’t confuse control with safety. #brokentrust #relationshipadvice #keepingitreal

TheFlirtyPineapples @theflirtyswingers.bsky.social · May 20

Don’t believe every stupid thought you have. In ENM, fears & insecurities can cloud judgment. When doubts arise, pause & choose curiosity, not assumptions & reactivity. #TrustYourPartner #NonMonogamy #HealthyRelationships #enm #swingers #swinger

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TheFlirtyPineapples @theflirtyswingers.bsky.social · Apr 21

Anything? Do they even know you’re ethically non-monogamous (or considering it)?

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TheFlirtyPineapples @theflirtyswingers.bsky.social · Feb 12

When validating on swinger apps, DON’T just use the template validation! Take a minute to customize! It makes a great impression on both the people you validate AND you! Here are some examples of high quality validations we’ve received! ♥️💋 #swinger #ethicalnonmonogamy #enm #datingadvice #cnm

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TheFlirtyPineapples @theflirtyswingers.bsky.social · Jan 15

Careful not to over-edit profile pics! We once went on a date with someone who was literally unrecognizable based upon their profile pic. A little polish is totally fine. Like you’d see in wedding photos or senior portraits. But keep it subtle. You want them to be excited to see you, not confused!

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TheFlirtyPineapples @theflirtyswingers.bsky.social · Jan 14

Thanks for the comment!! ♥️♥️

TheFlirtyPineapples @theflirtyswingers.bsky.social · Jan 14

That’s true. I always love going to pineapple events that embrace inclusivity! The first time I saw someone in a wheelchair on a Bliss cruise, I was like, THIS IS AMAZING! It’s so nice to be places where everyone is celebrated and accepted!

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TheFlirtyPineapples @theflirtyswingers.bsky.social · Jan 14

Haha, he’s got that whole list thing working in his favor!!

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TheFlirtyPineapples @theflirtyswingers.bsky.social · Jan 14

I totally get that! ♥️

TheFlirtyPineapples @theflirtyswingers.bsky.social · Jan 14

That’s a great boundary!

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TheFlirtyPineapples @theflirtyswingers.bsky.social · Jan 14

That’s so true of us too…although we both kinda suck at it. I’m just slightly better at responding than my hubby 😬🫣

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TheFlirtyPineapples @theflirtyswingers.bsky.social · Jan 14

Thanks! ♥️

TheFlirtyPineapples @theflirtyswingers.bsky.social · Jan 14

Haha, fun fantasy! I’m a slow, picky burn though. So you never know!

TheFlirtyPineapples @theflirtyswingers.bsky.social · Jan 14

Haha, they’re all fun! Thanks!

TheFlirtyPineapples @theflirtyswingers.bsky.social · Jan 14

Thanks for the comment! ♥️💋

TheFlirtyPineapples @theflirtyswingers.bsky.social · Jan 14

They’re all so fun! Thanks!

TheFlirtyPineapples @theflirtyswingers.bsky.social · Jan 14

I can’t tell what post this is in response to for some reason?!

TheFlirtyPineapples @theflirtyswingers.bsky.social · Jan 14

Yeah, I feel like some people can be nervous about sharing their boundaries as newbies. I’m always like, give it to me straight! I’d rather just know out of the gate!

TheFlirtyPineapples @theflirtyswingers.bsky.social · Jan 14

Agree! I’m all about laying it all on the table in advance!

TheFlirtyPineapples @theflirtyswingers.bsky.social · Jan 14

Yes! Open and honest communication is key!

TheFlirtyPineapples @theflirtyswingers.bsky.social · Jan 14

Exactly!!