Delphi
@delphiellis.bsky.social
Educator ✨ Casual Rebel ✨ 🫖🥛🥇✨ (Follow/RT ≠ endmt.)
Stop making people do icebreakers they don’t want; it’s a power trip.
It’s not our job, as educators, to “push people out of their comfort zone”. Because we don’t know where that begins and ends.
Read my article on Medium here (with a link to a longer article): medium.com/@delphiellis...
It’s not our job, as educators, to “push people out of their comfort zone”. Because we don’t know where that begins and ends.
Read my article on Medium here (with a link to a longer article): medium.com/@delphiellis...
January 29, 2025 at 6:00 AM
Stop making people do icebreakers they don’t want; it’s a power trip.
It’s not our job, as educators, to “push people out of their comfort zone”. Because we don’t know where that begins and ends.
Read my article on Medium here (with a link to a longer article): medium.com/@delphiellis...
It’s not our job, as educators, to “push people out of their comfort zone”. Because we don’t know where that begins and ends.
Read my article on Medium here (with a link to a longer article): medium.com/@delphiellis...
This feels relevant.
January 24, 2025 at 8:45 PM
This feels relevant.
This feels relevant.
January 9, 2025 at 9:10 PM
This feels relevant.
On the Own My Life course, developed by Natalie Collins, we talk about cultural “unlesses”.
These are the way society normalises violence towards women (for example, in media headlines) if she doesn’t meet a man’s “needs”. Eg, “Violence is wrong… unless she doesn’t cook his tea”.
These are the way society normalises violence towards women (for example, in media headlines) if she doesn’t meet a man’s “needs”. Eg, “Violence is wrong… unless she doesn’t cook his tea”.
January 8, 2025 at 8:31 PM
On the Own My Life course, developed by Natalie Collins, we talk about cultural “unlesses”.
These are the way society normalises violence towards women (for example, in media headlines) if she doesn’t meet a man’s “needs”. Eg, “Violence is wrong… unless she doesn’t cook his tea”.
These are the way society normalises violence towards women (for example, in media headlines) if she doesn’t meet a man’s “needs”. Eg, “Violence is wrong… unless she doesn’t cook his tea”.
I partly blame the 80s. When I was a child, my mum had us watch Personal Services with Julie Walters, so I grew up believing that every sex worker had a personal maid, dressed like this (image) and could pay the rent with a “Popozogolou”. (This is a true story).
January 8, 2025 at 8:21 PM
I partly blame the 80s. When I was a child, my mum had us watch Personal Services with Julie Walters, so I grew up believing that every sex worker had a personal maid, dressed like this (image) and could pay the rent with a “Popozogolou”. (This is a true story).
These communication styles aren’t personalities, but behaviours, based on what someone has learned – or been taught. They help them establish dominance (if that’s what they want) which, as adults, they choose to display in order to get their own way.
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January 2, 2025 at 8:58 PM
These communication styles aren’t personalities, but behaviours, based on what someone has learned – or been taught. They help them establish dominance (if that’s what they want) which, as adults, they choose to display in order to get their own way.
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May the year be filled with hope, happiness and wonderful well-being. #HappyNewYear 🎉
December 31, 2024 at 6:20 PM
May the year be filled with hope, happiness and wonderful well-being. #HappyNewYear 🎉
I posted this a couple of weeks ago. There’s definitely something about this time of year …
December 17, 2024 at 2:49 PM
I posted this a couple of weeks ago. There’s definitely something about this time of year …
“We can voice that it was not our fault … but the internalised misogyny and messages have always been that the real reason we can’t get justice is that we didn’t do a good enough job stopping the men who violate us”.
@jamieklingler.bsky.social writes how Madame Pelicot is calling time on that.
@jamieklingler.bsky.social writes how Madame Pelicot is calling time on that.
December 16, 2024 at 10:34 AM
“We can voice that it was not our fault … but the internalised misogyny and messages have always been that the real reason we can’t get justice is that we didn’t do a good enough job stopping the men who violate us”.
@jamieklingler.bsky.social writes how Madame Pelicot is calling time on that.
@jamieklingler.bsky.social writes how Madame Pelicot is calling time on that.
In the Own My Life course, developed by Natalie Collins, we talk about “cultural unlesses”, how violence is unacceptable “unless” a woman has done something society considers “deserves” punishment.
Example: he should never hurt her … unless she “nags”. We see this in media headlines too often.
Example: he should never hurt her … unless she “nags”. We see this in media headlines too often.
December 7, 2024 at 2:21 PM
In the Own My Life course, developed by Natalie Collins, we talk about “cultural unlesses”, how violence is unacceptable “unless” a woman has done something society considers “deserves” punishment.
Example: he should never hurt her … unless she “nags”. We see this in media headlines too often.
Example: he should never hurt her … unless she “nags”. We see this in media headlines too often.
Thank you for writing this. I particularly appreciate the highlighted text.
I would add, men’s anger is directed at women because we dare to challenge the status quo and/or reject them. The expectation and sense of entitlement that we accept/be grateful for their attention is a tale as old as time.
I would add, men’s anger is directed at women because we dare to challenge the status quo and/or reject them. The expectation and sense of entitlement that we accept/be grateful for their attention is a tale as old as time.
December 7, 2024 at 1:46 PM
Thank you for writing this. I particularly appreciate the highlighted text.
I would add, men’s anger is directed at women because we dare to challenge the status quo and/or reject them. The expectation and sense of entitlement that we accept/be grateful for their attention is a tale as old as time.
I would add, men’s anger is directed at women because we dare to challenge the status quo and/or reject them. The expectation and sense of entitlement that we accept/be grateful for their attention is a tale as old as time.
There are increasingly “bad actors” (including b0ts) about, who will try to draw you into a debate, under the pretence of curiosity.
Where this is the case, it soon becomes clear their intention is to wear you down; no matter what you say, it’s never enough. It’s “sealioning”; avoid, avoid, avoid.
Where this is the case, it soon becomes clear their intention is to wear you down; no matter what you say, it’s never enough. It’s “sealioning”; avoid, avoid, avoid.
December 7, 2024 at 11:45 AM
There are increasingly “bad actors” (including b0ts) about, who will try to draw you into a debate, under the pretence of curiosity.
Where this is the case, it soon becomes clear their intention is to wear you down; no matter what you say, it’s never enough. It’s “sealioning”; avoid, avoid, avoid.
Where this is the case, it soon becomes clear their intention is to wear you down; no matter what you say, it’s never enough. It’s “sealioning”; avoid, avoid, avoid.
We were talking recently in one of my classes about how, from an early age, our intuition is talked out of us, by being told we are “imagining” our pain, are “too sensitive” or are “over-reacting” to something we feel or that matters to us.
It invalidates what we “know” and squashes our spirit.
It invalidates what we “know” and squashes our spirit.
December 6, 2024 at 7:58 PM
We were talking recently in one of my classes about how, from an early age, our intuition is talked out of us, by being told we are “imagining” our pain, are “too sensitive” or are “over-reacting” to something we feel or that matters to us.
It invalidates what we “know” and squashes our spirit.
It invalidates what we “know” and squashes our spirit.
I wrote about the four stages of a proper apology.
FYI, “I’m sorry you…” is not a proper apology.
medium.com/@delphiellis...
FYI, “I’m sorry you…” is not a proper apology.
medium.com/@delphiellis...
December 2, 2024 at 7:40 AM
I wrote about the four stages of a proper apology.
FYI, “I’m sorry you…” is not a proper apology.
medium.com/@delphiellis...
FYI, “I’m sorry you…” is not a proper apology.
medium.com/@delphiellis...
This feels like a good time to talk about DARVO.
The harm-doer assumes the victim role and implies the actual victim (who may also be the whistle blower) is the offender/attacker, trying to undermine the victim's credibility, often by questioning their “mental capacity".
The harm-doer assumes the victim role and implies the actual victim (who may also be the whistle blower) is the offender/attacker, trying to undermine the victim's credibility, often by questioning their “mental capacity".
December 1, 2024 at 4:15 PM
This feels like a good time to talk about DARVO.
The harm-doer assumes the victim role and implies the actual victim (who may also be the whistle blower) is the offender/attacker, trying to undermine the victim's credibility, often by questioning their “mental capacity".
The harm-doer assumes the victim role and implies the actual victim (who may also be the whistle blower) is the offender/attacker, trying to undermine the victim's credibility, often by questioning their “mental capacity".
This feels like a good opportunity to remind people about DARVO:
The harm-doer assumes the victim role and implies the actual victim (who may also be the whistle blower) is the offender/attacker, trying to undermine the victim's credibility, often by questioning their “mental capacity".
The harm-doer assumes the victim role and implies the actual victim (who may also be the whistle blower) is the offender/attacker, trying to undermine the victim's credibility, often by questioning their “mental capacity".
December 1, 2024 at 4:07 PM
This feels like a good opportunity to remind people about DARVO:
The harm-doer assumes the victim role and implies the actual victim (who may also be the whistle blower) is the offender/attacker, trying to undermine the victim's credibility, often by questioning their “mental capacity".
The harm-doer assumes the victim role and implies the actual victim (who may also be the whistle blower) is the offender/attacker, trying to undermine the victim's credibility, often by questioning their “mental capacity".
I could always rely on Twitter to help me make a point… 🥴 The difference is, I knew exactly what I was doing 🫣
![Ok, let’s settle this once and for all. The best way to make tea is:
Milk first - (poll result 56%)
First, the milk [ yes, deliberately the same answer ] - (poll result 44%)](https://cdn.bsky.app/img/feed_thumbnail/plain/did:plc:qv7hxhjnfe3tlq7vhu3oql33/bafkreiglxxsvqwycunh7t5ej5biscuch422vcngy4yg7vaas2tbamcybqa@jpeg)
November 23, 2024 at 9:42 PM
I could always rely on Twitter to help me make a point… 🥴 The difference is, I knew exactly what I was doing 🫣
Food for thought. ✨
November 21, 2024 at 10:40 PM
Food for thought. ✨
Here are some things we DON’T need to apologise for.
However where there are behaviours that warrant one, here are the four ‘stages’ of a ‘proper’ apology > medium.com/@delphiellis...
However where there are behaviours that warrant one, here are the four ‘stages’ of a ‘proper’ apology > medium.com/@delphiellis...
November 18, 2024 at 7:20 PM
Here are some things we DON’T need to apologise for.
However where there are behaviours that warrant one, here are the four ‘stages’ of a ‘proper’ apology > medium.com/@delphiellis...
However where there are behaviours that warrant one, here are the four ‘stages’ of a ‘proper’ apology > medium.com/@delphiellis...