Can I ask you a question?

So maybe it’s her fault he acts the way he does? Because he can’t fully trust her? But she is in therapy and trying to work on better communication skills. He’s in therapy too. Even his therapist agrees that his last outburst wouldn’t have been as bad if she had been communicating more openly.

That’s not the real him. She yells sometimes too. She’s been passive aggressive, manipulative, and done the silent treatment. She’s walked out on conversations. She’s threatened to leave.

Yes he’s punched holes in walls, thrown furniture, and hit the dogs, but he’s never laid a hand on her or hurt anyone that badly.
He doesn’t remember everything that happens after the rage. He doesn’t remember all the hurtful things he said - it’s like someone else takes over.

You're on your own, kid
Yeah, you can face this
You're on your own, kid
You always have been

blaming herself for things, and telling me ways in which she also has problematic behavior. She’s definitely questioning her reality/ feels crazy and feels guilty all the time.

Here is some of what she’s told me: sounds like there’s love-bombing, gaslighting, blame shifting, intimidation (no direct physical violence but threats of it), minimizing behaviors, making her feel guilty for not spending time together…she also is defending some of their actions,

I will go full Karen on anyone who fucks with one of us. I’m just ready to go full Karen on MAGA and nazis in general tbh 🤷‍♀️

The patriarchy. Who are we fighting right now? The patriarchy.
Instead I’m trying to focus on building strength because how can I fight if I’m weak and malnourished?