& when I ADHD-ghost, I'd hope the person is willing to reconnect & forgive & maybe help me minimize the things that put pressure on me to ghost in the first place.

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Sure I'll take precautions against the harm of being ghosted, but I won't punish them for ghosting, especially the first few times. & yes it's multiple forgivings b/c we're not good at habits so developing the behaviors to counteract this need more time to get rooted.
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I've been #ADHD #ghosted by ppl, & that's okay. That person can come back & I'm willing to reconnect. I believe forgiving them will help them be less likely to do it in the future or happen for less time, which is a win.

Even better, reach out first, non-judgmentally, to take some pressure off them

We're not asking to be allowed to be shitty people. We're asking for help to not accidentally be doing this, cuz we don't want to do this.

Being punished doesn't help; we're already punishing ourselves internally. But being encouraged can be incredibly powerful for us (cuz dopamine).

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This is the most important thing to understand.

We didn't "forget about you b/c you're not important," we didn't "not reply b/c we don't care." We do care, we want to stay in contact, we want to do the thing. We just have a brain that works different.

This is where accommodations can help.
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These vanishing acts can occur gradually or in one big impulsive withdrawal. They end up persisting when we don't know how to reconnect with that person since it is often viewed as a breach of trust or as being rude; making it all the more difficult for us to overcome this behavior
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But sometimes it's entirely unintentional.

We don't notice time passing so don't realize how long it's been, & we aren't good at recalling something without being prompted so something needing a reply can get pushed to the background, especially when our attention is full of "all the things"
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