Helen Bonnick
@helenbonnick.bsky.social
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Founder of Holes in the Wall website. Patron of Capa First Response. Recently retired. Still posting about child to parent violence but expect more random stuff too!
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Safety planning could look talking to the police before you need them... take a listen! This is episode 2 of our latest podcast season (with episode 3 out tomorrow!)
Listen and watch: bit.ly/CapaPodcasts2e2
We're grateful for funding from East Sussex County Council for this season.
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Episode 1 of #TheCapaPodcast looks at how children show distress through aggression, withdrawal or other behaviours and how parents can respond with understanding. This series offers free support for families experiencing Child Against Parent Aggression (CAPA). 👉 Listen here: bit.ly/CapaPods2e1
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Episode 2 of our podcast deals with safety planning & communicating with the police when your child's anger escalates. Here's a snippet... Full episode out now: bit.ly/CapaPodcasts2e2
#TheCapaPodcast
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Build your expertise with our accredited 3-hour CAPVA training for professionals working with families.

What you’ll learn:
✔️ Risk factors & family dynamics
✔️ Communication strategies & practical tools
✔️ Confidence to intervene compassionately

🎓 Accreditation included | £50 | Online & accessible

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3 Hr Accredited Child Against Parent Violence & Aggression (CAPVA) Training
CAPVA Training: Are you a Professional looking to enhance your understanding and awareness of Child Against Parent Violence and Aggression?
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Here's a snippet of our latest podcast, Matt talks about masking (we all do it, even if we don't think we do!) in an episode around dysregulation. Listen & Watch the first episode: creators.spotify.com/pod/show/capafirstresponse
New episodes weekly! Please do share with families who may need this fr
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Professionals: Build your skills with our accredited 3-hour CAPVA training!

Gain confidence supporting families affected by Child Against Parent Violence & Aggression with practical tools, risk factor awareness, and communication strategies.

🗓 Date: 13th November | 💷 Price: £50 | 🎓 Accredited cour
3 Hr Accredited Child Against Parent Violence & Aggression (CAPVA) Training
CAPVA Training: Are you a Professional looking to enhance your understanding and awareness of Child Against Parent Violence and Aggression?
www.eventbrite.co.uk
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Working with families affected by Child to Parent Violence and Aggression?

CAPA First Response offers accredited training, resources, and guidance to help professionals respond confidently and compassionately.

Explore our services: capafirstresponse.org/professionals/

#CAPVA #ProfessionalSupport
Professionals - Capa First Response
As more and more families are impacted by a child who uses harmful or aggressive behaviour in the home (often referred to as child to parent violence or abuse
capafirstresponse.org
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Today on Woman’s Hour (30.45 - 41.20) a conversation about #CAPVA with @rutternik.bsky.social and martha hampson from @actionforchildren.bsky.social. Nikki says this is very much a social problem, not a family problem. We must ensure families feel heard.

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Woman's Hour - Post childbirth and sex, Juliet Stevenson, Ruby Tui - BBC Sounds
Post having a baby - how do you navigate being a mother, partner and sexual being?
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If your child’s behaviour is hurting you or others at home, you don’t have to face it alone.

CAPA First Response offers resources and support for families experiencing Child to Parent Violence and Aggression (CAPVA).

🌐 Find out what’s available: capafirstresponse.org/families/

#CAPVA #ParentSuppo
Families - Capa First Response
At Capa First Response CIC, we understand the challenges that come with child-to-parent aggression and harmful behaviours. We know that families often feel
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“Anger isn’t always a choice — it’s a response.”

This blog offers guidance for parents on how to support children through anger, without escalating conflict or shame.

📖 Full article: capafirstresponse.org/tips-to-help...

#CAPVA #ParentingTools #ManagingAnger #ChildBehaviour #CAPAFirstResponse
5 Tips to Help Your Child Control Their Anger - Capa First Response
Tips to Help Your Child Control Their Anger, ensuring they know that it is normal and healthy to be angry - but sharing ways to safely express it.
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nvrnorthampton.bsky.social
Join professionals from education, social care, youth justice, the prison service & more as they embark on our next online accredited NVR Foundation Level Training.

Designed for professionals who want to bring this transformative approach into their practice.

Starts 14 October
bit.ly/NVR-FdnL1
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When things escalate quickly at home, it’s hard to know what to do in the moment.

This blog outlines strategies to reduce harm, stay calm, and respond safely when your child becomes violent.

📖 Read the article: capafirstresponse.org/strategies-d...

#CAPVA #Deescalation #ParentingSupport #ChildSaf
3 Strategies for De-Escalating Violence from Your Child - Capa First Response
Violence in the home can be a distressing and frightening experience for any parent or carer. When children direct aggression toward their parents, it not
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The words we use to describe child-to-parent violence and aggression can either build barriers or open doors to support.

Using “abuse” can cause shame and misunderstanding for both parents and children. At CAPA First Response, we prefer terms like “explosive behaviour” or “harmful/aggressive action
Why we don't like to use 'Abuse' - Capa First Response
Child and adolescent to parent abuse (CAPA) is a serious issue that affects many families, the world over. However, when discussing CAPA, the language we use
capafirstresponse.org
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Professionals: Build your skills with our accredited 3-hour CAPVA training!

Gain confidence supporting families affected by Child Against Parent Violence & Aggression with practical tools, risk factor awareness, and communication strategies.

🗓 Date: 13th November | 💷 Price: £50 | 🎓 Accredited cour
3 Hr Accredited Child Against Parent Violence & Aggression (CAPVA) Training
CAPVA Training: Are you a Professional looking to enhance your understanding and awareness of Child Against Parent Violence and Aggression?
www.eventbrite.co.uk
helenbonnick.bsky.social
Lovely post from @rutternik.bsky.social summing up a series on #adoption support - or lack of. The new team in charge of Holes are planning to group blogs following a theme. Let us know your thoughts and whether you’d like to contribute! #CAPVA holesinthewall.co.uk
HOLES IN THE WALL
documenting parent abuse
holesinthewall.co.uk
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respectuk.bsky.social
Interested in learning more about Child & Adolescent to Parent Violence and Abuse (CAPVA)?

The Respect Young People's Service offers a one day course that explains(CAPVA) why it may happen, what the risk factors are and what practitioners can do.