Julie Harris
@jhwordsmith.bsky.social
Relationship Scientist | TEDx Speaker (TED.com Editor’s Pick) | Author, Editor & Experience Designer | https://consciousrelationshipdesign.substack.com/
On a self-imposed #writing retreat this week: early mornings, too much coffee ☕️, long walks between drafting sprints.
Turning years of work on #consciousrelationshipdesign into short, accessible book chapters.
If you could redesign one relationship in your life, which would it be?
Turning years of work on #consciousrelationshipdesign into short, accessible book chapters.
If you could redesign one relationship in your life, which would it be?
November 13, 2025 at 10:00 AM
On a self-imposed #writing retreat this week: early mornings, too much coffee ☕️, long walks between drafting sprints.
Turning years of work on #consciousrelationshipdesign into short, accessible book chapters.
If you could redesign one relationship in your life, which would it be?
Turning years of work on #consciousrelationshipdesign into short, accessible book chapters.
If you could redesign one relationship in your life, which would it be?
Editing policy reports isn’t about polishing sentences.
It’s about structuring complex evidence so readers move smoothly from data to insight.
That’s the kind of clarity I love creating — for teams who want their reports not just written, but read.
#Editing #WritingForImpact
It’s about structuring complex evidence so readers move smoothly from data to insight.
That’s the kind of clarity I love creating — for teams who want their reports not just written, but read.
#Editing #WritingForImpact
November 12, 2025 at 9:44 AM
Editing policy reports isn’t about polishing sentences.
It’s about structuring complex evidence so readers move smoothly from data to insight.
That’s the kind of clarity I love creating — for teams who want their reports not just written, but read.
#Editing #WritingForImpact
It’s about structuring complex evidence so readers move smoothly from data to insight.
That’s the kind of clarity I love creating — for teams who want their reports not just written, but read.
#Editing #WritingForImpact
Designing relationships ≈ designing anything worth keeping: prototype, test, learn, repeat. ✍️💛
#ConsciousRelationshipDesign
#ConsciousRelationshipDesign
November 7, 2025 at 10:38 AM
Designing relationships ≈ designing anything worth keeping: prototype, test, learn, repeat. ✍️💛
#ConsciousRelationshipDesign
#ConsciousRelationshipDesign
We design our work, our homes, our time — why not our relationships?
Conscious Relationship Design Coaching = curiosity, communication, evolution. 💛
3 free 30-minute sessions next week. DM “design” for info.
#ConsciousRelationshipDesign #Coaching
Conscious Relationship Design Coaching = curiosity, communication, evolution. 💛
3 free 30-minute sessions next week. DM “design” for info.
#ConsciousRelationshipDesign #Coaching
November 6, 2025 at 10:00 AM
We design our work, our homes, our time — why not our relationships?
Conscious Relationship Design Coaching = curiosity, communication, evolution. 💛
3 free 30-minute sessions next week. DM “design” for info.
#ConsciousRelationshipDesign #Coaching
Conscious Relationship Design Coaching = curiosity, communication, evolution. 💛
3 free 30-minute sessions next week. DM “design” for info.
#ConsciousRelationshipDesign #Coaching
Writing is research, listening, sailing, walking, disappearing — then a page appears. ✍️💛
#WritingCommunity #ConsciousRelationshipDesign #BookWriting
#WritingCommunity #ConsciousRelationshipDesign #BookWriting
November 5, 2025 at 1:32 PM
Writing is research, listening, sailing, walking, disappearing — then a page appears. ✍️💛
#WritingCommunity #ConsciousRelationshipDesign #BookWriting
#WritingCommunity #ConsciousRelationshipDesign #BookWriting
Editing isn’t grammar — it’s diplomacy.
Dozens of voices, one shared rhythm. 🌍✍️
Seeking someone to work on a complicated, multi-voiced project? DM me.
🥷
#Editing #Communication
Dozens of voices, one shared rhythm. 🌍✍️
Seeking someone to work on a complicated, multi-voiced project? DM me.
🥷
#Editing #Communication
November 3, 2025 at 11:00 AM
Editing isn’t grammar — it’s diplomacy.
Dozens of voices, one shared rhythm. 🌍✍️
Seeking someone to work on a complicated, multi-voiced project? DM me.
🥷
#Editing #Communication
Dozens of voices, one shared rhythm. 🌍✍️
Seeking someone to work on a complicated, multi-voiced project? DM me.
🥷
#Editing #Communication
“As the digital and human realms intertwine, the potential for AI to enrich our relationships is profound — and imminent.” 🤖💙
consciousrelationshipdesign...
#Writing #ConsciousRelationshipDesign #FutureOfLove
consciousrelationshipdesign...
#Writing #ConsciousRelationshipDesign #FutureOfLove
October 31, 2025 at 10:00 AM
“As the digital and human realms intertwine, the potential for AI to enrich our relationships is profound — and imminent.” 🤖💙
consciousrelationshipdesign...
#Writing #ConsciousRelationshipDesign #FutureOfLove
consciousrelationshipdesign...
#Writing #ConsciousRelationshipDesign #FutureOfLove
FOCUS • SCOPE • BOUNDARIES
When those align, you don’t just do more — you matter more. 🌿
DM “clarity” for next week’s free 30-minute diagnostic sessions. Limited to 3.
#Productivity #DeepWork
When those align, you don’t just do more — you matter more. 🌿
DM “clarity” for next week’s free 30-minute diagnostic sessions. Limited to 3.
#Productivity #DeepWork
October 30, 2025 at 10:00 AM
FOCUS • SCOPE • BOUNDARIES
When those align, you don’t just do more — you matter more. 🌿
DM “clarity” for next week’s free 30-minute diagnostic sessions. Limited to 3.
#Productivity #DeepWork
When those align, you don’t just do more — you matter more. 🌿
DM “clarity” for next week’s free 30-minute diagnostic sessions. Limited to 3.
#Productivity #DeepWork
Workshop prep = creative chaos in disguise.
Paris 7 Nov 💛
Needing a workshop to transform your team or surface and test your ideas? DM me. 😀
#Facilitation #DesignThinking #Cocreation #Collaboration
Paris 7 Nov 💛
Needing a workshop to transform your team or surface and test your ideas? DM me. 😀
#Facilitation #DesignThinking #Cocreation #Collaboration
October 29, 2025 at 9:58 AM
Workshop prep = creative chaos in disguise.
Paris 7 Nov 💛
Needing a workshop to transform your team or surface and test your ideas? DM me. 😀
#Facilitation #DesignThinking #Cocreation #Collaboration
Paris 7 Nov 💛
Needing a workshop to transform your team or surface and test your ideas? DM me. 😀
#Facilitation #DesignThinking #Cocreation #Collaboration
Wrapped the OECD Government at a Glance Southeast Asia 2025 report a week or so ago 🌏
150 pages · 80 figures and tables · one all-nighter.
Editing = design in service of clarity. ✍️ #EditingLife #OECD
150 pages · 80 figures and tables · one all-nighter.
Editing = design in service of clarity. ✍️ #EditingLife #OECD
October 27, 2025 at 11:00 AM
Wrapped the OECD Government at a Glance Southeast Asia 2025 report a week or so ago 🌏
150 pages · 80 figures and tables · one all-nighter.
Editing = design in service of clarity. ✍️ #EditingLife #OECD
150 pages · 80 figures and tables · one all-nighter.
Editing = design in service of clarity. ✍️ #EditingLife #OECD
Writing a book on Conscious Relationship Design - how we can design relationships and connection on purpose.
Looking for a few alpha readers.
Curious? DM me. 📚💛 #WritingCommunity #ConsciousRelationshipDesign
Photo by Sincerely Media on Unsplash.
Looking for a few alpha readers.
Curious? DM me. 📚💛 #WritingCommunity #ConsciousRelationshipDesign
Photo by Sincerely Media on Unsplash.
October 24, 2025 at 9:00 AM
Writing a book on Conscious Relationship Design - how we can design relationships and connection on purpose.
Looking for a few alpha readers.
Curious? DM me. 📚💛 #WritingCommunity #ConsciousRelationshipDesign
Photo by Sincerely Media on Unsplash.
Looking for a few alpha readers.
Curious? DM me. 📚💛 #WritingCommunity #ConsciousRelationshipDesign
Photo by Sincerely Media on Unsplash.
Prepping a workshop = curating energy.
Paris, 7 Nov → playing with goal and vision discovery with practical, concrete outcomes. 🎨🧠
#Facilitation #AWG
Photo by Walls.io on Unsplash.
Paris, 7 Nov → playing with goal and vision discovery with practical, concrete outcomes. 🎨🧠
#Facilitation #AWG
Photo by Walls.io on Unsplash.
October 23, 2025 at 6:00 PM
Prepping a workshop = curating energy.
Paris, 7 Nov → playing with goal and vision discovery with practical, concrete outcomes. 🎨🧠
#Facilitation #AWG
Photo by Walls.io on Unsplash.
Paris, 7 Nov → playing with goal and vision discovery with practical, concrete outcomes. 🎨🧠
#Facilitation #AWG
Photo by Walls.io on Unsplash.
Most of us are severely underqualified listeners - not because we don't hear words, but because we miss what lives in the spaces between them.
This month: what neurodivergent relationship patterns can teach us about conscious design. 🔗 open.substack.com/pub/consc...
Alpha readers wanted - DM me.
This month: what neurodivergent relationship patterns can teach us about conscious design. 🔗 open.substack.com/pub/consc...
Alpha readers wanted - DM me.
October 22, 2025 at 10:02 AM
Most of us are severely underqualified listeners - not because we don't hear words, but because we miss what lives in the spaces between them.
This month: what neurodivergent relationship patterns can teach us about conscious design. 🔗 open.substack.com/pub/consc...
Alpha readers wanted - DM me.
This month: what neurodivergent relationship patterns can teach us about conscious design. 🔗 open.substack.com/pub/consc...
Alpha readers wanted - DM me.
You don't love all your partners equally.
You don't give all your friends equal attention.
You never will.
Stop pretending.
Start designing for it.
consciousrelationshipdesign.substack.com/p/who-gets-y... #consciousrelationshipdesign
You don't give all your friends equal attention.
You never will.
Stop pretending.
Start designing for it.
consciousrelationshipdesign.substack.com/p/who-gets-y... #consciousrelationshipdesign
August 16, 2025 at 4:26 PM
You don't love all your partners equally.
You don't give all your friends equal attention.
You never will.
Stop pretending.
Start designing for it.
consciousrelationshipdesign.substack.com/p/who-gets-y... #consciousrelationshipdesign
You don't give all your friends equal attention.
You never will.
Stop pretending.
Start designing for it.
consciousrelationshipdesign.substack.com/p/who-gets-y... #consciousrelationshipdesign
Currently absconding to a secret hideaway and an experiment: a 1-week silent #writing retreat. What would you like me to write about next:
Navigating ethical non-monogamy: Its very best, its very worst
Visiting an afternoon libertine club in Paris
Women's play: In private and public
#CRD #research
Navigating ethical non-monogamy: Its very best, its very worst
Visiting an afternoon libertine club in Paris
Women's play: In private and public
#CRD #research
May 24, 2025 at 9:00 AM
Marriage hack: Live on different continents 🌏
She moved 10,000 miles away from her husband at 56.
15 years later? Still happily married.
Would you? Could you?
Read more and comment here! substack.com/@jhwordsmith...
She moved 10,000 miles away from her husband at 56.
15 years later? Still happily married.
Would you? Could you?
Read more and comment here! substack.com/@jhwordsmith...
April 29, 2025 at 12:49 PM
Marriage hack: Live on different continents 🌏
She moved 10,000 miles away from her husband at 56.
15 years later? Still happily married.
Would you? Could you?
Read more and comment here! substack.com/@jhwordsmith...
She moved 10,000 miles away from her husband at 56.
15 years later? Still happily married.
Would you? Could you?
Read more and comment here! substack.com/@jhwordsmith...
💡What if marriage came with an upgrade option? We wrote a 20‑yr re‑eval clause—now 4‑ & 5‑yr “fixed‑term” contracts are buzzing.
Forever isn’t automatic; it’s designed.
How long would yours be? 👉 substack.com/profile/2949...
#ConsciousRelationshipDesign #MarriageDesign
Forever isn’t automatic; it’s designed.
How long would yours be? 👉 substack.com/profile/2949...
#ConsciousRelationshipDesign #MarriageDesign
April 20, 2025 at 12:07 PM
💡What if marriage came with an upgrade option? We wrote a 20‑yr re‑eval clause—now 4‑ & 5‑yr “fixed‑term” contracts are buzzing.
Forever isn’t automatic; it’s designed.
How long would yours be? 👉 substack.com/profile/2949...
#ConsciousRelationshipDesign #MarriageDesign
Forever isn’t automatic; it’s designed.
How long would yours be? 👉 substack.com/profile/2949...
#ConsciousRelationshipDesign #MarriageDesign
Three drinks sit on a bar counter.
The bartender asks who they're for.
"Just one person," comes the reply.
Plot twist: Each drink is one of your relationship needs.
Contradictory. Changing. Unspoken.
Design consciously.
#RelationshipTruths
conscious-relationship-design.com
The bartender asks who they're for.
"Just one person," comes the reply.
Plot twist: Each drink is one of your relationship needs.
Contradictory. Changing. Unspoken.
Design consciously.
#RelationshipTruths
conscious-relationship-design.com
March 20, 2025 at 8:50 PM
Three drinks sit on a bar counter.
The bartender asks who they're for.
"Just one person," comes the reply.
Plot twist: Each drink is one of your relationship needs.
Contradictory. Changing. Unspoken.
Design consciously.
#RelationshipTruths
conscious-relationship-design.com
The bartender asks who they're for.
"Just one person," comes the reply.
Plot twist: Each drink is one of your relationship needs.
Contradictory. Changing. Unspoken.
Design consciously.
#RelationshipTruths
conscious-relationship-design.com
💡 Does Your Truth Matter?
What if you speak, but no one listens?
What if your words vanish, unheard?
This month in Hit Pause, Then Play, I explore why we must speak anyway.
📖 Read → hitpause.substack.com/p/a-teeny-ti...
💬 Ever felt this? Drop a ✨.
#ConsciousRelationshipDesign #TruthTelling
What if you speak, but no one listens?
What if your words vanish, unheard?
This month in Hit Pause, Then Play, I explore why we must speak anyway.
📖 Read → hitpause.substack.com/p/a-teeny-ti...
💬 Ever felt this? Drop a ✨.
#ConsciousRelationshipDesign #TruthTelling
March 17, 2025 at 3:34 PM
💡 Does Your Truth Matter?
What if you speak, but no one listens?
What if your words vanish, unheard?
This month in Hit Pause, Then Play, I explore why we must speak anyway.
📖 Read → hitpause.substack.com/p/a-teeny-ti...
💬 Ever felt this? Drop a ✨.
#ConsciousRelationshipDesign #TruthTelling
What if you speak, but no one listens?
What if your words vanish, unheard?
This month in Hit Pause, Then Play, I explore why we must speak anyway.
📖 Read → hitpause.substack.com/p/a-teeny-ti...
💬 Ever felt this? Drop a ✨.
#ConsciousRelationshipDesign #TruthTelling
In a world where speaking truth costs jobs, what's the price of silence?
My new article explores who profits when we swallow our desires—and what happens when we speak up.
Breaking the Silence: Why Expressing Desire Changes Everything
Link ⬇️
#SpeakUp #PowerDynamics #Desire
My new article explores who profits when we swallow our desires—and what happens when we speak up.
Breaking the Silence: Why Expressing Desire Changes Everything
Link ⬇️
#SpeakUp #PowerDynamics #Desire
March 5, 2025 at 6:56 PM
In a world where speaking truth costs jobs, what's the price of silence?
My new article explores who profits when we swallow our desires—and what happens when we speak up.
Breaking the Silence: Why Expressing Desire Changes Everything
Link ⬇️
#SpeakUp #PowerDynamics #Desire
My new article explores who profits when we swallow our desires—and what happens when we speak up.
Breaking the Silence: Why Expressing Desire Changes Everything
Link ⬇️
#SpeakUp #PowerDynamics #Desire