When I talked to my Mom on the phone this week, she was telling me MiNarc's mom died at the beginning of the month.  Dr. MiNarc's gossipy sister-in-law was being all shady when my mom asked when the funeral was going to be.  Obviously, MiNarc's mom was a central figure in our town and my mom knew her and thus wanted to pay her respects. 

I'm both practicing vocab words trying to learn them for the big test, and processing my trauma: My mom, especially demanded that I was deferential to her rules, opinions, and ways of living. I was never, never overly submissive, but I showed the utmost respect for authority figures, never questioning them. I was amazed at my first job how everyone was impressed by my work ethic and servile attitude--it was just second nature because of my parents.

I needed to temper the bad situation that was growing larger and larger and I knew I could not win any battles against my historically martinet and erudite mother, so my best defense was to cut communication with my parents completely.  I did not want to deal with my learned mother''s maudlin tears and disingenuous pleas to see me, when I knew she was only trying to control me and save face in hometown. 

Gaylors vs. Hetlors everyone else Search "Gaylor" on main sub for exp Heteronormativity: The assumption that heterosexual identity is the norm, which plays out in interpersonal interactions and institutional privileges that further the marginalization of lesbian, gay, and bisexual people. Sexual orientation and gender identity are not set in stone! “Coming out” by sharing an identity or using certain pronouns doesn’t mean you’ll want to identify that way forever.