Les
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Ideator, Dev, Tester, Implementer, Marketer, you get it. Laravel, Tailwindcss, Livewire, Flux, + Spatie. Father of 2 GREAT boys and g-father of 1. Learning how to thrive. Alzheimer's Caregiver. 💙
CareGiver-118
For whatever reason, some of the men's labido increases in Memory Care. The Aides should all know this and keep them in check. I do NOT want Mom to be having sex with any of the Residents. She is not aware of what she is always doing, and I feel as if she would be taken advantage of.
For whatever reason, some of the men's labido increases in Memory Care. The Aides should all know this and keep them in check. I do NOT want Mom to be having sex with any of the Residents. She is not aware of what she is always doing, and I feel as if she would be taken advantage of.
September 27, 2025 at 10:06 PM
CareGiver-118
For whatever reason, some of the men's labido increases in Memory Care. The Aides should all know this and keep them in check. I do NOT want Mom to be having sex with any of the Residents. She is not aware of what she is always doing, and I feel as if she would be taken advantage of.
For whatever reason, some of the men's labido increases in Memory Care. The Aides should all know this and keep them in check. I do NOT want Mom to be having sex with any of the Residents. She is not aware of what she is always doing, and I feel as if she would be taken advantage of.
CareGiver-117
I keep needing to remind myself that I cannot always believe what the Residents tell me. In their mind their stories are 100% true. While in reality, they could be 100% made up. As long as they are happy, allow them to believe the good stories.
I keep needing to remind myself that I cannot always believe what the Residents tell me. In their mind their stories are 100% true. While in reality, they could be 100% made up. As long as they are happy, allow them to believe the good stories.
September 27, 2025 at 9:57 PM
CareGiver-117
I keep needing to remind myself that I cannot always believe what the Residents tell me. In their mind their stories are 100% true. While in reality, they could be 100% made up. As long as they are happy, allow them to believe the good stories.
I keep needing to remind myself that I cannot always believe what the Residents tell me. In their mind their stories are 100% true. While in reality, they could be 100% made up. As long as they are happy, allow them to believe the good stories.
CareGiver-116
I try to go during the meal time at Memory Care. This way I can go around to all of the tables and say hello to each of them. Joke with them, make them smile. Allow them to have a few moments of bliss even tho some will not remember it later. Just a few moments of bliss.
I try to go during the meal time at Memory Care. This way I can go around to all of the tables and say hello to each of them. Joke with them, make them smile. Allow them to have a few moments of bliss even tho some will not remember it later. Just a few moments of bliss.
September 27, 2025 at 9:55 PM
CareGiver-116
I try to go during the meal time at Memory Care. This way I can go around to all of the tables and say hello to each of them. Joke with them, make them smile. Allow them to have a few moments of bliss even tho some will not remember it later. Just a few moments of bliss.
I try to go during the meal time at Memory Care. This way I can go around to all of the tables and say hello to each of them. Joke with them, make them smile. Allow them to have a few moments of bliss even tho some will not remember it later. Just a few moments of bliss.
CareGiver-115
As expected, Mom is slowly slipping away. Sometimes faster than others, sometimes so imperceptibly slow I can barely notice. And so are all of the others in the Memory Care Facility. Sad to see everybody there slipping away. It is very diff to see Mom and them leave our world.
As expected, Mom is slowly slipping away. Sometimes faster than others, sometimes so imperceptibly slow I can barely notice. And so are all of the others in the Memory Care Facility. Sad to see everybody there slipping away. It is very diff to see Mom and them leave our world.
September 27, 2025 at 9:53 PM
CareGiver-115
As expected, Mom is slowly slipping away. Sometimes faster than others, sometimes so imperceptibly slow I can barely notice. And so are all of the others in the Memory Care Facility. Sad to see everybody there slipping away. It is very diff to see Mom and them leave our world.
As expected, Mom is slowly slipping away. Sometimes faster than others, sometimes so imperceptibly slow I can barely notice. And so are all of the others in the Memory Care Facility. Sad to see everybody there slipping away. It is very diff to see Mom and them leave our world.
CareGiver-114
I always thought of Hospice as end of life care. It can be, but not always. In Mom's case, it is extra TLC that Memory Care can't always give. They instead of 911 will be called going forward, they will ensure that Mom is showered & pampered. And it is free, including bed & wheelchair.
I always thought of Hospice as end of life care. It can be, but not always. In Mom's case, it is extra TLC that Memory Care can't always give. They instead of 911 will be called going forward, they will ensure that Mom is showered & pampered. And it is free, including bed & wheelchair.
September 27, 2025 at 9:51 PM
CareGiver-114
I always thought of Hospice as end of life care. It can be, but not always. In Mom's case, it is extra TLC that Memory Care can't always give. They instead of 911 will be called going forward, they will ensure that Mom is showered & pampered. And it is free, including bed & wheelchair.
I always thought of Hospice as end of life care. It can be, but not always. In Mom's case, it is extra TLC that Memory Care can't always give. They instead of 911 will be called going forward, they will ensure that Mom is showered & pampered. And it is free, including bed & wheelchair.
CareGiver-113
Mom asked me yesterday if Dad was dead. Stupid me said yes, then she asked how long, I said 4 years.
She may not remember my answers or even her questions. I should have said that he was at work and was going to be working late tonight.
Tell them positives, not negatives. Sighhhh
Mom asked me yesterday if Dad was dead. Stupid me said yes, then she asked how long, I said 4 years.
She may not remember my answers or even her questions. I should have said that he was at work and was going to be working late tonight.
Tell them positives, not negatives. Sighhhh
June 17, 2025 at 1:55 PM
CareGiver-113
Mom asked me yesterday if Dad was dead. Stupid me said yes, then she asked how long, I said 4 years.
She may not remember my answers or even her questions. I should have said that he was at work and was going to be working late tonight.
Tell them positives, not negatives. Sighhhh
Mom asked me yesterday if Dad was dead. Stupid me said yes, then she asked how long, I said 4 years.
She may not remember my answers or even her questions. I should have said that he was at work and was going to be working late tonight.
Tell them positives, not negatives. Sighhhh
CareGiver-112
I am finally starting to be able to sleep all night and not wake up worrying about what Mom is doing this time. She is safe and being taken care of at Memory Care. They are GREAT!!
She has declined, which is what I had been told to expect. Still sad.
I am finally starting to be able to sleep all night and not wake up worrying about what Mom is doing this time. She is safe and being taken care of at Memory Care. They are GREAT!!
She has declined, which is what I had been told to expect. Still sad.
June 17, 2025 at 1:52 PM
CareGiver-112
I am finally starting to be able to sleep all night and not wake up worrying about what Mom is doing this time. She is safe and being taken care of at Memory Care. They are GREAT!!
She has declined, which is what I had been told to expect. Still sad.
I am finally starting to be able to sleep all night and not wake up worrying about what Mom is doing this time. She is safe and being taken care of at Memory Care. They are GREAT!!
She has declined, which is what I had been told to expect. Still sad.
CareGiver-111
Soon I will be back at my home and I will need to create a new life there. Visit family, new friends, new routines, new restaurants/malls/everything.
And I will be done being the CareGiver of Mom and CareDriver of one of the other friend. I will have spare time. What will I do ?
Soon I will be back at my home and I will need to create a new life there. Visit family, new friends, new routines, new restaurants/malls/everything.
And I will be done being the CareGiver of Mom and CareDriver of one of the other friend. I will have spare time. What will I do ?
May 10, 2025 at 6:15 PM
CareGiver-111
Soon I will be back at my home and I will need to create a new life there. Visit family, new friends, new routines, new restaurants/malls/everything.
And I will be done being the CareGiver of Mom and CareDriver of one of the other friend. I will have spare time. What will I do ?
Soon I will be back at my home and I will need to create a new life there. Visit family, new friends, new routines, new restaurants/malls/everything.
And I will be done being the CareGiver of Mom and CareDriver of one of the other friend. I will have spare time. What will I do ?
CareGiver-110
It was a very long road to sell the house: mom left the water running in the master bathroom, overflowed thru the main floor hallway, and a little thru the hardwood floor into the basement. Abatement went well, gave money to the buyers for them to complete the repairs. So so close....
It was a very long road to sell the house: mom left the water running in the master bathroom, overflowed thru the main floor hallway, and a little thru the hardwood floor into the basement. Abatement went well, gave money to the buyers for them to complete the repairs. So so close....
May 10, 2025 at 6:13 PM
CareGiver-110
It was a very long road to sell the house: mom left the water running in the master bathroom, overflowed thru the main floor hallway, and a little thru the hardwood floor into the basement. Abatement went well, gave money to the buyers for them to complete the repairs. So so close....
It was a very long road to sell the house: mom left the water running in the master bathroom, overflowed thru the main floor hallway, and a little thru the hardwood floor into the basement. Abatement went well, gave money to the buyers for them to complete the repairs. So so close....
CareGiver-109
Closed on Mom's house yesterday. Making final plans for Memory Care: final interview from Memory Care's nurse of me and Mom, selection of a move-in date, order her new furniture & stuff, purchase airline tickets, cancel utilities here & setup in Denver.
So close to the finish line...
Closed on Mom's house yesterday. Making final plans for Memory Care: final interview from Memory Care's nurse of me and Mom, selection of a move-in date, order her new furniture & stuff, purchase airline tickets, cancel utilities here & setup in Denver.
So close to the finish line...
May 10, 2025 at 6:11 PM
CareGiver-109
Closed on Mom's house yesterday. Making final plans for Memory Care: final interview from Memory Care's nurse of me and Mom, selection of a move-in date, order her new furniture & stuff, purchase airline tickets, cancel utilities here & setup in Denver.
So close to the finish line...
Closed on Mom's house yesterday. Making final plans for Memory Care: final interview from Memory Care's nurse of me and Mom, selection of a move-in date, order her new furniture & stuff, purchase airline tickets, cancel utilities here & setup in Denver.
So close to the finish line...
CareGiver-108
She is not willing to take a shower when the Aide is here. She will pace and then get real defensive. I will need to ensure that she takes one tomorrow night.
It will be great to have the Memory Care Facility take care of this.
I can see the finish line for Memory Care.
Breathe.
She is not willing to take a shower when the Aide is here. She will pace and then get real defensive. I will need to ensure that she takes one tomorrow night.
It will be great to have the Memory Care Facility take care of this.
I can see the finish line for Memory Care.
Breathe.
May 1, 2025 at 6:05 AM
CareGiver-108
She is not willing to take a shower when the Aide is here. She will pace and then get real defensive. I will need to ensure that she takes one tomorrow night.
It will be great to have the Memory Care Facility take care of this.
I can see the finish line for Memory Care.
Breathe.
She is not willing to take a shower when the Aide is here. She will pace and then get real defensive. I will need to ensure that she takes one tomorrow night.
It will be great to have the Memory Care Facility take care of this.
I can see the finish line for Memory Care.
Breathe.
CareGIver-107
She is hallucinating more as time progresses. She believes the preschool needs her and will be over any minute. She has been retired for over 20 years & nobody is coming over. Memory Care can not come soon enough.
She is hallucinating more as time progresses. She believes the preschool needs her and will be over any minute. She has been retired for over 20 years & nobody is coming over. Memory Care can not come soon enough.
May 1, 2025 at 6:02 AM
CareGIver-107
She is hallucinating more as time progresses. She believes the preschool needs her and will be over any minute. She has been retired for over 20 years & nobody is coming over. Memory Care can not come soon enough.
She is hallucinating more as time progresses. She believes the preschool needs her and will be over any minute. She has been retired for over 20 years & nobody is coming over. Memory Care can not come soon enough.
CareGiver-106
Received the NY Birth Certificate in 3 days! Holy cow!!! Successfully applied for Real ID today, expected in 2 weeks. One step closer to moving back home (Thornton) and mom into Memory Care.
Mom's mental capacity is diminishing quickly, sadly.
Received the NY Birth Certificate in 3 days! Holy cow!!! Successfully applied for Real ID today, expected in 2 weeks. One step closer to moving back home (Thornton) and mom into Memory Care.
Mom's mental capacity is diminishing quickly, sadly.
April 29, 2025 at 2:11 AM
CareGiver-106
Received the NY Birth Certificate in 3 days! Holy cow!!! Successfully applied for Real ID today, expected in 2 weeks. One step closer to moving back home (Thornton) and mom into Memory Care.
Mom's mental capacity is diminishing quickly, sadly.
Received the NY Birth Certificate in 3 days! Holy cow!!! Successfully applied for Real ID today, expected in 2 weeks. One step closer to moving back home (Thornton) and mom into Memory Care.
Mom's mental capacity is diminishing quickly, sadly.
CareGiver-105
Found the marriage certificate, just need the birth certificate. Closer. Sooooo much closer. Oh yeah, sold the house and then it flooded. In the midst of fixing it. No closing until it is fixed. I can see the finish line. Breathe, breathe, and breathe some more.
Found the marriage certificate, just need the birth certificate. Closer. Sooooo much closer. Oh yeah, sold the house and then it flooded. In the midst of fixing it. No closing until it is fixed. I can see the finish line. Breathe, breathe, and breathe some more.
April 24, 2025 at 1:53 AM
CareGiver-105
Found the marriage certificate, just need the birth certificate. Closer. Sooooo much closer. Oh yeah, sold the house and then it flooded. In the midst of fixing it. No closing until it is fixed. I can see the finish line. Breathe, breathe, and breathe some more.
Found the marriage certificate, just need the birth certificate. Closer. Sooooo much closer. Oh yeah, sold the house and then it flooded. In the midst of fixing it. No closing until it is fixed. I can see the finish line. Breathe, breathe, and breathe some more.
CareGiver-104
Needed to get Mom's license updated to be Real ID approved. Need a birth certificate & marriage certificate if her name was changed. Couldn't find either. Went online for birth cert and they needed the burough & hospital names - Mom & her brother didn't know it. Faked it. Sighh
Needed to get Mom's license updated to be Real ID approved. Need a birth certificate & marriage certificate if her name was changed. Couldn't find either. Went online for birth cert and they needed the burough & hospital names - Mom & her brother didn't know it. Faked it. Sighh
April 24, 2025 at 1:50 AM
CareGiver-104
Needed to get Mom's license updated to be Real ID approved. Need a birth certificate & marriage certificate if her name was changed. Couldn't find either. Went online for birth cert and they needed the burough & hospital names - Mom & her brother didn't know it. Faked it. Sighh
Needed to get Mom's license updated to be Real ID approved. Need a birth certificate & marriage certificate if her name was changed. Couldn't find either. Went online for birth cert and they needed the burough & hospital names - Mom & her brother didn't know it. Faked it. Sighh
CareGiver-103
I wish for a good death. Quick & painless for me & everybody around me.
I do not want to put my family/friends thru this with me. And I don't want to go thru this for myself, not knowing reality & putting others on this trip to hell.
Good death, quick & painless, please.
I wish for a good death. Quick & painless for me & everybody around me.
I do not want to put my family/friends thru this with me. And I don't want to go thru this for myself, not knowing reality & putting others on this trip to hell.
Good death, quick & painless, please.
April 20, 2025 at 11:40 PM
CareGiver-103
I wish for a good death. Quick & painless for me & everybody around me.
I do not want to put my family/friends thru this with me. And I don't want to go thru this for myself, not knowing reality & putting others on this trip to hell.
Good death, quick & painless, please.
I wish for a good death. Quick & painless for me & everybody around me.
I do not want to put my family/friends thru this with me. And I don't want to go thru this for myself, not knowing reality & putting others on this trip to hell.
Good death, quick & painless, please.
CareGiver-102
Another friend of Mom's friends is breaths away from death.He has dementia, knew it, and just wanted to die.Was upset every day when he woke up that he wasn't dead.He is in a coma now, hopefully his wish will be granted soon.Such a sweet harmless & giving soul.He didn't deserve this.
Another friend of Mom's friends is breaths away from death.He has dementia, knew it, and just wanted to die.Was upset every day when he woke up that he wasn't dead.He is in a coma now, hopefully his wish will be granted soon.Such a sweet harmless & giving soul.He didn't deserve this.
April 20, 2025 at 11:35 PM
CareGiver-102
Another friend of Mom's friends is breaths away from death.He has dementia, knew it, and just wanted to die.Was upset every day when he woke up that he wasn't dead.He is in a coma now, hopefully his wish will be granted soon.Such a sweet harmless & giving soul.He didn't deserve this.
Another friend of Mom's friends is breaths away from death.He has dementia, knew it, and just wanted to die.Was upset every day when he woke up that he wasn't dead.He is in a coma now, hopefully his wish will be granted soon.Such a sweet harmless & giving soul.He didn't deserve this.
CareGiver-101
I now have 2 friends of Moms that are showing Alzheimer's. Their friends were terrified already, this made it worse.
None of them have support like Mom did with me. I just happened to have been available and willing to help her thru this. They are screwed.
I now have 2 friends of Moms that are showing Alzheimer's. Their friends were terrified already, this made it worse.
None of them have support like Mom did with me. I just happened to have been available and willing to help her thru this. They are screwed.
April 20, 2025 at 11:33 PM
CareGiver-101
I now have 2 friends of Moms that are showing Alzheimer's. Their friends were terrified already, this made it worse.
None of them have support like Mom did with me. I just happened to have been available and willing to help her thru this. They are screwed.
I now have 2 friends of Moms that are showing Alzheimer's. Their friends were terrified already, this made it worse.
None of them have support like Mom did with me. I just happened to have been available and willing to help her thru this. They are screwed.
CareGiver-100
I never wanted to help Mom take a shower, but I finally had to. She didn't have tp, so she used whatever was nearby. This also means the sheets were a mess. She acted like a little helpless girl when I asked her to please take a shower. She had no idea what to do. Asked how I learned.
I never wanted to help Mom take a shower, but I finally had to. She didn't have tp, so she used whatever was nearby. This also means the sheets were a mess. She acted like a little helpless girl when I asked her to please take a shower. She had no idea what to do. Asked how I learned.
April 20, 2025 at 11:28 PM
CareGiver-100
I never wanted to help Mom take a shower, but I finally had to. She didn't have tp, so she used whatever was nearby. This also means the sheets were a mess. She acted like a little helpless girl when I asked her to please take a shower. She had no idea what to do. Asked how I learned.
I never wanted to help Mom take a shower, but I finally had to. She didn't have tp, so she used whatever was nearby. This also means the sheets were a mess. She acted like a little helpless girl when I asked her to please take a shower. She had no idea what to do. Asked how I learned.
CareGiver-99
Be at peace w/ your decisions. They are the best at the time.
Don't yell, they are not themselves. Keep calm, even keel, breathe. They don't know better anymore. Today is the best day of the rest of their life. They will only decline.
There are worse things than death. This? Maybe.
Be at peace w/ your decisions. They are the best at the time.
Don't yell, they are not themselves. Keep calm, even keel, breathe. They don't know better anymore. Today is the best day of the rest of their life. They will only decline.
There are worse things than death. This? Maybe.
April 20, 2025 at 11:20 PM
CareGiver-99
Be at peace w/ your decisions. They are the best at the time.
Don't yell, they are not themselves. Keep calm, even keel, breathe. They don't know better anymore. Today is the best day of the rest of their life. They will only decline.
There are worse things than death. This? Maybe.
Be at peace w/ your decisions. They are the best at the time.
Don't yell, they are not themselves. Keep calm, even keel, breathe. They don't know better anymore. Today is the best day of the rest of their life. They will only decline.
There are worse things than death. This? Maybe.
CareGiver-98
We will hopefully close on the sale of Mom's house mid-May, move to my home in Denver, & her to Memory Care nearby. She will have a meltdown, but she is at a point where I need more help that is only available at Memory Care, 24x7 care.
I am at peace with this decision. It is best.
We will hopefully close on the sale of Mom's house mid-May, move to my home in Denver, & her to Memory Care nearby. She will have a meltdown, but she is at a point where I need more help that is only available at Memory Care, 24x7 care.
I am at peace with this decision. It is best.
April 20, 2025 at 11:17 PM
CareGiver-98
We will hopefully close on the sale of Mom's house mid-May, move to my home in Denver, & her to Memory Care nearby. She will have a meltdown, but she is at a point where I need more help that is only available at Memory Care, 24x7 care.
I am at peace with this decision. It is best.
We will hopefully close on the sale of Mom's house mid-May, move to my home in Denver, & her to Memory Care nearby. She will have a meltdown, but she is at a point where I need more help that is only available at Memory Care, 24x7 care.
I am at peace with this decision. It is best.
CareGiver-98
Took a break from the world to deal with Mom more. Declining quickly. Didn't necessarily know who I was for 2-3 days, but was very comfortable with me. Had NO idea who my brother was. None.
Waterfall due to overflow in her bathroom sink. OMG!
Needs a shower BAD. I talked her into one.
Took a break from the world to deal with Mom more. Declining quickly. Didn't necessarily know who I was for 2-3 days, but was very comfortable with me. Had NO idea who my brother was. None.
Waterfall due to overflow in her bathroom sink. OMG!
Needs a shower BAD. I talked her into one.
April 20, 2025 at 11:13 PM
CareGiver-98
Took a break from the world to deal with Mom more. Declining quickly. Didn't necessarily know who I was for 2-3 days, but was very comfortable with me. Had NO idea who my brother was. None.
Waterfall due to overflow in her bathroom sink. OMG!
Needs a shower BAD. I talked her into one.
Took a break from the world to deal with Mom more. Declining quickly. Didn't necessarily know who I was for 2-3 days, but was very comfortable with me. Had NO idea who my brother was. None.
Waterfall due to overflow in her bathroom sink. OMG!
Needs a shower BAD. I talked her into one.
CareGiver-97
Create a Diary and document everything. The more detail the better. Allows for a look-back and a cover-your-butt (CYB) for those that question your motives/objectives/means/solutions. Not that you should care, but just to be careful.
Breathe, breathe, & breathe.
Create a Diary and document everything. The more detail the better. Allows for a look-back and a cover-your-butt (CYB) for those that question your motives/objectives/means/solutions. Not that you should care, but just to be careful.
Breathe, breathe, & breathe.
March 11, 2025 at 11:57 PM
CareGiver-97
Create a Diary and document everything. The more detail the better. Allows for a look-back and a cover-your-butt (CYB) for those that question your motives/objectives/means/solutions. Not that you should care, but just to be careful.
Breathe, breathe, & breathe.
Create a Diary and document everything. The more detail the better. Allows for a look-back and a cover-your-butt (CYB) for those that question your motives/objectives/means/solutions. Not that you should care, but just to be careful.
Breathe, breathe, & breathe.
CareGiver-96
Hallucinations & meltdowns, 2 signs that it may be time for a Care Facility. Mom has both w/ both increasing.
For both of our safety, adult-proofing w/ lock at top of front/garage doors to keep her inside, & block the sliding door.
Hallucinations & meltdowns, 2 signs that it may be time for a Care Facility. Mom has both w/ both increasing.
For both of our safety, adult-proofing w/ lock at top of front/garage doors to keep her inside, & block the sliding door.
March 11, 2025 at 11:55 PM
CareGiver-96
Hallucinations & meltdowns, 2 signs that it may be time for a Care Facility. Mom has both w/ both increasing.
For both of our safety, adult-proofing w/ lock at top of front/garage doors to keep her inside, & block the sliding door.
Hallucinations & meltdowns, 2 signs that it may be time for a Care Facility. Mom has both w/ both increasing.
For both of our safety, adult-proofing w/ lock at top of front/garage doors to keep her inside, & block the sliding door.
CareGiver-95
Closer to Mom being in MemoryCare, so close. Meeting w/ Realtor, buy airline tics, rent a car, move to my place in Thornton, sell the house, move Mom to MemoryCare.
She is going to be so ticked off at me, but there is no viable choice anymore. Too many meltdowns to deal with.
Closer to Mom being in MemoryCare, so close. Meeting w/ Realtor, buy airline tics, rent a car, move to my place in Thornton, sell the house, move Mom to MemoryCare.
She is going to be so ticked off at me, but there is no viable choice anymore. Too many meltdowns to deal with.
March 11, 2025 at 11:50 PM
CareGiver-95
Closer to Mom being in MemoryCare, so close. Meeting w/ Realtor, buy airline tics, rent a car, move to my place in Thornton, sell the house, move Mom to MemoryCare.
She is going to be so ticked off at me, but there is no viable choice anymore. Too many meltdowns to deal with.
Closer to Mom being in MemoryCare, so close. Meeting w/ Realtor, buy airline tics, rent a car, move to my place in Thornton, sell the house, move Mom to MemoryCare.
She is going to be so ticked off at me, but there is no viable choice anymore. Too many meltdowns to deal with.