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AskAubry 🦝 🐆 @askaubry.com · 1h

And why can't dudes write each other?

are lonelier but you only care about women

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Whenever a man posts that he's lonely, struggling, or just looking for friends, he is usually completely ignored. No upvotes, no replies, no dms or anything. He could pour his heart out, talk about self-harm, depression, or just wanting someone to talk to, and people will scroll past like it's invisible.

But the moment a girl posts the same thing. suddenly there are dozens of comments, DMs, and people trying to comfort her.

I'm not saying women shouldn't get support. Everyone deserves it. But it's messed up how a friendship or basic empathy online seems to depend on gender.Men are statistically lonelier, more isolated, and more likely to take their own lives. Yet when they reach out, no one cares.

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AskAubry 🦝 🐆 @askaubry.com · 5h

And adult, Jason Chad Fleming, confessed to molesting a six year old boy.

Then his mom goes on Facebook to say "all of our kids go through this.. it's in your family too".

Like lady, I don't know what goes around I your family and church, but no this isn't something EVERYONE does.

Rexburg man faces child sex abuse charges after child says he was molested

Published at 10:11 am, October 9, 2025 Updated at 11:56 am, October 9, 2025

Daniel V. Ramirez, EastldahoNews.com

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REXBURG - A Rexburg man has been arrested after a 6-year-old boy reported he had been molested, and the man later admitted to doing so.

Jason Chad Fleming, 19, was charged with felony lewd conduct with a child and felony child sexual abuse.

If found guilty, Fleming faces a potential sentence of life in prison and/or a fine of up to $100,000. His bond was set at $250,000.

According to court documents, a detective with the Madison County Sheriff's Office was notified of a possible sex offense involving a 19-year-old and a 6-year-old victim.

The victim participated in a forensic interview in which he said Fleming had touched his private parts, but they later washed their hands and prayed afterward, according to court documents.

When Fleming was interviewed, and after

understanding his Miranda Rights, he spoke with the detective about the alleged incident, according to court documents.

The document states that Fleming admitted to touching the victim on his private parts. Fleming sai

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I hanks for reaching out everyone.

Yep, sometimes life throws you curveballs. The news usually doesn't get the whole story, and will report and twist thinas however they want to. But the bottom line is that s one of the best kids on the planet, has never had his first kiss, and doesn't even have any traffic violations. I also understand that the law was written to get bad guys. But Jason is not a bad guy. This is some thing that I think ALL OF OUR KIDS go through and many parents don't even know about it. The issue with is that we were able to protect him during his younger teenage years, so I think he is a "late bloomer" with dealing with an issue. News flash..... It's in your family too.

I'm stuck in a hard place...... Yes, tears flow quite often. But Jason and I can not deny the power of God through the miracles that have happened. And we are ready to be the voice piece of the Lord in helping and warning other families about how this "sickness and poison" Is entering and affec

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AskAubry 🦝 🐆 @askaubry.com · 8h

The way these dudes always think they are going to be the "masters".

Serious

I think slavery should be legal

Today at 2:11 PM

Potbellypos

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and people should be raised like cattle

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Today at 2:11 PM

I think if we breed humans and don't send them to school then they could be effectively used like animals. Some animals are shown to reach the intelligence of a 7 year old human, so if we're allowed to harvest and exploit animals then I don't see why humans should be off limits. Incels are already treated as sub-human, so what's the difference? Ignorance is bliss, so living a simple life as an uneducated slave is probably better than our existence anyway. We could have work slaves so that we can relax and enjoy our copes and we would obviously have sex slaves to fulfill our sexual desires. Giving women rights in the first place was probably the worst mistake humanity has

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AskAubry 🦝 🐆 @askaubry.com · 9h

P_rn brain rot.

When everything isn't design to make his peepee feel funny.

mrphillipchan @mrphillipchan

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If Ghost of Yotei made Atsu look like this, the game woulda sold a million copies by now

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AskAubry 🦝 🐆 @askaubry.com · 11h

Dude: Dating is so easy for women. Just pick one of hundreds of Nice Guys™ on the app.

And what's on the app: I offer nothing. What more do you women want!?!?!

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I don't pick flattering photos, I'm a fuckin man.

Over 6'; masculine; handsome; fit; open-minded; chivalrous (2023 version at least).

Wtf more do you god damn women want? You're gonna make me homo if you keep this shit up. I do not want to text endlessly and I will not explain my life to someone I haven't met.

If you aren't down to get a drink or do something fun - or both - DONT waste my time matching me. And get off Tinder; you're completely fucked up on its CLEAR and WELL DEFINED purpose.

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AskAubry 🦝 🐆 @askaubry.com · 13h

Yeah... I feel like I get why she dipped

NgI I've been having a tough time lately.

Few weeks ago I got a match on bumble one of those girls that not everyone thinks is pretty but I thought was plenty cute, assuming we got on well.

We did. Had a nice first date, plenty of laughs, no dead silences and ended with a kiss. Started texting daily after that. She even started calling me pet names a little too early

She had gastritis and said she hadn't enjoyed a nasi lemak in years.

So I put in the work to come up with a recipe for gastritis friendly nasi lemak. I was excited to make it for her

Day of when we were supposed to meet up, she cancels. Tomorrow, she said. Cancelled again. Then vanished

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Probably met another dude on the app she liked more, whatever.

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So it wasn't that working out that has got me into a state of depression, just the state of dating in general these days.

It has practically become a giant meat market.

And rather than trudge through this shit day in and day out, I think I prefer to just step out entirely.

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Don't feel bad for me, if I'm honest I've been with more women than a man of my looks or height should ever dream of.

I had a couple chances to settle down and I blew them. That combination of right person and right time is likely one will never see again

No one to blame but myself.

Besides, I'm rich. I'll be fine. Pick up some young hottie who only wants my bank account 20 years from now.

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AskAubry 🦝 🐆 @askaubry.com · 1d

An 11 year old is not a child? What?

Sayo Thee Succulent @Simply Sa... 1d Just saw a heavily pregnant 11 y/o Somali girl having an ultrasound I burst into tears.

This world is an abomination.

Patriarchal societies are an abomination.

Child abusers are abominations.

Religions permitting child rape are abominations.

Child marriage is an abomination

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AskAubry 🦝 🐆 @askaubry.com · 1d

I hope he goes on a long walk off a short pier.

Real-Mango-5761 OP 37m Edited

Matched with him and asked me if I want to see his morning wood. I declined and told him I was interested with him but not anymore after that. I also told him that we are not a match. He offered a walk instead. I didn't reply anymore and I got this text this morning.-

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Good morning

You're very insecure person that's why you keep ignoring me after I offered to have a walk 10:33

You should not be on Tinder if you are not ready

to meet someone

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AskAubry 🦝 🐆 @askaubry.com · 1d

He's protesting too much.

am i a red flag for sending that message? Imk. kinda felt like not saying it would leave room for interpretation.

Hi

Today 10:59 AM

hello.

Today 11:15 AM

Come over:)

i don't do hookups btw.

Who said hookups?

I said come over?

Me and my roommates are smoking chilling Imfao

When did I ever say anything about hookups

Jesus you just ruined it all Imao

no worries. i was just letting you know beforehand. i didn't think you were directly asking me. but there was no prior conversation, and you asked me to come over. i just wanted to make my intentions

clear.

i don't see anything wrong with that.

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AskAubry 🦝 🐆 @askaubry.com · 1d

If youth is the only determining value of what is considered "pretty" to men, then why should women get involved knowing we all age?

r/AmlOverreacting u/Single-Lion-2903. 3h

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My husband says Anne Hathaway is 'too old to be pretty' AlO?

We were chilling and I saw new pics of Anne Hathaway and said she looks great! I love her and think she's always had this classy look. He's 29 for more context and Anne Hathaway is only 42??? I kind of flipped at him but AlO about this?? She's only like 12 years older than us soooo

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My husband says Anne Hathaway is 'too ol... 344 upvotes 435 comments

Ok, many men seem confused.

"Why do you care?"

Because marriage is a lifelong commitment and OP is likely thinking, "If my husband thinks a wealthy, fit, well cared for celebrity woman who looks much younger than 42 is no longer attractive due to simply being 42, how am I supposed to be attractive to him once I am 42? It's only 12 years away. Am I supposed to just transpire young to avoid him cheating or divorcing me?"

When your entire gender is valued in society mainly on appearance, this is a natural consequence in context of the conversation

When your entire gender is valued in society mainly on appearance, this is a natural consequence in context of the conversation.

For reference, think if a celebrity man has a lot of money, is not insufferable, provides for his family, is protective of his wife and children and your wife finds him repulsive because it's taken him till he was 12 years older than you to achieve this. You haven't achieved it yourself and you don't believe you'll ever get to where he is, even in the years between your age and his.

Tell the truth: Are you feeling comfortable, even if you reject the societal pressures to achieve the "never appear weak and be sure to provide well" ideal image of masculinity?

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AskAubry 🦝 🐆 @askaubry.com · 2d

Vanessa Hudgens is married and on her second kid but these dudes and their wishful sad miserable woman fantasies.

Imagine being with someone for almost a decade and then walking past them like they never existed

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She looked dead at him and then took that little walk in front of him. He's moved on and she's alone...surprise, surprise city boys, we up

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AskAubry 🦝 🐆 @askaubry.com · 2d

Eww... Ewww

Welcome to Utah Tinder

YOU MATCHED WITH

ON 10/8/25

I really wish you were my sister

This may be the best first message I've ever received. Please tell me more?

You're beautiful. I would have begged to give you massages and hope you'd let me kiss youv

Ohhhh so you have a sister kink?

Would you have stopped me?

Maybe. I love that your short too

I would have hoped you didn't wear panties around me

This is Tinder, not familysearch, my friend

Sorry. You are beautiful though

Sent

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AskAubry 🦝 🐆 @askaubry.com · 2d

Dude posted this saying his daughter will be his "second mom" thinking this is a positive message about little girls. 😒

pregnant woman asks her husband: "What are you expecting, a boy or a girl?" "

The husband replies: "If it's a boy, I'll teach him math, we'll work out together, teach him how to fish, etc." "

The woman, laughing, asks: "What if it's a girl?" "

The husband smiles and says, "If it's a girl, I won't have to teach her anything." She will teach me everything: how to dress, how to eat, what to say and what not to say. Very soon, she'll become like a second mom to me, and even without doing anything special, she'll always consider me as her hero. She'll understand when I tell her no and she'll still compare her future husband to me. No matter how old she gets, she will always want me to treat her like my little princess. She'll fight for me against the world, and if anyone hurts me, she'll never forgive them. "

The woman, a little intrigued, asks: "You mean your daughter would do all this, but not your son?" "

The husband says, "No, no! My son could do this too, but he will have to learn

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AskAubry 🦝 🐆 @askaubry.com · 2d

The fact that there is only one sticker left

Trash of any kind

Go to avery.com/print

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ou are in danger, being abused, or violated, place a sticker on the urine cup. We will ask anyone in the room to leave before talking with you.

Si usted está siendo objeto de abuso, violación o se encuentra en peligro, coloque una etiqueta adhesiva en el recipiente para la orina. Le pediremos a todos los que estén en la habitación que se retiren antes de hablar con usted.

إذا كنت تتعرض لأي اعتداءات أو انتهاكات أو مخاطر، يرجى وضع ملصق على كوب التبول. سنطلب من أي شخص موجود في الغرفة المغادرة قبل التحدث معك.

如果您正在遭受虐待、受到侵犯或面临危险,请在尿杯上贴上标签。在与您交谈之前,我们会请房间中的其他人离开。

Ikiwa unanyanyaswa, unadhulumiwa, au uko hatarini, weka stika kwenye kikombe cha mkojo. Tutamwuliza mtu yeyote aliye chumbani aondoke kabla ya kuzungumza na wewe.

Nếu bạn đang bị lạm dụng, xâm phạm hay gặp nguy hiểm, hãy dán nhãn (sticker) lên cốc nước tiểu. Chúng tôi sẽ yêu cầu mọi người rời khỏi phòng trước khi nói chuyện với bạn.

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AskAubry 🦝 🐆 @askaubry.com · 2d

Man murders his wife while his children are at home.

Dudes in the comments: what did she do?

Pa. Man Kills Wife Before Turning Gun on Himself, Leaving 5 Children Behind Days Before Christmas

Brooke Raia and Blase Raia lived in Altoona, Pa., with their children

By Esme Mazzeo

Published on December 23, 2023 08:37PM EST

https://people.com/man-fatally-shoots-wife
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Man Kills Wife Before Turning Gun ...

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34-year-old Brooke Raia (neé Zimmerman) and 39-year-old Blase Raia were found dead of apparent gunshot wounds in their home on Dartmouth Lane in Blair County... Logan Township Police Chief Dave Hoover told The Altoona Mirror that the deaths appear to have been related to a domestic violence incident based on evidence at the scene.

https://people.com/man-fatally-shoots-wife -turns-gun-himself-murder-suicide-8419411

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Did they ever do a DNA test on the children?

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Did you just vilify the victim wtf

FennelPowerful2686 1m and why would that be relevant

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She was probably leaving

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My money is on cheating

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In any case, this was a weak man

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AskAubry 🦝 🐆 @askaubry.com · 2d

I don't think she was harsh enough and now I'm side eyeing her boyfriend's response.

The Babysitter Dad

AlTA for calling my friends husband a useless piece of shit

My best friend and her husband have 4 kids, 8f, 6f, 4f, and 3f. My friend's husband is a great dad when someone is there to help. When he's alone with all 4 kids he gets overwhelmed and freezes.

A few weeks ago my friend was sick so I brought over dinner. We thought it was just a bad cold.

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When we were eating, my friend went to the bathroom and the 3 year old followed her. 3 year old came running out saying her mom was throwing up. All of the kids ran to the bathroom, followed by me and my friend's husband.

I helped her clean up while her husband went to get her nausea medicine and a thermometer.

When he came back I asked him to get the kids out of the bathroom so she could have some space. After we got the kids out, I took her temp and it came back at almost 104, so went out to get her some Tylenol and water. I get back and the kids are all in the bathroom again because their dad can't keep them away from the bathroom for 2 minutes.

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I give her the Tylenol and water and she almost immediately starts to vomit again, then passes out. Her husband just stood there while I was trying to get her into recovery position, get the kids away from her, and call 911.

I managed to get all of them out of the bathroom and her husband is coming back every 20 seconds asking if I can call their nanny to help with the kids, if I can go to the hospital with her, did I start the dishwasher or does he need to hand wash the youngest's sippy cup, etc.

When my friend regained consciousness, he even started asking her how to do bedtime for the little ones, did she wash their pajamas yet, did they get screen time that day or can he put on a movie. I told him his wife couldn't hold his hand right now and he just had to figure it out. He told me he's not usually the one that deals with this and he's trying his best, then goes back to asking what stories the kids like, what setting does he put the sound machine on, and how do they like their milk. I just snapped and told him to figure it out on his own and called him a useless piece of shit.

It's been nearly a month and he still acts all pissy when I stop by the house. My friend says he'll get over it but my boyfriend thinks I was unnecessarily rude and he was trying his best.

AlTA for calling him a useless piece of shit when he couldn't handle his own kids while his wife was experiencing a medical emergency?

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AskAubry 🦝 🐆 @askaubry.com · 2d

Oofta I feel sorry for him.

1:34 PM

Best friend is going no contact out of the blue??

I am in a relationship that means everything to me that I am fully committed to and need you to appreciate and respect that and not contact me or stop and have a conversation with me out of respect for me and my relationship

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Did I do something wrong??

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Hey, I really need some insight here. My (32F) very close friend of about 12 years (33M) sent me (and another gal in our friend group) this message and then deleted us off all social media.

See the thing is, he called me to tell me ALLL about how he was connecting with this girl and they were starting to date... & we were all super stoked for him (esp. since he hasn't been in a relationship in a while & has been looking to settle down). I remember saying how cool it was that we could double date when we came into town for the holidays... But now he sent this identical message cutting ties?

This man danced at my wedding, we've watched countless tv shows and movies together, even shared our fears and dreams with each other.... To imagine he's just gone, and willingly, from our lives is devastating. We can tell him anything and he would never judge us... and vice versa. I guess I'm just confused and heartbroken.

FYI I moved 3,000 miles away 3 years ago so I can't go knock on his door and ask him to give me an explanation... Also, it's not written in his voice... seems like it's his girlfriend who formulated the message.

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AskAubry 🦝 🐆 @askaubry.com · 3d

I hate having learned how not rare this is

I (26F) can't believe I saw this after giving my boyfriend a blowjob.. (35M) Do I say something?

Okay, so this is kind of embarrassing, but

I really need some advice. Last night I gave my boyfriend a blow job. Everything was fine, but when he stood up afterwards, I noticed a skid mark on my bed sheet. I was in genuine shock and did not want him to be embarrassed so quickly threw blanket over it and washed it as soon as he left. Now I just can't stop thinking about it and it has put me off being intimate with him as all I can think is that. He is not a dirty person and don't really have problem with his hygiene but this is just mind-blowing to me as he is 35. Do I say something to him or just pretend it didn't happen ? Has this

literally ever happened to anyone else ?

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AskAubry 🦝 🐆 @askaubry.com · 3d

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You are not responsible to support a grown ass man and his children. He is trying to g to use you for money. Please break up with him!!!!

Some women are so desperate to be in a relationship with anybody, that they would literally choose to be robbed and dumped on the side of the road before they would break up with a guy. It's crazy..

Like OP, have some goddamn self respect. He literally told you that he wants to mooch off of you. On top of that, he's already divorced with one kid that he's not even taking full accountability for?! Where do you guys FIND these men!! It's like you're purposefully going to the bottom of the barrel, just whyyy

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AskAubry 🦝 🐆 @askaubry.com · 3d

Nope

THIS. IS. NOT. NORMAL.

Is my husbands level of anger and temper normal?

Marriage / Relationship Advice

I'm not sure I'm making sense with how I'm wording this, but I'm trying to get a sense of how other peoples husbands, or men in their life deal with and express their anger. Mostly to understand if my feelings of uneasiness are justified.

Im a really passive person, I don't argue and I don't raise my voice, I know that's exactly healthy but I grew up with a mother with a mental illness who was constantly screaming and yelling so it made me the opposite. I've also never lived with a man other than my husband, my dad wasn't in my life growing up and I don't have any brothers. So "normal" IG & Threads: male behavior is kind new to me. @ask_aubry

THIS. IS. NOT. NORMAL.

I know everyone reacts to things differently but I feel like my husband is over the top. How often do your husbands raise their voice? Or throw things? I feel like the smallest things and slightest inconveniences throw him into a rage. Example, our daughter spilled pop corn on the couch (she's 4) and he loudly yelled "god dammit!" This morning she wasnt wanting to get ready for school and was whining and saying she didn't want the breakfast he just made, he said "well that's just fucking great, threw a kitchen towel at the wall, and slammed the door." He'll be playing video games and lose so he yells and throws the controller against the wall.

THIS. IS. NOT. NORMAL.

Those probably aren't the best examples just what has happened recently. It makes me extremely uncomfortable when he gets so angry and makes me feel like I'm walking on eggshells.

Anytime I've tried to bring it up, it's "what I can't have emotions??" Which has made me question if I'm being too sensitive or just getting triggered because of my past.

Basically wondering what is a normal level of frustration and anger when frustrating things happen.

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AskAubry 🦝 🐆 @askaubry.com · 3d

Dude: Dating is so easy for women. Just pick one of hundreds of Nice Guys™ on the app.

And what's on the app: 747 miles is still too close

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AskAubry 🦝 🐆 @askaubry.com · 3d

Know a great way to get that extra weight off her shoulders.

've lost 40kg, but my boyfriend keeps badgering me about physical activity, even discussing this with his mother.

Hi, within the past two years I (22F) have lost 40kg, this year I have graduated university, and during the past summer months I have been searching for a job, enjoying vacations, and now have two job interviews booked, as well as starting learning how to drive.

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I'm happy with my weight loss, I want to

lose 10kg more, however I also want to improve my physical fitness. In my mind, this will be a process. I have a treadmill at home and can easily go for walks with my dogs, however I know that it will take me seriously focusing those things into my routine to effectively implement them. My next two weeks are busy and I need to secure a job ASAP. However I do want to start implementing physical

activity everyday.

The problem lies with my boyfriend, he has been hammering onto me constantly about my physical fitness, about me walking my dogs daily, everyday he mentions it. We discussed my fitness last month, and agreed upon developing it into my routine, however sometimes i'm just drained and tired from job searching, emails, etc.

Last night he brought it up again, this time I learned he has been discussing it with his mother (who had previously called me fat behind my back when discussing my weight with him in private). He himself is very physically fit,

gym everyday, so is his family. It really frustrates me that this is something he felt the need to discuss with his mother.

He started dating me when I weighed

120kg, I now weight 90kg and am 5'8. He never brought up my weight or fitness previously until this summer,

consequently after the discussion where his mother called me fat. Unfortunately rather than focusing on my small successes (learning to drive, getting job interviews) he's only dwelling on the negative AND only perpetuating that negative to his family.

Until I get a car, I won't really have easy access to a gym, besides from my home treadmill. When I do get my license I want to pay for a personal trainer. Does anyone have any recommendations for fitness at home and implementing fitness habits into a routine? I AM DOING THIS FOR MYSELF! NOT FOR HIM!

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AskAubry 🦝 🐆 @askaubry.com · 3d

Don't date dudes who like Harrison Butker.

Your life will be better for it.

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AskAubry 🦝 🐆 @askaubry.com · 3d

It's a dude

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AskAubry 🦝 🐆 @askaubry.com · 3d

Choire Sicha from CNN writing out "It's OPEN SEASON on Taylor Swift" is so misogyny coded.

Especially when gun violence against women are on the rise, up 36% since 2014.

That word choice was definitely a choice.

Choire Sicha from CNN writing out "It's OPEN SEASON on Taylor Swift" is so misogyny coded.

It's fine to hate the album, dislike her personality, style, billionaire status, friends, all that and more, but when femicide

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