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Chris the DM 🏳️‍🌈 @confusatron.bsky.social · 1h

Yeah I'll look for a list maybe. Or watch it in bites and binge it if I get a taste for it. Otherwise I feel like I can figure the gist. I always liked the premise though

Chris the DM 🏳️‍🌈 @confusatron.bsky.social · 1h

Not scold-proofing this. Assume good will, please

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Chris the DM 🏳️‍🌈 @confusatron.bsky.social · 1h

Ha that's kind of a trope of the series, I realized watching this. There's an amount of "they have beef because he hates our guy" and we're just like yeah we have beef! Kick his ass! I liked and hated how realistic the toxic masculinity was in Legends. Is there a list of episodes to watch/skip?

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Chris the DM 🏳️‍🌈 @confusatron.bsky.social · 1h

Someone once said a problem on social media is no one ever assumes good will, and I think that's definitely a problem. I'm not talking about abusers or anything of the kind. Obviously. But we burn people down without clarifying what they're even saying, even if they're a friend. It does nothing good

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Chris the DM 🏳️‍🌈 @confusatron.bsky.social · 1h

All this said I don't currently have the spoons to continue this much longer, and certainly not in a second location so to speak. And to be clear, I really dislike when people make my friends suffer. That is a line for me. I just try to fight fire with water, after years of setting fires on Twitter

Chris the DM 🏳️‍🌈 @confusatron.bsky.social · 1h

This is me attempting to understand so I can push back in a way that is constructive and doesn't misrepresent anyone. You were attacking my friend (by which I mean the "fire with fire"), and I wanted her to know that matters AND to push back meaningfully. It's me not joining that firing squad.

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Chris the DM 🏳️‍🌈 @confusatron.bsky.social · 1h

Do you know someone who enacted behavioral change in themselves due to suffering? It kinda sounds personal

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Chris the DM 🏳️‍🌈 @confusatron.bsky.social · 1h

If your friend said something on an issue, and someone you don't know quoted them, would you respond differently than if they'd replied?

Chris the DM 🏳️‍🌈 @confusatron.bsky.social · 2h

Can you explain why? I don't understand

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Chris the DM 🏳️‍🌈 @confusatron.bsky.social · 2h

I'm not a doctor and none of this is a prescription

Chris the DM 🏳️‍🌈 @confusatron.bsky.social · 2h

The trick being it's not just stopping if, say, the behavior is a cycle. It's actively saying no, actively refusing, maybe actively doing the thing in a different way. For instance I teach the way I do because I believe it's right AND because I hope I meet someone's threshold for changing.

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Chris the DM 🏳️‍🌈 @confusatron.bsky.social · 2h

It's not always a number that's in your head, obviously. But this is how things go viral or don't. This is how word of mouth works or doesn't. And it works in both directions. A person's threshold for stopping a shitty behavior might be seeing 5 people stop, and they've seen 4.

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Chris the DM 🏳️‍🌈 @confusatron.bsky.social · 2h

Once no more people have their threshold met, they stop joining and the ball stops rolling. But say someone's threshold for throwing bricks is 20 people and only 19 are doing it. But then a friend calls them from the same protest in another city and says they're throwing bricks. Then that's 20. ...

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Chris the DM 🏳️‍🌈 @confusatron.bsky.social · 2h

Everyone has a threshold for joining a thing, depending. My threshold for talking about DnD is zero. I'll talk about it if I'm the only one doing it. My threshold for skipping a class the professor is late to averages like five others leaving first. My threshold for killing someone is infinity. ...

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Chris the DM 🏳️‍🌈 @confusatron.bsky.social · 2h

Thresholds of resistance is a fascinating phenomenon and I think once we as a society wrap our arms around it we'll be better off. Layman's explanation, imperfect simile, but: say there's a protest, and people start throwing bricks, and more and more join and then the number stops going up. Why? ...

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Chris the DM 🏳️‍🌈 @confusatron.bsky.social · 2h

Bianca is my friend, man. I feel like you've made your point here

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Chris the DM 🏳️‍🌈 @confusatron.bsky.social · 2h

Is this not just joining the firing squad? Every time I've seen a crowd do the wave, the thing that ends it is when people stop doing it, one by one. Are you familiar with thresholds of resistance? Sometimes all a person needs in order to stop the bullshit is to see one person stop it first

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Chris the DM 🏳️‍🌈 @confusatron.bsky.social · 2h

Why wouldn't a reply make the point?

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Chris the DM 🏳️‍🌈 @confusatron.bsky.social · 2h

Why quote-post her instead of replying?

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Chris the DM 🏳️‍🌈 @confusatron.bsky.social · 2h

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Chris the DM 🏳️‍🌈 @confusatron.bsky.social · 2h

I mean isn't it fair to defend a friend though? I know I've done it, against all types. At some point it's part of being a friend, letting them know you're in their corner.

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Chris the DM 🏳️‍🌈 @confusatron.bsky.social · 2h

Why?

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Chris the DM 🏳️‍🌈 @confusatron.bsky.social · 2h

What was the first fire?

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Chris the DM 🏳️‍🌈 @confusatron.bsky.social · 3h

Oh god I want to travel to the alternate reality this post just created, the one where you own the Cowboys

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Chris the DM 🏳️‍🌈 @confusatron.bsky.social · 3h

Listen man I'm really just curious what your endgame here is. I wanna understand. I don't wanna assume I know. I'd like to hear it from you

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