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Mike Honcho Himself 🇵🇸🇨🇩🇸🇩 @trailian.bsky.social · 7h

So when it then ultimately results in rejection it’s like…why’d we even have to go through all of that song and dance when I was fine approaching things as friends/acquaintances developing a friendship in the first place?

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Mike Honcho Himself 🇵🇸🇨🇩🇸🇩 @trailian.bsky.social · 7h

If it’s friendship, that’s fine by me. But I hear “dating with intent” so often that it makes me not even bother to reach out in any capacity most of the time. So I feel obligated to put myself in a headspace of considering someone as a potential partner and all of the vulnerabilities that include.

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Mike Honcho Himself 🇵🇸🇨🇩🇸🇩 @trailian.bsky.social · 7h

It’s why I been saying I just want to find somebody I can go out to eat with, catch a movie, or check out a new spot or show from time to time, and whatever comes out of that will be what it’s gonna be.

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Mike Honcho Himself 🇵🇸🇨🇩🇸🇩 @trailian.bsky.social · 7h

If the intent isn’t a monogamous relationship leading to marriage, they don’t even want to attempt to form a connection of any kind, which I can respect. But then what?

We can’t move away from
deprioritizing romantic connection with that being the “standard” approach to forming connections.

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Mike Honcho Himself 🇵🇸🇨🇩🇸🇩 @trailian.bsky.social · 7h

I’ve seen countless numbers of cis women say that they want a guy’s intentions stated plainly on the front end, when you’re effectively strangers. Same goes for dating, in many cases.

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Mike Honcho Himself 🇵🇸🇨🇩🇸🇩 @trailian.bsky.social · 7h

Agreed that decentering yourself is the healthy approach when processing rejection, but it’s definitely easier said than done

And I’m of the mind that you form a much stronger foundation for a romantic connection by establishing a friendship first

But “intent” is pushed HEAVILY in dating culture

Tiny (Spooky) Terror™️ @thetinyterror.blacksky.app · 10h

Yes and no.

A lot of Americans have main character syndrome real bad and it displays itself as egotism. I think it’s easier to internalize rejection when you approach the world that way.

We also need to deprioritize romantic connection as a culture.

Folks place too much stock in partnership -

Mike Honcho Himself 🇵🇸🇨🇩🇸🇩 @trailian.bsky.social · 20h

Is it possible to decouple ego from romantic rejection?

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Tokyo Toni Morrison @sillygenius.bsky.social · 19h

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Tokyo Toni Morrison @sillygenius.bsky.social · 1d

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Tokyo Toni Morrison @sillygenius.bsky.social · 1d

still tryna find my way into the Black art circle of this app. plug me in, y’all

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Tokyo Toni Morrison @sillygenius.bsky.social · 1d

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Tokyo Toni Morrison @sillygenius.bsky.social · 1d

still tryna find my way into the Black art circle of this app. plug me in, y’all

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Positive Black Content @miiriya.com · 3d

I created an app where you can shop Black Owned Businesses on one app. It has a Mutual Aid section and so far it helped raise $150,000+ people struggling in the community. Reaching out to Blacksky to help spread this, this combo of helping Black Businesses, simultaneously giving back is amazing and-

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Tokyo Toni Morrison @sillygenius.bsky.social · 1d

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Tokyo Toni Morrison @sillygenius.bsky.social · 1d

told someone I was tryna get close to that I was starting radiation therapy the month before I started. haven’t heard from them since. might pop one more and hit the 4th dimension to dissociate

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Tokyo Toni Morrison @sillygenius.bsky.social · 1d

a friend gave me a handful of 5 mg gummies earlier today and of course I popped one too many like the greedy lil fat kid I am and yes i’m astral projecting

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merritt @merrittk.com · 1d

if you're not where you want to be as an artist or entertainer and didn't come from money or an industry family try to remember that it was never an even playing field to begin with and you're probably doing great considering

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merritt @merrittk.com · 1d

s/o to everyone from working class backgrounds in the arts and entertainment who clawed their way to where they are without the benefit of family wealth, career experience, or connections

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Tim Onion @bencollins.bsky.social · 1d

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MYTH: ICE agents lack proper training.

FACT: Most have been racists their entire lives.

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