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𝐀𝐬𝐤 𝐔𝐧𝐜𝐥𝐞 𝐆𝐚𝐫𝐲 𝐢𝐬 𝐚 𝐰𝐞𝐞𝐤𝐥𝐲 𝐚𝐝𝐯𝐢𝐜𝐞 𝐜𝐨𝐥𝐮𝐦𝐧 𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐈 𝐚𝐧𝐬𝐰𝐞𝐫 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐛𝐮𝐫𝐧𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐪𝐮𝐞𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬. 𝐃𝐌 𝐦𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐪𝐮𝐞𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬. rb.gy/bl048u

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Ask Uncle Gary @askunclegary.bsky.social · 8h

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How many of your married friends are happy?

Hey Uncle Gary, Out of all your married friends, how many would you say are genuinely thriving in their relationships, not just sticking it out, but actually happy and fulfilled?Signed, Curious George...

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Ask Uncle Gary @askunclegary.bsky.social · 3d

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We've been friends since the first day of kindergarten.

Dear Uncle Gary,What do you say to someone who is dying at 33?Last November, my friend was diagnosed with an aggressive breast cancer. Now, less than a year later, she’s in palliative care. The doctor...

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Ask Uncle Gary @askunclegary.bsky.social · 5d

#IWantToTrustHim #GymFriends

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I want to trust him

Dear Uncle Gary, I’ve been dating my boyfriend (28M) for about a year. Things have mostly been good; we work out together, take little trips, and I’ve tried to be the supportive, non-controlling gir...

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Ask Uncle Gary @askunclegary.bsky.social · 5d

#BlendedFamily #TrustFund #MoneyDynamics
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Stuck but Steady

Dear Uncle Gary, My wife and I have a blended family with five kids. Before she passed, my late wife asked me to protect a portion of her medical settlement and savings for our son. I’ve honored tha...

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Ask Uncle Gary @askunclegary.bsky.social · 5d

#HealthHonesty #STIConversations #BreakingSilence
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How do I tell this guy he gave me an STI?

Dear Uncle Gary,How do I tell this guy he gave me an STI? We haven’t spoken in about a month. I ghosted him. Over the weekend, I got tested because I thought I had a yeast infection. Turns out, it’s...

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Ask Uncle Gary @askunclegary.bsky.social · 8d

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If women have the 6-6-6 checklist, what’s the male equivalent?

Uncle Gary,My wife hit me with a question that stopped me mid-sip: “If women have the 6-6-6 checklist, six feet tall, six-figure income, six-pack abs, what’s the male equivalent?” In other words, do m...

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Ask Uncle Gary @askunclegary.bsky.social · 10d

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Aesthetic Fluidity and the Currency of Adaptability

The PremiseLet’s start with a truth that’s not universal, but it’s gaining traction: In 2025, financial and social success often correlate with being “aesthetically fluid.” It’s not a law of nature, b...

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Ask Uncle Gary @askunclegary.bsky.social · 10d

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The Slow Death of Critical Thinking

I came across a line that stopped me cold: “You can silence fifty scholars with one fact, but you can’t silence one fool with fifty facts.” -This quote’s authorship is uncertain.It captures the trage...

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Ask Uncle Gary @askunclegary.bsky.social · 13d

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Hey Uncle Gary,Quick question that’s been weighing on me. I work at a retail shop in Downtown LA, and yesterday I heard ICE might be in the area. I don’t own the store, and I’m not involved in hirin...

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Ask Uncle Gary @askunclegary.bsky.social · 14d

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So I went on this date...

Hey Uncle Gary,So I went on this date. It was fun, he picked the spot, we had great convo, dinner was amazing. Afterward, we played pool at a bar around the corner, and he walked me back to my apartme...

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Ask Uncle Gary @askunclegary.bsky.social · 14d

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Secrets, Shame, and the Silent Weight We Carry

by Gary DomasinAfter reading Michael Slepian’s work on the psychology of secrecy, I’m left thinking less about the secrets themselves and more about the quiet damage they inflict. His book, The Secret...

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Ask Uncle Gary @askunclegary.bsky.social · 17d

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Becky J, 💙 💙 💙 @norcal208.bsky.social · 19d

@askunclegary.bsky.social This is going to be my new favorite bluesky page. Thanks for the follow.

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Melanie 🐝🐝 @melbeebee.bsky.social · 19d

Thanks for making me smile -- oat milk may contain multitudes! Your advice is indeed thoughtful and kind.

Ask Uncle Gary @askunclegary.bsky.social · 18d

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Pole Fitness Dancer

Dear Uncle Gary,I teach English at our community college, and once a month our department holds a meeting where we share updates, lesson ideas, student wins, and classroom challenges. It’s about 17 of...

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Ask Uncle Gary @askunclegary.bsky.social · 19d

Thank you for the repost! How can I thank you?

Ask Uncle Gary @askunclegary.bsky.social · 19d

#HereToHelp as well.

Ask Uncle Gary @askunclegary.bsky.social · 19d

You're making me sweat here. Right back at you.

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Ask Uncle Gary @askunclegary.bsky.social · 19d

Perfect! 👍🏼

Ask Uncle Gary @askunclegary.bsky.social · 19d

Thank you very much!

Ask Uncle Gary @askunclegary.bsky.social · 19d

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Ask Uncle Gary @askunclegary.bsky.social · 20d

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I just turned 40 and still don’t know what I want to be when I grow up

Dear Uncle Gary,I just turned 40 and still don’t know what I want to be when I grow up. Is that normal, or am I just lost?Signed, Peter PanDear Peter Pan,First off, welcome to the club. Membership inc...

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Ask Uncle Gary @askunclegary.bsky.social · 20d

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My husband told his family I was unfaithful

Dear Uncle Gary,My husband told his family I was unfaithful, and now I feel exposed and ashamed. Can we rebuild trust after something like this, or do I need to accept that his loyalty to his family i...

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Ask Uncle Gary @askunclegary.bsky.social · 20d

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Dear Uncle Gary,My dad keeps forwarding me articles about ‘the dangers of oat milk.’ Should I be worried, or just block him?Signed Milk ManDear Milk Man,Look, your dad’s oat milk crusade isn’t really ...

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Ask Uncle Gary @askunclegary.bsky.social · 20d

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He tried to kiss me. I pushed him away, and he laughed

Dear Uncle Gary,Last night, after my friend’s rehearsal dinner. I’m one of her bridesmaids, and everyone had left the restaurant except me and her fiancé. We stayed behind to help tie up a few loose e...

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