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@batsgirl.bsky.social

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She/her. Warwickshire. Disabled mama, formerly of Ravelry, 4rthur, b3ta, Ouch, and blogger. I have a husband and a 9yo son.

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Mary @batsgirl.bsky.social · Mar 31

Steve sent me this photo of our Mother's Day pizza picnic in the park, and I love it.

A woman and a boy sit on a picnic blanket eating pizza and chips.

Mary @batsgirl.bsky.social · 1h

Good grief. I'll buy that "every family" has that one creepy cousin when you tally up all the extended family. But I simply cannot get from there to "so SAing a 6yo is no big deal."

Mary @batsgirl.bsky.social · 18h

Approaching Jamie's 10th birthday, and perhaps it's the exhaustion talking, but every time someone says something congratulatory to me about it, my brain just does a high-speed spool of all the many ways I've screwed up parenting over the past decade.

Mary @batsgirl.bsky.social · 18h

When you see the price of a tractor it starts to make a lot more sense.

Mary @batsgirl.bsky.social · 20h

I respect these frogs.

The Oregonian @oregonian.com · 1d

Things are happening at Portland's ICE facility tonight.

Read more of our protest coverage here: www.oregonlive.com/crime/2025/1...

Mary @batsgirl.bsky.social · 21h

Or 100 middle class mums at an NCT Nearly New Sale.

Mary @batsgirl.bsky.social · 1d

Packidge!!!!! 🎉

Mary @batsgirl.bsky.social · 1d

Never mind flags, THIS is the sort of urban installation that defines what it is to be British.
Chelmsford - BBC News share.google/BRgjG2G8Aq8f...

Chelmsford tongue-in-cheek signs must end, says Essex Highways - BBC News

A council says the prank signs could "mislead residents and cause confusion".

Mary @batsgirl.bsky.social · 2d

Ouch. Been there - two sudden house moves in two years. The rent was always paid, we never caused a problem, just landlords deciding to sell. Requests for extra time to find a new place fall on deaf ears. It sucks.

Mary @batsgirl.bsky.social · 2d

And treat it like the emergency it is. Kids fall asleep in a puppy pile during the third rewatch of Moana in a row? Fine. Breakfast is cookies? As a one off it won't hurt them. Late for school? You tell the office what happened and nobody minds.

Mary @batsgirl.bsky.social · 2d

For me it was things that didn't necessarily go together. Like, go to the loo, do 10 reps of whatever stretch. Finish a phone call, do a check-in about whether you need to hydrate. Put some ibuprofen in the breadbin so you remember to eat with it.

Mary @batsgirl.bsky.social · 2d

At my worst, I had to define certain things as "medicine". Like "between 7am and 8am I need to make sure I take my cornflakes."

Mentally tying things to other things helped, too. When X happens, Y must also happen. Potential for some weird Pavlovian responses there though.

Mary @batsgirl.bsky.social · 2d

I get (even if I don't approve of) him panicking and going useless...

... TEMPORARILY.

But when a competent adult is right there handling half of the crisis and telling him what he needs to do, then he needs to have, frankly, enough self respect to not ask stupid questions and just get on with it.

Mary @batsgirl.bsky.social · 2d

That sounds a lot like when a Just Dance game on the Wii rated me as "creative".

Ah well. Personal joy is better than fame and profit. Probably.

Mary @batsgirl.bsky.social · 2d

I'd try it with Jamie but I wouldn't have the time, energy, or patience to edit out the many, many hours filled with repeated 7-second ad jingles.

Mary @batsgirl.bsky.social · 2d

I'm so happy for you! Well done hanging on in there!

Mary @batsgirl.bsky.social · 3d

Is this the time to tell you I don't see reskeets unless they're quoted?

Mary @batsgirl.bsky.social · 3d

Sometimes I wear a bra under my top, too. And perhaps a shirt or something over that! The only possible explanation is that I'm constantly wanting to titillate every man I see. No other factors exist.

Mary @batsgirl.bsky.social · 3d

Also not creative, but wallowing in a touch of nostalgia there.

Mary @batsgirl.bsky.social · 3d

I would bin them, but, if I liked Jaffa cakes, I would interpret it as I sign from the universe that I was owed a somewhat fresher pack.

Mary @batsgirl.bsky.social · 5d

Thank you - we're all past the worst of it by now.

Mary @batsgirl.bsky.social · 5d

My household has been down with covid for just over a week and we've had a lot of lupper. Often comprised of convenience foods (toast, baked beans, etc) it's what you eat when you slept through respectable lunchtime but saving appetite for dinner feels ridiculous.

Mary @batsgirl.bsky.social · 5d

Got some stale baguette pieces soaking in milk and egg for french toast, because I love a recipe which calls for a nice sit down in the middle of making it.

Mary @batsgirl.bsky.social · 6d

And sometimes parenthood is showing your children that no, women don't have to sacrifice personal comfort and boundaries because an entitled 20yo man-child is trying to pressure them by throwing insults.

Cos you know if he's doing it to the mom, he does to the daughter, too.

Mary @batsgirl.bsky.social · 6d

Fear for safety is putting it a bit strongly. But I would never try and pressure a woman to welcome anyone into her house who made her feel the least bit uncomfortable. Especially overnight. We should listen to our instincts and hold our boundaries over our personal spaces.

Mary @batsgirl.bsky.social · 6d

My mum was fine with me doing what I chose with whom, but she still had the final say on who she was happy having in her house *overnight* - being present when her and her daughter are sleeping, showering, getting ready for work the next morning, etc.