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RubinRubin 🌈 @thetallsister.bsky.social · 3d

In our culture, being a woman, being single, and being independent are three taboo identities — markers of defiance that society is unwilling to accept.

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Bella DePaulo @belladepaulo.bsky.social · 3d

I think this person is truly inspiring. And the singlism she deals with is staggering.
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Single Women in Iran: Courage amidst Extraordinary Challenges

Meet a brilliant and brave scholar and activist

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Bella DePaulo @belladepaulo.bsky.social · 6d

I got listed with authors way, way above me – e.g., Virginia Woolf, Audre Lorde, bell hooks, Simone de Beauvoir, Susan Sontag, Charlotte Perkins Gilman, Zora Neale Hurston, Angela Davis, Judith Butler, Kate Chopin, Maggie Nelson, Glennon Doyle, Elizabeth Gilbert
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The Breakup Canon: 12 Feminist Works Every Woman In Her Single Era Should Read

Why do breakups feel like the end of the world? How do I decenter men and work on myself? As a newly single woman, I look to feminist literature to answer these questions. These are the works every wo...

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Bella DePaulo @belladepaulo.bsky.social · 12d

Married people get around $1,000 more per month in Social Security income than never-married people! TY for your important research, Deborah Carr @carrds723.bsky.social Leping Wang @lepingwang.bsky.social & Pamela J Smock
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How Social Security Helps Married People More Than Singles

Social Security is a vital system, but it also perpetuates inequality between married and never-married people and men and women.

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Elizabeth Spiers @espiers.bsky.social · 15d

Civility Is a Fantasy www.nytimes.com/2025/09/24/o...

Opinion | Civility Is a Fantasy

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Kim Martinez Phillips, Ph.D. @ichoosefeminism.bsky.social · 15d

New article about single, childfree WOC. Check out here ichoosefeminism.com/my-blog/f/my... #academicsky @academic-chatter.bsky.social

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Bella DePaulo @belladepaulo.bsky.social · 16d

In this article about a new book about singles in Italy, “Stop telling us we’re not happy,” #SingleAtHeart and other upbeat books about singles are discussed.
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Donne, single, felici: la singolitudine sotto una nuova luce - Donnamoderna

Scopri come le donne single possono essere felici e realizzate senza partner. Storie, studi e consigli per vivere da sole con gioia.

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Bella DePaulo @belladepaulo.bsky.social · 17d

Guess whose reviews are more trusted? People on their own in restaurants, movie theaters, museums, etc. I love this new work by Yuechen Wu and Rebecca Ratner
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Today’s Secret Influencers: People Going Solo in Public Life

Solo consumers may be especially influential. New research finds that their online reviews of restaurants and films are considered more helpful than those posted by others.

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Bella DePaulo @belladepaulo.bsky.social · 21d

Done -- thanks!

Cape Cod Women for Change INDIVISIBLE @ccwfc.bsky.social · 22d

OK EVERYONE!!! You know the assignment.
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Kim Martinez Phillips, Ph.D. @ichoosefeminism.bsky.social · 22d

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My New Article is Here!

The second article from my dissertation research “Planning Trips not Weddings: Intersecting Single and Childfree Women of Color” has now been published online in the new issue of Tijdschrift voor Gend...

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Bella DePaulo @belladepaulo.bsky.social · 22d

Congratulations! Just read the abstract and looking forward to reading the rest. Love the title!

Kim Martinez Phillips, Ph.D. @ichoosefeminism.bsky.social · 22d

New article. Open access. www.aup-online.com/content/jour... @tvgenderstudies.bsky.social @belladepaulo.bsky.social

Planning Trips not Weddings | Amsterdam University Press Journals Online

Abstract The framing of singleness as a decision and lifestyle is a relatively new social phenomenon. In this article, I argue for singlehood to be described as an independent social category and iden...

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Bella DePaulo @belladepaulo.bsky.social · 23d

In this study, the only single people who were given the option of saying positive things about themselves were the ones who wanted to be in a romantic relationship
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How Social Scientists Perpetuate the Belief that Single People Aren’t Happy

In a recent study, single people were given no opportunity to say they were happily single

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Bella DePaulo @belladepaulo.bsky.social · 29d

I think I know another singlehood scholar who has been writing about singlehood and solitude for quite some time

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Bella DePaulo @belladepaulo.bsky.social · Sep 9

Yes -- thank you! We're on it. Several people from Community of Single People have written in. So have I.

Vicki Larson @omgchronicles.bsky.social · Sep 9

@belladepaulo.bsky.social Should we help spread the word for a more balanced article? ;-)
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How Has Being Perpetually Single Affected You?

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Kim Martinez Phillips, Ph.D. @ichoosefeminism.bsky.social · Sep 8

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Bella DePaulo @belladepaulo.bsky.social · Sep 7

“Movies make female singlehood something terrifying.” #SingleAtHeart gets a shout-out in very interesting article in El Pais (Spain)
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“El tópico de la mujer madura, sola y loca pervive”: el cine hace de la soltería femenina algo terrorífico

Desde ‘Atracción Fatal’ hasta ‘Weapons’, el cine a menudo trata la soltería como una condición que puede volver a las mujeres perturbadas y desesperadas

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Bella DePaulo @belladepaulo.bsky.social · Sep 4

About that embarrassing thing couples do of inviting only other couples
Thank you, @dianne-rinehart.bsky.social
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I’m the same dinner guest with or without a partner – so why the snub? - The Honest Talk

While this may sound like a plot line from a 90s movie, single women everywhere are often still battling the “third-wheel” label, leading to exclusion from invite lists and couples events.

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Bella DePaulo @belladepaulo.bsky.social · Aug 17

Awesome! Happy birthday.

Kim Martinez Phillips, Ph.D. @ichoosefeminism.bsky.social · Aug 17

Birthday festivities have begun

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Bella DePaulo @belladepaulo.bsky.social · Aug 14

To me, everyone who is #SingleAtHeart is a feisty heroine (or hero). We’re embracing our single lives when so many others are obsessed with romantic coupling. Thanks, Rachel Beck, for inviting me on your podcast.
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Single at Heart: Bella DePaulo on Why Being Single Is Powerful, Not a Problem

The Feisty Heroine · Episode

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Bella DePaulo @belladepaulo.bsky.social · Aug 13

“Single life is not a lesser life. For people who are single at heart, single life is their best, most meaningful, fulfilling and joyful life,” Bella DePaulo, psychologist and author of Single at Heart, expressed.
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The Love Language of Being Left Alone – ELLE Egypt

Choosing solitude isn't going to cause a setback, it might just be the most honest kind of love you need.

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Bella DePaulo @belladepaulo.bsky.social · Aug 13

This interview about #SingleAtHeart appeared in the Sun edition of the Swiss paper, NZZ, in German.
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«Singles sind weder einsam noch egoistisch oder schuld an der sinkenden Geburtenrate»

Egozentrisch, engstirnig, einsam? Nichts davon treffe auf die Alleinstehenden zu, sagt die überzeugte Single-Frau und Sozialwissenschafterin Bella DePaulo. Warum Singles missverstanden und benachteili...

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Narwhal in the Sky @narwhalinthesky.bsky.social · Aug 7

I’ve always loved that Eartha Kitt interview/her response. Excited to watch this. The “maybe you’re not self-sabotaging” line in the intro hit me hard!

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Scout and T @scoutandt.bsky.social · Aug 7

Eartha Kit, "Compromise for what?"

Interesting interview.

Bella DePaulo @belladepaulo.bsky.social · Aug 6

This interview, recorded from a gorgeous home high in the hills of Los Angeles, was wonderfully engaging and beautifully produced. #SingleAtHeart
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The Eartha Kitt Effect Why Women Are Happily Choosing the Single Life for Life ft. @BellaDePaulo

YouTube video by Lovers by Shan

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Bella DePaulo @belladepaulo.bsky.social · Aug 6

This interview, recorded from a gorgeous home high in the hills of Los Angeles, was wonderfully engaging and beautifully produced. #SingleAtHeart
www.youtube.com/watch?v=tDFH...

The Eartha Kitt Effect Why Women Are Happily Choosing the Single Life for Life ft. @BellaDePaulo

YouTube video by Lovers by Shan

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Bella DePaulo @belladepaulo.bsky.social · Aug 1

An enduring community of single people that has nothing to do with dating
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The Community of Single People Is 10 Years Old

Nearly 10,000 members discussing everything about single life except dating and unsingling ourselves

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