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As they move in together, the letter writer assumes the boyfriend’s secondhand furniture will live in their basement.
Column | Carolyn Hax: Boyfriend slow to move his belongings to make room for partner’s
As they move in together, the letter writer assumes the boyfriend’s secondhand furniture will live in their basement.
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June 17, 2025 at 2:14 PM
As they move in together, the letter writer assumes the boyfriend’s secondhand furniture will live in their basement.
Letter writer wants adult kids to want to visit, but husband isn’t okay with them sharing a room with their partners.
Column | Carolyn Hax: Parents at impasse on letting unwed adult kids room with partners
Letter writer wants adult kids to want to visit, but husband isn’t okay with them sharing a room with their partners.
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June 5, 2025 at 1:48 PM
Letter writer wants adult kids to want to visit, but husband isn’t okay with them sharing a room with their partners.
College student decided on time off this summer but feels pressured to take an internship and worries about falling behind.
Column | Carolyn Hax: Career-dazed college student wonders how people choose their jobs
College student decided on time off this summer but feels pressured to take an internship and worries about falling behind.
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May 13, 2025 at 1:44 PM
College student decided on time off this summer but feels pressured to take an internship and worries about falling behind.
Letter writer can’t mention any other plans without this friend inviting herself along.
Column | Carolyn Hax: Forceful friend invites herself to all your plans
Letter writer can’t mention any other plans without this friend inviting herself along.
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April 24, 2025 at 1:38 PM
Letter writer can’t mention any other plans without this friend inviting herself along.
She’s frustrated that her grandkids are so scheduled, she sees them only when her daughter needs a driver or babysitter.
Column | Carolyn Hax: Grandma tired of hearing the grandkids are ‘too busy’
She’s frustrated that her grandkids are so scheduled, she sees them only when her daughter needs a driver or babysitter.
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April 23, 2025 at 3:08 PM
She’s frustrated that her grandkids are so scheduled, she sees them only when her daughter needs a driver or babysitter.
Mommie-in-law-to-be Dearest. (Gift link) wapo.st/4cKElpJ
Column | Carolyn Hax: ‘I don’t know how not to hate’ fiancé’s abusive mother
Fiancé and his family enable his alcoholic mother, and it’s hard for this letter writer to watch.
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April 21, 2025 at 3:35 PM
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Letter writer is bothered that wealthy relatives, for their third baby but first girl, are throwing themselves a baby shower.
Column | Carolyn Hax: Expecting a girl this time, couple goes over the top celebrating
Letter writer is bothered that wealthy relatives, for their third baby but first girl, are throwing themselves a baby shower.
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April 21, 2025 at 3:25 PM
Letter writer is bothered that wealthy relatives, for their third baby but first girl, are throwing themselves a baby shower.
Stuck in a boring routine, the letter writer now suspects boyfriend moved in just to avoid getting engaged.
Column | Carolyn Hax: Boyfriend moving in feels like skipping the fun part
Stuck in a boring routine, the letter writer now suspects boyfriend moved in just to avoid getting engaged.
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April 18, 2025 at 4:19 PM
Stuck in a boring routine, the letter writer now suspects boyfriend moved in just to avoid getting engaged.
For the letter writer, the impact of choosing the “wrong spouse” includes a loss of confidence in making life decisions.
Column | Carolyn Hax: After divorce, second-guessing ability to make big decisions
For the letter writer, the impact of choosing the “wrong spouse” includes a loss of confidence in making life decisions.
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April 17, 2025 at 2:22 PM
For the letter writer, the impact of choosing the “wrong spouse” includes a loss of confidence in making life decisions.
Mother-in-law is respectful and cooperative with them directly, then complains about their parenting choices to others.
Column | Carolyn Hax: His mom is nice to their faces, then lets parenting critiques rip
Mother-in-law is respectful and cooperative with them directly, then complains about their parenting choices to others.
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April 16, 2025 at 3:25 PM
Mother-in-law is respectful and cooperative with them directly, then complains about their parenting choices to others.
Their lack of intimacy has spread to every aspect of their 30-year marriage, and the letter writer is stuck on what’s next.
Column | Carolyn Hax: Do an affair, separate lives and eight sexless years mean divorce?
Their lack of intimacy has spread to every aspect of their 30-year marriage, and the letter writer is stuck on what’s next.
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April 15, 2025 at 1:56 PM
Their lack of intimacy has spread to every aspect of their 30-year marriage, and the letter writer is stuck on what’s next.
Letter writer had to cut back after going into debt treating family to luxuries — and they’re not liking the downgrade.
Column | Carolyn Hax: Family annoyed that golden goose is conscious of credit card debt
Letter writer had to cut back after going into debt treating family to luxuries — and they’re not liking the downgrade.
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April 14, 2025 at 2:11 PM
Letter writer had to cut back after going into debt treating family to luxuries — and they’re not liking the downgrade.
Husband’s sister is “openly hostile” to him, and the letter writer doesn’t know how to respond.
Column | Carolyn Hax: Should his spouse speak up when husband’s sister insults him?
Husband’s sister is “openly hostile” to him, and the letter writer doesn’t know how to respond.
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April 11, 2025 at 2:21 PM
Husband’s sister is “openly hostile” to him, and the letter writer doesn’t know how to respond.
He broke their engagement, so the letter writer pretends they’re strangers when they cross paths — but he’s not okay with this.
Column | Carolyn Hax: A decade after he broke engagement, ‘I act like I don’t know him’
He broke their engagement, so the letter writer pretends they’re strangers when they cross paths — but he’s not okay with this.
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April 10, 2025 at 1:53 PM
He broke their engagement, so the letter writer pretends they’re strangers when they cross paths — but he’s not okay with this.
A widow feels comfortable saying no to a date but feels rude declining invitations to be friends.
Column | Carolyn Hax: Widow seeks a polite ‘no’ to … well, everyone
A widow feels comfortable saying no to a date but feels rude declining invitations to be friends.
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April 9, 2025 at 2:37 PM
A widow feels comfortable saying no to a date but feels rude declining invitations to be friends.
Despite becoming caregiver now to a husband who is 16 years older, this letter writer hopes to preserve their “mutuality.”
Column | Carolyn Hax: As older partner declines, marriage now feels more like parenting
Despite becoming caregiver now to a husband who is 16 years older, this letter writer hopes to preserve their “mutuality.”
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April 8, 2025 at 2:01 PM
Despite becoming caregiver now to a husband who is 16 years older, this letter writer hopes to preserve their “mutuality.”
“Black sheep” wife wants protective distance from relatives, but her spouse wants an extended family for their child’s benefit.
Column | Carolyn Hax: Does spouse get a say in whether wife cuts ties with her family?
“Black sheep” wife wants protective distance from relatives, but her spouse wants an extended family for their child’s benefit.
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April 7, 2025 at 2:46 PM
“Black sheep” wife wants protective distance from relatives, but her spouse wants an extended family for their child’s benefit.
Does a wedding Q count as a timeline cleanse? Gift link: wapo.st/3R5iuiF
Column | Carolyn Hax: Ex-hippie is ‘insulted’ by fancy expectations for relative’s wedding
A Pacific Northwest aunt who had a backyard potluck wedding in the 1970s chafes at her niece’s Texas black-tie demands.
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April 5, 2025 at 3:51 AM
Does a wedding Q count as a timeline cleanse? Gift link: wapo.st/3R5iuiF
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Advice columnist Carolyn Hax answers your questions about the strange train we call life.
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April 4, 2025 at 4:25 PM
Carolyn Hax is taking your questions now
Her daughter from a teen pregnancy was secretly raised as her sister. Her biological father just told her the truth.
Column | Carolyn Hax: Her daughter, raised as her sister, finally learns the truth
Her daughter from a teen pregnancy was secretly raised as her sister. Her biological father just told her the truth.
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April 3, 2025 at 2:24 PM
Her daughter from a teen pregnancy was secretly raised as her sister. Her biological father just told her the truth.
Their longtime HVAC tech has a new look, and a client wonders whether it’s okay to “comment on his transformation.”
Column | Carolyn Hax: Technician sports dramatic new look. Does it warrant a comment?
Their longtime HVAC tech has a new look, and a client wonders whether it’s okay to “comment on his transformation.”
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March 31, 2025 at 1:29 PM
Their longtime HVAC tech has a new look, and a client wonders whether it’s okay to “comment on his transformation.”
A letter writer wonders how to proceed after an effort to be generous and inclusive backfires, upsetting both her adult kids.
Column | Carolyn Hax: Widowed mom struggles with family politics in planning big vacation
A letter writer wonders how to proceed after an effort to be generous and inclusive backfires, upsetting both her adult kids.
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March 28, 2025 at 2:38 PM
A letter writer wonders how to proceed after an effort to be generous and inclusive backfires, upsetting both her adult kids.
Mom favored the eldest girl, Dad loved their fifth baby, a boy — and three girls born trying for the boy were largely ignored.
Column | Carolyn Hax: Adult daughter still feels ‘in the way’ for not having been a boy
Mom favored the eldest girl, Dad loved their fifth baby, a boy — and three girls born trying for the boy were largely ignored.
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March 27, 2025 at 2:01 PM
Mom favored the eldest girl, Dad loved their fifth baby, a boy — and three girls born trying for the boy were largely ignored.
Goodness, no, women can’t sound “needy” 🤦🏻♀️ www.washingtonpost.com/advice/2025/...
Column | Carolyn Hax: It’s a ‘great’ relationship. So why can’t she say what she wants?
She’s embarrassed that she is still too worried about sounding “needy” to bring up the future of her relationship.
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March 25, 2025 at 2:26 AM
Goodness, no, women can’t sound “needy” 🤦🏻♀️ www.washingtonpost.com/advice/2025/...
The letter writer’s coping strategy is to interrupt the “special guest” and take her down a peg — but the sister finally snapped.
Column | Carolyn Hax: Happy in life — until rich surgeon-artist-athlete sister walks in
The letter writer’s coping strategy is to interrupt the “special guest” and take her down a peg — but the sister finally snapped.
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March 20, 2025 at 1:18 PM
The letter writer’s coping strategy is to interrupt the “special guest” and take her down a peg — but the sister finally snapped.