🧠 Clinical-Psychologist-in-training (PhD)
🌊 Weird Baptist
It’s a less pathological, more understandable way of approaching the ways people shutdown, avoid, and lash out.
They’re still striving to be seen.
- Geist (2016)
It’s a less pathological, more understandable way of approaching the ways people shutdown, avoid, and lash out.
They’re still striving to be seen.
- Geist (2016)
- Geist (2016)
Many mental-emotional-relational-habitual problems begin as good-enough fixes for real problems.
Then they calcify, getting rigidly over-applied and creating new problems of their own.
Many mental-emotional-relational-habitual problems begin as good-enough fixes for real problems.
Then they calcify, getting rigidly over-applied and creating new problems of their own.
The map is not the terrain.
The map is not the terrain.
Geist (2016)
Geist (2016)
Happy Monday, y’all.
Happy Monday, y’all.
I’m not an Elon fanboy I just can schedule tweets easier than these posts.
I’m not an Elon fanboy I just can schedule tweets easier than these posts.
Instead, healthy grief may aim to:
1) securely hold sadness, loneliness, anger, relief, and other loss-oriented feeling states
2) flexibly move in/out of those feeling states without getting stuck
Instead, healthy grief may aim to:
1) securely hold sadness, loneliness, anger, relief, and other loss-oriented feeling states
2) flexibly move in/out of those feeling states without getting stuck
This can be good. Creating labels, categories & theories to wrangle + contain feelings too overwhelming to face.
This can be bad. Retreating to labels, categories, & theories to avoid feelings needed to heal.
This can be good. Creating labels, categories & theories to wrangle + contain feelings too overwhelming to face.
This can be bad. Retreating to labels, categories, & theories to avoid feelings needed to heal.
It can be a little difficult to get the group dynamic off the ground, but once we’re up and running groups can do some deep, impactful work.
It can be a little difficult to get the group dynamic off the ground, but once we’re up and running groups can do some deep, impactful work.
Theory *should* help us categorize, explain, & act in light of the experience-near, subjective, emotional, relational moment-to-moment.
It can also help us anxiously run away.
Theory *should* help us categorize, explain, & act in light of the experience-near, subjective, emotional, relational moment-to-moment.
It can also help us anxiously run away.
Suffering can yield a good thing, but that doesn’t mean suffering itself is good.
We should hold both:
1) the not-quite-rightness and brokenness of suffering
and
2) the big-G Goods that it may yield.
Suffering can yield a good thing, but that doesn’t mean suffering itself is good.
We should hold both:
1) the not-quite-rightness and brokenness of suffering
and
2) the big-G Goods that it may yield.
Acedia & boredom have an existential flavor that includes neglect of obligations to the gifts + relationships we receive.
We’re disconnected from meaning, not just lazy & under-stimulated.
Acedia & boredom have an existential flavor that includes neglect of obligations to the gifts + relationships we receive.
We’re disconnected from meaning, not just lazy & under-stimulated.
This equips us to thank and honor God (Rom 1:21), and orient these gifts towards God’s purposes, which is the proper response to the Giver.
This equips us to thank and honor God (Rom 1:21), and orient these gifts towards God’s purposes, which is the proper response to the Giver.
These posts often feel shallow because they are.
A therapy’s tweetable nuggets are impactful & moving because they’re embedded in a relational-emotional process.
That can’t be reduced to pithy sayings.
These posts often feel shallow because they are.
A therapy’s tweetable nuggets are impactful & moving because they’re embedded in a relational-emotional process.
That can’t be reduced to pithy sayings.
Christ’s defeat of death frees us to feel death’s pain + devastation more deeply.
It enables us to mourn more intensely + authentically, not to anxiously avoid by slapping a “but heaven!” sticker on death.
Christ’s defeat of death frees us to feel death’s pain + devastation more deeply.
It enables us to mourn more intensely + authentically, not to anxiously avoid by slapping a “but heaven!” sticker on death.
Good therapy talks about what *is not said* between us.
Good therapy talks about what *is not said* between us.
Berzoff (2003)
Berzoff (2003)
It also projects that intolerance of uncertainty onto others.
So it assumes disagree-ers are on slippery slopes because it thinks others can’t hold nuance either.
It also projects that intolerance of uncertainty onto others.
So it assumes disagree-ers are on slippery slopes because it thinks others can’t hold nuance either.
Time to bust out every light/dark and seen/unseen metaphor I own.
Time to bust out every light/dark and seen/unseen metaphor I own.
Flashy, life-changing sessions do happen, but they’re outnumbered and cultivated by the mundane and regular.
Flashy, life-changing sessions do happen, but they’re outnumbered and cultivated by the mundane and regular.