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Justin Lehmiller
@justinlehmiller.bsky.social
Social psychologist, sexuality researcher, author, pinball wizard. Kinsey Institute Senior Research Fellow. Host of the Sex and Psychology Podcast. Author of the book Tell Me What You Want.
Part of the stigma against consensual non-monogamy is that many people equate it with unsafe sexual behavior. But are people in CNM relationships necessarily at higher risk for STIs? https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-452-what-people-get-wrong-about-open-relationships/
Episode 452: What People Get Wrong About Open Relationships - Sex and Psychology
In today’s show, we’re diving into common myths and misconceptions about consensual non-monogamy and separating fact from fiction.
www.sexandpsychology.com
November 26, 2025 at 3:00 AM
Only 15% of incels say they feel better after going to therapy. "When someone with such a deeply rooted ideology goes to therapy, they expect their beliefs to be validated, which doesn't happen…" https://phys.org/news/2025-11-incels-scrutiny-exposes-community-men.html
'Incels' under scrutiny: Study exposes community of men who demand sex and hate women
In 2018, 25-year-old Canadian Alex Minassian carried out a deadly rampage that left 10 people dead and injured 16 others. Shortly before carrying out the attack, he posted a message on social media that drew widespread attention: "The Incel rebellion has begun."
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November 25, 2025 at 9:01 PM
Does CNM = cheating? In this episode, Dr. Justin Mogilski breaks down why people often confuse consensual non-monogamy with infidelity, and what the research actually says. https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-452-what-people-get-wrong-about-open-relationships/
Episode 452: What People Get Wrong About Open Relationships - Sex and Psychology
In today’s show, we’re diving into common myths and misconceptions about consensual non-monogamy and separating fact from fiction.
www.sexandpsychology.com
November 25, 2025 at 3:02 PM
Research shows that people with sleep disorders have a greater risk of sexual dysfunction, including problems with desire and arousal. Chronic snoring can also interfere with a partner's sexual function by reducing their sleep quality too. www.cnn.com/2025/11/11/h...
How to keep snoring from interrupting your sex life | CNN
Sleep problems often can interfere with sex. Experts explain ways to navigate your relationship with a snoring partner while keeping your sex life intact.
www.cnn.com
November 24, 2025 at 2:42 PM
About 1 in 3 adults say they've fantasized about someone they hate. For some, fantasizing about a hated person is a form of BDSM. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-myths-sex/202206/why-you-can-have-sexual-fantasies-about-someone-you-hate
Why You Can Have Sexual Fantasies About Someone You Hate
... and who is most likely to do it.
www.psychologytoday.com
November 22, 2025 at 9:00 PM
The clitoris isn’t a “button." It's a complex organ, and most of it is internal. In today's show, we're exploring what you need to know about the clitoris with Dr. Maria Uloko.
https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-451-the-surprising-science-of-the-clitoris/
Episode 451: The Surprising Science Of The Clitoris (Essential Listen) - Sex and Psychology
Throughout history, the clitoris is something that has repeatedly been discovered, described, and then forgotten.
www.sexandpsychology.com
November 22, 2025 at 3:00 AM
Research finds that women’s sexual desire is more strongly affected by stress compared to men. https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0306453025003063?via%3Dihub
Too stressed for sex? Associations between stress and sex in daily life
Although it is deeply ingrained in our beliefs that stress affects sexual experience and behavior, factual knowledge about this interplay is scarce de…
www.sciencedirect.com
November 21, 2025 at 9:30 PM
The clitoris has been discovered, described, and forgotten more times than any other organ. Today on the podcast, we're talking about why, and what it means for women's health and pleasure. https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-451-the-surprising-science-of-the-clitoris/
Episode 451: The Surprising Science Of The Clitoris (Essential Listen) - Sex and Psychology
Throughout history, the clitoris is something that has repeatedly been discovered, described, and then forgotten.
www.sexandpsychology.com
November 21, 2025 at 3:30 PM
How have masturbation rates changed over time? New research suggests that self-pleasure is becoming even more common for men and women alike. https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/2025/11/20/how-masturbation-trends-have-changed-over-time/
How Masturbation Trends Have Changed Over Time - Sex and Psychology
Are people today masturbating more or less than they used to? A new study has the answer.
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November 20, 2025 at 3:15 PM
Sexual compatibility isn't found. It's created. Research shows that couples who hold sexual growth beliefs (meaning they believe that sex can improve through effort, intention, and communication) report higher levels of sexual satisfaction. www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/ever...
What It Really Means to Be Sexually Compatible
Your belief that sexual compatibility can't be fostered is what's hurting your sex life. Here's how to build it one step at a time.
www.psychologytoday.com
November 19, 2025 at 2:54 PM
For most of human history, people masturbated without care or consequence. But at some point, that changed. So what happened? Let's explore the history of self-pleasure. https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-450-the-weird-history-of-masturbation/
Episode 450: The Weird History Of Masturbation - Sex and Psychology
In today's show, we're talking about the history of masturbation and why our relationship with self-pleasure is so complicated.
www.sexandpsychology.com
November 19, 2025 at 3:00 AM
New research suggests that women's sexual desire and arousal is more strongly impacted by stress compared to men. https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0306453025003063?via%3Dihub
Too stressed for sex? Associations between stress and sex in daily life
Although it is deeply ingrained in our beliefs that stress affects sexual experience and behavior, factual knowledge about this interplay is scarce de…
www.sciencedirect.com
November 18, 2025 at 9:01 PM
While “No Nut November” is a relatively recent phenomenon, it has deep roots and reflects humans’ longstanding and very complicated relationship with self-pleasure. Dr. Eric Sprankle https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-450-the-weird-history-of-masturbation/
Episode 450: The Weird History Of Masturbation - Sex and Psychology
In today's show, we're talking about the history of masturbation and why our relationship with self-pleasure is so complicated.
www.sexandpsychology.com
November 18, 2025 at 3:30 PM
Research finds that having a pet present during interactions between romantic partners increases visible signs of positive emotions, such as smiling and laughing. These effects persisted even after the pet was no longer in the room. https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/02654075251383683
November 17, 2025 at 4:15 PM
Dirty talk fantasies are quite common across gender—and there is a very rich psychology behind them. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-myths-sex/202009/talk-dirty-me-the-psychology-dirty-talk
Talk Dirty To Me: The Psychology of Dirty Talk
New research explores how many people are into dirty talk and why it's arousing.
www.psychologytoday.com
November 15, 2025 at 9:30 PM
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New episode (1176), with Dr. Justin Lehmiller (@justinlehmiller.bsky.social). We talk about the #Science of desire, and the most common sexual fantasies. #Psychology

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#1176 Justin Lehmiller: The Science of Desire, and The Most Common Sexual Fantasies
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November 14, 2025 at 7:01 PM
New study finds that the rate of visible aggression in porn videos has nearly tripled, rising from approximately 20% in the videos from the early 2000s to around 55-60% in videos from the last decade. https://www.psypost.org/aggression-in-pornography-has-tripled-over-25-years-study-finds
Aggression in pornography has tripled over 25 years, study finds
Depictions of physical aggression in popular online pornography have substantially increased over the past quarter-century, new research finds.
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November 14, 2025 at 9:30 PM
Do people still take abstinence pledges? And did they ever work in the first place? In today's show, we're diving into what the data says about the abstinence movement. https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-449-the-real-cost-of-abstinence-pledges/
Episode 449: The Real Cost of Abstinence Pledges - Sex and Psychology
How did abstinence pledges become so widespread? And do they actually work as intended? Let's talk about it.
www.sexandpsychology.com
November 14, 2025 at 3:02 PM