Vic Caldarola
@menswork.bsky.social
I am the founder and lead facilitator for the Shine a Light Men's Project, a mindfulness-based men's discussion group. Most of my non-fiction essays are about men's issues, gender debates, or meditation.
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Vic Caldarola
@menswork.bsky.social
· Jul 26
‘Shine a Light’ Origins, Now a Men’s Project
A phrase with many origins, now shining a light on men’s issues.
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What makes a men's group work? We are announcing a new mindfulness-based discussion group for men. This is how it works: medium.com/modernidenti...
"Macho" versus emotionally intelligent? Which do you prefer? goodmenproject.com/featured-con...
Loving Men Means Never Shaming Them for Having Emotions
The "macho man" stigma is getting old.
goodmenproject.com
November 10, 2025 at 9:52 PM
"Macho" versus emotionally intelligent? Which do you prefer? goodmenproject.com/featured-con...
So sorry, somehow we missed posting Episode One. Here it is. As always, please send comments and questions. substack.com/home/post/p-...
Einstein's Odyssey and the Search for Your Beloved, Episode 1
Working toward the enlightened masculine
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November 10, 2025 at 8:24 PM
So sorry, somehow we missed posting Episode One. Here it is. As always, please send comments and questions. substack.com/home/post/p-...
I often suggest to men that they consider giving up dating. What I mean is why not just sign up for activities you enjoy and be curious about the people you meet there. Even if you meet no one of interest, you will have enjoyed yourself. Give it a try!
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Shine a Light (@victorcaldarola)
I often suggest to men that they consider giving up dating. Sounds radical? It isn't really. What I mean is why not just sign up for activities you enjoy and be curious about the people you meet there...
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November 10, 2025 at 8:12 PM
I often suggest to men that they consider giving up dating. What I mean is why not just sign up for activities you enjoy and be curious about the people you meet there. Even if you meet no one of interest, you will have enjoyed yourself. Give it a try!
substack.com/@victorcalda...
substack.com/@victorcalda...
Orange Hibiscus - Incredibly beautiful... substack.com/home/post/p-...
Orange Hibiscus Bloom - Spectacular!
Thanks for reading Victor’s Substack!
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November 8, 2025 at 9:20 PM
Orange Hibiscus - Incredibly beautiful... substack.com/home/post/p-...
Introducing a new series for men seeking a romantic partner, written by and for men. Let's delve into how you might go about searching for your beloved. New episodes posted weekly. substack.com/home/post/p-...
Einstein's Odyssey and the Search for Your Beloved
Introduction to a New Eight Part Series for Men
substack.com
November 8, 2025 at 4:49 PM
Introducing a new series for men seeking a romantic partner, written by and for men. Let's delve into how you might go about searching for your beloved. New episodes posted weekly. substack.com/home/post/p-...
Guess what? Adult loving partnership are not about unconditional love. Both partners must do their parts to move through challenging life phases: gmpdating.substack.com/p/6-things-i...
6 Things I Wish I’d Known About Marriage When I Was 26
Joanna Schroeder has learned a lot in more than a decade with her awesome husband.
gmpdating.substack.com
November 8, 2025 at 4:08 PM
Guess what? Adult loving partnership are not about unconditional love. Both partners must do their parts to move through challenging life phases: gmpdating.substack.com/p/6-things-i...
Finally, a woman's point of view on hopelessly trad men as partners. Don't judge. This is an opportunity for deep listening: medium.com/fourth-wave/...
Vogue Says Having a Boyfriend Is Now “Embarrassing”
Why women often lose themselves in relationships
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November 7, 2025 at 7:41 PM
Finally, a woman's point of view on hopelessly trad men as partners. Don't judge. This is an opportunity for deep listening: medium.com/fourth-wave/...
Softening the Clenched Fist
From Plum Village, France, Krista Tippet reflects on the many conflicts in our lives today.
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From Plum Village, France, Krista Tippet reflects on the many conflicts in our lives today.
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Softening the Clenched Fist
Reflections from Plum Village on healing our world's pain
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November 6, 2025 at 8:17 PM
Softening the Clenched Fist
From Plum Village, France, Krista Tippet reflects on the many conflicts in our lives today.
open.substack.com/pub/onbeing/...
From Plum Village, France, Krista Tippet reflects on the many conflicts in our lives today.
open.substack.com/pub/onbeing/...
What have you done to express your love for a beloved partner? Okay, let's get brutally honest here: gmpdating.substack.com/p/28-things-...
28 Things Men Have Done for Love
Men do a lot for love but we don’t always get to hear about it.
gmpdating.substack.com
November 4, 2025 at 2:05 PM
What have you done to express your love for a beloved partner? Okay, let's get brutally honest here: gmpdating.substack.com/p/28-things-...
Men are commonly very hard on themselves. The inner critic pushes away any effort that does not seem manly enough. Try discipline with a gentle twist: substack.com/home/post/p-...
The Gentle Discipline: Doing What Heals, Not What Hurts
True strength is found in kindness, not punishment.
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November 2, 2025 at 4:03 PM
Men are commonly very hard on themselves. The inner critic pushes away any effort that does not seem manly enough. Try discipline with a gentle twist: substack.com/home/post/p-...
Are you at the point with your beloved partner where love has transformed into the deeper elements of loving kindness? Or do you need inspiration to refocus self-love at a challenging moment in your life? You might consider metta meditation. Check it out:
November 2, 2025 at 3:25 PM
Are you at the point with your beloved partner where love has transformed into the deeper elements of loving kindness? Or do you need inspiration to refocus self-love at a challenging moment in your life? You might consider metta meditation. Check it out:
If you feel ready, brace yourself for a trip into hell, or rather the manosphere. www.linkedin.com/newsletters/...
The Manosphere | LinkedIn
A weekly dispatch on the egos, empires, and ideologies reshaping modern masculinity.
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November 2, 2025 at 1:43 PM
If you feel ready, brace yourself for a trip into hell, or rather the manosphere. www.linkedin.com/newsletters/...
The "present moment" is a tricky concept. Don't over analyze it, just sit quietly and find the spaces between things. substack.com/home/post/p-...
The Quiet Art of Being Here
Why presence is less about doing and more about remembering to return
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November 2, 2025 at 1:34 PM
The "present moment" is a tricky concept. Don't over analyze it, just sit quietly and find the spaces between things. substack.com/home/post/p-...
Are there any emotionally mature men around today? Yes, but you'll need to know how to spot one. goodmenproject.com/featured-con...
Why Emotionally Mature Men Are So Rare — and How to Spot One When You Find Him
Learn the traits that set emotionally mature men apart and how to recognize a partner who is truly capable of connection, accountability, and long-term love.
goodmenproject.com
October 26, 2025 at 5:10 PM
Are there any emotionally mature men around today? Yes, but you'll need to know how to spot one. goodmenproject.com/featured-con...
The Buddha and most of his followers speak in poetic phrases. You may need to read several times before grasping the meaning.
October 26, 2025 at 1:32 PM
The Buddha and most of his followers speak in poetic phrases. You may need to read several times before grasping the meaning.
Let's attempt to unravel the confusion between simple nudity and sexual arousal, a distinction many men do not see.
victorcaldarola.substack.com/p/nudity-ver...
victorcaldarola.substack.com/p/nudity-ver...
Nudity versus Sexual Arousal
Why do men confuse simple nudity with sexual arousal?
victorcaldarola.substack.com
October 22, 2025 at 2:22 PM
Let's attempt to unravel the confusion between simple nudity and sexual arousal, a distinction many men do not see.
victorcaldarola.substack.com/p/nudity-ver...
victorcaldarola.substack.com/p/nudity-ver...
Men's health. We need to pay closer attention to our health and stop avoiding medical care. ofboysandmen.substack.com/p/why-mens-h...
Why men's health matters to everyone
"Every man is a piece of the continent"
ofboysandmen.substack.com
October 21, 2025 at 1:36 PM
Men's health. We need to pay closer attention to our health and stop avoiding medical care. ofboysandmen.substack.com/p/why-mens-h...
What is the nature of men's loneliness? Much discussed recently, but also much misunderstood:
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What If the Male Loneliness Epidemic Isn’t Just About Loneliness?
Why Are We Asking Women to Fix Male Loneliness While Our Rights Are Being Stripped Away?
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October 20, 2025 at 1:55 PM
What is the nature of men's loneliness? Much discussed recently, but also much misunderstood:
medium.com/@waketheelep...
medium.com/@waketheelep...
Do you know what positive masculinity is? How about toxic masculinity? Check it out:
medium.com/fourth-wave/...
medium.com/fourth-wave/...
The Real Reason Young Men Don’t Know What Positive Masculinity Is
Toxic masculinity isn’t what some men think it is
medium.com
October 14, 2025 at 7:40 PM
Do you know what positive masculinity is? How about toxic masculinity? Check it out:
medium.com/fourth-wave/...
medium.com/fourth-wave/...
What is it about men's group programs that inspires authenticity?
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open.substack.com/pub/victorca...
Authentic Men and the Sacred Ordinary
Identifying the links among enlightened men, the sacred and the sacred ordinary
open.substack.com
October 14, 2025 at 7:07 PM
What is it about men's group programs that inspires authenticity?
open.substack.com/pub/victorca...
open.substack.com/pub/victorca...
Do you think of yourself as a "good man?" Controversial perhaps, but still worth a read. Check it out:
goodmenproject.substack.com/p/5-signs-yo...
goodmenproject.substack.com/p/5-signs-yo...
5 Signs You’ve Found a Good Man
“A good man is hard to find.”
goodmenproject.substack.com
October 14, 2025 at 6:31 PM
Do you think of yourself as a "good man?" Controversial perhaps, but still worth a read. Check it out:
goodmenproject.substack.com/p/5-signs-yo...
goodmenproject.substack.com/p/5-signs-yo...
Shining a light on men and mindfulness. I appeared on Patricia Greenberg's podcast October 12, 2025. The subject was mainly men's experience of loneliness. Check it out: www.youtube.com/watch?v=TYIf...
Shining a Light on Men & Mindfulness | Vic Caldarola Interview on It's Ok to Be Old
YouTube video by It's Ok to be Old with Patricia Greenberg
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October 12, 2025 at 8:44 PM
Shining a light on men and mindfulness. I appeared on Patricia Greenberg's podcast October 12, 2025. The subject was mainly men's experience of loneliness. Check it out: www.youtube.com/watch?v=TYIf...
Many men remain stuck in the past, especially aspects of the past that have not gone well. Through the practice of meditation, one may direct the dismantling of past energies and thereby divert oneself from those past incidents.
substack.com/@victorcalda...
substack.com/@victorcalda...
Victor Caldarola (@victorcaldarola)
Many men remain stuck in the past, especially aspects of the past that have not gone well. Persistent traumatic memories only harm us as we try to move forward in life. Through the practice of meditat...
substack.com
October 12, 2025 at 7:13 PM
Many men remain stuck in the past, especially aspects of the past that have not gone well. Through the practice of meditation, one may direct the dismantling of past energies and thereby divert oneself from those past incidents.
substack.com/@victorcalda...
substack.com/@victorcalda...
