TheMerMolly- she/her/mer
@mollyandthecat.bsky.social
I am a nonbinary xenogender AuDHD published poet, essayist, bookworm & mermaid!
I 🩵 books, cats, candles, piano, gardening, skiing, hiking, baking, embroidery, coffee, trauma recovery & growing my hair.
I 🩵 books, cats, candles, piano, gardening, skiing, hiking, baking, embroidery, coffee, trauma recovery & growing my hair.
Pinned
After walking all over me and my furry blanket, Juniper curled up next to me on the couch and in only 15 minutes, I felt a bit better - better enough to try going to sleep!
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#cat #CatSky #CatsOfBlueSky
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#cat #CatSky #CatsOfBlueSky
November 28, 2025 at 5:46 AM
After walking all over me and my furry blanket, Juniper curled up next to me on the couch and in only 15 minutes, I felt a bit better - better enough to try going to sleep!
🐈⬛🧡🐈⬛
#cat #CatSky #CatsOfBlueSky
🐈⬛🧡🐈⬛
#cat #CatSky #CatsOfBlueSky
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fellow introverts, the recharge sequence will now commence
November 28, 2025 at 1:26 AM
fellow introverts, the recharge sequence will now commence
In response to my wish/request for her to wait, my body is now like, “You asked for me to be behind schedule and now you shall pay!”.
The insomnia-inducing crampy pain and agony, overstimulation, respiratory issues (it hurts to breath even!), tummy trouble, nausea, etc are piling up heavily. Ugh!
The insomnia-inducing crampy pain and agony, overstimulation, respiratory issues (it hurts to breath even!), tummy trouble, nausea, etc are piling up heavily. Ugh!
November 28, 2025 at 5:17 AM
In response to my wish/request for her to wait, my body is now like, “You asked for me to be behind schedule and now you shall pay!”.
The insomnia-inducing crampy pain and agony, overstimulation, respiratory issues (it hurts to breath even!), tummy trouble, nausea, etc are piling up heavily. Ugh!
The insomnia-inducing crampy pain and agony, overstimulation, respiratory issues (it hurts to breath even!), tummy trouble, nausea, etc are piling up heavily. Ugh!
Ross’s family is pretty great. Yes, some things may bug me. But that’s more about my needs and issues. They should keep doing their thing!
A wonderful observation- not ONCE today did I worry about talking too much or my words being misinterpreted or irritating to someone! I’m comfortable with them.
A wonderful observation- not ONCE today did I worry about talking too much or my words being misinterpreted or irritating to someone! I’m comfortable with them.
November 28, 2025 at 5:12 AM
Ross’s family is pretty great. Yes, some things may bug me. But that’s more about my needs and issues. They should keep doing their thing!
A wonderful observation- not ONCE today did I worry about talking too much or my words being misinterpreted or irritating to someone! I’m comfortable with them.
A wonderful observation- not ONCE today did I worry about talking too much or my words being misinterpreted or irritating to someone! I’m comfortable with them.
Things I did to accommodate my #neurodivergent needs yesterday that I may have done in the past without understanding why- 1- ran out to the car and put my baseball cap on because the lights were to bright in a restaurant and 2- left the restaurant after the incense aroma was too much.
November 28, 2025 at 5:03 AM
Things I did to accommodate my #neurodivergent needs yesterday that I may have done in the past without understanding why- 1- ran out to the car and put my baseball cap on because the lights were to bright in a restaurant and 2- left the restaurant after the incense aroma was too much.
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Remember today that triggers may or may not seem to have anything to do w/ what we experienced in the past. Trauma jacks up our nervous system such that noises, body sensations, & even "vibes" can evoke responses, whether or not they're particularly "familiar" due to our past.
November 28, 2025 at 3:53 AM
Remember today that triggers may or may not seem to have anything to do w/ what we experienced in the past. Trauma jacks up our nervous system such that noises, body sensations, & even "vibes" can evoke responses, whether or not they're particularly "familiar" due to our past.
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You are not "failing" if a recovery tool many people find useful doesn't seem to work for you. Everybody's nervous system, trauma, & recovery needs are unique. Don't get in your head about how your recovery contrasts to others-- just focus on YOUR next recovery supporting choice.
November 28, 2025 at 3:54 AM
You are not "failing" if a recovery tool many people find useful doesn't seem to work for you. Everybody's nervous system, trauma, & recovery needs are unique. Don't get in your head about how your recovery contrasts to others-- just focus on YOUR next recovery supporting choice.
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Flashbacks can be immersive, to the point where "ignoring" them is not a realistic option-- which can make us feel helpless (& in my case, furious).
Breathe & extend yourself grace when flashbacks hijack you-- drowning "you" needs calm, measured, prepared "you" in those moments.
Breathe & extend yourself grace when flashbacks hijack you-- drowning "you" needs calm, measured, prepared "you" in those moments.
November 28, 2025 at 3:55 AM
Flashbacks can be immersive, to the point where "ignoring" them is not a realistic option-- which can make us feel helpless (& in my case, furious).
Breathe & extend yourself grace when flashbacks hijack you-- drowning "you" needs calm, measured, prepared "you" in those moments.
Breathe & extend yourself grace when flashbacks hijack you-- drowning "you" needs calm, measured, prepared "you" in those moments.
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Don't let Trauma Brain convince you because yesterday, or today so far, has been rough, that your choices "don't matter," there's "no point" in being grounded or communicating w/ your "parts," or that today's a "wash."
Breathe; blink; focus; & manage this minute. Then the next.
Breathe; blink; focus; & manage this minute. Then the next.
November 28, 2025 at 3:55 AM
Don't let Trauma Brain convince you because yesterday, or today so far, has been rough, that your choices "don't matter," there's "no point" in being grounded or communicating w/ your "parts," or that today's a "wash."
Breathe; blink; focus; & manage this minute. Then the next.
Breathe; blink; focus; & manage this minute. Then the next.
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Hating the version of ourselves we were then, the person who went through the worst of our trauma, does nothing for our recovery now. All it does is teach our nervous system that we're willing to turn on ourselves eventually.
Don't hate past "you." Forgive & hold them.
Don't hate past "you." Forgive & hold them.
November 28, 2025 at 3:56 AM
Hating the version of ourselves we were then, the person who went through the worst of our trauma, does nothing for our recovery now. All it does is teach our nervous system that we're willing to turn on ourselves eventually.
Don't hate past "you." Forgive & hold them.
Don't hate past "you." Forgive & hold them.
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Your physical reactions to trauma memories & symptoms do not make you a "burden" or a "freak."
Managing & decreasing our physical reactivity depends on our ability to create safety inside w/ our self talk & mental focus-- & shame does not facilitate feeling "safe" w/ ourselves.
Managing & decreasing our physical reactivity depends on our ability to create safety inside w/ our self talk & mental focus-- & shame does not facilitate feeling "safe" w/ ourselves.
November 28, 2025 at 3:57 AM
Your physical reactions to trauma memories & symptoms do not make you a "burden" or a "freak."
Managing & decreasing our physical reactivity depends on our ability to create safety inside w/ our self talk & mental focus-- & shame does not facilitate feeling "safe" w/ ourselves.
Managing & decreasing our physical reactivity depends on our ability to create safety inside w/ our self talk & mental focus-- & shame does not facilitate feeling "safe" w/ ourselves.
My favorite day of the year (this year’s having come with very little drama and less loud disordered eating thoughts) is coming to a close. The Christmas season is here! Can you see how excited I am by that tendon in my neck? 😂
The Christmas Swap is so cute! What are you reading tonight?
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#BookSky
The Christmas Swap is so cute! What are you reading tonight?
📚
#BookSky
November 28, 2025 at 3:37 AM
My favorite day of the year (this year’s having come with very little drama and less loud disordered eating thoughts) is coming to a close. The Christmas season is here! Can you see how excited I am by that tendon in my neck? 😂
The Christmas Swap is so cute! What are you reading tonight?
📚
#BookSky
The Christmas Swap is so cute! What are you reading tonight?
📚
#BookSky
I am truly thankful for you all! During and after long, exhausting days, I can come here for respite.
Whether we share about books, gardens, trauma recovery, medical issues, baking, neurodiversity, fur babies, gender, hopes or dreams, I always feel like I am welcome here.
Thank you, BlueSky peeps!
Whether we share about books, gardens, trauma recovery, medical issues, baking, neurodiversity, fur babies, gender, hopes or dreams, I always feel like I am welcome here.
Thank you, BlueSky peeps!
November 28, 2025 at 3:27 AM
I am truly thankful for you all! During and after long, exhausting days, I can come here for respite.
Whether we share about books, gardens, trauma recovery, medical issues, baking, neurodiversity, fur babies, gender, hopes or dreams, I always feel like I am welcome here.
Thank you, BlueSky peeps!
Whether we share about books, gardens, trauma recovery, medical issues, baking, neurodiversity, fur babies, gender, hopes or dreams, I always feel like I am welcome here.
Thank you, BlueSky peeps!
I was delighted to see a new blogpost from @drdoylesays.bsky.social today. It is beautiful & timely.
Psst, Dr. Doyle. I’m grateful for you & your words. Listening to your Boundaries & why ‘no’ is a complete sentence chat back in 2023 transformed my recovery.
useyourdamnskills.com/2025/11/27/g...
Psst, Dr. Doyle. I’m grateful for you & your words. Listening to your Boundaries & why ‘no’ is a complete sentence chat back in 2023 transformed my recovery.
useyourdamnskills.com/2025/11/27/g...
Gratitude.
You’re going to meet people in this trauma recovery process who will try to convince you that “gratitude” is kind of a “cheat code” to recovery. I’ve never believed that. Especially on …
useyourdamnskills.com
November 28, 2025 at 3:21 AM
I was delighted to see a new blogpost from @drdoylesays.bsky.social today. It is beautiful & timely.
Psst, Dr. Doyle. I’m grateful for you & your words. Listening to your Boundaries & why ‘no’ is a complete sentence chat back in 2023 transformed my recovery.
useyourdamnskills.com/2025/11/27/g...
Psst, Dr. Doyle. I’m grateful for you & your words. Listening to your Boundaries & why ‘no’ is a complete sentence chat back in 2023 transformed my recovery.
useyourdamnskills.com/2025/11/27/g...
November 28, 2025 at 1:23 AM
Pressing the mashed potatoes through this sieve with a small ladle was a lot of work and resulted in some of the best mashed potatoes I have ever eaten!
November 28, 2025 at 12:09 AM
Pressing the mashed potatoes through this sieve with a small ladle was a lot of work and resulted in some of the best mashed potatoes I have ever eaten!
When tidying up (I actually like to do the hand wash dishes. It gives me a nice bit of alone time.) I like to start with one clean space. ✨ 🧼 ✨
#cleaning
#cleaning
November 27, 2025 at 10:45 PM
When tidying up (I actually like to do the hand wash dishes. It gives me a nice bit of alone time.) I like to start with one clean space. ✨ 🧼 ✨
#cleaning
#cleaning
Thank you, my dear body, for listening to my wish and starting late.
I made it through all the fun cooking and baking before things got going. My body was hinting to me this morning about it but waited until late today!
I made it through all the fun cooking and baking before things got going. My body was hinting to me this morning about it but waited until late today!
TMI POST- Putting this out into the universe that I’d really be jazzed if my period would wait until Friday to happen. It’s supposed to start tomorrow and the first two days are often brutal.
I LOVE cooking and baking for days before Thanksgiving and eating on the day so pleaaaaaase, start late!
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I LOVE cooking and baking for days before Thanksgiving and eating on the day so pleaaaaaase, start late!
🦃
November 27, 2025 at 10:43 PM
Thank you, my dear body, for listening to my wish and starting late.
I made it through all the fun cooking and baking before things got going. My body was hinting to me this morning about it but waited until late today!
I made it through all the fun cooking and baking before things got going. My body was hinting to me this morning about it but waited until late today!
Ross did three kinds of smoked turkey tenderloin-
Maple syrup, whisky, brown sugar, ketchup, apple cider vinegar.
Homemade shawarma seasoning.
Rosemary, thyme, and sage.
Ross’s smoked turkey is soooooo good!
#Thanksgiving
🦃
Maple syrup, whisky, brown sugar, ketchup, apple cider vinegar.
Homemade shawarma seasoning.
Rosemary, thyme, and sage.
Ross’s smoked turkey is soooooo good!
#Thanksgiving
🦃
Happy oven.
A feast! I 💜 stuffing muffins!
Puréed mashed potatoes with tons of butter, cream, two cheeses, salt & pepper was totally worth the effort. (Pureeing them made me sweat it was that much of a workout.)
A beautiful plate.
Happy Thanksgiving my friends!
#Thanksgiving #mashedpotatoes
🦃
A feast! I 💜 stuffing muffins!
Puréed mashed potatoes with tons of butter, cream, two cheeses, salt & pepper was totally worth the effort. (Pureeing them made me sweat it was that much of a workout.)
A beautiful plate.
Happy Thanksgiving my friends!
#Thanksgiving #mashedpotatoes
🦃
November 27, 2025 at 10:05 PM
Ross did three kinds of smoked turkey tenderloin-
Maple syrup, whisky, brown sugar, ketchup, apple cider vinegar.
Homemade shawarma seasoning.
Rosemary, thyme, and sage.
Ross’s smoked turkey is soooooo good!
#Thanksgiving
🦃
Maple syrup, whisky, brown sugar, ketchup, apple cider vinegar.
Homemade shawarma seasoning.
Rosemary, thyme, and sage.
Ross’s smoked turkey is soooooo good!
#Thanksgiving
🦃
Happy oven.
A feast! I 💜 stuffing muffins!
Puréed mashed potatoes with tons of butter, cream, two cheeses, salt & pepper was totally worth the effort. (Pureeing them made me sweat it was that much of a workout.)
A beautiful plate.
Happy Thanksgiving my friends!
#Thanksgiving #mashedpotatoes
🦃
A feast! I 💜 stuffing muffins!
Puréed mashed potatoes with tons of butter, cream, two cheeses, salt & pepper was totally worth the effort. (Pureeing them made me sweat it was that much of a workout.)
A beautiful plate.
Happy Thanksgiving my friends!
#Thanksgiving #mashedpotatoes
🦃
November 27, 2025 at 10:04 PM
Happy oven.
A feast! I 💜 stuffing muffins!
Puréed mashed potatoes with tons of butter, cream, two cheeses, salt & pepper was totally worth the effort. (Pureeing them made me sweat it was that much of a workout.)
A beautiful plate.
Happy Thanksgiving my friends!
#Thanksgiving #mashedpotatoes
🦃
A feast! I 💜 stuffing muffins!
Puréed mashed potatoes with tons of butter, cream, two cheeses, salt & pepper was totally worth the effort. (Pureeing them made me sweat it was that much of a workout.)
A beautiful plate.
Happy Thanksgiving my friends!
#Thanksgiving #mashedpotatoes
🦃
We tried our hardest to keep it at 4:00 but that did not happen. 😫
The jumbo stuffing muffins (I usually do smaller ones 🤭) and the chipotle cheddar green bean casserole are ready for the oven. Now, potatoes!
I cannot BELIEVE we have figured out how to adapt to the surprise parental expectation to have the meal on the table at 2:00 instead of our planned for 4:00!
I cannot BELIEVE we have figured out how to adapt to the surprise parental expectation to have the meal on the table at 2:00 instead of our planned for 4:00!
November 27, 2025 at 8:07 PM
We tried our hardest to keep it at 4:00 but that did not happen. 😫
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An honest child will pay a significant price in a family or home where truths are hidden.
November 27, 2025 at 7:42 PM
An honest child will pay a significant price in a family or home where truths are hidden.
The jumbo stuffing muffins (I usually do smaller ones 🤭) and the chipotle cheddar green bean casserole are ready for the oven. Now, potatoes!
I cannot BELIEVE we have figured out how to adapt to the surprise parental expectation to have the meal on the table at 2:00 instead of our planned for 4:00!
I cannot BELIEVE we have figured out how to adapt to the surprise parental expectation to have the meal on the table at 2:00 instead of our planned for 4:00!
November 27, 2025 at 8:04 PM
The jumbo stuffing muffins (I usually do smaller ones 🤭) and the chipotle cheddar green bean casserole are ready for the oven. Now, potatoes!
I cannot BELIEVE we have figured out how to adapt to the surprise parental expectation to have the meal on the table at 2:00 instead of our planned for 4:00!
I cannot BELIEVE we have figured out how to adapt to the surprise parental expectation to have the meal on the table at 2:00 instead of our planned for 4:00!
Yes!
a quick reminder today that we get to decide what family means 🖤
November 27, 2025 at 5:25 PM
Yes!
Starting with spicy pecans. I always chuckle at the note I wrote because I still always forget how sneezey it makes me!
November 27, 2025 at 5:24 PM
Starting with spicy pecans. I always chuckle at the note I wrote because I still always forget how sneezey it makes me!