Almost none of it looks like leadership on paper.
18 things I've seen the best ones do: 🧵
Almost none of it looks like leadership on paper.
18 things I've seen the best ones do: 🧵
Twelve seconds. Two completely different leaders. 🧵
Twelve seconds. Two completely different leaders. 🧵
Elena used to prototype solutions on Saturday mornings because the problems were interesting. She'd sketch architecture diagrams on napkins at lunch. 🧵
Elena used to prototype solutions on Saturday mornings because the problems were interesting. She'd sketch architecture diagrams on napkins at lunch. 🧵
"I'm not leaving for more money. I'm leaving for better sleep."
I didn't understand. She was one of our best. Shipped constantly. Never complained. Dashboard had her as a top performer.
I asked what she meant. 🧵
"I'm not leaving for more money. I'm leaving for better sleep."
I didn't understand. She was one of our best. Shipped constantly. Never complained. Dashboard had her as a top performer.
I asked what she meant. 🧵
Took me three years to realize I was just good at internalizing bad management. 🧵
Took me three years to realize I was just good at internalizing bad management. 🧵
I looked around the conference table. Waited for her to finish the sentence. Hand it to someone senior. Add a caveat.
She didn't. 🧵
I looked around the conference table. Waited for her to finish the sentence. Hand it to someone senior. Add a caveat.
She didn't. 🧵
Then the stack shifted. 🧵
Then the stack shifted. 🧵
PhD in distributed systems. Published papers. Built the exact architecture we'd been struggling with for eighteen months. At three different companies.
My first instinct wasn't excitement.
It was to find reasons not to hire him. 🧵
PhD in distributed systems. Published papers. Built the exact architecture we'd been struggling with for eighteen months. At three different companies.
My first instinct wasn't excitement.
It was to find reasons not to hire him. 🧵
Three months later he called me.
"Quick question. Was it always this chaotic everywhere? Or did something change after I left?"
I laughed. Nothing had changed. 🧵
Three months later he called me.
"Quick question. Was it always this chaotic everywhere? Or did something change after I left?"
I laughed. Nothing had changed. 🧵
Neither of them is you. 🧵
Neither of them is you. 🧵
The room went quiet.
A senior engineer had finally said what everyone had been thinking. The VP sat there, mouth open, reaching for words that wouldn't come. 🧵
The room went quiet.
A senior engineer had finally said what everyone had been thinking. The VP sat there, mouth open, reaching for words that wouldn't come. 🧵
Strong candidate. Decade of experience. We were halfway through the interview.
He paused. Then he told me about a VP of Engineering from eight years ago. 🧵
Strong candidate. Decade of experience. We were halfway through the interview.
He paused. Then he told me about a VP of Engineering from eight years ago. 🧵
Then production went down at 3 AM.
The VP's first question wasn't "What broke?"
It was "Who was on call and why didn't they escalate faster?" 🧵
Then production went down at 3 AM.
The VP's first question wasn't "What broke?"
It was "Who was on call and why didn't they escalate faster?" 🧵
Nobody called it a failure because it shipped. 🧵
Nobody called it a failure because it shipped. 🧵
That's exactly why nobody trusts you to build something new. 🧵
That's exactly why nobody trusts you to build something new. 🧵
$40K a month in burn. Zero business value shipped. And there we sat, discussing "revised timelines" and "adjusted scope." 🧵
$40K a month in burn. Zero business value shipped. And there we sat, discussing "revised timelines" and "adjusted scope." 🧵
I watched a VP send this message to five engineers.
What they heard: 🧵
I watched a VP send this message to five engineers.
What they heard: 🧵
"How do you define AI expert?" I asked.
"Someone who's used ChatGPT for six months."
That's not an expert. That's a customer. 🧵
"How do you define AI expert?" I asked.
"Someone who's used ChatGPT for six months."
That's not an expert. That's a customer. 🧵
Wake up: 6.7" screen.
Work: 16" screen.
Relax: 55" screen.
Sleep: 6.7" screen.
Congratulations. You've optimized your entire existence into rectangles of varying sizes.
The scariest part is that it feels completely normal 🧵
Wake up: 6.7" screen.
Work: 16" screen.
Relax: 55" screen.
Sleep: 6.7" screen.
Congratulations. You've optimized your entire existence into rectangles of varying sizes.
The scariest part is that it feels completely normal 🧵
They're not hiding it.
They just stopped telling you.
A VP called me last month. Deadlines slipping. Morale tanking. He'd tried new processes, better tools, more standups. Nothing worked. 🧵
They're not hiding it.
They just stopped telling you.
A VP called me last month. Deadlines slipping. Morale tanking. He'd tried new processes, better tools, more standups. Nothing worked. 🧵
His first instinct wasn't excitement. It was panic.
"If I hire her, what's my value?" 🧵
His first instinct wasn't excitement. It was panic.
"If I hire her, what's my value?" 🧵
Still no promotion. No visibility. No seat at the strategy table.
You assume you're not ready. Not senior enough. Not strategic enough.
Maybe you're not the problem. 🧵
Still no promotion. No visibility. No seat at the strategy table.
You assume you're not ready. Not senior enough. Not strategic enough.
Maybe you're not the problem. 🧵
I thought I was helping. 🧵
I thought I was helping. 🧵
Your career could drift for five years. No alert. No dashboard. No incident review.
Just a slow Tuesday that turns into a slow decade. 🧵
Your career could drift for five years. No alert. No dashboard. No incident review.
Just a slow Tuesday that turns into a slow decade. 🧵