Smallproblem
@scritchyscratchy.bsky.social
Queer, educator, tired and trying for hope. Will settle for people to hold while the world burns.
Random little adjustments I make for my (work) kids' sensory needs:
-yes you can wash hands and come back to the activity
-sure, you can wear your hat inside
-socks are wonky? fix those 70 million times
-child is loud? Ok, we can shift so you are further.
-blanket can be a pillow
-yes you can wash hands and come back to the activity
-sure, you can wear your hat inside
-socks are wonky? fix those 70 million times
-child is loud? Ok, we can shift so you are further.
-blanket can be a pillow
December 8, 2025 at 5:55 PM
Random little adjustments I make for my (work) kids' sensory needs:
-yes you can wash hands and come back to the activity
-sure, you can wear your hat inside
-socks are wonky? fix those 70 million times
-child is loud? Ok, we can shift so you are further.
-blanket can be a pillow
-yes you can wash hands and come back to the activity
-sure, you can wear your hat inside
-socks are wonky? fix those 70 million times
-child is loud? Ok, we can shift so you are further.
-blanket can be a pillow
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almost done wrapping gifts
December 6, 2025 at 5:58 PM
almost done wrapping gifts
Movie you've watche more than six times with a gif.
For bonus points, make the gif react to the movie you're responding to.
For bonus points, make the gif react to the movie you're responding to.
December 8, 2025 at 3:51 AM
Movie you've watche more than six times with a gif.
For bonus points, make the gif react to the movie you're responding to.
For bonus points, make the gif react to the movie you're responding to.
Tea and cuddles fixes most things.
December 4, 2025 at 5:49 PM
Tea and cuddles fixes most things.
I am safe human at work.
I am the one my toddlers come to when sad or scared or tired orbneeding something fixed. Concerned little faces holding out the problem or their arms.
My coworkers are great, the kids are also safe with them - but I am preferred. Idk what it is, but I'mma keep doing it.
I am the one my toddlers come to when sad or scared or tired orbneeding something fixed. Concerned little faces holding out the problem or their arms.
My coworkers are great, the kids are also safe with them - but I am preferred. Idk what it is, but I'mma keep doing it.
December 3, 2025 at 12:40 AM
I am safe human at work.
I am the one my toddlers come to when sad or scared or tired orbneeding something fixed. Concerned little faces holding out the problem or their arms.
My coworkers are great, the kids are also safe with them - but I am preferred. Idk what it is, but I'mma keep doing it.
I am the one my toddlers come to when sad or scared or tired orbneeding something fixed. Concerned little faces holding out the problem or their arms.
My coworkers are great, the kids are also safe with them - but I am preferred. Idk what it is, but I'mma keep doing it.
Thinkin bout this more lately.
We see some emotions as Good/kind and some as Bad. But rage at injustice, the destructive protectiveness we feel, is not only sometimes a useful motivator - it is inextricable from the kind of love we need. The full range of feelings is necessary, even in a utopia.
We see some emotions as Good/kind and some as Bad. But rage at injustice, the destructive protectiveness we feel, is not only sometimes a useful motivator - it is inextricable from the kind of love we need. The full range of feelings is necessary, even in a utopia.
The distinction between "I care deeply about people and consequently feel that those who harm them should be stopped by any means necessary" and "I hate assholes and consequently build resilient communities out of sheer spite" is that one of these will still be useful when there are no more assholes
December 1, 2025 at 10:52 PM
Thinkin bout this more lately.
We see some emotions as Good/kind and some as Bad. But rage at injustice, the destructive protectiveness we feel, is not only sometimes a useful motivator - it is inextricable from the kind of love we need. The full range of feelings is necessary, even in a utopia.
We see some emotions as Good/kind and some as Bad. But rage at injustice, the destructive protectiveness we feel, is not only sometimes a useful motivator - it is inextricable from the kind of love we need. The full range of feelings is necessary, even in a utopia.
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Oooh, a great list of Black and Indigenous goth and alternative brands and artists!
www.instagram.com/reel/DRlAEYF...
www.instagram.com/reel/DRlAEYF...
GRRRL Spells ☾ Spooky Queer Apparel & Art on Instagram: "Let’s make Black Friday actually Black and say no to colonial holidays and corporate BFCM by having a Black & Indigenous Goth Friday (and etern...
Make a difference this Black & Indigenous Goth Friday by shopping from black-owned goth and alternative brands and artists, promoting diversity and inclusion in the alternative scene.
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December 1, 2025 at 9:51 PM
Oooh, a great list of Black and Indigenous goth and alternative brands and artists!
www.instagram.com/reel/DRlAEYF...
www.instagram.com/reel/DRlAEYF...
Publicly doing stuff for moral reasons makes you sound judgy, no matter how gently you express you're doing it. It's hard to consciously sacrifice a convenience because it's socially, morally, or environmentally better and NOT feel a little smug. Writing an article about it was optional tho.
I loved this essay about clawing back a sense of humanity and community where and when you can, by @caytonholland.bsky.social!!!
Normalize AI-shaming
Remember when you were a child in the supermarket and you wandered off, then looked up at a stranger thinking it was your mom, but it wasn’t your mom? That’s how AI feels.
adamcaytonholland.substack.com
December 1, 2025 at 7:12 PM
Publicly doing stuff for moral reasons makes you sound judgy, no matter how gently you express you're doing it. It's hard to consciously sacrifice a convenience because it's socially, morally, or environmentally better and NOT feel a little smug. Writing an article about it was optional tho.
My faith, look for
Every moment of understanding
Every kiss
Every changed mind
Every stubborn refusal to leave
Every link we forge between us
Every skill we share
Each name we take
Lights in the dark, so numerous sometimes we cannot even recognize them for miracles, filling our sky edge to edge.
=♡=
Every moment of understanding
Every kiss
Every changed mind
Every stubborn refusal to leave
Every link we forge between us
Every skill we share
Each name we take
Lights in the dark, so numerous sometimes we cannot even recognize them for miracles, filling our sky edge to edge.
=♡=
November 29, 2025 at 5:53 AM
My faith, look for
Every moment of understanding
Every kiss
Every changed mind
Every stubborn refusal to leave
Every link we forge between us
Every skill we share
Each name we take
Lights in the dark, so numerous sometimes we cannot even recognize them for miracles, filling our sky edge to edge.
=♡=
Every moment of understanding
Every kiss
Every changed mind
Every stubborn refusal to leave
Every link we forge between us
Every skill we share
Each name we take
Lights in the dark, so numerous sometimes we cannot even recognize them for miracles, filling our sky edge to edge.
=♡=
So, remember when I said knitting was good for the brain?
It's 1am. That off-white thing is easily four feet long. I am working out the pattern for the sleevey bits myself after three rounds of frogging because I refuse to have a seam on the skin. This thing is also merino wool, so factor price in.
It's 1am. That off-white thing is easily four feet long. I am working out the pattern for the sleevey bits myself after three rounds of frogging because I refuse to have a seam on the skin. This thing is also merino wool, so factor price in.
November 26, 2025 at 5:55 AM
So, remember when I said knitting was good for the brain?
It's 1am. That off-white thing is easily four feet long. I am working out the pattern for the sleevey bits myself after three rounds of frogging because I refuse to have a seam on the skin. This thing is also merino wool, so factor price in.
It's 1am. That off-white thing is easily four feet long. I am working out the pattern for the sleevey bits myself after three rounds of frogging because I refuse to have a seam on the skin. This thing is also merino wool, so factor price in.
The thing about working with kids and being full of love for them is that you learn to look at like... a raging screaming meltdown? As just... oh, you are stressed. Let's breathe for a little bit and then we can see what's fixable, hey?
It's good for when your brain is screm, too.
It's good for when your brain is screm, too.
November 25, 2025 at 9:01 PM
The thing about working with kids and being full of love for them is that you learn to look at like... a raging screaming meltdown? As just... oh, you are stressed. Let's breathe for a little bit and then we can see what's fixable, hey?
It's good for when your brain is screm, too.
It's good for when your brain is screm, too.
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This is Scotchy. He is here to collect the belly rub toll. Would like to remind you that failing to pay results in a fine of even more belly rubs. 12/10 (TT: scotchythedoxie)
November 24, 2025 at 5:37 PM
This is Scotchy. He is here to collect the belly rub toll. Would like to remind you that failing to pay results in a fine of even more belly rubs. 12/10 (TT: scotchythedoxie)
Me: Do the scary loving thing. It's worth it.
Also me: The loving thing is scaring me. SHIBBI, HALP
Also me: The loving thing is scaring me. SHIBBI, HALP
November 22, 2025 at 2:19 AM
Me: Do the scary loving thing. It's worth it.
Also me: The loving thing is scaring me. SHIBBI, HALP
Also me: The loving thing is scaring me. SHIBBI, HALP
Two little boys had a tea party with pizza today.
Five children carefully painted paper stars.
There was singing and dancing and riding bikes and drawing one very big and one very small shark.
All is well.
Five children carefully painted paper stars.
There was singing and dancing and riding bikes and drawing one very big and one very small shark.
All is well.
November 20, 2025 at 12:12 AM
Two little boys had a tea party with pizza today.
Five children carefully painted paper stars.
There was singing and dancing and riding bikes and drawing one very big and one very small shark.
All is well.
Five children carefully painted paper stars.
There was singing and dancing and riding bikes and drawing one very big and one very small shark.
All is well.
Imean... nobody knew, but someone noticed. More than one someone.
I got to become a whole person with them.
And I learned the people who didn't know didn't try.
If you are honest, open, and routinely misinterpreted anyway? Sometimes it's because you picked the wrong people to communicate with.
I got to become a whole person with them.
And I learned the people who didn't know didn't try.
If you are honest, open, and routinely misinterpreted anyway? Sometimes it's because you picked the wrong people to communicate with.
I Sadly know a lot of autistics like this. Good to know this pattern/behavior has a name ! Echoism
November 18, 2025 at 4:54 AM
Imean... nobody knew, but someone noticed. More than one someone.
I got to become a whole person with them.
And I learned the people who didn't know didn't try.
If you are honest, open, and routinely misinterpreted anyway? Sometimes it's because you picked the wrong people to communicate with.
I got to become a whole person with them.
And I learned the people who didn't know didn't try.
If you are honest, open, and routinely misinterpreted anyway? Sometimes it's because you picked the wrong people to communicate with.
Spicy take: "I like this" and "this is gross" are not always stances of equal moral weight.
I am specifically talking about sex-positive discourse. When expressing distaste -publically- at any sexual activity, you usually have the full weight of institutional sex negativity at your back.
I am specifically talking about sex-positive discourse. When expressing distaste -publically- at any sexual activity, you usually have the full weight of institutional sex negativity at your back.
November 17, 2025 at 3:14 AM
Spicy take: "I like this" and "this is gross" are not always stances of equal moral weight.
I am specifically talking about sex-positive discourse. When expressing distaste -publically- at any sexual activity, you usually have the full weight of institutional sex negativity at your back.
I am specifically talking about sex-positive discourse. When expressing distaste -publically- at any sexual activity, you usually have the full weight of institutional sex negativity at your back.
The dichotomy of being vastly happier than I have earned, and yet in a world of unfairness and horrors, is a tough mess to detangle.
"Like other great men under reverses, I must endeavor to subdue my mind to my fortune. I must learn to brook being happier than I deserve."
"Like other great men under reverses, I must endeavor to subdue my mind to my fortune. I must learn to brook being happier than I deserve."
You and I, in specific, are vastly privileged to live some of the most comfortable existences two trans queerdos could - lives and joys which *could not* be done even a single generation prior. It is not sufficient. It cannot be.
We live in paradise, and we must tear it down to build it out.
We live in paradise, and we must tear it down to build it out.
November 16, 2025 at 7:20 PM
The dichotomy of being vastly happier than I have earned, and yet in a world of unfairness and horrors, is a tough mess to detangle.
"Like other great men under reverses, I must endeavor to subdue my mind to my fortune. I must learn to brook being happier than I deserve."
"Like other great men under reverses, I must endeavor to subdue my mind to my fortune. I must learn to brook being happier than I deserve."
I have become the resident expert on getting my kids (in childcare) to eat New Things.
The trick is that I don't actually have any particular goal about them eating new things. I just sit next to them and explain what the foods are, offer them various individual parts of the meal, and wait.
The trick is that I don't actually have any particular goal about them eating new things. I just sit next to them and explain what the foods are, offer them various individual parts of the meal, and wait.
November 16, 2025 at 5:53 PM
I have become the resident expert on getting my kids (in childcare) to eat New Things.
The trick is that I don't actually have any particular goal about them eating new things. I just sit next to them and explain what the foods are, offer them various individual parts of the meal, and wait.
The trick is that I don't actually have any particular goal about them eating new things. I just sit next to them and explain what the foods are, offer them various individual parts of the meal, and wait.
Currently having pizza pops, rice peas carrots, a prepack yogurt and fruit by the foot for lunch like an actual middle schooler. I *might* be compensating for four to six years of frozen burrito lunches daily.
November 10, 2025 at 5:59 PM
Currently having pizza pops, rice peas carrots, a prepack yogurt and fruit by the foot for lunch like an actual middle schooler. I *might* be compensating for four to six years of frozen burrito lunches daily.
Knitting is good for the brain.
November 10, 2025 at 3:41 AM
Knitting is good for the brain.
The trouble with dehumanization is the anthropocentrism - if not-humans are not worse than humans, inhuman is not an insult :)
November 6, 2025 at 12:44 AM
The trouble with dehumanization is the anthropocentrism - if not-humans are not worse than humans, inhuman is not an insult :)
Do science to it.
November 4, 2025 at 10:41 PM
Do science to it.
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Halloween is about laughing at death. We send children off with treats because children are how we laugh at death. Death gets all of us, but it can't get us all.
November 4, 2025 at 12:18 AM
Halloween is about laughing at death. We send children off with treats because children are how we laugh at death. Death gets all of us, but it can't get us all.