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Shrink4Men - Dr. Tara Palmatier @shrink4men.bsky.social · 9d

Is this why the rapture was trending on Twitter a few weeks ago?

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Shrink4Men - Dr. Tara Palmatier @shrink4men.bsky.social · 9d

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I want out.

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Shrink4Men - Dr. Tara Palmatier @shrink4men.bsky.social · Aug 14

Lesbian relationships also have the highest intimate partner violenceand divorce rates.

Coincidence?

Side note: Jim Jefferies new special is hilarious. I've seen him live a couple times and he does a great show.

www.youtube.com/watch?v=078p...

Jim Jefferies: Two Limb Policy | Official Trailer | Netflix

YouTube video by Netflix

www.youtube.com

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Shrink4Men - Dr. Tara Palmatier @shrink4men.bsky.social · Aug 5

He says: “I don’t need a woman! I’ve got UberEats, porn & the boys.”
You laugh.

She says: “I don’t need a man! I’ve got wine, a dog & my own money.”
You clap.

But let’s be honest. It’s the same narcissism in different packaging.

🚩 #RedFlag
#DoNotDate

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Shrink4Men - Dr. Tara Palmatier @shrink4men.bsky.social · Jul 23

Embroider this on a throw pillow in your Man Cave:

If a woman says yes to a second date, she’s probably interested in you. If a woman is ready to move in with you by the second date, she’s probably nuts.©

The More You Know!

#RedFlags #DatingAdviceForMen

Laughing woman playfully holding walnuts over her eyes. Caption: "If she wants to move in by date two, she's not in love—she's probably nuts. Know the difference. Shrink4Men helps men escape narcissistic abuse and high-conflict relationships. The More You Know."

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Shrink4Men - Dr. Tara Palmatier @shrink4men.bsky.social · Jul 18

You can’t reason with a moving goalpost. And you can't fix crazy.

The only winning move is not to play. /3

#BPDBehavior #MaleMentalHealth #BPDRelationships #GaslightingRecovery #EmotionalAbuseRecovery #FalseAccusations #MenToo #ToxicEx #Shrink4Men #NarcissisticAbuse

Shrink4Men - Dr. Tara Palmatier @shrink4men.bsky.social · Jul 18

Now you’re a narcissist who “makes her do all the emotional labor.”
The real emotional labor?
Being expected to co-regulate the emotions of a grown-ass adult.

This isn’t communication. It’s coercive control wrapped in TikTok mental health influencer therapy-speak. /2

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Shrink4Men - Dr. Tara Palmatier @shrink4men.bsky.social · Jul 18

Your BPD-NPD wife accuses you of cheating. You prove you’re not.
She gets more upset because you didn’t validate her feelings.
Can't you see why she feels you're a duplicitous scumbag?!

[Yes, I understand you haven't done what she's accused you of. In BPD-Land it matters not.] /1

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Shrink4Men - Dr. Tara Palmatier @shrink4men.bsky.social · Jul 12

Verified.

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Shrink4Men - Dr. Tara Palmatier @shrink4men.bsky.social · Jun 20

Toxic ex shows up in court with lies, smears, and ego fluffing.
You show up with emails, tax returns, and receipts.
Guess who gets called “controlling”?
Narcissists don’t argue facts.
And they experience facts as attacks.
#Shrink4Men #FactsAreNotAbuse #FamilyCourt #TheMoreYouKnow

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Shrink4Men - Dr. Tara Palmatier @shrink4men.bsky.social · Jun 19

If a narcissist narcissists (or a borderline borderlines) in the forest and no one’s around to hear it…
Do they make a sound?

Who cares?!

You're not there to hear it.

Become one with the No Contact.
Namaste 😈

#Shrink4Men #NoContact #ClusterBFree #NarcissisticAbuseRecovery #Help4Men

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Shrink4Men - Dr. Tara Palmatier @shrink4men.bsky.social · Jun 16

This isn’t “compromise.” It’s preemptive compliance.
A lot of men don’t get called out, they just slowly disappear.

And the reward for that?
Being told you’re still not doing enough.

Reclaiming your time, space, and sense of self isn’t selfish. It’s survival.

#ReclaimYourself

Shrink4Men - Dr. Tara Palmatier @shrink4men.bsky.social · Jun 16

Ever give up your entire life to “keep the peace”—before there was even a fight?

She didn’t have to tell you to quit game night, cancel the gym, or ghost your family.

You already knew:
Resistance = Punishment
Being yourself = Losing love

#Help4Men #EmotionalAbuseRecovery

A man stands holding a basketball, looking away as if packing boxes in a home. Overlay text reads: “Do you comply in advance? Did you give up friends, family, sports, working out, hobbies, or pets because she demanded or guilted you into it? Or did you preemptively fold, just to avoid the inevitable emotional shitstorm?” The image conveys the quiet isolation and self-abandonment men often experience in emotionally abusive relationships.

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Shrink4Men - Dr. Tara Palmatier @shrink4men.bsky.social · Jun 15

Happy Father’s Day!

To all the dads showing up, even when they’re shut out, smeared, or silenced, you matter.

Extra virtual hugs today to the fathers fighting alienation. Your pain is real, and you're not alone.

Shrink4Men - Dr. Tara Palmatier @shrink4men.bsky.social · Apr 16

He thought he booked a solo therapy session.
She thought it was the perfect time to stage a redemption tour.

Spoiler: It wasn’t therapy.

It was a 53-minute highlight reel of BPD manipulation tactics:
👉 tinyurl.com/2xm7dd5v
#BPD #MensMentalHealth

Couples Therapy with a BPD: 8 Manipulation Tactics

This article is the follow-up to BPD Ambush: How Borderlines Weaponize Therapy. It’s a real-life story of what happened when Goldie, recently diagnosed with borderline personality disorder, discove…

tinyurl.com

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Shrink4Men - Dr. Tara Palmatier @shrink4men.bsky.social · Apr 12

Quid Pro Hoes.

Or is it ho's?

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Shrink4Men - Dr. Tara Palmatier @shrink4men.bsky.social · Apr 10

Kidfluencing and sharenting are child abuse.

The New Yorker @newyorker.com · Apr 10

The documentary series “Bad Influence” follows the stage mothers who permitted their kids to generate content for the social-media star Piper Rockelle and for their own channels. Their aggrieved posturing “is dumbfounding,” Jessica Winter writes.

Regrets, the YouTube Moms Have a Few

The parents who exploit their kids for clicks in Netflix’s “Bad Influence” want you to think they couldn’t have known better.

www.newyorker.com

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Shrink4Men - Dr. Tara Palmatier @shrink4men.bsky.social · Apr 6

That's a big ass bowl of WORD SALAD.

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Shrink4Men - Dr. Tara Palmatier @shrink4men.bsky.social · Apr 3

I think it's about the gay penguin book.

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Shrink4Men - Dr. Tara Palmatier @shrink4men.bsky.social · Apr 2

It sure does.

Shrink4Men - Dr. Tara Palmatier @shrink4men.bsky.social · Apr 2

They didn’t gaslight you the whole time.
At some point, 𝘺𝘰𝘶 started doing it 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘮.

Narcissists & borderlines train you to lie to 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘧 —
So you’ll justify staying.

And it's another way they get you to do the work for them.
#narcissist #gaslighting #BPD #NPD #conartists

Gold-plated poop with a rainbow starburst mimicking the “The More You Know” PSA aesthetic. Text reads: “The best con artists don’t just lie to you — they get you to lie to yourself. Narcissists and borderlines do the same. In the end, the most damaging lies are the ones you told yourself so you could justify staying.”

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Shrink4Men - Dr. Tara Palmatier @shrink4men.bsky.social · Mar 27

Think therapy will fix your BPD ?
Victor did. Because his BPD wife said so.
Then she hijacked his solo session, accused him (again) of abuse, and smiled while doing it.

This is what weaponized therapy looks like.
Read how that went 👉 tinyurl.com/4nz4cdtk
##EmotionalAbuse

BPD Ambush: How Borderlines Weaponize Therapy

Many clients wrongly believe that setting boundaries with a borderline or narcissistic partner will magically fix the relationship. It won’t. Nevertheless, boundaries are essential—I encourage ever…

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Shrink4Men - Dr. Tara Palmatier @shrink4men.bsky.social · Mar 18

Your ex might be an asshole...

If they get off on petty custody games like "accidentally" never returning the kids' clothes, toys, and school or sports gear—until it's outgrown, trashed, or useless—just to waste your time, money, and sanity.

Relatable?

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Shrink4Men - Dr. Tara Palmatier @shrink4men.bsky.social · Mar 6

Narcissists and social media—it’s Scarface, but with mountains of Likes instead of cocaine.

They endlessly chase their next ego bump, snorting lines of validation, and getting high on their own supply—of attention.

Just Say Hell No.

#JustSayHellNo #Narcissists #SocialMediaAddiction #Shrink4Men

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