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Structured Success @structuredsucc.bsky.social · 9h

It's like dealing with that the person you constantly have to debate with yourself about whether it's actually easier to ask them to do it or just do it yourself

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Structured Success @structuredsucc.bsky.social · 9h

I know there's serious ethical/environmental considerations for AI and all, but it also doesn't do a particularly good job?

It feels like working with the least effective employee in the office, you know?

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Structured Success @structuredsucc.bsky.social · 13h

ADHD'ers struggle regulate stimulation needs, where there's a mismatch in the amount of sensory, cognitive, and social stimulation we need and the amount we have access to.

This means experiencing periods of overstimulation or understimulation, which can come with a host of negative consequences

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Structured Success @structuredsucc.bsky.social · 1d

And why having written instructions is an important school/workplace accommodation for some people! :)

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Structured Success @structuredsucc.bsky.social · 1d

Working memory is a major barrier for people with ADHD. It's more prone to being erased, overwritten, or overwhelmed.

Expecting ourselves to follow changing or complex instructions without support, especially in a chaotic or distracting environment, is often a recipe for missing something

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Structured Success @structuredsucc.bsky.social · 2d

Being highly intelligent doesn't necessarily mean being better at emotional regulation.

In fact, experiencing intellectual development early is actually associated with neurodivergent conditions that impact emotional regulation, including autism, ADHD, or learning disabilities

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Structured Success @structuredsucc.bsky.social · 3d

Mine are lost in the post as well

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Structured Success @structuredsucc.bsky.social · 3d

Nobody:

Nobody, at all, whatsoever:

Me: 🎵 Anxiety's through the roof today, roof today, roof today. Anxiety's through the roof today. yep yep yep yep 🎵

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Structured Success @structuredsucc.bsky.social · 3d

It's so important for researchers, professionals, and service providers to reflect on how they understand, design, discuss, and pursue their work with ADHD folks.

Without deep, regular reflection, it can be super easy for harmful stereotypes and misconceptions to sneak in

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Structured Success @structuredsucc.bsky.social · 4d

There's no universal job that's the best or worst for people with ADHD, because there's no universal ADHD experience.

Repetitive tasks, for example, can be extremely understimulating for some, but for others, these tasks might be soothing or even greatly rewarding

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Structured Success @structuredsucc.bsky.social · 5d

When the decisionmaking process goes awry, we can end up feeling paralyzed or unable to make a decision.

Because decisionmaking involves so much executive functioning, this decision paralysis can happen a MUCH more often for people with ADHD

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Structured Success @structuredsucc.bsky.social · 6d

...nope... but my keys were there :)

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Structured Success @structuredsucc.bsky.social · 6d

Tomorrow: Getting harassed by the chat in your stream to write things down :P

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Structured Success @structuredsucc.bsky.social · 6d

If anything, remember that the act of writing it down can be helpful by itself, even if you never find it again. This is especially true for processing feeling or increasing the likelihood of remembering things~ So this is a step in the right direction even if it doesn't get you all the way there

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Structured Success @structuredsucc.bsky.social · 6d

Practice makes... better ^^

I know that I used to really struggle to remember that I had my notebook with me or to find things again in the notebook, but I've slowly gotten better with that over time. I hope that you will as well

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Structured Success @structuredsucc.bsky.social · 6d

NTs often give ADHD'ers strategies that don't work because they aren't designed with our executive function barriers in mind.

"Writing it down" isn't the barrier. Even with it written down, we still might have trouble finding it again, prioritizing, or getting started, for example

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Structured Success @structuredsucc.bsky.social · 7d

Back before I had the words to explain it, I told someone "I'm bad at being friends."

I've since learned that part of the reason for that was my ADHD (and specifically my working memory, time agnosia, and rejection sensitivity).

And, I've since found some things that help. 🧵/1

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Structured Success @structuredsucc.bsky.social · 7d

13/ For other people, this might mean placing gifts in a place of prominence, having photos around.

The goal is simply to give yourself more opportunities to stumble across these reminders, because we can only act on building and supporting those relationships when remember them

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Structured Success @structuredsucc.bsky.social · 7d

12/ Another thing that really helps is finding some way to keep reminders of my friends visible.

For me, this is having a little "Social" page in my journal where keep social tasks, where I can see who I've hung out with recently, and things like that

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Structured Success @structuredsucc.bsky.social · 7d

11/ In particular, I've found that having regularly-scheduled, recurring events with the friend group can be such a big help.

This can be something that we schedule together, or it can be a public activity (such as church, a run group, or board game night) where me and my friends tend to attend

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Structured Success @structuredsucc.bsky.social · 7d

10/ Building and maintaining friendships is still something that I'm actively working to get better at and, boy howdy, is there space for improvement.

But I've found that a couple smallish changes can go a long way towards helping

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Structured Success @structuredsucc.bsky.social · 7d

9/ Even just the fear that reaching out will end in rejection can prevent me doing so sometimes, thus leaving me longing to reach out to someone but unable to because of my own baggage, sensitivity, and fear.

Sometimes it all makes finding and managing relationships with people hard, tiring work

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Structured Success @structuredsucc.bsky.social · 7d

8/ I'm so good at convincing myself that an awkward conversation or an unanswered text means that these people are actively rejecting me.

This sensitivity to rejection means that even if the rejection isn't real, it can be SOOO painful

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Structured Success @structuredsucc.bsky.social · 7d

7/ But if I don't have something in front of me reminding me of these times, dates, or people, often they can fly right by, whether it's my intention or not.

And then, after all that, I can really get in my head about these things...

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Structured Success @structuredsucc.bsky.social · 7d

6/ Even thinking that there's people out there that want to hang out with me takes cognitive energy when they aren't around.

Friends are "supposed" to be there for parts of their friends' lives, sending birthday messages, congratulating achievements, checking in and supporting each other

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