Ted Riter
@tedriter.bsky.social
Building & Rebuilding Trust & Connection | Father, Husband, Rabbi, Coach, Guide, Author | https://www.tedriter.com | https://youtube.com/@intimacyexperiment?si=rsIl3-saQBpolZe7
May 13, 2025 at 6:35 PM
April 9, 2025 at 7:34 PM
Dating can sometimes feel transactional—rows and columns of qualities, attributes, and numbers. But love isn’t found in spreadsheets. The magic happens beyond data points.
Ask yourself:
“How does my heart feel when I’m with this person?”
Trust the feeling that data alone can't capture.
Ask yourself:
“How does my heart feel when I’m with this person?”
Trust the feeling that data alone can't capture.
March 14, 2025 at 9:57 PM
Dating can sometimes feel transactional—rows and columns of qualities, attributes, and numbers. But love isn’t found in spreadsheets. The magic happens beyond data points.
Ask yourself:
“How does my heart feel when I’m with this person?”
Trust the feeling that data alone can't capture.
Ask yourself:
“How does my heart feel when I’m with this person?”
Trust the feeling that data alone can't capture.
Not every amazing person is meant for right now. Timing matters. Growth matters. Readiness matters. It’s okay to recognize someone’s beauty while also recognizing they’re not the one to walk with you in this season.
Dissolving a Relationship with Integrity
youtu.be/ZOIo_Hb48eU
Dissolving a Relationship with Integrity
youtu.be/ZOIo_Hb48eU
March 7, 2025 at 5:23 PM
Not every amazing person is meant for right now. Timing matters. Growth matters. Readiness matters. It’s okay to recognize someone’s beauty while also recognizing they’re not the one to walk with you in this season.
Dissolving a Relationship with Integrity
youtu.be/ZOIo_Hb48eU
Dissolving a Relationship with Integrity
youtu.be/ZOIo_Hb48eU
Ghosting, blaming, making excuses—that’s the easy way out. But the real work? Saying thank you for what was given, owning your part, and releasing each other with respect.
How we say goodbye matters just as much as how we say hello.
#ConsciousBreakups #IntegrityInLove #EndingsWithHonor
How we say goodbye matters just as much as how we say hello.
#ConsciousBreakups #IntegrityInLove #EndingsWithHonor
March 6, 2025 at 7:18 PM
Ghosting, blaming, making excuses—that’s the easy way out. But the real work? Saying thank you for what was given, owning your part, and releasing each other with respect.
How we say goodbye matters just as much as how we say hello.
#ConsciousBreakups #IntegrityInLove #EndingsWithHonor
How we say goodbye matters just as much as how we say hello.
#ConsciousBreakups #IntegrityInLove #EndingsWithHonor
Stop taking the bait. You don’t have to justify, argue, or convince. Stay in your truth and disengage from the game.
#MasteringModernIntimacy #BoundariesMatter #EmotionalFreedom
#MasteringModernIntimacy #BoundariesMatter #EmotionalFreedom
February 26, 2025 at 8:34 PM
Stop taking the bait. You don’t have to justify, argue, or convince. Stay in your truth and disengage from the game.
#MasteringModernIntimacy #BoundariesMatter #EmotionalFreedom
#MasteringModernIntimacy #BoundariesMatter #EmotionalFreedom
Your power lies in not reacting. Pause. Breathe. Detach. A tree doesn’t chase the wind, it just stands rooted into the earth. 🌳
#NarcissisticAbuse #GreyRockMethod #StayRooted #MasteringModernIntimacy
#NarcissisticAbuse #GreyRockMethod #StayRooted #MasteringModernIntimacy
February 25, 2025 at 5:45 PM
Your power lies in not reacting. Pause. Breathe. Detach. A tree doesn’t chase the wind, it just stands rooted into the earth. 🌳
#NarcissisticAbuse #GreyRockMethod #StayRooted #MasteringModernIntimacy
#NarcissisticAbuse #GreyRockMethod #StayRooted #MasteringModernIntimacy
Why Debating With Difficult People Never Works
Full Video: youtu.be/z-B8iE0DANY
#StayRooted #EmotionalMastery #DetachWithLove #MasteringModernIntimacy #ToxicExes
Full Video: youtu.be/z-B8iE0DANY
#StayRooted #EmotionalMastery #DetachWithLove #MasteringModernIntimacy #ToxicExes
February 25, 2025 at 5:45 PM
Why Debating With Difficult People Never Works
Full Video: youtu.be/z-B8iE0DANY
#StayRooted #EmotionalMastery #DetachWithLove #MasteringModernIntimacy #ToxicExes
Full Video: youtu.be/z-B8iE0DANY
#StayRooted #EmotionalMastery #DetachWithLove #MasteringModernIntimacy #ToxicExes
When my marriage ended after 25 years, I thought dating again would be easy. I wasn’t rusty—I just hadn’t done it in decades. But I quickly realized… I had never actually learned how to date.
See link in first comment for full video on Dating After Divorce
See link in first comment for full video on Dating After Divorce
February 21, 2025 at 7:11 PM
When my marriage ended after 25 years, I thought dating again would be easy. I wasn’t rusty—I just hadn’t done it in decades. But I quickly realized… I had never actually learned how to date.
See link in first comment for full video on Dating After Divorce
See link in first comment for full video on Dating After Divorce
I thought I was being vulnerable in relationships. I shared just enough—enough to seem open, enough to make her think I was letting her in. But the truth? I was still hiding.
Real intimacy requires more. It asks us to bring our whole selves—not just the parts we think will be accepted.
Real intimacy requires more. It asks us to bring our whole selves—not just the parts we think will be accepted.
February 20, 2025 at 4:38 PM
I thought I was being vulnerable in relationships. I shared just enough—enough to seem open, enough to make her think I was letting her in. But the truth? I was still hiding.
Real intimacy requires more. It asks us to bring our whole selves—not just the parts we think will be accepted.
Real intimacy requires more. It asks us to bring our whole selves—not just the parts we think will be accepted.
When you stop hiding, that’s where real connection begins.
Here's the truth: we can’t expect someone to love the real us if we never let them see the real us.
Here's the truth: we can’t expect someone to love the real us if we never let them see the real us.
February 19, 2025 at 5:11 PM
When you stop hiding, that’s where real connection begins.
Here's the truth: we can’t expect someone to love the real us if we never let them see the real us.
Here's the truth: we can’t expect someone to love the real us if we never let them see the real us.
"I was curating my vulnerability—showing just enough for her to think I was vulnerable, but really hiding a lot."
Ever caught yourself sharing just enough to seem open, while still keeping the real stuff locked away? Yeah, me too.
Intimacy starts when we stop performing and let ourselves be seen.
Ever caught yourself sharing just enough to seem open, while still keeping the real stuff locked away? Yeah, me too.
Intimacy starts when we stop performing and let ourselves be seen.
February 17, 2025 at 5:26 PM
"I was curating my vulnerability—showing just enough for her to think I was vulnerable, but really hiding a lot."
Ever caught yourself sharing just enough to seem open, while still keeping the real stuff locked away? Yeah, me too.
Intimacy starts when we stop performing and let ourselves be seen.
Ever caught yourself sharing just enough to seem open, while still keeping the real stuff locked away? Yeah, me too.
Intimacy starts when we stop performing and let ourselves be seen.
If you’re waiting to be the perfect partner before being trustworthy, you’ll wait forever. Trust grows when we show up, consistently, as our real selves—flaws and all.
It’s about lowering the masks, dropping the shields, and letting our partner see us as we truly are.
It’s about lowering the masks, dropping the shields, and letting our partner see us as we truly are.
February 13, 2025 at 5:34 PM
If you’re waiting to be the perfect partner before being trustworthy, you’ll wait forever. Trust grows when we show up, consistently, as our real selves—flaws and all.
It’s about lowering the masks, dropping the shields, and letting our partner see us as we truly are.
It’s about lowering the masks, dropping the shields, and letting our partner see us as we truly are.
Dating after divorce
February 12, 2025 at 9:18 PM
Dating after divorce
✨ The strongest relationships aren’t the ones without conflict. They’re the ones that know how to heal.
The question isn’t, “Will we ever fight?” The question is, “When we do, how will we handle it?”
#relationshipgoals #masteringmodernintimacy
The question isn’t, “Will we ever fight?” The question is, “When we do, how will we handle it?”
#relationshipgoals #masteringmodernintimacy
February 12, 2025 at 5:31 PM
✨ The strongest relationships aren’t the ones without conflict. They’re the ones that know how to heal.
The question isn’t, “Will we ever fight?” The question is, “When we do, how will we handle it?”
#relationshipgoals #masteringmodernintimacy
The question isn’t, “Will we ever fight?” The question is, “When we do, how will we handle it?”
#relationshipgoals #masteringmodernintimacy
Just like training your body, trust is something you can build.
The more you practice trust—through honesty, vulnerability, and repair—the stronger it becomes.
And just like muscles, trust weakens when neglected.
#RelationshipGoals #masteringmodernintimacy #mussar #bitachon
The more you practice trust—through honesty, vulnerability, and repair—the stronger it becomes.
And just like muscles, trust weakens when neglected.
#RelationshipGoals #masteringmodernintimacy #mussar #bitachon
February 11, 2025 at 5:24 PM
Just like training your body, trust is something you can build.
The more you practice trust—through honesty, vulnerability, and repair—the stronger it becomes.
And just like muscles, trust weakens when neglected.
#RelationshipGoals #masteringmodernintimacy #mussar #bitachon
The more you practice trust—through honesty, vulnerability, and repair—the stronger it becomes.
And just like muscles, trust weakens when neglected.
#RelationshipGoals #masteringmodernintimacy #mussar #bitachon
Healthy relationships aren’t conflict-free. They’re repair-ready. Learning to navigate rupture and repair is what makes a relationship strong.
Do you and your partner trust your ability to repair?
#TrustInRepair #relationshipgoals #GrowthThroughLove #masteringmodernintimacy
Do you and your partner trust your ability to repair?
#TrustInRepair #relationshipgoals #GrowthThroughLove #masteringmodernintimacy
February 10, 2025 at 6:33 PM
Healthy relationships aren’t conflict-free. They’re repair-ready. Learning to navigate rupture and repair is what makes a relationship strong.
Do you and your partner trust your ability to repair?
#TrustInRepair #relationshipgoals #GrowthThroughLove #masteringmodernintimacy
Do you and your partner trust your ability to repair?
#TrustInRepair #relationshipgoals #GrowthThroughLove #masteringmodernintimacy
We all crave intimacy—yet most of us struggle with it. Why?
Because real intimacy isn’t just about love. It’s about letting ourselves be seen.
Take the quiz now (link in comment), and let’s start opening together.
#MasteringModernIntimacy #IntimacyBlocks #RelationshipGoals
Because real intimacy isn’t just about love. It’s about letting ourselves be seen.
Take the quiz now (link in comment), and let’s start opening together.
#MasteringModernIntimacy #IntimacyBlocks #RelationshipGoals
February 7, 2025 at 3:49 PM
We all crave intimacy—yet most of us struggle with it. Why?
Because real intimacy isn’t just about love. It’s about letting ourselves be seen.
Take the quiz now (link in comment), and let’s start opening together.
#MasteringModernIntimacy #IntimacyBlocks #RelationshipGoals
Because real intimacy isn’t just about love. It’s about letting ourselves be seen.
Take the quiz now (link in comment), and let’s start opening together.
#MasteringModernIntimacy #IntimacyBlocks #RelationshipGoals
I have some big news to share—my new book, 49 Days to Deeper Connection: A Path to Revealing Your True Self, is coming this April!
Stay tuned for more details, pre-order information, and a sneak peek inside!
Let me know in the comments—who’s ready to take this 49-day journey with me? 🙌✨
Stay tuned for more details, pre-order information, and a sneak peek inside!
Let me know in the comments—who’s ready to take this 49-day journey with me? 🙌✨
February 5, 2025 at 6:05 PM
I have some big news to share—my new book, 49 Days to Deeper Connection: A Path to Revealing Your True Self, is coming this April!
Stay tuned for more details, pre-order information, and a sneak peek inside!
Let me know in the comments—who’s ready to take this 49-day journey with me? 🙌✨
Stay tuned for more details, pre-order information, and a sneak peek inside!
Let me know in the comments—who’s ready to take this 49-day journey with me? 🙌✨
We spend so much energy trying to be the right version of ourselves—the strong one, the successful one, the one who has it all together.
But intimacy doesn’t happen when you’re performing. It happens when you let yourself be fully seen.
#MasteringModernIntimacy #Vulnerability #RealLove
But intimacy doesn’t happen when you’re performing. It happens when you let yourself be fully seen.
#MasteringModernIntimacy #Vulnerability #RealLove
February 5, 2025 at 5:58 PM
We spend so much energy trying to be the right version of ourselves—the strong one, the successful one, the one who has it all together.
But intimacy doesn’t happen when you’re performing. It happens when you let yourself be fully seen.
#MasteringModernIntimacy #Vulnerability #RealLove
But intimacy doesn’t happen when you’re performing. It happens when you let yourself be fully seen.
#MasteringModernIntimacy #Vulnerability #RealLove
Most of us weren’t taught how to build intimacy. It’s not just love, vulnerability, or sex—it’s something deeper. And if you struggle with it, you’re not broken.
February 4, 2025 at 6:09 PM
Most of us weren’t taught how to build intimacy. It’s not just love, vulnerability, or sex—it’s something deeper. And if you struggle with it, you’re not broken.
We assume that love and intimacy should feel natural. That if we find the right person, connection will be effortless. But the truth? Intimacy is a practice.
February 4, 2025 at 6:04 PM
We assume that love and intimacy should feel natural. That if we find the right person, connection will be effortless. But the truth? Intimacy is a practice.
Unlocking Intimacy_ It's About Awareness, Not Judgment
Intimacy isn’t just about connection—it’s about noticing where we hold back. Where do you shut down? Where do you hesitate to share your full self?
YouTube: youtu.be/3NDUE4lU5f0?...
3-Minute Quiz: www.tedriter.com/intimacy-quiz
Intimacy isn’t just about connection—it’s about noticing where we hold back. Where do you shut down? Where do you hesitate to share your full self?
YouTube: youtu.be/3NDUE4lU5f0?...
3-Minute Quiz: www.tedriter.com/intimacy-quiz
February 3, 2025 at 6:20 PM
Unlocking Intimacy_ It's About Awareness, Not Judgment
Intimacy isn’t just about connection—it’s about noticing where we hold back. Where do you shut down? Where do you hesitate to share your full self?
YouTube: youtu.be/3NDUE4lU5f0?...
3-Minute Quiz: www.tedriter.com/intimacy-quiz
Intimacy isn’t just about connection—it’s about noticing where we hold back. Where do you shut down? Where do you hesitate to share your full self?
YouTube: youtu.be/3NDUE4lU5f0?...
3-Minute Quiz: www.tedriter.com/intimacy-quiz
Kindness Without Honesty Isn’t Love—It’s Self-Sabotage in Disguise
We’ve all been there. You bite your tongue to avoid “hurting” someone, suppress your feelings to keep the peace, or tell yourself, It’s not worth bringing up.
It feels like kindness in the moment. But is it really?
We’ve all been there. You bite your tongue to avoid “hurting” someone, suppress your feelings to keep the peace, or tell yourself, It’s not worth bringing up.
It feels like kindness in the moment. But is it really?
January 31, 2025 at 3:52 PM
Kindness Without Honesty Isn’t Love—It’s Self-Sabotage in Disguise
We’ve all been there. You bite your tongue to avoid “hurting” someone, suppress your feelings to keep the peace, or tell yourself, It’s not worth bringing up.
It feels like kindness in the moment. But is it really?
We’ve all been there. You bite your tongue to avoid “hurting” someone, suppress your feelings to keep the peace, or tell yourself, It’s not worth bringing up.
It feels like kindness in the moment. But is it really?