The pursue-withdraw cycle is so painful: You reach out, they pull back. You chase, they run.
In our new video we give you 3 steps to stop the cycle without losing yourself. youtu.be/mXFnRXrkGXI Who else has lived this pattern? You're not alone 💚
New video: Why smart people miss green flags in dating.
You've learned red flags so well that consistent, available people seem 'wrong' somehow. Your protective parts mistake safety for boring and chaos for chemistry.
Intelligence doesn't prevent validation addiction. When approval is unpredictable, our brains get hooked like on a slot machine—a pattern called intermittent reinforcement. Your protective instincts aren't broken; they're just responding. This awareness lets you choose wisdom.
New video: Why smart people stay lonely after heartbreak.
Your protective parts build sophisticated cases for avoiding all connection after betrayal. But you can't heal in isolation what was wounded in relationship.
New Q&A compiling the most common red flag questions we receive: "Is it my fault I missed them?" "Why do avoidant people feel magnetic?" "How do I trust my gut again?"
Why do smart people keep missing obvious red flags with avoidant partners?
Your protective parts recruit your intelligence to explain away concerning behavior. "They're just busy" becomes more compelling than trusting your gut.
Breaking generational cycles is possible. Your healing work IS your parenting - when you learn to regulate yourself, set boundaries, and repair mistakes, your kids feel that security too. New video: 5 Steps to Raise Secure Kids While Healing Yourself 💚
Friend rejection literally activates the same brain centers as physical injury - which explains why it hurts so much. New video explores rejection sensitivity through attachment & neuroscience. 💚 youtu.be/dCFt1Je8LYI
Why do intelligent people keep falling for emotionally unavailable partners? Your brain isn't broken—it's just been trying to solve the wrong problem. New video breaks down the neuroscience behind this pattern (and how to change it). 💚 youtu.be/lBgIGeBLBYo
💔 New video: "The Childhood Wounds Behind Your Relationship Pain" The wounded inner children (Exile parts) that drive your relationship patterns need your compassion, not your criticism. Understanding where it all started changes everything. 💚 youtu.be/PN7TB-KUvzc #IFSTherapy#AttachmentHealing
💔 New video: "Why Anxious & Avoidant People Destroy Each Other" The pursuing/withdrawing cycle that traps so many couples? Both people are trying to feel safe, but their strategies create the very problems they fear. Understanding changes everything. 💚 youtu.be/ZQ8hGrYlkuc #IFS#AttachmentStyles
New video: "Avoidant Attachment's 3 Hidden Parts Exposed" The Shutdown, Independence & Monitoring Managers that make emotional intensity feel dangerous? They're trying to protect you from childhood overwhelm. Understanding them changes everything. 💚 youtu.be/8tT5LPYOqEY #AvoidantAttachment
The Scanner, Analyzer & Perfectionist parts that exhaust you in relationships? They're actually trying to protect you. Understanding them changes everything. 💚
Series finale: Green flags vs love-bombing 💚💣 Learning the difference between genuine interest and manipulation could save you months of heartache. Real love doesn't rush - it builds sustainably over time. youtu.be/h3YZS7Kc4SU
New video: It’s time to stop trying to win your ex back.💔 You can't love someone into choosing you, and the energy you're spending chasing them needs to be redirected toward choosing yourself. Remember: Real love doesn't require convincing.💚 youtu.be/4siKsdpDagI
New video! How to Stop Attracting Avoidant Partners 💚 5 concrete steps to stop choosing familiar pain and start recognizing healthy patterns. Your nervous system CAN learn security! youtu.be/KPYPF8ehpys?...
