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Torie Wiksell

@toriewiksell.bsky.social

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Therapist. Coach. Host of the podcast, “You’re Not Crazy.” Helping adults with their dysfunctional family relationships. confidentboundaries.com

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Torie Wiksell @toriewiksell.bsky.social · Mar 11

Are you "too sensitive" or is that their way of avoiding the real issue?

Torie Wiksell @toriewiksell.bsky.social · Mar 5

It’s not your job to be the family peacemaker.

Torie Wiksell @toriewiksell.bsky.social · Mar 4

You can’t change your parent, but you can change how you interact with them.

Torie Wiksell @toriewiksell.bsky.social · Mar 4

A parent who loves you should want you to thrive, not just comply.

Torie Wiksell @toriewiksell.bsky.social · Mar 3

Feeling guilty doesn’t mean you’re doing something wrong.

Torie Wiksell @toriewiksell.bsky.social · Mar 2

I don’t believe parents who are “completely blindsided” when their child goes no-contact

Torie Wiksell @toriewiksell.bsky.social · Mar 1

It’s okay to prioritize your healing over their comfort.

Torie Wiksell @toriewiksell.bsky.social · Feb 28

You can care about someone without taking on their problems as your own.

Torie Wiksell @toriewiksell.bsky.social · Feb 27

I don't know who needs to hear this, but there's a difference between caring about someone and trying to solve all their problems for them.

Torie Wiksell @toriewiksell.bsky.social · Feb 27

Things I learned as an adult: it’s okay to say, “that doesn’t work for me.” Emotionally healthy adults tend to accept that and move on.

Torie Wiksell @toriewiksell.bsky.social · Feb 26

Acceptance is not approval

Torie Wiksell @toriewiksell.bsky.social · Feb 25

You’re not here to fulfill your parent's unmet emotional needs.

Torie Wiksell @toriewiksell.bsky.social · Feb 24

There’s nothing wrong with protecting your energy from people who drain it. Even if those people are your parents.

Torie Wiksell @toriewiksell.bsky.social · Feb 24

Your boundaries are for you, not for them.

Torie Wiksell @toriewiksell.bsky.social · Feb 23

Shifting the focus from "I need to make my parent understand me" to "I'm sad they don't try harder to get to know me" is huge.

Torie Wiksell @toriewiksell.bsky.social · Feb 23

Setting boundaries doesn’t make you a bad child. It's how you become a healthy adult.

Torie Wiksell @toriewiksell.bsky.social · Feb 21

Guilt isn't necessarily a sign that you've done something wrong.

Torie Wiksell @toriewiksell.bsky.social · Feb 21

Is it easy to stop people pleasing? No.

Is it possible? Yes.

Is it worth the effort? IMO absolutely, but that’s up for you to decide for yourself.

Torie Wiksell @toriewiksell.bsky.social · Feb 20

In case you need to hear this today…it’s not actually easier to make other people happy at your own expense. If it was, you wouldn’t be feeling so drained and stressed out.

Torie Wiksell @toriewiksell.bsky.social · Feb 19

Feeling drained every time you talk to your parent is worth pausing to think about

Torie Wiksell @toriewiksell.bsky.social · Feb 19

A parent’s love should never come with strings attached.

Torie Wiksell @toriewiksell.bsky.social · Feb 17

You don't owe your parent.

Torie Wiksell @toriewiksell.bsky.social · Feb 16

Going no-contact with your parents isn't a trend

Torie Wiksell @toriewiksell.bsky.social · Feb 15

You can learn to trust yourself, but you can't learn to trust yourself if you continue to ignore your own needs and emotions.

Torie Wiksell @toriewiksell.bsky.social · Feb 14

You're not supposed to have to earn your parent's love and approval.