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Avuma | Blogger | Author
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Personal development blogger
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Author of No Bullshit Guide to Self-love
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To be loved is to be understood. Love is at the root of understanding. That goes for your relationship with yourself as well.

That is why I have created this FREE journal prompt to truly get to know yourself.
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#selflove
How to Start Journaling (A Beginner’s Guide):

Learning how to start journaling can feel really intimidating. You probably have a lot of questions like: Why are we journaling? What are we even supposed to write? And how do we keep coming up with something to say every single day for the next 365…
How to Start Journaling (A Beginner’s Guide):
Learning how to start journaling can feel really intimidating. You probably have a lot of questions like: Why are we journaling? What are we even supposed to write? And how do we keep coming up with something to say every single day for the next 365 days? You know what? I get it. I used to have the exact same questions.
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January 19, 2026 at 7:24 AM
10 Self-Care Habits that Changed My Life:

Taking care of yourself is important, not just because you cannot pour from an empty cup, but because you are human and you deserve to be taken care of by you. Capitalism has co-opted the word self-care so that they can sell us face masks and bath bombs.…
10 Self-Care Habits that Changed My Life:
Taking care of yourself is important, not just because you cannot pour from an empty cup, but because you are human and you deserve to be taken care of by you. Capitalism has co-opted the word self-care so that they can sell us face masks and bath bombs. And they call that self-care, as if an hour soaking in hot water could restore our physical, emotional, and spiritual health.
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January 16, 2026 at 10:31 PM
The 5 Love Languages Explained: A Guide to Better Love and Connection

The 5 love languages is a framework created by Dr. Gary Chapman, categorizing the five different ways in which we feel most loved. This framework is based on the fact that everyone experiences love differently. Some want to be…
The 5 Love Languages Explained: A Guide to Better Love and Connection
The 5 love languages is a framework created by Dr. Gary Chapman, categorizing the five different ways in which we feel most loved. This framework is based on the fact that everyone experiences love differently. Some want to be constantly told that they're loved, while others value undivided attention from their partners. Although we need to be loved in every way, we will not feel loved if our partner doesn't give us our primary love language.
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January 14, 2026 at 6:11 AM
To be loved is to be understood. Love is at the root of understanding. That goes for your relationship with yourself as well.

That is why I have created this FREE journal prompt to truly get to know yourself.
flatela.gumroad.com/l/bkfmy
#selflove
January 11, 2026 at 11:51 PM
How to Build Unshakeable Confidence:

Imagine you are the world's greatest public speaker. You have spoken in front of hundreds of thousands of people at a time. People love coming out to hear you talk, and you love sharing your knowledge with them. On a random Tuesday, I hand you a mic and tell…
How to Build Unshakeable Confidence:
Imagine you are the world's greatest public speaker. You have spoken in front of hundreds of thousands of people at a time. People love coming out to hear you talk, and you love sharing your knowledge with them. On a random Tuesday, I hand you a mic and tell you that you are going to deliver a speech to a hundred people about a topic of your choosing.
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Solo Date Ideas That Actually Make You Love Being Alone:

Your relationship with yourself is the most important relationship in your life. And just like any relationship, it requires work to make it fulfilling and loving. One of the best things you can do to foster this is to take yourself on solo…
Solo Date Ideas That Actually Make You Love Being Alone:
Your relationship with yourself is the most important relationship in your life. And just like any relationship, it requires work to make it fulfilling and loving. One of the best things you can do to foster this is to take yourself on solo dates. Solo dates are a way to spend quality time with yourself, which will deepen the relationship with yourself.
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January 9, 2026 at 4:39 AM
Me trying to tell everyone that your relationship with yourself isn’t supposed to be affirmations and solo dates every day. It’s messy, complicated, and real; just like any long-term relationship.
January 3, 2026 at 5:13 PM
The Four Tendencies Explained: A Practical Guide To Better Motivation

Have you ever wondered why you cannot stick to a habit to save your life? Or, on the contrary, wondered why other people struggle to stick to their goals when you can stick to them with ease? Well, I have come to answer that…
The Four Tendencies Explained: A Practical Guide To Better Motivation
Have you ever wondered why you cannot stick to a habit to save your life? Or, on the contrary, wondered why other people struggle to stick to their goals when you can stick to them with ease? Well, I have come to answer that question with the Four Tendencies framework by Gretchen Rubin. In preparation for the new year, I decided to read the Four Tendencies.
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December 31, 2025 at 9:23 PM
10 Quotes For a More Successful 2026

Life doesn’t hand out success or happiness on a silver platter. Every choice you make, and every action you take, shapes the life you’ll live. The quotes and lessons in this piece aren’t just feel-good words to pin on your wall. They are reminders that your…
10 Quotes For a More Successful 2026
Life doesn’t hand out success or happiness on a silver platter. Every choice you make, and every action you take, shapes the life you’ll live. The quotes and lessons in this piece aren’t just feel-good words to pin on your wall. They are reminders that your future is created by what you do today and by the habits you build. If you’re ready to stop waiting for life to happen and start owning it, read on, baby.
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December 29, 2025 at 9:20 PM
16 Easy Ways to Glow Up in 2026

If your goal is to level up and become your best self in 2026, you have come to the right place. In this post, I will share 16 easy ways to glow up in 2026. These are not only to glow up physically but also to level up financially, emotionally, mentally, and…
16 Easy Ways to Glow Up in 2026
If your goal is to level up and become your best self in 2026, you have come to the right place. In this post, I will share 16 easy ways to glow up in 2026. These are not only to glow up physically but also to level up financially, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. 1. Drink Water Water is the solution to everything.
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December 26, 2025 at 10:00 PM
2025 Wrapped!!

The books I learned a lot from in 2025:
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20 Gift Ideas for the Booklovers in Your Life:

A book lover is a person who enjoys reading regularly. They feel emotionally attached to books, stories, characters, and authors. As a fellow reader myself, I might be writing this post as a gift reference for my family and friends. Don't judge me.…
20 Gift Ideas for the Booklovers in Your Life:
A book lover is a person who enjoys reading regularly. They feel emotionally attached to books, stories, characters, and authors. As a fellow reader myself, I might be writing this post as a gift reference for my family and friends. Don't judge me. Reading is not simply an activity that we do in our free time. It is a characteristic of our personality, an overall lifestyle.
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"If something is dirty after you touch it, the problem is your hands." - Sofia Isella
December 17, 2025 at 10:37 AM
10 Daily Habits to Fall in Love with Yourself:

Self-love has been marketed as bubble baths, morning affirmations, and pretending you’re unbothered when you very much are. However, the truth is that the daily habits to fall in love with yourself are rarely glamorous or Instagram-worthy. Falling in…
10 Daily Habits to Fall in Love with Yourself:
Self-love has been marketed as bubble baths, morning affirmations, and pretending you’re unbothered when you very much are. However, the truth is that the daily habits to fall in love with yourself are rarely glamorous or Instagram-worthy. Falling in love with yourself is quieter than that. It happens in the way you speak to yourself when no one is watching. In the habits you repeat on ordinary days.
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December 17, 2025 at 6:00 AM
Oh my goodness you guys!!!! I just received the physical copy of my book. It feels surreal holding it in my hands.
December 12, 2025 at 10:31 PM
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How to Create a Vision Board for Beginners:

Creating a vision board might feel intimidating, but it doesn’t have to be. A vision board is a simple, powerful tool that helps you visualize your goals, clarify what you truly want, and stay motivated as you work toward your dreams. Whether you’re…
How to Create a Vision Board for Beginners:
Creating a vision board might feel intimidating, but it doesn’t have to be. A vision board is a simple, powerful tool that helps you visualize your goals, clarify what you truly want, and stay motivated as you work toward your dreams. Whether you’re aiming for career growth, better health, or personal fulfillment, putting your intentions on a board can make them feel real and achievable.
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December 10, 2025 at 7:13 AM
2025 was horrible... But at least I looked good.
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How to Wake up at 5am (Even if you don’t feel like it):

Waking up early can feel impossible, especially when your bed is warm and your alarm is screaming at you. But learning how to wake up at 5am can completely transform your day, giving you hours of uninterrupted focus, energy, and productivity…
How to Wake up at 5am (Even if you don’t feel like it):
Waking up early can feel impossible, especially when your bed is warm and your alarm is screaming at you. But learning how to wake up at 5am can completely transform your day, giving you hours of uninterrupted focus, energy, and productivity before the world even wakes up. In this guide, I’ll share practical strategies and small habits that make it easier to rise early, even if you’re not naturally a morning person.
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December 8, 2025 at 5:08 AM