This year I also experienced the thing you wrote in May, about being your best self in a new setting and then meeting others who are their best selves, and how that can cause this explosive spark to form. Thank you for sharing it.

I once had a roundtable with a bunch of hypnokinksters where we unpacked these terms and what they meant to us. One ace-friendly definition was: A kink is an optional mix-in to the main event of a scene, while a fetish can *be* the main event, and needs nothing more to make a scene satisfying.

Little tiny round glasses, like Venjent.

✅

Do you not… wash your hands? Clean the surfaces of your home? Ensure adequate airflow in your indoor spaces?

And the people who *do* do these things have the train-wreck life?

Turning that corner and seeing the amusement park, plus that music kicking in, is what cemented NieR: Automata in my pantheon of One Of Those Games. It was such a magical moment.

😭🙏🏻

It's about a hundred thousand words. It's explicit, kinky, queer, and polyamourous. It's a love letter; who it's addressed to is a secret. It's one of the rawest things I've ever done, as well as the longest thing I've written by about 30k words.

I'm pretty sure I've read that. It's really good. I think about it a lot when the subject comes up.

IIRC, a thirty-five year old opted for MAID when it became apparent that no housing was available to accomodate her disabilities. Like. Fuck whoever that was. We 900% do.

I keep looking at stuff you've made and telling myself, "This is done digitally. It's all digital VFX in a big stack. This is not actually digitized handheld VHS footage of someone wandering the backrooms."

But it never quite gets to my heart. I can't make myself believe it. That's talent.

I'm still chewing over Georg Barkas' "The Year In Researching Intimacy", which changed a lot of how I looked at my own relationships and put into words things I was searching for ways to talk about for a while. hazlitt.net/feature/year...