Valid question, mom
@aldagrim.bsky.social
leftist | writer | New England | he/him
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December 11, 2025 at 6:45 AM
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"depression tension" is fucking poetry
December 11, 2025 at 12:25 AM
"depression tension" is fucking poetry
if I'd been one of the directors in that scenario, I would've requested a project postmortem, both to help them document their own performance and for me to learn & improve in my own projects
it's probably for that reason (and others) I'm not a director at that company lol
it's probably for that reason (and others) I'm not a director at that company lol
December 10, 2025 at 12:42 PM
if I'd been one of the directors in that scenario, I would've requested a project postmortem, both to help them document their own performance and for me to learn & improve in my own projects
it's probably for that reason (and others) I'm not a director at that company lol
it's probably for that reason (and others) I'm not a director at that company lol
still wouldn't have done anything differently. if nothing else, the consequences revealed it wasn't the dream job it was originally billed to be (and for a while actually was)
December 10, 2025 at 12:39 PM
still wouldn't have done anything differently. if nothing else, the consequences revealed it wasn't the dream job it was originally billed to be (and for a while actually was)
if I hadn't focused on that XFN project, half the deliverables wouldn't have shipped, the quality would've dropped dramatically, and everyone would've been significantly more stressed
as it was I lost sleep over it, and then lost even more after the subsequent performance review
as it was I lost sleep over it, and then lost even more after the subsequent performance review
December 10, 2025 at 12:38 PM
if I hadn't focused on that XFN project, half the deliverables wouldn't have shipped, the quality would've dropped dramatically, and everyone would've been significantly more stressed
as it was I lost sleep over it, and then lost even more after the subsequent performance review
as it was I lost sleep over it, and then lost even more after the subsequent performance review
ostensibly it's because I focused on that XFN project instead of a smaller project with a lower ROI (which, even if it were true, lol)
more likely it's that I accidentally made directors look bad by comparison and was punished for it
more likely it's that I accidentally made directors look bad by comparison and was punished for it
December 10, 2025 at 12:37 PM
ostensibly it's because I focused on that XFN project instead of a smaller project with a lower ROI (which, even if it were true, lol)
more likely it's that I accidentally made directors look bad by comparison and was punished for it
more likely it's that I accidentally made directors look bad by comparison and was punished for it
in my last technical writing job (mid-level IC), I led a cross-functional project that quantitatively and qualitatively beat the brakes off what most directors did
in the next performance review, I was rated as "below expectations" and was unable to shed that label until I left a couple years later
in the next performance review, I was rated as "below expectations" and was unable to shed that label until I left a couple years later
December 10, 2025 at 12:36 PM
in my last technical writing job (mid-level IC), I led a cross-functional project that quantitatively and qualitatively beat the brakes off what most directors did
in the next performance review, I was rated as "below expectations" and was unable to shed that label until I left a couple years later
in the next performance review, I was rated as "below expectations" and was unable to shed that label until I left a couple years later
his stuff here aligns with my own. sometimes, the fight is the point
December 10, 2025 at 5:50 AM
his stuff here aligns with my own. sometimes, the fight is the point
"Why do they call you 'Big Evil'?"
"Because my evil's real big."
Wow. That's clever. Next time, use your crayons for coloring, not for eating
"Because my evil's real big."
Wow. That's clever. Next time, use your crayons for coloring, not for eating
December 9, 2025 at 11:18 PM
"Why do they call you 'Big Evil'?"
"Because my evil's real big."
Wow. That's clever. Next time, use your crayons for coloring, not for eating
"Because my evil's real big."
Wow. That's clever. Next time, use your crayons for coloring, not for eating
SERIOUSLY
butter dishes exist!
butter dishes exist!
December 9, 2025 at 7:50 PM
SERIOUSLY
butter dishes exist!
butter dishes exist!
in summation, SAN DIMAS HIGH SCHOOL FOOTBALL RULES
(but seriously: there's no better advice for life than to be excellent to each other)
(but seriously: there's no better advice for life than to be excellent to each other)
December 9, 2025 at 8:07 AM
in summation, SAN DIMAS HIGH SCHOOL FOOTBALL RULES
(but seriously: there's no better advice for life than to be excellent to each other)
(but seriously: there's no better advice for life than to be excellent to each other)
and you'll almost certainly be a better ally and activist by having things to fight for, to strive for, and to live for, rather than only things to fight against
the cause is a marathon. the finish line isn't the enemy vanquished; it's love and peace
the cause is a marathon. the finish line isn't the enemy vanquished; it's love and peace
December 9, 2025 at 8:07 AM
and you'll almost certainly be a better ally and activist by having things to fight for, to strive for, and to live for, rather than only things to fight against
the cause is a marathon. the finish line isn't the enemy vanquished; it's love and peace
the cause is a marathon. the finish line isn't the enemy vanquished; it's love and peace
if you're reading this and feel targeted, I ask only this: count the happy things that bring you joy. if you can't find any, I promise you your life will improve by finding them
the cause will continue. it's okay to tag out. others will fight in your place. you'll be welcomed back when you're ready
the cause will continue. it's okay to tag out. others will fight in your place. you'll be welcomed back when you're ready
December 9, 2025 at 8:02 AM
if you're reading this and feel targeted, I ask only this: count the happy things that bring you joy. if you can't find any, I promise you your life will improve by finding them
the cause will continue. it's okay to tag out. others will fight in your place. you'll be welcomed back when you're ready
the cause will continue. it's okay to tag out. others will fight in your place. you'll be welcomed back when you're ready
otherwise, what's the point? if we win, if such a condition can be defined, how does one let go of a lifestyle of vicarious rage?
December 9, 2025 at 8:02 AM
otherwise, what's the point? if we win, if such a condition can be defined, how does one let go of a lifestyle of vicarious rage?
I do think it's bad for allies to live for only the fight, even if it's for a worthy cause. we need moments of peace. we need sources of joy. we need friends we can be stupid around
December 9, 2025 at 8:01 AM
I do think it's bad for allies to live for only the fight, even if it's for a worthy cause. we need moments of peace. we need sources of joy. we need friends we can be stupid around
I'm not going to police the actions of someone who speaks or acts out against injustice when they're directly targeted. pearl-clutching is the reaction of the cowardly moderate, the acquiescing pragmatist, the fool who doesn't understand or appreciate the paradox of intolerance
December 9, 2025 at 8:00 AM
I'm not going to police the actions of someone who speaks or acts out against injustice when they're directly targeted. pearl-clutching is the reaction of the cowardly moderate, the acquiescing pragmatist, the fool who doesn't understand or appreciate the paradox of intolerance
I do remember circling back to two things:
1) women's suffragettes insisted on bread *and* roses. why? beauty's just as necessary as food
2) in the middle of activism, protests, and dodging racist firestorms, MLK Jr played billiards with local dudes in an old haunt of his. dude was a pool shark
1) women's suffragettes insisted on bread *and* roses. why? beauty's just as necessary as food
2) in the middle of activism, protests, and dodging racist firestorms, MLK Jr played billiards with local dudes in an old haunt of his. dude was a pool shark
December 9, 2025 at 8:00 AM
I do remember circling back to two things:
1) women's suffragettes insisted on bread *and* roses. why? beauty's just as necessary as food
2) in the middle of activism, protests, and dodging racist firestorms, MLK Jr played billiards with local dudes in an old haunt of his. dude was a pool shark
1) women's suffragettes insisted on bread *and* roses. why? beauty's just as necessary as food
2) in the middle of activism, protests, and dodging racist firestorms, MLK Jr played billiards with local dudes in an old haunt of his. dude was a pool shark
I learned this the hard way. in late 2018, I finally broke under the onslaught of bad news. the anger I'd been carrying mutated into despair. nothing was fun or funny or interesting anymore
how I got through it is still a mystery to me; there's a good month or two in there that's largely a blur
how I got through it is still a mystery to me; there's a good month or two in there that's largely a blur
December 9, 2025 at 7:59 AM
I learned this the hard way. in late 2018, I finally broke under the onslaught of bad news. the anger I'd been carrying mutated into despair. nothing was fun or funny or interesting anymore
how I got through it is still a mystery to me; there's a good month or two in there that's largely a blur
how I got through it is still a mystery to me; there's a good month or two in there that's largely a blur
when someone's angry all the time but has no love, one of two things happen:
1) the person burns out. they crash, they decline, and they might not get back up
2) the person hollows out. they become nothing more than a vehicle for rage
1) the person burns out. they crash, they decline, and they might not get back up
2) the person hollows out. they become nothing more than a vehicle for rage
December 9, 2025 at 7:58 AM
when someone's angry all the time but has no love, one of two things happen:
1) the person burns out. they crash, they decline, and they might not get back up
2) the person hollows out. they become nothing more than a vehicle for rage
1) the person burns out. they crash, they decline, and they might not get back up
2) the person hollows out. they become nothing more than a vehicle for rage
now, anger can be a good thing. it can motivate, it can energize, it can shield. but it cannot be sustained indefinitely, and it cannot sustain. in other words, it consumes but does not nourish
December 9, 2025 at 7:58 AM
now, anger can be a good thing. it can motivate, it can energize, it can shield. but it cannot be sustained indefinitely, and it cannot sustain. in other words, it consumes but does not nourish
one part I dislike - and I want to be plain in that I don't consider this an equivalence; it's but one fractional part of a much larger whole - is the constant anger that's in some of the folks who aren't marginalized
December 9, 2025 at 7:57 AM
one part I dislike - and I want to be plain in that I don't consider this an equivalence; it's but one fractional part of a much larger whole - is the constant anger that's in some of the folks who aren't marginalized
warming up before the real workout
December 9, 2025 at 3:24 AM
warming up before the real workout