Alyssa Visscher (she/they)
@alyssavisscher.bsky.social
Passionate about D&D, TTRPGs, embracing messy middles, faith, and the power of story.
Impressively terrible at small talk.
🏳️🌈 AuDHD ♿ Parent of 4 🇨🇦
Freelance writer.
alyssavisscher.com/about-me/
Impressively terrible at small talk.
🏳️🌈 AuDHD ♿ Parent of 4 🇨🇦
Freelance writer.
alyssavisscher.com/about-me/
We'll wax poetically about beauty standards for women and the way it harms us and how we're concerned for young girls, and do what we can to divest of those systems... And then turn around and really happily participate in the same fatphobic culture reframed for men and packages as healthy fitness.
November 29, 2025 at 10:36 PM
We'll wax poetically about beauty standards for women and the way it harms us and how we're concerned for young girls, and do what we can to divest of those systems... And then turn around and really happily participate in the same fatphobic culture reframed for men and packages as healthy fitness.
(This was only going to be two post but 🤷)
It's not that there are no conversation about male beauty standards. They are happening. But so many of the conversations women (and folks perceived as women) are having about the return of the 90s/00s ED culture completely cuts out men.
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It's not that there are no conversation about male beauty standards. They are happening. But so many of the conversations women (and folks perceived as women) are having about the return of the 90s/00s ED culture completely cuts out men.
3/2
November 29, 2025 at 10:33 PM
(This was only going to be two post but 🤷)
It's not that there are no conversation about male beauty standards. They are happening. But so many of the conversations women (and folks perceived as women) are having about the return of the 90s/00s ED culture completely cuts out men.
3/2
It's not that there are no conversation about male beauty standards. They are happening. But so many of the conversations women (and folks perceived as women) are having about the return of the 90s/00s ED culture completely cuts out men.
3/2
There's a lot of us older folks rightfully talking about the misuse of ozempic etc and its fueling of the return of harmful beauty standards for women.
But a lot less of a discussion of how the gym culture and overly-muscled male bodies in media depictions, and how dangerous that is.
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But a lot less of a discussion of how the gym culture and overly-muscled male bodies in media depictions, and how dangerous that is.
2/2
November 29, 2025 at 10:30 PM
There's a lot of us older folks rightfully talking about the misuse of ozempic etc and its fueling of the return of harmful beauty standards for women.
But a lot less of a discussion of how the gym culture and overly-muscled male bodies in media depictions, and how dangerous that is.
2/2
But a lot less of a discussion of how the gym culture and overly-muscled male bodies in media depictions, and how dangerous that is.
2/2
Dammit I meant JEGGINGS. I want those bitches back.
November 22, 2025 at 5:02 AM
Dammit I meant JEGGINGS. I want those bitches back.
This sounds spectacular and I literally cannot wait to buy it 👀
November 20, 2025 at 12:39 AM
This sounds spectacular and I literally cannot wait to buy it 👀
Like, I'd be willing to lay a bet that when folks who learned to read this way are watching or listening to a different media, they're unconsciously using and adapting the same cues, which amounts to skipping something they don't understand or basically just guessing at its meaning.
November 11, 2025 at 9:06 PM
Like, I'd be willing to lay a bet that when folks who learned to read this way are watching or listening to a different media, they're unconsciously using and adapting the same cues, which amounts to skipping something they don't understand or basically just guessing at its meaning.
So if you want to see a more recent and intentional approach, read the Glimmer Falls series (currently three books, more romantic comedy genre).
To see how this approach evolved, Hazel Mack's Ever After (similar genre, lower quality writing) and the aforementioned erotica literature.
To see how this approach evolved, Hazel Mack's Ever After (similar genre, lower quality writing) and the aforementioned erotica literature.
November 3, 2025 at 10:45 PM
So if you want to see a more recent and intentional approach, read the Glimmer Falls series (currently three books, more romantic comedy genre).
To see how this approach evolved, Hazel Mack's Ever After (similar genre, lower quality writing) and the aforementioned erotica literature.
To see how this approach evolved, Hazel Mack's Ever After (similar genre, lower quality writing) and the aforementioned erotica literature.
There are more in my reading journal, but those are what come to mind first—Hawley's, because it's very clear (to me anyway) from the beginning that she's approaching this from a "paranormals as disability/Crip metaphor", and the others because they're really popular and often rec'd in the genre.
November 3, 2025 at 10:41 PM
There are more in my reading journal, but those are what come to mind first—Hawley's, because it's very clear (to me anyway) from the beginning that she's approaching this from a "paranormals as disability/Crip metaphor", and the others because they're really popular and often rec'd in the genre.
There's also the Cambric Creek series by CM Nascota—which starts off with the infamous Morning Glory Milking Farm—and is definitely erotica, not just romance. Similarly Kathryn Moon's Monster Smash Agency series, and Lillian Lark. All erotica that laid foundations for a "new" crip paranormal model.
November 3, 2025 at 10:38 PM
There's also the Cambric Creek series by CM Nascota—which starts off with the infamous Morning Glory Milking Farm—and is definitely erotica, not just romance. Similarly Kathryn Moon's Monster Smash Agency series, and Lillian Lark. All erotica that laid foundations for a "new" crip paranormal model.