Anna IFS
@anna-milaeva-ifs.bsky.social
🌱 Transformational IFS Coach | 🌟 Co-founder of FINO: Incubator for Self-leadership | 🌎 Bridging Inner Work & Practical Execution | 🌀 Exploring humanity, healing, and transformation one insight at a time. Let's connect!
In my previous article, I explored how toxic leadership manifests in spiritual communities. Today I want to talk about something that's become so widespread but rarely discussed: what happens when these dynamics play out in psychedelic and ceremony spaces... annamilaeva.substack.com/p/when-sacre...
When Sacred Becomes Unsafe
Toxic leadership in psychedelic and ceremony communities
annamilaeva.substack.com
August 30, 2025 at 5:54 PM
In my previous article, I explored how toxic leadership manifests in spiritual communities. Today I want to talk about something that's become so widespread but rarely discussed: what happens when these dynamics play out in psychedelic and ceremony spaces... annamilaeva.substack.com/p/when-sacre...
I just closed a series on money over on my Substack. Just a quiet exploration of what happens inside us when money enters the room.
Not financial advice
Not strategy
Just the slow, honest work of asking: What parts of me are involved in my money decisions?
annamilaeva.substack.com/p/making-pea...
Not financial advice
Not strategy
Just the slow, honest work of asking: What parts of me are involved in my money decisions?
annamilaeva.substack.com/p/making-pea...
Making peace with MONEY
What We've Learned About Money and Ourselves in This Substack Series
annamilaeva.substack.com
June 27, 2025 at 12:41 PM
I just closed a series on money over on my Substack. Just a quiet exploration of what happens inside us when money enters the room.
Not financial advice
Not strategy
Just the slow, honest work of asking: What parts of me are involved in my money decisions?
annamilaeva.substack.com/p/making-pea...
Not financial advice
Not strategy
Just the slow, honest work of asking: What parts of me are involved in my money decisions?
annamilaeva.substack.com/p/making-pea...
Ever felt the heaviness of working for a paycheck while your soul craves something deeper?
My latest Substack article explores how we can honor both sides of this split, moving beyond all-or-nothing thinking toward meaningful, sustainable choices.
annamilaeva.substack.com/p/the-monday...
#ifs
My latest Substack article explores how we can honor both sides of this split, moving beyond all-or-nothing thinking toward meaningful, sustainable choices.
annamilaeva.substack.com/p/the-monday...
#ifs
June 25, 2025 at 1:50 PM
Ever felt the heaviness of working for a paycheck while your soul craves something deeper?
My latest Substack article explores how we can honor both sides of this split, moving beyond all-or-nothing thinking toward meaningful, sustainable choices.
annamilaeva.substack.com/p/the-monday...
#ifs
My latest Substack article explores how we can honor both sides of this split, moving beyond all-or-nothing thinking toward meaningful, sustainable choices.
annamilaeva.substack.com/p/the-monday...
#ifs
Maybe the future we're all trying to build needs leaders who are whole, not just “successful”.
Maybe the world needs entrepreneurs who can feel deeply AND think clearly.
Maybe vulnerability isn't weakness. Maybe it's the source of real strength.
finoexperiences.substack.com/p/nobody-eve...
Maybe the world needs entrepreneurs who can feel deeply AND think clearly.
Maybe vulnerability isn't weakness. Maybe it's the source of real strength.
finoexperiences.substack.com/p/nobody-eve...
Nobody Ever Asks How You Really Feel
A letter to young entrepreneurs building the future
finoexperiences.substack.com
June 24, 2025 at 3:03 PM
Maybe the future we're all trying to build needs leaders who are whole, not just “successful”.
Maybe the world needs entrepreneurs who can feel deeply AND think clearly.
Maybe vulnerability isn't weakness. Maybe it's the source of real strength.
finoexperiences.substack.com/p/nobody-eve...
Maybe the world needs entrepreneurs who can feel deeply AND think clearly.
Maybe vulnerability isn't weakness. Maybe it's the source of real strength.
finoexperiences.substack.com/p/nobody-eve...
What if joy isn't just the destination of our healing journey but also a companion along the way?
annamilaeva.substack.com/p/joy-in-the...
#joy #ifs #ifscoaching #transformation
annamilaeva.substack.com/p/joy-in-the...
#joy #ifs #ifscoaching #transformation
Joy in the Depths: Finding Lightness in Transformation
Why healing doesn't have to be heavy all the time
annamilaeva.substack.com
April 4, 2025 at 1:42 PM
What if joy isn't just the destination of our healing journey but also a companion along the way?
annamilaeva.substack.com/p/joy-in-the...
#joy #ifs #ifscoaching #transformation
annamilaeva.substack.com/p/joy-in-the...
#joy #ifs #ifscoaching #transformation
Delighted to share my recent conversation with Dr. Michelle McQuaid (MAPP) on The Good Girl Game Changers podcast🎙️
We dove deep into how Internal Family Systems (IFS) can transform the way we handle disagreements and uncomfortable conversations.
Here's link! open.spotify.com/episode/35Tp...
We dove deep into how Internal Family Systems (IFS) can transform the way we handle disagreements and uncomfortable conversations.
Here's link! open.spotify.com/episode/35Tp...
Anna Milaeva: How Do You Deal With Disagreements?
The Good Girl Game Changers · Episode
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April 2, 2025 at 12:53 PM
Delighted to share my recent conversation with Dr. Michelle McQuaid (MAPP) on The Good Girl Game Changers podcast🎙️
We dove deep into how Internal Family Systems (IFS) can transform the way we handle disagreements and uncomfortable conversations.
Here's link! open.spotify.com/episode/35Tp...
We dove deep into how Internal Family Systems (IFS) can transform the way we handle disagreements and uncomfortable conversations.
Here's link! open.spotify.com/episode/35Tp...
What if Self-leadership isn’t just personal… but also cultural?
When I first encountered Internal Family Systems (IFS), something clicked.
It gave language to what I had already sensed through spiritual practices across cultures:
annamilaeva.substack.com/p/the-univer...
When I first encountered Internal Family Systems (IFS), something clicked.
It gave language to what I had already sensed through spiritual practices across cultures:
annamilaeva.substack.com/p/the-univer...
April 2, 2025 at 12:50 PM
What if Self-leadership isn’t just personal… but also cultural?
When I first encountered Internal Family Systems (IFS), something clicked.
It gave language to what I had already sensed through spiritual practices across cultures:
annamilaeva.substack.com/p/the-univer...
When I first encountered Internal Family Systems (IFS), something clicked.
It gave language to what I had already sensed through spiritual practices across cultures:
annamilaeva.substack.com/p/the-univer...
The word "integration" seems to be everywhere these days.
It's become the central focus in transformational circles – a kind of magic word that carries the promise of making our insights "stick." But what're we talking about when we talk about integration?
annamilaeva.substack.com/p/integratio...
It's become the central focus in transformational circles – a kind of magic word that carries the promise of making our insights "stick." But what're we talking about when we talk about integration?
annamilaeva.substack.com/p/integratio...
March 26, 2025 at 1:02 PM
The word "integration" seems to be everywhere these days.
It's become the central focus in transformational circles – a kind of magic word that carries the promise of making our insights "stick." But what're we talking about when we talk about integration?
annamilaeva.substack.com/p/integratio...
It's become the central focus in transformational circles – a kind of magic word that carries the promise of making our insights "stick." But what're we talking about when we talk about integration?
annamilaeva.substack.com/p/integratio...
"Beware of envy," my mentor once told me. "It's the only sin that gives no pleasure to the one who commits it."
Of all human emotions, envy might be the one we least want to admit. But what if, beneath the discomfort, envy carries valuable wisdom? annamilaeva.substack.com/p/the-shadow... #ifs
Of all human emotions, envy might be the one we least want to admit. But what if, beneath the discomfort, envy carries valuable wisdom? annamilaeva.substack.com/p/the-shadow... #ifs
March 21, 2025 at 4:56 PM
"Beware of envy," my mentor once told me. "It's the only sin that gives no pleasure to the one who commits it."
Of all human emotions, envy might be the one we least want to admit. But what if, beneath the discomfort, envy carries valuable wisdom? annamilaeva.substack.com/p/the-shadow... #ifs
Of all human emotions, envy might be the one we least want to admit. But what if, beneath the discomfort, envy carries valuable wisdom? annamilaeva.substack.com/p/the-shadow... #ifs
We're taught from an early age to measure our progress against others:
Who got the highest grade? Who finished first? Who has the most followers, the biggest platform, the most impressive title?
But what if we're measuring the wrong thing? annamilaeva.substack.com/p/the-compar...
Who got the highest grade? Who finished first? Who has the most followers, the biggest platform, the most impressive title?
But what if we're measuring the wrong thing? annamilaeva.substack.com/p/the-compar...
The Comparison Trap: Honoring Your Own Path
Why measuring your journey against others robs you of your greatest victories
annamilaeva.substack.com
March 19, 2025 at 4:58 PM
We're taught from an early age to measure our progress against others:
Who got the highest grade? Who finished first? Who has the most followers, the biggest platform, the most impressive title?
But what if we're measuring the wrong thing? annamilaeva.substack.com/p/the-compar...
Who got the highest grade? Who finished first? Who has the most followers, the biggest platform, the most impressive title?
But what if we're measuring the wrong thing? annamilaeva.substack.com/p/the-compar...
The Leadership Revolution Starts Within.
What if the most powerful shift in leadership isn't about what we DO, but where leadership COMES FROM? finoexperiences.substack.com/p/the-self-l... #selfledleadership #selfleadership #transformation #ifs
What if the most powerful shift in leadership isn't about what we DO, but where leadership COMES FROM? finoexperiences.substack.com/p/the-self-l... #selfledleadership #selfleadership #transformation #ifs
March 10, 2025 at 1:19 PM
The Leadership Revolution Starts Within.
What if the most powerful shift in leadership isn't about what we DO, but where leadership COMES FROM? finoexperiences.substack.com/p/the-self-l... #selfledleadership #selfleadership #transformation #ifs
What if the most powerful shift in leadership isn't about what we DO, but where leadership COMES FROM? finoexperiences.substack.com/p/the-self-l... #selfledleadership #selfleadership #transformation #ifs
Humility isn’t what we often think it is.
It’s not self-deprecation.
It’s not staying small or silent.
It’s not pretending we don’t know anything when we do.
Humility is the courage to let the truth in. annamilaeva.substack.com/p/humility-t... #selfleadership
It’s not self-deprecation.
It’s not staying small or silent.
It’s not pretending we don’t know anything when we do.
Humility is the courage to let the truth in. annamilaeva.substack.com/p/humility-t... #selfleadership
Humility: The Strength to Listen, Learn, and Transform
True humility isn’t about shrinking or pretending to be small - it’s about being open enough to grow.
annamilaeva.substack.com
March 7, 2025 at 8:13 PM
Humility isn’t what we often think it is.
It’s not self-deprecation.
It’s not staying small or silent.
It’s not pretending we don’t know anything when we do.
Humility is the courage to let the truth in. annamilaeva.substack.com/p/humility-t... #selfleadership
It’s not self-deprecation.
It’s not staying small or silent.
It’s not pretending we don’t know anything when we do.
Humility is the courage to let the truth in. annamilaeva.substack.com/p/humility-t... #selfleadership
The U-Turn That Changes Everything: A Simple Practice for Unblending (what????)
What Is Unblending?
Unblending is the art of stepping back from an emotion, thought, or reaction and seeing it as just one part of you - not all of you.
annamilaeva.substack.com/p/the-u-turn... #selfleadership
What Is Unblending?
Unblending is the art of stepping back from an emotion, thought, or reaction and seeing it as just one part of you - not all of you.
annamilaeva.substack.com/p/the-u-turn... #selfleadership
March 5, 2025 at 4:08 PM
The U-Turn That Changes Everything: A Simple Practice for Unblending (what????)
What Is Unblending?
Unblending is the art of stepping back from an emotion, thought, or reaction and seeing it as just one part of you - not all of you.
annamilaeva.substack.com/p/the-u-turn... #selfleadership
What Is Unblending?
Unblending is the art of stepping back from an emotion, thought, or reaction and seeing it as just one part of you - not all of you.
annamilaeva.substack.com/p/the-u-turn... #selfleadership
The ultimate competitive advantage? Knowing who you are.
Most leaders think their inner critic is the enemy. But what if it’s just using outdated strategies to protect you?
finoexperiences.substack.com/p/from-inner...
Most leaders think their inner critic is the enemy. But what if it’s just using outdated strategies to protect you?
finoexperiences.substack.com/p/from-inner...
From Inner Critic to Inner Champion
How to Transform Self-Doubt Into a Powerful Force for Growth
finoexperiences.substack.com
March 3, 2025 at 12:33 PM
The ultimate competitive advantage? Knowing who you are.
Most leaders think their inner critic is the enemy. But what if it’s just using outdated strategies to protect you?
finoexperiences.substack.com/p/from-inner...
Most leaders think their inner critic is the enemy. But what if it’s just using outdated strategies to protect you?
finoexperiences.substack.com/p/from-inner...
There's a fire inside you.
Not the kind that burns wildly, destroying everything in its path. Not the kind that flickers weakly, barely surviving the wind.
A steady, living fire - something ancient, something whole, something unshakable.
This fire is you. annamilaeva.substack.com/p/the-fire-w...
Not the kind that burns wildly, destroying everything in its path. Not the kind that flickers weakly, barely surviving the wind.
A steady, living fire - something ancient, something whole, something unshakable.
This fire is you. annamilaeva.substack.com/p/the-fire-w...
February 28, 2025 at 2:50 PM
There's a fire inside you.
Not the kind that burns wildly, destroying everything in its path. Not the kind that flickers weakly, barely surviving the wind.
A steady, living fire - something ancient, something whole, something unshakable.
This fire is you. annamilaeva.substack.com/p/the-fire-w...
Not the kind that burns wildly, destroying everything in its path. Not the kind that flickers weakly, barely surviving the wind.
A steady, living fire - something ancient, something whole, something unshakable.
This fire is you. annamilaeva.substack.com/p/the-fire-w...
Respect is an act of seeing. It’s not just about politeness or avoiding conflict. It’s about truly witnessing another - whether it’s a person, an idea, a tradition, or even ourselves - with awareness and integrity. Did we forget what respect is as a system??? annamilaeva.substack.com/p/respect-th...
Respect: The Lost Art of Truly Seeing One Another
Beyond politeness and power struggles - what respect really means, why it’s missing, and how we can bring it back to the core of our relationships and communities.
annamilaeva.substack.com
February 26, 2025 at 4:43 PM
Respect is an act of seeing. It’s not just about politeness or avoiding conflict. It’s about truly witnessing another - whether it’s a person, an idea, a tradition, or even ourselves - with awareness and integrity. Did we forget what respect is as a system??? annamilaeva.substack.com/p/respect-th...
ou did it. The thing you worked for, the thing you sacrificed for - it’s finally here. Your dream job. Your business taking off.
You should feel excited, fulfilled, successful. Right?
Instead? You’re overwhelmed.
What’s going on? finoexperiences.substack.com/p/i-got-my-d...
You should feel excited, fulfilled, successful. Right?
Instead? You’re overwhelmed.
What’s going on? finoexperiences.substack.com/p/i-got-my-d...
I Got My Dream Job… So Why Am I So Stressed?
The Hidden Weight of Success and How to Navigate It
finoexperiences.substack.com
February 24, 2025 at 8:16 PM
ou did it. The thing you worked for, the thing you sacrificed for - it’s finally here. Your dream job. Your business taking off.
You should feel excited, fulfilled, successful. Right?
Instead? You’re overwhelmed.
What’s going on? finoexperiences.substack.com/p/i-got-my-d...
You should feel excited, fulfilled, successful. Right?
Instead? You’re overwhelmed.
What’s going on? finoexperiences.substack.com/p/i-got-my-d...
IFS is like having new glasses. It shifts our perspective, creating space for clarity, choice, and Self-leadership. We can finally see what’s happening inside and recognize that our emotions & thoughts aren’t all of us - they belong to different parts of us.. annamilaeva.substack.com/p/seeing-you...
Seeing Yourself Clearly: The Freedom of a New Lens
How Internal Family Systems (IFS) shifts our perspective, creating space for clarity, choice, and Self-leadership.
annamilaeva.substack.com
February 22, 2025 at 4:39 PM
IFS is like having new glasses. It shifts our perspective, creating space for clarity, choice, and Self-leadership. We can finally see what’s happening inside and recognize that our emotions & thoughts aren’t all of us - they belong to different parts of us.. annamilaeva.substack.com/p/seeing-you...
This is a Crisis of Spirit.
We talk about the mental health crisis as if it exists in a vacuum, and about environmental collapse, addiction, disconnection, and burnout as separate. But there’s a unifying thread that runs through them all: a crisis of spirit. annamilaeva.substack.com/p/practical-...
We talk about the mental health crisis as if it exists in a vacuum, and about environmental collapse, addiction, disconnection, and burnout as separate. But there’s a unifying thread that runs through them all: a crisis of spirit. annamilaeva.substack.com/p/practical-...
Practical Spirituality: A Path Through the Crisis of Our Times
Reconnecting to the Heart of Who We Are in a World Overwhelmed by Disconnection
annamilaeva.substack.com
February 18, 2025 at 4:48 PM
This is a Crisis of Spirit.
We talk about the mental health crisis as if it exists in a vacuum, and about environmental collapse, addiction, disconnection, and burnout as separate. But there’s a unifying thread that runs through them all: a crisis of spirit. annamilaeva.substack.com/p/practical-...
We talk about the mental health crisis as if it exists in a vacuum, and about environmental collapse, addiction, disconnection, and burnout as separate. But there’s a unifying thread that runs through them all: a crisis of spirit. annamilaeva.substack.com/p/practical-...
Community First: Why AI Tools Can’t Solve the Mental Health Crisis - In a world captivated by tech solutions, the answer to disconnection isn’t another app - it’s reclaiming human connection. annamilaeva.substack.com/p/community-... #community #selfleadership #ifs #future
Community First: Why AI Tools Can’t Solve the Mental Health Crisis
In a world captivated by tech solutions, the answer to disconnection isn’t another app - it’s reclaiming human connection.
annamilaeva.substack.com
February 15, 2025 at 12:17 AM
Community First: Why AI Tools Can’t Solve the Mental Health Crisis - In a world captivated by tech solutions, the answer to disconnection isn’t another app - it’s reclaiming human connection. annamilaeva.substack.com/p/community-... #community #selfleadership #ifs #future
Anger isn’t the problem. Ignoring it is. We all feel it.
The question isn’t “How do I stop being angry?”
The question is “How do I work with my anger instead of against it?”
Here’s a simple 5-minute practice to start right now:
annamilaeva.substack.com/p/sacred-ang...
#selfleadership #anger
The question isn’t “How do I stop being angry?”
The question is “How do I work with my anger instead of against it?”
Here’s a simple 5-minute practice to start right now:
annamilaeva.substack.com/p/sacred-ang...
#selfleadership #anger
Sacred Anger Practice: Turning Fire into Fuel for Transformation
Learn how to listen to your anger, embrace its wisdom, and channel it into meaningful growth and aligned action
annamilaeva.substack.com
January 31, 2025 at 3:23 PM
Anger isn’t the problem. Ignoring it is. We all feel it.
The question isn’t “How do I stop being angry?”
The question is “How do I work with my anger instead of against it?”
Here’s a simple 5-minute practice to start right now:
annamilaeva.substack.com/p/sacred-ang...
#selfleadership #anger
The question isn’t “How do I stop being angry?”
The question is “How do I work with my anger instead of against it?”
Here’s a simple 5-minute practice to start right now:
annamilaeva.substack.com/p/sacred-ang...
#selfleadership #anger
🔥 2️⃣ Anger is a boundary alarm. It shows up when something feels violated, ignored, or unjust. But instead of silencing it, we need to ask: What boundary has been crossed? What needs to be protected? Where is this energy asking me to take action? #SelfAwareness #AngerAsWisdom
January 29, 2025 at 3:16 PM
🔥 2️⃣ Anger is a boundary alarm. It shows up when something feels violated, ignored, or unjust. But instead of silencing it, we need to ask: What boundary has been crossed? What needs to be protected? Where is this energy asking me to take action? #SelfAwareness #AngerAsWisdom
🔥 1️⃣ Anger isn’t the enemy. We’ve been taught to fear it, suppress it, or let it explode - but what if anger was sacred? A signal? A protector? Instead of pushing it away, what if we listened? What is your anger trying to tell you? annamilaeva.substack.com/p/sacred-ang... #SacredAnger #InnerWork #ifs
Sacred Anger: Reclaiming a Force for Change
What is your anger trying to tell you?
annamilaeva.substack.com
January 29, 2025 at 3:15 PM
🔥 1️⃣ Anger isn’t the enemy. We’ve been taught to fear it, suppress it, or let it explode - but what if anger was sacred? A signal? A protector? Instead of pushing it away, what if we listened? What is your anger trying to tell you? annamilaeva.substack.com/p/sacred-ang... #SacredAnger #InnerWork #ifs
Micromanagement kills morale, creativity, and engagement. It’s not about the team - it’s about the leader’s fear.
But it’s fixable. With tools like IFS, leaders can move from fear.
👉 Read more in my last article: finoexperiences.substack.com/p/the-soul-c...
#Leadership #SelfLeadership #Workplace
But it’s fixable. With tools like IFS, leaders can move from fear.
👉 Read more in my last article: finoexperiences.substack.com/p/the-soul-c...
#Leadership #SelfLeadership #Workplace
The Soul-Crushing Reality of Micromanagement
Why More Control Doesn’t Equal Productivity—and How to Address It
finoexperiences.substack.com
January 27, 2025 at 12:33 PM
Micromanagement kills morale, creativity, and engagement. It’s not about the team - it’s about the leader’s fear.
But it’s fixable. With tools like IFS, leaders can move from fear.
👉 Read more in my last article: finoexperiences.substack.com/p/the-soul-c...
#Leadership #SelfLeadership #Workplace
But it’s fixable. With tools like IFS, leaders can move from fear.
👉 Read more in my last article: finoexperiences.substack.com/p/the-soul-c...
#Leadership #SelfLeadership #Workplace
I woke up thinking about fear - how it feels, how it teaches, and how it fuels us when we embrace it. Fear isn’t the enemy; it’s the beginning of transformation. 🌱 What’s your fear trying to show you today? Let’s explore together. #SelfLeadership #Transformation
January 26, 2025 at 3:58 PM
I woke up thinking about fear - how it feels, how it teaches, and how it fuels us when we embrace it. Fear isn’t the enemy; it’s the beginning of transformation. 🌱 What’s your fear trying to show you today? Let’s explore together. #SelfLeadership #Transformation