而且这些技能需要我们有意识地、持续地去发展和培养。

后来读《关键对话》这本书，我第一次接触到“对话”这个概念。原来对话不止是简单的信息交换，而是两人一起创造一个共同的意义空间，通过共同的理解实现共同的目的(目标)。

我观察到现在很多职场人依然把沟通理解为“说话得体”，而不是一种需要刻意发展的一整套能力。说实话，我觉得沟通可能是我们能学到的最重要的技能。

大家应该都遇到过误解和沟通不畅。有时候后果很严重——冲突、信任破裂...

在你心里，沟通和对话意味着什么？

What do you think? How do you understand communication — and dialogue? How do you educate yourself on communication skills?

老实讲，刚开始，我以为沟通就是“说话”或者“聊天”。

只要能把自己的想法表达出来，就算是沟通。以前，我倾向于“说”，几乎不怎么“倾听”，更不要说“积极倾听”。

慢慢地，我意识到，沟通不止是说。准确地说它是一种能力，需要靠很多技能来支撑：同理心、EQ(Emotional Intelligence)、清晰表达，还有积极倾听。

Honestly, I think communication might be the most important skill we can learn. Miscommunication and misunderstanding are things we’ve all experienced. And the consequences can be serious — conflicts, broken trust, even organizational failures.

Dialogue is not simply exchanging words, but creating a shared pool of meaning, where understanding is co-created rather than imposed.

I notice that many professionals still treat communication as “talking appropriately” rather than a skillset to be developed.

It is a capability built from multiple skills: empathy, emotional intelligence, clarity, and active listening. These skills can and must be developed intentionally, purposefully, and continuously.

Reading Crucial Conversations introduced me to a deeper concept: dialogue.

但最让我思考的，还是最后一句：“不识庐山真面目，只缘身在此山中。”
我逐渐意识到，真正阻碍我们看清全貌的，不是智力或努力，而是视角的局限。我们身处其中，自然难以跳出来。

所以真正的问题是：我们该如何“走出山中”，才能看得更清楚呢？
我没有答案，也许这正是这首诗的魅力所在。你怎么看？

So the real question is: how do we step out of the mountain and see more clearly?
I don’t think there’s a single answer, but I’d love to hear your thoughts.

我突然发现自己现在读这首诗的感受，和上学时完全不同。那时候只看到表面——从不同角度欣赏山的景色。我“知道”了字面意思，却没有真正体会到。

如今每次爬山，我可以很清晰地在脑海里浮现出诗中画面。这不仅仅是庐山，其实任何一座山都可能如此。

This reminds me of how often, in work and life, we are “inside the mountain.” We get so caught up in details, problems, or even our own assumptions that we can’t see the whole picture. It’s not about intelligence or effort — it’s about perspective.

Now, as an adult, I realize the last line is the most profound: “We cannot see the true face of Mount Lu, simply because we are inside the mountain.”

我用它表达 新的希望和自我成长。希望你们喜欢，也能从中找到属于自己的意义。

I use this to express new hope and self-development. I hope you enjoy it and find your own meaning within it.

我在优衣库 LifeWear 杂志上看到这句英文押韵，立刻被吸引。作为一个中国读者，我以前从未接触过这句押韵。出于好奇，我查了一下它的背景，才知道这是西方婚礼上的传统吉祥语，用来祝福新娘。

传统上，这句押韵与婚礼有关，但我想用一种新的方式去诠释它——这就是语言的魅力。我将其翻译为中文押韵(吉祥话)：
怀旧而不囿，迎新而不惧； 借智而成长，向蓝而飞扬。