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AskAubry 🦝 🐆 @askaubry.com · 2h

Vanessa Hudgens is married and on her second kid but these dudes and their wishful sad miserable woman fantasies.

Imagine being with someone for almost a decade and then walking past them like they never existed

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She looked dead at him and then took that little walk in front of him. He's moved on and she's alone...surprise, surprise city boys, we up

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AskAubry 🦝 🐆 @askaubry.com · 4h

Eww... Ewww

Welcome to Utah Tinder

YOU MATCHED WITH

ON 10/8/25

I really wish you were my sister

This may be the best first message I've ever received. Please tell me more?

You're beautiful. I would have begged to give you massages and hope you'd let me kiss youv

Ohhhh so you have a sister kink?

Would you have stopped me?

Maybe. I love that your short too

I would have hoped you didn't wear panties around me

This is Tinder, not familysearch, my friend

Sorry. You are beautiful though

Sent

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AskAubry 🦝 🐆 @askaubry.com · 5h

Dude posted this saying his daughter will be his "second mom" thinking this is a positive message about little girls. 😒

pregnant woman asks her husband: "What are you expecting, a boy or a girl?" "

The husband replies: "If it's a boy, I'll teach him math, we'll work out together, teach him how to fish, etc." "

The woman, laughing, asks: "What if it's a girl?" "

The husband smiles and says, "If it's a girl, I won't have to teach her anything." She will teach me everything: how to dress, how to eat, what to say and what not to say. Very soon, she'll become like a second mom to me, and even without doing anything special, she'll always consider me as her hero. She'll understand when I tell her no and she'll still compare her future husband to me. No matter how old she gets, she will always want me to treat her like my little princess. She'll fight for me against the world, and if anyone hurts me, she'll never forgive them. "

The woman, a little intrigued, asks: "You mean your daughter would do all this, but not your son?" "

The husband says, "No, no! My son could do this too, but he will have to learn

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AskAubry 🦝 🐆 @askaubry.com · 7h

The fact that there is only one sticker left

Trash of any kind

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ou are in danger, being abused, or violated, place a sticker on the urine cup. We will ask anyone in the room to leave before talking with you.

Si usted está siendo objeto de abuso, violación o se encuentra en peligro, coloque una etiqueta adhesiva en el recipiente para la orina. Le pediremos a todos los que estén en la habitación que se retiren antes de hablar con usted.

إذا كنت تتعرض لأي اعتداءات أو انتهاكات أو مخاطر، يرجى وضع ملصق على كوب التبول. سنطلب من أي شخص موجود في الغرفة المغادرة قبل التحدث معك.

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AskAubry 🦝 🐆 @askaubry.com · 9h

Man murders his wife while his children are at home.

Dudes in the comments: what did she do?

Pa. Man Kills Wife Before Turning Gun on Himself, Leaving 5 Children Behind Days Before Christmas

Brooke Raia and Blase Raia lived in Altoona, Pa., with their children

By Esme Mazzeo

Published on December 23, 2023 08:37PM EST

https://people.com/man-fatally-shoots-wife
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Man Kills Wife Before Turning Gun ...

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34-year-old Brooke Raia (neé Zimmerman) and 39-year-old Blase Raia were found dead of apparent gunshot wounds in their home on Dartmouth Lane in Blair County... Logan Township Police Chief Dave Hoover told The Altoona Mirror that the deaths appear to have been related to a domestic violence incident based on evidence at the scene.

https://people.com/man-fatally-shoots-wife -turns-gun-himself-murder-suicide-8419411

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WexMajor82 8m

Did they ever do a DNA test on the children?

maidenhairfernbitch 2m

Did you just vilify the victim wtf

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She was probably leaving

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Optimal_Analyst_3309 9m

My money is on cheating

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In any case, this was a weak man

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AskAubry 🦝 🐆 @askaubry.com · 11h

I don't think she was harsh enough and now I'm side eyeing her boyfriend's response.

The Babysitter Dad

AlTA for calling my friends husband a useless piece of shit

My best friend and her husband have 4 kids, 8f, 6f, 4f, and 3f. My friend's husband is a great dad when someone is there to help. When he's alone with all 4 kids he gets overwhelmed and freezes.

A few weeks ago my friend was sick so I brought over dinner. We thought it was just a bad cold.

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When we were eating, my friend went to the bathroom and the 3 year old followed her. 3 year old came running out saying her mom was throwing up. All of the kids ran to the bathroom, followed by me and my friend's husband.

I helped her clean up while her husband went to get her nausea medicine and a thermometer.

When he came back I asked him to get the kids out of the bathroom so she could have some space. After we got the kids out, I took her temp and it came back at almost 104, so went out to get her some Tylenol and water. I get back and the kids are all in the bathroom again because their dad can't keep them away from the bathroom for 2 minutes.

The

I give her the Tylenol and water and she almost immediately starts to vomit again, then passes out. Her husband just stood there while I was trying to get her into recovery position, get the kids away from her, and call 911.

I managed to get all of them out of the bathroom and her husband is coming back every 20 seconds asking if I can call their nanny to help with the kids, if I can go to the hospital with her, did I start the dishwasher or does he need to hand wash the youngest's sippy cup, etc.

When my friend regained consciousness, he even started asking her how to do bedtime for the little ones, did she wash their pajamas yet, did they get screen time that day or can he put on a movie. I told him his wife couldn't hold his hand right now and he just had to figure it out. He told me he's not usually the one that deals with this and he's trying his best, then goes back to asking what stories the kids like, what setting does he put the sound machine on, and how do they like their milk. I just snapped and told him to figure it out on his own and called him a useless piece of shit.

It's been nearly a month and he still acts all pissy when I stop by the house. My friend says he'll get over it but my boyfriend thinks I was unnecessarily rude and he was trying his best.

AlTA for calling him a useless piece of shit when he couldn't handle his own kids while his wife was experiencing a medical emergency?

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AskAubry 🦝 🐆 @askaubry.com · 13h

Oofta I feel sorry for him.

1:34 PM

Best friend is going no contact out of the blue??

I am in a relationship that means everything to me that I am fully committed to and need you to appreciate and respect that and not contact me or stop and have a conversation with me out of respect for me and my relationship

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Did I do something wrong??

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Hey, I really need some insight here. My (32F) very close friend of about 12 years (33M) sent me (and another gal in our friend group) this message and then deleted us off all social media.

See the thing is, he called me to tell me ALLL about how he was connecting with this girl and they were starting to date... & we were all super stoked for him (esp. since he hasn't been in a relationship in a while & has been looking to settle down). I remember saying how cool it was that we could double date when we came into town for the holidays... But now he sent this identical message cutting ties?

This man danced at my wedding, we've watched countless tv shows and movies together, even shared our fears and dreams with each other.... To imagine he's just gone, and willingly, from our lives is devastating. We can tell him anything and he would never judge us... and vice versa. I guess I'm just confused and heartbroken.

FYI I moved 3,000 miles away 3 years ago so I can't go knock on his door and ask him to give me an explanation... Also, it's not written in his voice... seems like it's his girlfriend who formulated the message.

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AskAubry 🦝 🐆 @askaubry.com · 1d

I hate having learned how not rare this is

I (26F) can't believe I saw this after giving my boyfriend a blowjob.. (35M) Do I say something?

Okay, so this is kind of embarrassing, but

I really need some advice. Last night I gave my boyfriend a blow job. Everything was fine, but when he stood up afterwards, I noticed a skid mark on my bed sheet. I was in genuine shock and did not want him to be embarrassed so quickly threw blanket over it and washed it as soon as he left. Now I just can't stop thinking about it and it has put me off being intimate with him as all I can think is that. He is not a dirty person and don't really have problem with his hygiene but this is just mind-blowing to me as he is 35. Do I say something to him or just pretend it didn't happen ? Has this

literally ever happened to anyone else ?

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AskAubry 🦝 🐆 @askaubry.com · 1d

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You are not responsible to support a grown ass man and his children. He is trying to g to use you for money. Please break up with him!!!!

Some women are so desperate to be in a relationship with anybody, that they would literally choose to be robbed and dumped on the side of the road before they would break up with a guy. It's crazy..

Like OP, have some goddamn self respect. He literally told you that he wants to mooch off of you. On top of that, he's already divorced with one kid that he's not even taking full accountability for?! Where do you guys FIND these men!! It's like you're purposefully going to the bottom of the barrel, just whyyy

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AskAubry 🦝 🐆 @askaubry.com · 1d

Nope

THIS. IS. NOT. NORMAL.

Is my husbands level of anger and temper normal?

Marriage / Relationship Advice

I'm not sure I'm making sense with how I'm wording this, but I'm trying to get a sense of how other peoples husbands, or men in their life deal with and express their anger. Mostly to understand if my feelings of uneasiness are justified.

Im a really passive person, I don't argue and I don't raise my voice, I know that's exactly healthy but I grew up with a mother with a mental illness who was constantly screaming and yelling so it made me the opposite. I've also never lived with a man other than my husband, my dad wasn't in my life growing up and I don't have any brothers. So "normal" IG & Threads: male behavior is kind new to me. @ask_aubry

THIS. IS. NOT. NORMAL.

I know everyone reacts to things differently but I feel like my husband is over the top. How often do your husbands raise their voice? Or throw things? I feel like the smallest things and slightest inconveniences throw him into a rage. Example, our daughter spilled pop corn on the couch (she's 4) and he loudly yelled "god dammit!" This morning she wasnt wanting to get ready for school and was whining and saying she didn't want the breakfast he just made, he said "well that's just fucking great, threw a kitchen towel at the wall, and slammed the door." He'll be playing video games and lose so he yells and throws the controller against the wall.

THIS. IS. NOT. NORMAL.

Those probably aren't the best examples just what has happened recently. It makes me extremely uncomfortable when he gets so angry and makes me feel like I'm walking on eggshells.

Anytime I've tried to bring it up, it's "what I can't have emotions??" Which has made me question if I'm being too sensitive or just getting triggered because of my past.

Basically wondering what is a normal level of frustration and anger when frustrating things happen.

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AskAubry 🦝 🐆 @askaubry.com · 1d

Dude: Dating is so easy for women. Just pick one of hundreds of Nice Guys™ on the app.

And what's on the app: 747 miles is still too close

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As an emt I'm legally allowed to see you naked Don't mind the mask had to wear due to a patient

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747 miles away

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AskAubry 🦝 🐆 @askaubry.com · 1d

Know a great way to get that extra weight off her shoulders.

've lost 40kg, but my boyfriend keeps badgering me about physical activity, even discussing this with his mother.

Hi, within the past two years I (22F) have lost 40kg, this year I have graduated university, and during the past summer months I have been searching for a job, enjoying vacations, and now have two job interviews booked, as well as starting learning how to drive.

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I'm happy with my weight loss, I want to

lose 10kg more, however I also want to improve my physical fitness. In my mind, this will be a process. I have a treadmill at home and can easily go for walks with my dogs, however I know that it will take me seriously focusing those things into my routine to effectively implement them. My next two weeks are busy and I need to secure a job ASAP. However I do want to start implementing physical

activity everyday.

The problem lies with my boyfriend, he has been hammering onto me constantly about my physical fitness, about me walking my dogs daily, everyday he mentions it. We discussed my fitness last month, and agreed upon developing it into my routine, however sometimes i'm just drained and tired from job searching, emails, etc.

Last night he brought it up again, this time I learned he has been discussing it with his mother (who had previously called me fat behind my back when discussing my weight with him in private). He himself is very physically fit,

gym everyday, so is his family. It really frustrates me that this is something he felt the need to discuss with his mother.

He started dating me when I weighed

120kg, I now weight 90kg and am 5'8. He never brought up my weight or fitness previously until this summer,

consequently after the discussion where his mother called me fat. Unfortunately rather than focusing on my small successes (learning to drive, getting job interviews) he's only dwelling on the negative AND only perpetuating that negative to his family.

Until I get a car, I won't really have easy access to a gym, besides from my home treadmill. When I do get my license I want to pay for a personal trainer. Does anyone have any recommendations for fitness at home and implementing fitness habits into a routine? I AM DOING THIS FOR MYSELF! NOT FOR HIM!

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AskAubry 🦝 🐆 @askaubry.com · 1d

Don't date dudes who like Harrison Butker.

Your life will be better for it.

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AskAubry 🦝 🐆 @askaubry.com · 1d

It's a dude

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AskAubry 🦝 🐆 @askaubry.com · 1d

Choire Sicha from CNN writing out "It's OPEN SEASON on Taylor Swift" is so misogyny coded.

Especially when gun violence against women are on the rise, up 36% since 2014.

That word choice was definitely a choice.

Choire Sicha from CNN writing out "It's OPEN SEASON on Taylor Swift" is so misogyny coded.

It's fine to hate the album, dislike her personality, style, billionaire status, friends, all that and more, but when femicide

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AskAubry 🦝 🐆 @askaubry.com · 1d

Wonder what Skorts will do to his brain.

15m ago

This raises a good question. If you're going to wear shorts under your skirt, why are you even wearing a skirt at all? Why not just normal shorts? The only possible explanation I can think of is that women know men find skirts sexy, so they want to attract male attention.

This is like if a guy went to get his Ferrari out of the parking garage just to drive it two blocks and go into the next store over.

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AskAubry 🦝 🐆 @askaubry.com · 2d

He can rent storage and leave her she-shed alone.

AlTAH for backing out of a promise to my ex partner?

I (36F) am in the process of separating from my partner (36M). We were together for 7.5 years, and our split is very amicable. We're still good friends.

We've always kept our finances separate. He has much better savings than me (he'd already been working for 10 years when we met, while I was still in uni), but I earn a higher salary now. We don't have kids or shared assets like a house. Property will be split evenly except for things that are clearly individual.

Tonight he came home and told me that his new housing deal is full board (meals included) for $200/week. He's earning around $75k, and now he says he wants to stay there for a whole year.

When he told me this, I kind of lost it. I told him my offer was off the table if he expected me to hold onto all his stuff for 6+ months. He's now sulking and upset with me for backing out, and I feel guilty for being sharp with him.

So, AlTA for going back on my offer? Or am I justified in not wanting to be stuck as the long-term storage unit for my ex's hoarding problem?

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AskAubry 🦝 🐆 @askaubry.com · 2d

It's interesting how quickly the kids in pre-school understand how consent works, especially when their parents reinforce it at home.

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Little kids should not be exposed to kissing

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I mean kid films and such always have kissing and parents often kiss infront of kids and they think that's normal cause they're so exposed to it. But do you have any idea how difficult it is to convince a 5 year old that they can't just go around kiss anyone and everyone?? "Oh you have to be married first" "but the princess wasn't married!" "It's yucky" "then why does mommy do it?" Ughhhh just give me a break and quit exposing you kids to kissing if you're not gonna talk concent IG & Threads: Imao @ask_aubry

Little kids should not be exposed to kis...

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idreaminwords 9h

Just parent your kids. People have been doing it for centuries. Upvoting because this is a superbly wild take

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we've tried nothin and we're all out of ideas man

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Time to make everyone else change to make up for my shortcoming I put 0 effort into fixing!

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AskAubry 🦝 🐆 @askaubry.com · 2d

The way I laughed at "down-payment on vagina".

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u/itsallwayssunnyin 2h

AITAH for refusing to pay for my dates food and drinks after she claimed she was celibate and waiting until marriage to have sex at age 42 with 2 adult children and 2 failed marriages?

I met a woman on FB dating and after messaging each other few times over a couple days we decided to meet up at a restaurant.

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Overall she seemed like a nice and classy woman but the way she talked about dating and the type of man she was looking for was a bit off-putting. She had a list of attributes she was looking for in a man that just didn't seem realistic given what she was bringing to the table. She claimed to be celibate for the last 3 years and that she was waiting until she was married again to have sex.

I knew after the first 10 minutes we had no future together but I stayed to finish dinner. When the check came I asked for separate checks and she kind of scoffed and rolled her eyes. She asked "aren't you the one who asked me out" and I said "I am".

She mean mugged me for about a minute without saying anything until the waiter came back with the separate checks. "are you really not about to pay for diiner? I just replied "I'll pay for mine and you should pay for yours" I told her it was nice meeting her and walked away.

If I wanted to see her again I would have paid for her food and drinks but since I had zero interest in doing so... I didn't.

Notmysubmarine 2h

I don't think there's anything wrong necessarily, prior to the date saying "hey, on first dates I generally split the bill, is that cool with you."

That way everyone gets to make an informed decision on whether the date goes ahead or not - no harm, no foul.

Treating a meal like a down-payment on vagina access however, is gross.

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AskAubry 🦝 🐆 @askaubry.com · 2d

Can someone make this make sense please

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Worried that my mother doesn't love me, or didn't' love me at one point.

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My mom is pro-abortion and I've been dwelling on the thought that she doesn't or didn't love me at a point in my life. If she doesn't value a growing baby's life in the womb, it makes me question whether she values life at all, and in that case, my life. I was her first born and unplanned and the thought of her possibly wanting to have me aborted while I was growing is making my hands and legs shake.

This is how evil abortion is. Not only are you intentionally taking a life away, but the pro-abortion logic is leading me to believe that she thought about aborting me before and in turn doesn't love me. I don't even know what to think anymore. I'm so upset.

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AskAubry 🦝 🐆 @askaubry.com · 2d

*Fridging my autocorrect is hilarious.

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AskAubry 🦝 🐆 @askaubry.com · 2d

I have that exact in blue!

AskAubry 🦝 🐆 @askaubry.com · 2d

So many story lines have used Women In Refrigerators trope to move plot forward. It's one thing if it was once in awhile but frigging is so commonplace a lot of us assume it will happen especially in action films.

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this actually has its own trope because it happens so often btw

Women in refrigerators is a literary trope

coined by Gail Simone in 1999 describing a trend in fiction which involves female characters facing disproportionate harm, such as death, maiming, or assault, to serve as plot devices to motivate male characters, an event colloquially known as "fridging". Simone's

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I think there seriously needs to be discussed how often you see in media how a woman's suffering is used as a means to make the men around her feel braver and how many fandom/shipping spaces only amplifies that

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AskAubry 🦝 🐆 @askaubry.com · 3d

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AskAubry 🦝 🐆 @askaubry.com · 3d

Sounds like someone learned a new vocabulary word

Men need to stop being logical

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I wholeheartedly believe the title. Logic does not benefit men, it hinders men more than it helps them. Women's opinions on a broad amount of subjects both politically and on this forum, are logically inconsistent.

Men's opinion on the other hand, you can usually follow with inductive reasoning. This is the biggest hindering men face.

A lot of studies show that lower IQ results in a happier dating experience. A big measurer of IQ is inductive reasoning. Therefore you need to turn that part of your brain off when you're dating.

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