Heather Cook 🦓🖖Autistic Life Coach
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#ActuallyAutistic life coaching for #latediagnosis #Autistic humans to break a lifetime of shoulds and be free.
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What growth edge are you ready for, that may seem scary, but also intriguing and exciting?
#AskingAutistics #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Neurodiversity
#AskingAutistics #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Neurodiversity
November 22, 2025 at 2:49 PM
What growth edge are you ready for, that may seem scary, but also intriguing and exciting?
#AskingAutistics #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Neurodiversity
#AskingAutistics #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Neurodiversity
Miscommunications Aren't Always Your Fault
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November 21, 2025 at 8:46 PM
Miscommunications Aren't Always Your Fault
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A lot of us have been conditioned, often unintentionally but still very heavily, to deny aspects of our own experience.
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#AutisticMasking #ActuallyAutistic #Autistic #Neurodiversity #AuDHD
November 21, 2025 at 1:33 PM
A lot of us have been conditioned, often unintentionally but still very heavily, to deny aspects of our own experience.
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#AutisticMasking #ActuallyAutistic #Autistic #Neurodiversity #AuDHD
Agreed. This is related to what I was talking about in my recent video on why finding your autistic community didn't fix your loneliness.
When Trauma Trolls: The Psychology of Digital Harassment No One Wants to Admit | CPTSDfoundation.org buff.ly/zkeRPwI
When Trauma Trolls: The Psychology of Digital Harassment No One Wants to Admit | CPTSDfoundation.org buff.ly/zkeRPwI
When Trauma Trolls: The Psychology of Digital Harassment No One Wants to Admit | CPTSDfoundation.org
by Dr. Mozelle Martin | Nov 13, 2025 | Addiction, CPTSD, CPTSD and PTSD, Guest Contributor, Mental Health Professional | 0 comments
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November 20, 2025 at 10:15 PM
Agreed. This is related to what I was talking about in my recent video on why finding your autistic community didn't fix your loneliness.
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All humans want. We come into this world wanting.
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#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic #Neurospicy #Neurodiversity
November 20, 2025 at 1:46 PM
All humans want. We come into this world wanting.
#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic #Neurospicy #Neurodiversity
#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic #Neurospicy #Neurodiversity
If you haven't seen this recent video yet, it's about the uncomfortable situation where you find a group of #Autistic and #AuDHD humans, and still don't feel comfortable around them, and/or there's just as much drama as among NT groups. Here's my take on why that happens.
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November 20, 2025 at 2:02 AM
If you haven't seen this recent video yet, it's about the uncomfortable situation where you find a group of #Autistic and #AuDHD humans, and still don't feel comfortable around them, and/or there's just as much drama as among NT groups. Here's my take on why that happens.
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Today the soap in a public bathroom made my hands smell like stale Play-Doh for hours. Ugh. I could smell it strongly even with my hands stretched far away from me. Sensory nightmare.
Had to wash several times when I got home to get most of the smell off. 
Had to wash several times when I got home to get most of the smell off. 
November 20, 2025 at 1:44 AM
Today the soap in a public bathroom made my hands smell like stale Play-Doh for hours. Ugh. I could smell it strongly even with my hands stretched far away from me. Sensory nightmare.
Had to wash several times when I got home to get most of the smell off. 
Had to wash several times when I got home to get most of the smell off. 
Getting to where you are now took a long time, and lots of different kinds of experiences (both negative and positive), which means that there are a bunch of different parts of you that are crying out to be heard and to be treated with respect and compassion.
#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic
#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic
November 19, 2025 at 2:09 PM
Getting to where you are now took a long time, and lots of different kinds of experiences (both negative and positive), which means that there are a bunch of different parts of you that are crying out to be heard and to be treated with respect and compassion.
#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic
#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic
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Because I was so often misunderstood growing up, my default strategy was to explain myself better. If I could just find the right combination of words, in the right order, it’ll make everything better.
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November 18, 2025 at 2:52 PM
Because I was so often misunderstood growing up, my default strategy was to explain myself better. If I could just find the right combination of words, in the right order, it’ll make everything better.
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#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic #Neurodiversity #ND #Neurodivergent
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If you need links to resources on helpful topics for the Autistic community, or perspectives from Autistic people, I have a lot shared over on my website at: buff.ly/ugHN7be
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November 17, 2025 at 5:57 PM
If you need links to resources on helpful topics for the Autistic community, or perspectives from Autistic people, I have a lot shared over on my website at: buff.ly/ugHN7be
#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic #Neurodiversity #NeuroDivergent #Neurodiversity #Neurodiverse #ND
#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic #Neurodiversity #NeuroDivergent #Neurodiversity #Neurodiverse #ND
Top 17-20 (of 20) Top Signs You Might Be Masking Your Autism
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Top 17-20 (of 20) Top Signs You Might Be Masking Your Autism
Watch the full video here: https://youtu.be/V432ZWNpM0EAre you hiding your natural Autistic reactions from people? Maybe you've done that so much, for so lon...
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November 17, 2025 at 5:06 PM
Top 17-20 (of 20) Top Signs You Might Be Masking Your Autism
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We turn a simple physical fact into a matter of personal failure, like sensory needs or focus or executive functioning, and then criticize ourselves for not doing what we can't do.
#ActuallyAutistic #Autistic #AuDHD #Sensory #AutisticBurnout #Burnout
#ActuallyAutistic #Autistic #AuDHD #Sensory #AutisticBurnout #Burnout
November 17, 2025 at 1:27 PM
We turn a simple physical fact into a matter of personal failure, like sensory needs or focus or executive functioning, and then criticize ourselves for not doing what we can't do.
#ActuallyAutistic #Autistic #AuDHD #Sensory #AutisticBurnout #Burnout
#ActuallyAutistic #Autistic #AuDHD #Sensory #AutisticBurnout #Burnout
The Problem With To-Do Lists
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November 16, 2025 at 7:23 PM
The Problem With To-Do Lists
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Once I had that lens of, “Oh, I’m autistic. My brain is simply wired differently.” It was my permission. I didn’t have to see myself as broken anymore.
I didn’t have to see myself as wrong, or as less than human, or as from a different planet.
#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic #AutismAcceptance
I didn’t have to see myself as wrong, or as less than human, or as from a different planet.
#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic #AutismAcceptance
November 16, 2025 at 1:52 PM
Once I had that lens of, “Oh, I’m autistic. My brain is simply wired differently.” It was my permission. I didn’t have to see myself as broken anymore.
I didn’t have to see myself as wrong, or as less than human, or as from a different planet.
#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic #AutismAcceptance
I didn’t have to see myself as wrong, or as less than human, or as from a different planet.
#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic #AutismAcceptance
There will be some relationships that you have to let go because it’s just not worth putting in the energy to work through them.
#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic #Neurodiversity #healthyrelationships
#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic #Neurodiversity #healthyrelationships
November 15, 2025 at 1:45 PM
There will be some relationships that you have to let go because it’s just not worth putting in the energy to work through them.
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#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic #Neurodiversity #healthyrelationships
The front of my van is an insect graveyard #actuallyautistic #autisticvanlife
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The front of my van is an insect graveyard #actuallyautistic #autisticvanlife
After two weeks on the road, on a road trip through Nebraska, Colorado, and New Mexico, my Ford transit van is covered in insect remains.**Here's the rest of...
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November 14, 2025 at 6:21 PM
The front of my van is an insect graveyard #actuallyautistic #autisticvanlife
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If what you want is to meet people that understand you, but you're pretending to be someone that you're not, then no one who you ever encounter is going to really understand you.
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#AutisticMasking #ActuallyAutistic #Autistic #Neurodiversity #AuDHD
November 14, 2025 at 2:29 PM
If what you want is to meet people that understand you, but you're pretending to be someone that you're not, then no one who you ever encounter is going to really understand you.
#AutisticMasking #ActuallyAutistic #Autistic #Neurodiversity #AuDHD
#AutisticMasking #ActuallyAutistic #Autistic #Neurodiversity #AuDHD
A very common situation for #Autistics is one where someone is upset at us and we can’t figure out what we did or said to upset them. I’d like to offer my explanation for why this happens.
Why They Say "You Know What You Did”: The Unexpected Backlash
A transcript can be found here: https://www.autismchrysalis.com/2025/09/09/why-they-say-you-know-what-you-did-the-unexpected-backlash/
A very common situation for Autistics is one where someone is…
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November 13, 2025 at 7:15 PM
A very common situation for #Autistics is one where someone is upset at us and we can’t figure out what we did or said to upset them. I’d like to offer my explanation for why this happens.
Similarly to people, labels are good at some things, and not so good at others. They can be helpful when you treat them with care, but they shouldn't be pushed to be something that they cannot be.
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#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic #Neurospicy #Neurodiversity
November 13, 2025 at 1:31 PM
Similarly to people, labels are good at some things, and not so good at others. They can be helpful when you treat them with care, but they shouldn't be pushed to be something that they cannot be.
#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic #Neurospicy #Neurodiversity
#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic #Neurospicy #Neurodiversity
There's so much should-ing that we do, that society does on us.
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#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic #Neurospicy #Neurodiversity
November 12, 2025 at 2:03 PM
There's so much should-ing that we do, that society does on us.
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#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic #Neurospicy #Neurodiversity
Are Big Life Changes Worth It?
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November 11, 2025 at 8:19 PM
Are Big Life Changes Worth It?
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Why They Say "You Know What You Did”: The Unexpected Backlash
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Why They Say "You Know What You Did”: The Unexpected Backlash
A transcript can be found here: https://www.autismchrysalis.com/2025/09/09/why-they-say-you-know-what-you-did-the-unexpected-backlash/A very common situation...
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November 11, 2025 at 6:03 PM
Why They Say "You Know What You Did”: The Unexpected Backlash
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It’s important to accept that it’s impossible to always communicate perfectly, you can’t always get it right.
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#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic #Neurodiversity #healthycommunication
November 11, 2025 at 1:22 PM
It’s important to accept that it’s impossible to always communicate perfectly, you can’t always get it right.
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#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic #Neurodiversity #healthycommunication
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November 10, 2025 at 5:32 PM
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