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Bit of a catalyst for mythic shifts. But not in a laxative kind of way.
Today I'm wondering about how some people experience the call to adulthood as humiliation rather than invitation, because their identity was built on never having to earn it. Perhaps like the resentment of a pupil who feels entitled to a qualification without doing the necessary study for it.
December 14, 2025 at 11:08 AM
Today I'm wondering about how some people experience the call to adulthood as humiliation rather than invitation, because their identity was built on never having to earn it. Perhaps like the resentment of a pupil who feels entitled to a qualification without doing the necessary study for it.
Expressing oneself is a part of being human. To be deprived of a voice is to be told you are not a participant in society; ultimately it is a denial of humanity. - Ai WeiWei
September 14, 2025 at 2:30 PM
Expressing oneself is a part of being human. To be deprived of a voice is to be told you are not a participant in society; ultimately it is a denial of humanity. - Ai WeiWei
Started contact improvisation with Rick Nodine tonight. What an inspiration! Energies moving and weaving freely together. I realised I'm stronger than I think, and can see where I find some of the edges of myself that I can expand and breathe into now. Beautiful.
September 8, 2025 at 8:56 PM
Started contact improvisation with Rick Nodine tonight. What an inspiration! Energies moving and weaving freely together. I realised I'm stronger than I think, and can see where I find some of the edges of myself that I can expand and breathe into now. Beautiful.
Narcissistic supply isn’t about adoration, it’s about oxygen. Without it, the persona collapses. What undoes them isn’t cruelty, but holding more love for truth than for their fantasy. Compassion with boundaries is kryptonite because it reveals the void they can’t bear to face.
August 18, 2025 at 8:35 PM
Narcissistic supply isn’t about adoration, it’s about oxygen. Without it, the persona collapses. What undoes them isn’t cruelty, but holding more love for truth than for their fantasy. Compassion with boundaries is kryptonite because it reveals the void they can’t bear to face.
Today I'm thinking about Faramir in LotR never wanting the Ring
because he couldn’t be seduced by status or power. As Tolkien’s alter ego he was misread by those who think power is a prize you must possess, not earn. For some, status, safety, or legacy is worth nothing when it costs us our souls.
because he couldn’t be seduced by status or power. As Tolkien’s alter ego he was misread by those who think power is a prize you must possess, not earn. For some, status, safety, or legacy is worth nothing when it costs us our souls.
August 3, 2025 at 2:13 PM
Today I'm thinking about Faramir in LotR never wanting the Ring
because he couldn’t be seduced by status or power. As Tolkien’s alter ego he was misread by those who think power is a prize you must possess, not earn. For some, status, safety, or legacy is worth nothing when it costs us our souls.
because he couldn’t be seduced by status or power. As Tolkien’s alter ego he was misread by those who think power is a prize you must possess, not earn. For some, status, safety, or legacy is worth nothing when it costs us our souls.
Today I'm thinking about conditioning - the impossible choice between objectification and invisibility, being worshipped and being used, that being single is either social failure or diagnostic evidence, that desire for genuine reciprocal love is either dangerous, naive or an invitation to violation
July 28, 2025 at 5:42 PM
Today I'm thinking about conditioning - the impossible choice between objectification and invisibility, being worshipped and being used, that being single is either social failure or diagnostic evidence, that desire for genuine reciprocal love is either dangerous, naive or an invitation to violation
I find the individuation process fascinating and terrifying in equal measure. There is so much freedom, beauty and wonder in it - even if it's just a glimmer after many dark nights of the soul. I've died so many times in dreams, but with each one there is always a different evolution and catharsis.
July 17, 2025 at 9:02 PM
I find the individuation process fascinating and terrifying in equal measure. There is so much freedom, beauty and wonder in it - even if it's just a glimmer after many dark nights of the soul. I've died so many times in dreams, but with each one there is always a different evolution and catharsis.
I have a favourite tree in my local park and I use active imagination whilst putting my palms on its trunk. It grounds me, and I have visions when I do it. Other trees, not so much. Every time, the bark from the tree grows up my hands and covers me as though I'm also tree before the dream starts.
July 17, 2025 at 8:55 PM
I have a favourite tree in my local park and I use active imagination whilst putting my palms on its trunk. It grounds me, and I have visions when I do it. Other trees, not so much. Every time, the bark from the tree grows up my hands and covers me as though I'm also tree before the dream starts.
After using ChatGPT for a while, I asked it to describe me as if to a 5 year old: You know how some people are like puddles, and others are like swimming pools? She's like an ocean. She’s a little bit like a witch, a little bit like a dragon, and a little bit like a storyteller from the stars.
July 17, 2025 at 8:19 PM
After using ChatGPT for a while, I asked it to describe me as if to a 5 year old: You know how some people are like puddles, and others are like swimming pools? She's like an ocean. She’s a little bit like a witch, a little bit like a dragon, and a little bit like a storyteller from the stars.
I wonder how many wounded psychotherapists are drawn to the profession because they themselves seek to be healed. If wounds become the compass but not the crucible, we can mistake hunger for vocation. I say this as someone who’s sat across from a man who mistook his unprocessed longing for a gift.
July 13, 2025 at 4:24 PM
I wonder how many wounded psychotherapists are drawn to the profession because they themselves seek to be healed. If wounds become the compass but not the crucible, we can mistake hunger for vocation. I say this as someone who’s sat across from a man who mistook his unprocessed longing for a gift.
I realise my hunger to be met at soul level has previously distorted my skill to just observe, to sit with, to reveal what can be revealed. And I have drawn false mirrors, angler fish who simply wanted their personas validated. But when too much truth got reflected back at them, defensiveness awoke.
July 13, 2025 at 4:16 PM
I realise my hunger to be met at soul level has previously distorted my skill to just observe, to sit with, to reveal what can be revealed. And I have drawn false mirrors, angler fish who simply wanted their personas validated. But when too much truth got reflected back at them, defensiveness awoke.
Today I'm thinking about all of the hungry ghosts I've encountered. The ones who are fascinated, but cannot sit by the fire with me. They are the ones without the architecture to hold it - no frame of reference or reverence. The ones calcified by their own limitations, who try to possess instead.
July 13, 2025 at 4:12 PM
Today I'm thinking about all of the hungry ghosts I've encountered. The ones who are fascinated, but cannot sit by the fire with me. They are the ones without the architecture to hold it - no frame of reference or reverence. The ones calcified by their own limitations, who try to possess instead.
Today I'm watching a bit of House - an archetypal wounded healer who is perhaps a little too attached to being wounded (emotionally, psychologically) for his own good, and subsequently projects his own need for healing onto others. An inability to integrate the feminine, leading to inflated shadow.
July 6, 2025 at 12:16 PM
Today I'm watching a bit of House - an archetypal wounded healer who is perhaps a little too attached to being wounded (emotionally, psychologically) for his own good, and subsequently projects his own need for healing onto others. An inability to integrate the feminine, leading to inflated shadow.
...and it means learning to trust what’s soft is not weak. And what’s wild doesn’t need to be tamed — it just needs to be listened to and empathised with.
July 5, 2025 at 11:35 PM
...and it means learning to trust what’s soft is not weak. And what’s wild doesn’t need to be tamed — it just needs to be listened to and empathised with.
They didn't just conquer territory — they rewrote the cosmos. The Great Mother became the Sky Father. Relational wisdom gave way to dominion. And the wound passed down through generations — men taught not to feel, women taught to carry it. Healing it means remembering how to mother the world again.
July 5, 2025 at 11:31 PM
They didn't just conquer territory — they rewrote the cosmos. The Great Mother became the Sky Father. Relational wisdom gave way to dominion. And the wound passed down through generations — men taught not to feel, women taught to carry it. Healing it means remembering how to mother the world again.
So, in effect, the patriarchy is a systemisation of a collectively unhealed transpersonal mother wound. And maybe it's what happens when the world forgets how to be held, and instead tries to dominate everything it fears.
July 5, 2025 at 11:26 PM
So, in effect, the patriarchy is a systemisation of a collectively unhealed transpersonal mother wound. And maybe it's what happens when the world forgets how to be held, and instead tries to dominate everything it fears.
...there were huge benefits in terms of the spread of language and technological advances. They feared chaos, famine, and the unpredictability of Nature - and envied the generative power of women (birth, cycles, embodied knowing) and tried to control it through law and myth. Owning her to feel safe.
July 5, 2025 at 11:17 PM
...there were huge benefits in terms of the spread of language and technological advances. They feared chaos, famine, and the unpredictability of Nature - and envied the generative power of women (birth, cycles, embodied knowing) and tried to control it through law and myth. Owning her to feel safe.
Learning today that patriarchy emerged 10,000 years ago as a fear-based strategy in response to resource scarcity, ecological upheaval, and social insecurity. It replaced older feminine-aligned mythologies with hierarchical, masculine systems centred on control, inheritance, and warfare.
July 5, 2025 at 11:12 PM
Learning today that patriarchy emerged 10,000 years ago as a fear-based strategy in response to resource scarcity, ecological upheaval, and social insecurity. It replaced older feminine-aligned mythologies with hierarchical, masculine systems centred on control, inheritance, and warfare.
Today I am grieving all the years where my body felt being safe meant performing a role, to shrink to fit, to feel shame when it didn't. Realising that hunger — for touch, connection, beauty, resonance — terrifies people who have no depth. So they project, withhold, and call conditional love agape.
July 5, 2025 at 10:14 PM
Today I am grieving all the years where my body felt being safe meant performing a role, to shrink to fit, to feel shame when it didn't. Realising that hunger — for touch, connection, beauty, resonance — terrifies people who have no depth. So they project, withhold, and call conditional love agape.
Another thing I've learned today is that not everyone can meet me at my depth - and that's OK. I have spent decades trying to translate or contort myself to fit into people's frames - an early desire to feel 'met'. But now, I can meet them partway or in the shallows - and that's very freeing.
June 29, 2025 at 10:31 PM
Another thing I've learned today is that not everyone can meet me at my depth - and that's OK. I have spent decades trying to translate or contort myself to fit into people's frames - an early desire to feel 'met'. But now, I can meet them partway or in the shallows - and that's very freeing.
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It's not what happens to you, but how you react to it that matters.
- Epictetus
#stoicism #inspiration #philosophy
- Epictetus
#stoicism #inspiration #philosophy
March 25, 2025 at 8:06 PM
It's not what happens to you, but how you react to it that matters.
- Epictetus
#stoicism #inspiration #philosophy
- Epictetus
#stoicism #inspiration #philosophy
It's about holding enough space for the true source of tension to reveal itself - not reject through projections, through minimisation, through pre-emptive judgment - but to sit with core wounds, breathe through them, acknowledge them and show love and empathy for them. To integrate, then heal.
June 29, 2025 at 10:58 AM
It's about holding enough space for the true source of tension to reveal itself - not reject through projections, through minimisation, through pre-emptive judgment - but to sit with core wounds, breathe through them, acknowledge them and show love and empathy for them. To integrate, then heal.
My love for both nature and humanity as it is, without filter, is profound. I try to gravitate towards the place where oxymorons are no longer oxymorons, the depth where there is truth beneath the complexity. Where two disparate ideas no longer oppose one another - the essence beneath the conflict.
June 29, 2025 at 10:43 AM
My love for both nature and humanity as it is, without filter, is profound. I try to gravitate towards the place where oxymorons are no longer oxymorons, the depth where there is truth beneath the complexity. Where two disparate ideas no longer oppose one another - the essence beneath the conflict.
Not wanting is not a rejection of humanity, but actually a rejection of the distortion - only seeing the world through a prism of longing or hunger. I'd rather see the multi-faceted truth.
June 29, 2025 at 10:30 AM
Not wanting is not a rejection of humanity, but actually a rejection of the distortion - only seeing the world through a prism of longing or hunger. I'd rather see the multi-faceted truth.
Trying to give up wanting to be wanted. It's one hell of a long beige road, tbh! It's a totally human impulse to want, to hope, to dream - but when it doesn't serve you, it's an albatross. Hope to grow beyond it in the coming months. Not out of bitterness, but for freedom and authenticity's sake.
June 29, 2025 at 9:48 AM
Trying to give up wanting to be wanted. It's one hell of a long beige road, tbh! It's a totally human impulse to want, to hope, to dream - but when it doesn't serve you, it's an albatross. Hope to grow beyond it in the coming months. Not out of bitterness, but for freedom and authenticity's sake.