like being so desperate for affection that you will go to such extreme, debasing lengths to receive it, and not only that but enjoy it the whole time. Thats the good stuff

thats kinda how i feel about wider d/s concepts in general. i understand the reason psychologically that people will take it out of the character's hands but having that willingness there makes it that much more potent to me

genuinely "the reason i like this is because im a mentally ill freak and theres something wrong with me" is more gender affirming than "i cant possibly be at fault for being this way because its just due to my pesky female biology >_<"

ok i actually DO know its because of the way the genre assumes that being a submissive to the point of incapacitation is a trait inherent to having a uterus/the ability to get pregnant and theres a word for that and its called "misogyny"