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Jane Perry The Bully-Proofing Coach
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From 28 years working for the BBC and 14 years working for trade unions, I learned that Bullies and Harassers groom to assess potential targets. I teach people to identify multiple forms of grooming and to respond appropriately and effectively.
I Swear

Went to see this last with a mate, it's brilliant - the mental health nurse so reminded me of my aunty Chris If you've ever thought badly about someone who has Tourette's, this film explains it all and is very funny. The mental health nurse reminded me so much of my aunty Christine - the…
I Swear
Went to see this last with a mate, it's brilliant - the mental health nurse so reminded me of my aunty Chris If you've ever thought badly about someone who has Tourette's, this film explains it all and is very funny. The mental health nurse reminded me so much of my aunty Christine - the power of the practical! #ISwear
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November 12, 2025 at 1:16 PM
I thought her suicide might be to escape another abuser

Known for her courage, Virginia couldn't admit she'd been trapped again. And unfortunately, it seems I was right; it was her ex-husband, Robert Guffre, who pleaded guilty to domestic violence against Virginia in 2015 in Penrose, Colorado,…
I thought her suicide might be to escape another abuser
Known for her courage, Virginia couldn't admit she'd been trapped again. And unfortunately, it seems I was right; it was her ex-husband, Robert Guffre, who pleaded guilty to domestic violence against Virginia in 2015 in Penrose, Colorado, where they were staying to avoid the press at home. Known for her courage in bringing down Epstein et al, it must have felt impossible for Virginia to admit she'd been trapped again.
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September 17, 2025 at 10:50 AM
Thanks to everyone who came to the workshop last night.

The plan is to hold a "How to Stop Sexual Harassment Workshop" once a month. They will continue to be free and open to all. I did catastrophize that representatives of the manosphere would turn up to disrupt and deny that sexual harassment is…
Thanks to everyone who came to the workshop last night.
The plan is to hold a "How to Stop Sexual Harassment Workshop" once a month. They will continue to be free and open to all. I did catastrophize that representatives of the manosphere would turn up to disrupt and deny that sexual harassment is an issue. It didn't happen, and in any case, I know how to expel offensive people from a Zoom. So, thanks to everyone who came. #PreventionIsKey
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September 5, 2025 at 11:55 AM
There is just one ticket left

How to handle all kinds of sexual harassment. All of the illustrations are by Gleb Kasarenko. Learn to spot sexual harassers before they start to manipulate you. Come and find out how my teaching works at this FREE 1-hour workshop today at 7pm: tinyurl.com/36acm89y
There is just one ticket left
How to handle all kinds of sexual harassment. All of the illustrations are by Gleb Kasarenko. Learn to spot sexual harassers before they start to manipulate you. Come and find out how my teaching works at this FREE 1-hour workshop today at 7pm: tinyurl.com/36acm89y
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September 4, 2025 at 10:09 AM
How to Stop Sexual Harassment: will protect you, your family, your members, your employees, and your business for life.

No one should touch someone else without permission The workshops I deliver can protect you from all forms of bullying, even the most intimate. Come to this FREE workshop, in…
How to Stop Sexual Harassment: will protect you, your family, your members, your employees, and your business for life.
No one should touch someone else without permission The workshops I deliver can protect you from all forms of bullying, even the most intimate. Come to this FREE workshop, in which I teach attendees how to spot a sexual harasser before their campaign of harassment begins, demonstrating the methods I use to completely bullyproof people, members, employees, and businesses. Come and try me out on Thursday, 4th September at 7pm Book here: #PreventionIsKey
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August 27, 2025 at 12:20 PM
Without intervention sexual harassment only gets worse

Women know when men are only thinking of themselves! You go to work to pay the bills, to learn, to develop your career, not to be objectified. Without intervention, Sexual Harassment only gets worse: Weinstein. Empower your membership and or…
Without intervention sexual harassment only gets worse
Women know when men are only thinking of themselves! You go to work to pay the bills, to learn, to develop your career, not to be objectified. Without intervention, Sexual Harassment only gets worse: Weinstein. Empower your membership and or your employees to call it out and stop it before it trashes your reputation. Come and learn in a FREE 1-hour online workshop: How to Stop Sex Harassment. Book here: #PreventionIsKey
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August 26, 2025 at 9:06 AM
3 reasons why management and HR should come to my FREE 1-hour online workshop on Thursday September 4th

Sexually harassed workers will not be performing at anything like their best. Sexual harassment is the most intimate form of bullying and is often part of a campaign to intimidate workers out of…
3 reasons why management and HR should come to my FREE 1-hour online workshop on Thursday September 4th
Sexually harassed workers will not be performing at anything like their best. Sexual harassment is the most intimate form of bullying and is often part of a campaign to intimidate workers out of reporting breaches in policies, and no employer wants to be known for sexual harassment. Remember, Weinstein's behaviour brought down Miramax films. I provide the best protection available for your workers against sexual harassment. 1-hour FREE online workshop: How to Stop Sexual Harassment book here: #PreventionIsKey
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August 21, 2025 at 8:54 AM
How to Stop Sexual Harassment. In this 1-hour FREE workshop, I'll upskill you to stop sexual harassment wherever you find it. Thursday, 4th September at 7pm be there and get protection. #PreventionIsKey #GetProtection
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August 20, 2025 at 1:10 PM
Never trust a man with an Icarus complex without checking his workplace culture.

Design faults, the 'captain' ignored lying and bullying to get his way, the result: five dead. Toxic workplaces kill US Coast Guard releases report calling Titan disaster a ‘preventable tragedy’ Poor safety practices,…
Never trust a man with an Icarus complex without checking his workplace culture.
Design faults, the 'captain' ignored lying and bullying to get his way, the result: five dead. Toxic workplaces kill US Coast Guard releases report calling Titan disaster a ‘preventable tragedy’ Poor safety practices, lack of oversight and toxic workplace blamed for implosion in which five people died The Guardian, Tuesday, 5th August "Inadequate safety practices, deliberate efforts to avoid oversight and a…
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August 7, 2025 at 10:13 AM
Employers are going to have to be explicit…

Graziano Di Prima was removed from Strictly Come Dancing after kicking his celebrity partner Zara McDermott. Photograph: Guy Levy/PA With Bectu and Zelda Perkins leading the charge, the Creative Industry Independent Standards Authority (CIISA) was born.…
Employers are going to have to be explicit…
Graziano Di Prima was removed from Strictly Come Dancing after kicking his celebrity partner Zara McDermott. Photograph: Guy Levy/PA With Bectu and Zelda Perkins leading the charge, the Creative Industry Independent Standards Authority (CIISA) was born. However, things will not change overnight. Let's remember some of the stats from Bectu's survey last year. 9 in 10 creative workers say they have been sexually harassed at work.
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August 5, 2025 at 11:05 AM
How vunerable police officers can protect themselves from sexual harassment.

I wonder what these two women police officers would say? Are they even still in the police force? How prevalent is sexual harassment in the UK's police force? And how targets can better protect themselves. My comment…
How vunerable police officers can protect themselves from sexual harassment.
I wonder what these two women police officers would say? Are they even still in the police force? How prevalent is sexual harassment in the UK's police force? And how targets can better protect themselves. My comment below in bold italics Sexual harassment among police personnel: Insights from a Birmingham, UK cross-sectional survey Lati Mags and Barak Ariel Oxford Academic, 20th April 2024.
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July 30, 2025 at 8:45 AM
What I hope UK bystanders would do.

Perpetrators of all types of abusive behaviors take pleasure in what they can get away with in front of bystanders; it provides them with an extra thrill. For a fully psychologically developed adult, witnessing such behavior becomes intolerable. #intervention
What I hope UK bystanders would do.
Perpetrators of all types of abusive behaviors take pleasure in what they can get away with in front of bystanders; it provides them with an extra thrill. For a fully psychologically developed adult, witnessing such behavior becomes intolerable. #intervention
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July 24, 2025 at 9:52 AM
Celebrating Zela Perkins

One of the core group of women you took Weinsten down The Duty To Warn I also want to highlight the very least you should do as a bystander to inappropriate behaviour, the duty to warn. "I had one warning because actually being warned is very important because it arms you,…
Celebrating Zela Perkins
One of the core group of women you took Weinsten down The Duty To Warn I also want to highlight the very least you should do as a bystander to inappropriate behaviour, the duty to warn. "I had one warning because actually being warned is very important because it arms you, and all she said to me was, 'Always sit in an armchair, don't ever sit on the sofa next to him, and always keep your puffa jacket on.' No more than that, but actually it's an incredibly important one.
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July 23, 2025 at 9:52 AM
‘Nowhere for them to hide any more’: Zelda Perkins’ fight against NDAs after Harvey Weinstein

Zelda Perkins said the government’s stance had gone beyond her expectations but the process ‘isn’t done yet’. Photograph: Geoff Pugh/Shutterstock From The Guardian, 8th July 2025, Alexandra Topping "After…
‘Nowhere for them to hide any more’: Zelda Perkins’ fight against NDAs after Harvey Weinstein
Zelda Perkins said the government’s stance had gone beyond her expectations but the process ‘isn’t done yet’. Photograph: Geoff Pugh/Shutterstock From The Guardian, 8th July 2025, Alexandra Topping "After eight-year campaign by Perkins, a former PA for Weinstein, UK ministers have announced plans to stop bosses using NDAs to silence abused workers Zelda Perkins was 24 when – exhausted, broken and surrounded by lawyers – she finally agreed to sign the non-disclosure agreement (NDA) that would legally gag her from talking about Harvey Weinstein’s sexually predatory and abusive behaviour.
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July 22, 2025 at 12:35 PM
Gregg Wallace is the real victim?

Wallace had admitted using inappropriate language, but claimed to have been cleared of ‘the most serious and sensational accusations’. Photograph: Ken McKay/ITV/Shutterstock From The Guardian, Monday 14th July, Michael Savage, Media Editor. Below are my comments…
Gregg Wallace is the real victim?
Wallace had admitted using inappropriate language, but claimed to have been cleared of ‘the most serious and sensational accusations’. Photograph: Ken McKay/ITV/Shutterstock From The Guardian, Monday 14th July, Michael Savage, Media Editor. Below are my comments in bold italics "A report on the behaviour of Gregg Wallace has substantiated 45 allegations made against the former BBC presenter, including claims of inappropriate sexual language and one incident of unwelcome physical contact.
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July 17, 2025 at 3:39 PM
Sutble forms of bullying 4. Teasing or banter. If there isn’t consent it’s not Banter

Without consent between these 2 groups, it's not banter, it's harassment Banter can only be acceptable if it is consensual. To give a more complex example, I was working as an assistant story editor. My story…
Sutble forms of bullying 4. Teasing or banter. If there isn’t consent it’s not Banter
Without consent between these 2 groups, it's not banter, it's harassment Banter can only be acceptable if it is consensual. To give a more complex example, I was working as an assistant story editor. My story editor was openly gay, and I have M.S., as we got on really well, he started calling me a criple and I called him queer.
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July 16, 2025 at 10:51 AM
Sutble forms of bullying 3. “I thought you’d want to know.”

A real friend or total treachery? When you are told something bad that is being said about you, beware of the person telling you. Is the information real? Who can you verify it with? Ask for specifics. Those who enjoy being spiteful will…
Sutble forms of bullying 3. “I thought you’d want to know.”
A real friend or total treachery? When you are told something bad that is being said about you, beware of the person telling you. Is the information real? Who can you verify it with? Ask for specifics. Those who enjoy being spiteful will want to stand back a bit while giving you the bad news, as they'll want to survey the effect they are having on you.
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July 15, 2025 at 12:23 PM
Subtle forms of bullying 2. how to handle backhanded compliments

A backhanded compliment is a statement that appears to be a compliment on the surface but contains a hidden insult or negative implication. It's a form of passive-aggressive communication, often intended to be a veiled criticism or…
Subtle forms of bullying 2. how to handle backhanded compliments
A backhanded compliment is a statement that appears to be a compliment on the surface but contains a hidden insult or negative implication. It's a form of passive-aggressive communication, often intended to be a veiled criticism or jab at someone's character, appearance, or abilities.  Key Characteristics: Apparent Positive: The statement initially sounds like a compliment.  Hidden Negative: A negative or critical message is embedded within the statement. 
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July 3, 2025 at 12:11 PM
How to handle subtle forms of bullying 1. Sarcasm

According to John Spacey on Simplicable There are eleven types of sarcasm (my comments are in bold, italicized) Concealing the unacceptable? "Sarcasm is an insincere statement designed to provoke. This is commonly used as an element of humor or as…
How to handle subtle forms of bullying 1. Sarcasm
According to John Spacey on Simplicable There are eleven types of sarcasm (my comments are in bold, italicized) Concealing the unacceptable? "Sarcasm is an insincere statement designed to provoke. This is commonly used as an element of humor or as means to insult. The following are illustrative examples of sarcasm. Irony statements or situations that are contrary to what one expects.
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July 2, 2025 at 11:53 AM
The family courts are lagging behind social services and children are dying as a result.

Children killed by a domestic abuser, given access to their children by the family courts. Children are traumatized by domestic abusers, yet the family courts give them access to the children. A domestic…
The family courts are lagging behind social services and children are dying as a result.
Children killed by a domestic abuser, given access to their children by the family courts. Children are traumatized by domestic abusers, yet the family courts give them access to the children. A domestic abuser is a bad parent by definition, as at the very least, he is enforcing his abusive mentality. So, setting up the next generational cycle of abuse.
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June 24, 2025 at 12:02 PM
The perfect partner

The Greatest President Russia was denied. Many wonderful things can be said about Alexei Navalny, but I wanted to choose the most poignant, his having found the perfect partner: "Yulia has been such a help in this. I didn't want her to be tormented by all that 'perhaps they'll…
The perfect partner
The Greatest President Russia was denied. Many wonderful things can be said about Alexei Navalny, but I wanted to choose the most poignant, his having found the perfect partner: "Yulia has been such a help in this. I didn't want her to be tormented by all that 'perhaps they'll let him out after a month' stuff. Most important, I wanted her to know I was not suffering here.
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June 5, 2025 at 11:26 AM
Don’t imagine things couldn’t get worse for women here.

Campaigners at a London rally in 2023. Photo: Mark Kerrison/In Pictures/Getty Images Why abortion rights in the UK are getting more and more perilous The Guardian, 19th May 2025 Zoe Williams "Earlier this month, Nicola Packer was found not…
Don’t imagine things couldn’t get worse for women here.
Campaigners at a London rally in 2023. Photo: Mark Kerrison/In Pictures/Getty Images Why abortion rights in the UK are getting more and more perilous The Guardian, 19th May 2025 Zoe Williams "Earlier this month, Nicola Packer was found not guilty of illegally terminating a pregnancy, after taking abortion pills beyond the legal limit of 10 weeks. She had spent more than four years living in the shadow of this prosecution, every detail of which is completely harrowing.
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June 4, 2025 at 11:41 AM
Trolled to death – how many children’s deaths will it take?

Sexual activity with a child is a crime, yet the police left it up to the Semina, the 12-year-old victim, to decide if anything further should happen, telling her, "It will be your word against his." No one did anything to stop her from…
Trolled to death – how many children’s deaths will it take?
Sexual activity with a child is a crime, yet the police left it up to the Semina, the 12-year-old victim, to decide if anything further should happen, telling her, "It will be your word against his." No one did anything to stop her from being further bullied to death. No social media sites with access for children should allow anonymous users. #AnonymousNoMore
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June 3, 2025 at 11:59 AM
Why people are attrached to others who are bad for them

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June 1, 2025 at 7:10 PM
The survival of the pawns.

Illustration Hermin Utamo A Sample Target Story. My comments in italics Maria Smith "My story begins as an assistant professor in my home country, during which time I also held visiting professorships at prominent research universities in Europe and the United States. I…
The survival of the pawns.
Illustration Hermin Utamo A Sample Target Story. My comments in italics Maria Smith "My story begins as an assistant professor in my home country, during which time I also held visiting professorships at prominent research universities in Europe and the United States. I had successfully developed a technology with the potential to diagnose human diseases and I had both published and patented my work.
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May 28, 2025 at 11:15 AM