Human babies ARE dependent.
Not by mistake or result of faulty parenting, but by our human design.
Anyone trying to scare you into nurturing your baby less is not worthy of your attention.
Nurture on ✨

All of which has been debunked by brain science that shows the path to healthy self-regulation comes through extensive and reliable experiences of coregulation in infancy. Self -regulation is not physically possible with this region of the brain only beginning to make the connections for later use.

They are using fear-based messaging to stifle your in-built nurturing responses.
They are coming from an old-school of thought that believed that babies could be spoilt, that needing an adult’s support to regulate was bad and that independence from a very young age is desirable …

Anyone who makes you question whether you should:
✨pick your baby up
✨feed them (awake or to sleep)
✨comfort them
✨have them sleep in your arms/ on your chest/ in your bed
✨go to them when they cry
~is a giant, walking red flag 🚩

I’m petrified of the dentist. It’s massive sensory overload and I feel desperately anxious the whole time. My 6yo seems to be shaping up to feel similarly and I can tell you, I am finding it one of the harder parenting challenges yet to know how to support her while every bone in my body wants out.

Extremely important mention! Thank you! My brain was focused on rebutting yet another post suggesting that attending to your baby too quickly interferes with their ability to self-soothe but your point is vital. Many of us needed to step away sometimes to regain our own composure. Thank you 🤩 ✨

Thanks for amplifying 🙌