I felt late to the game of being myself and simultaneously like I had no one in front of me that I felt comfortable using as a role model. So, I found my own path, with experimentation and piecemeal adoption. And now, I can't imagine any other way. But it was so hard at the time.

I still think of you as a lot younger than you are now and that's a bit of a mind blown moment. Also that age gap seemed a lot bigger then.

St Boniface is right across a wall from our back alley

Life is uncertain. You (we) have more time than you think. If you feel uncertain, that makes total sense. I find picking a direction and moving in it until you find you want to do something else has served me well enough.

At 30 I had just finished a master's degree. I started an 8.5 year "career" that didn't go very far, so shortly before turning 39, I pivoted to something more lucrative and climbed rapidly. On the cusp of 50, my life is nothing like I would have expected at 30 or 40. But I'm pretty happy with it.

I've never been inside. Perhaps I should remedy that

Are we just vehicles for our facial hair? =)

When I was an ignorant baby gay of 18 or 19 I probably would have. By the time I was 29 I was saying I'd sacrifice gay marriage for effective climate action if I could. Of course, I couldn't. I now suspect the general empathy to care about other, future people and scapegoating don't coexist well.

atlantisevents.com/vacation/tro... to get specific about it

I honestly would have guessed older. What an instant classic

You look great!

Exercise didn't actually solve the underlying condition, but I don't feel nearly as bad about it now. =)

No sign of anything when we got there

Part of this is an "I don't want to burden people with my feelings" attitude. Which I recognize is not the healthiest.

It's better than car ownership. We call it harm reduction. And I both hate cars and want a class B RV. Last frame is relevant here (though the whole comic is also perfection) wondermark.com/c/1135/

Since entering double digit age territory, I'd say each decade has been a definite improvement from the prior. It gives me high hopes for my 50s

Which city?