i actually agree!

Diversify spending, engage smaller creators and influencers in touch with new communities. Worry less about whether they pass progressive litmus tests -- in essence, widen the tent that has been shrinking.

Curious if others saw/think this as well. Would Harris have gotten blowback from progressives for going on Rogan, or the Nelk Bros? If she had strayed from a unity message would that have offended her base?

Many such cases, I’m afraid

This is a fair critique! That said, I don’t at all think this confusion is a good *excuse* for radicalization, but I think it is some part of an explanation.

And understanding explanations is important because… how well can you combat something without knowing where it comes from/what animates it?

Oh yeah tons of moms. Actually a lot of the people who really focus on this say that they hear from
Moms first, and they’re the most concerned!

Which is interesting to parse…

🚨 Wholesome content alert 🚨

(Best kind of alert!)

That said, I think a lot of men are watching younger peers struggle through this, lots of dads are fine but worrying about their sons… and lots of males are at least noticing that the social norms around sex/gender seem less stable now. I’ve already gotten a surprisingly wide variety of mail.

I think I agree with you there? Not every man is struggling with the issue in this exact way, and the solutions presented aren’t for “all men” — no piece is for everyone, after all!

I personally just think it’s a need to be addressed, in the same way that someone asking you for, say, instructions on how to get dressed is just a need. It becomes a problem only when (as is happening), people start being offered —and accepting— really bad roadmaps because nothing else is on offer.

I think it’s age-related, too. When you’re younger, you do need clearer models and direction than you do when you’re older and have garnered enough experience/knowledge/self-trust to draw out your own map.

This is an interesting tension, because I was inclined to agree with you even as I was writing the piece, but the men I spoke to were literally saying something else— that they *wanted* a clear and specific roadmap of sorts. This Reddit commenter said it well:

that's so nice of you to say! :)

That’s one of the big questions!

This is a GREAT piece!

As @hunterh.bsky.social says, men are truly in their flop era. Really truly.

I’m soft-launching my ASMR sideline