Yeah, sometimes the conclusion can be that an idea is probably wrong, but more often I think it leads towards a deeper and wider understanding of queerness, gender, selfhood, and community

Acknowledging that my transness affects my life and gender in ways that aren't shared with cis men doesn't make either of us more or less men. We are men with different experiences and that's fine

Lesbians possibly being in my dating pool doesn't feel incompatible with my gender, because gender & sexuality are nuanced and tangled up in weird ways. Ofc many trans men view their attraction to women as straight, many lesbians are not into trans men under any circumstances, that's all fine too

I am directly affected by homophobic legislation that targets wlw. Kissing women feels like subversion of social norms - because of my transness and history and social/legal position, in spite of my manhood. That makes it queer to me

I'm a trans man, basically binary. Not a lesbian, but I do feel my attraction to women is queer. I spent my teen years not realizing liking women was an option at all, there was a ton of societal pressure to like men only. If I don't pass while with a woman, my social position is gay

I don't think our community should be putting energy into fights about self-id labels, but this line of questioning can lead to some cool insights on what gender & queerness mean. I find "queer love of women" to be a more useful metric of lesbianism and sapphic identity than non-men liking non-men