I’m sorry being bullied is a thing you have to deal with so much but yeah it’s definitely good to believe in the good as much as possible. It definitely helps more than agonizing over the bad and hateful all the time.

I do def have the quirks that would come off fruity to the MAGA types. And yeah I also experience transphobia vs homophobia similarly. It definitely doesn’t feel like, safer or anything to pass with phobes cuz even if they don’t clock you now you can only imagine how they would treat you if they did

It’s been really funny to like consider what might cause people to see me the way I would prefer 😅 I’m not even a full year on T and the only big change has been my voice. It used to only be really old people who called me sir cuz I was never trad fem, but now I’m getting it from young people to lol

The one upside of my job is that more customers are starting to do things like call me sir or mister or gentleman. They still kinda pull a double take most of the time but those little moments feel so nice. And every now and then I’ll talk to a customer who is very sweet and it warms my heart a bit

Not that how I’m treated overly good as is. My job is super toxic as far as treatment of women and so many of the men and women are highly conservative at best and full blown MAGA at worst. Unfortunately this also extends to a lot of the immigrants I work with. Not everyone but most that I work with

Oh gosh that’s so scary😭 I have nightmares about accidentally letting it slip to my coworkers. Tbh tho I’m 80% sure several of them have clocked that something is off. As long as they are willing to play dumb I’m willing to stay in the closet about it as long as nothing about how I’m treated changes

I definitely come closest with my women coworkers too but they always end up saying some bigoted crap that then tells me oh all the kindness you project out is a bit of a farce, isn’t it. The men are just constantly projecting the most hostile bigotry they can get away with from hr standpoints.

Thanks dude, I’m sorry too. I know what you mean about the women vs the men. I feel like the women wouldn’t be so harsh about it to my face but would secretly think I’m delusional. The men would be outright hostile, either because they think I’m delusional or because men treat each other terribly

I remember how there were glass ash trays and smoking sections in glass boxes in every restaurant. I was around cigarette smoke my whole life and it wasn’t until college that I moved away and realized what it smelt like to everyone else.

Exactly. I wish even one person I worked with was consistently safe to be honest with but every time I think it’s safe they just go and prove me wrong. I’ve never had to consciously hide so much of myself from so many people. I just value my time away from work so much more now because I can be me.

Sometimes I think oh screw you people I don’t owe you anything and if you don’t want to be safe for me then you will never know me. But then it just starts to sink in that I’m trapped in that space with them and if they were just more accepting then I could be more comfortable. Is that much to ask?

This is how I feel when I think about how I live a double life now as a trans person in my home and private life, but at work I’m the same as I’ve always been. None of my coworkers know about my transition and it’s hard to spend so much of my time in a place where I feel so unsafe to be out.

When the election happened this year I felt like my life got shorter so I said fuck it I’m gunna start doing the scary thing that I want to do before I loose my chance.

I grew a will to live, my voice has changed so much, and now when I’m scared at least I’m scared with a dick and facial hair.

Oh for real be kind to the hotel staff people. You have no idea how much it matters not to trash a hotel room, be polite to banquet staff, and remember that there are limits to what you are entitled to from a service worker. Overworked and underpaid is true and an understatement.

Thank you!

Let it be known to all who read this that a trans person is happy.

It’s me. I’m trans and happy. I’m happy because I’m trans. I’m so proud of myself and my efforts to get here. I’m so scared, but so determined to be happy in the face of that fear. 🏳️‍⚧️💛🤍💜🖤

I’m not fully out in my personal life, and I wish I could be without fear, but I’m just so much happier than before.

I don’t know why I’m saying this online to a bunch of strangers, I don’t really grasp social media very well. I guess I just feel the need to express this to someone.

Def a trans pride fox! The trans colors are so soothing 😊