Debbie Butler
@debsahoy.bsky.social
Psychologist & Mentor | Working with Martin Butler’s Realism Philosophy | Helping You Drop Illusions & Live with Clarity
You don’t choose how you feel at work
Your environment chooses first
Christmas music isn’t festive — it’s affect regulation by force
Spinoza explained it. Psychology proves it
Read the article.
Patreon: zurl.co/PcUSh
Martin Butler
Patreon: zurl.co/ysdCu
Your environment chooses first
Christmas music isn’t festive — it’s affect regulation by force
Spinoza explained it. Psychology proves it
Read the article.
Patreon: zurl.co/PcUSh
Martin Butler
Patreon: zurl.co/ysdCu
December 17, 2025 at 1:27 PM
You don’t choose how you feel at work
Your environment chooses first
Christmas music isn’t festive — it’s affect regulation by force
Spinoza explained it. Psychology proves it
Read the article.
Patreon: zurl.co/PcUSh
Martin Butler
Patreon: zurl.co/ysdCu
Your environment chooses first
Christmas music isn’t festive — it’s affect regulation by force
Spinoza explained it. Psychology proves it
Read the article.
Patreon: zurl.co/PcUSh
Martin Butler
Patreon: zurl.co/ysdCu
Christmas is an emotional Ponzi scheme:
hope, guilt, nostalgia, envy, resentment all skyrocket while real joy flatlines
Spinoza saw the affective slavery 350 years ago
Essay to rip the tinsel off
Substack: zurl.co/fkebW
Martin Butler Patreon: zurl.co/Xlnqk
hope, guilt, nostalgia, envy, resentment all skyrocket while real joy flatlines
Spinoza saw the affective slavery 350 years ago
Essay to rip the tinsel off
Substack: zurl.co/fkebW
Martin Butler Patreon: zurl.co/Xlnqk
December 17, 2025 at 12:01 AM
Christmas is an emotional Ponzi scheme:
hope, guilt, nostalgia, envy, resentment all skyrocket while real joy flatlines
Spinoza saw the affective slavery 350 years ago
Essay to rip the tinsel off
Substack: zurl.co/fkebW
Martin Butler Patreon: zurl.co/Xlnqk
hope, guilt, nostalgia, envy, resentment all skyrocket while real joy flatlines
Spinoza saw the affective slavery 350 years ago
Essay to rip the tinsel off
Substack: zurl.co/fkebW
Martin Butler Patreon: zurl.co/Xlnqk
Spinoza meets luxury Advent madness. I examine the difference between affect and effect through the £47M farce of Arabella & Hugo. Psychology bites harder when wrapped in ribbon.
My Patreon: zurl.co/2MMjO
Martin Butler Patreon: zurl.co/ZfrGd
My Patreon: zurl.co/2MMjO
Martin Butler Patreon: zurl.co/ZfrGd
December 16, 2025 at 12:27 AM
Spinoza meets luxury Advent madness. I examine the difference between affect and effect through the £47M farce of Arabella & Hugo. Psychology bites harder when wrapped in ribbon.
My Patreon: zurl.co/2MMjO
Martin Butler Patreon: zurl.co/ZfrGd
My Patreon: zurl.co/2MMjO
Martin Butler Patreon: zurl.co/ZfrGd
Every December we perform the same rituals, repeat the same emotional loops, and pretend “this year will be different.” It won’t.
Ho Ho Bloody Ho.
Substack: zurl.co/xUUpZ
Patreon: zurl.co/usHBz
Spinoza's Ethics: zurl.co/4p2tB
Ho Ho Bloody Ho.
Substack: zurl.co/xUUpZ
Patreon: zurl.co/usHBz
Spinoza's Ethics: zurl.co/4p2tB
December 15, 2025 at 12:47 PM
Every December we perform the same rituals, repeat the same emotional loops, and pretend “this year will be different.” It won’t.
Ho Ho Bloody Ho.
Substack: zurl.co/xUUpZ
Patreon: zurl.co/usHBz
Spinoza's Ethics: zurl.co/4p2tB
Ho Ho Bloody Ho.
Substack: zurl.co/xUUpZ
Patreon: zurl.co/usHBz
Spinoza's Ethics: zurl.co/4p2tB
Optimism is often just denial with better branding.
We use positivity to avoid reality — failure, limits, mortality.
The pessimist prepares.
The optimist hallucinates.
Clarity wins.
Always.
A Minority Interest is available on Amazon: zurl.co/PdPne
We use positivity to avoid reality — failure, limits, mortality.
The pessimist prepares.
The optimist hallucinates.
Clarity wins.
Always.
A Minority Interest is available on Amazon: zurl.co/PdPne
December 14, 2025 at 12:55 PM
Optimism is often just denial with better branding.
We use positivity to avoid reality — failure, limits, mortality.
The pessimist prepares.
The optimist hallucinates.
Clarity wins.
Always.
A Minority Interest is available on Amazon: zurl.co/PdPne
We use positivity to avoid reality — failure, limits, mortality.
The pessimist prepares.
The optimist hallucinates.
Clarity wins.
Always.
A Minority Interest is available on Amazon: zurl.co/PdPne
Most Christmas gifts aren’t gifts at all
They’re emotional contracts of tat for tat dressed in wrapping paper
What if we stopped buying love and started giving from freedom instead?
Read on…
Substack: zurl.co/RUtlq
Patreon: zurl.co/d7UQ1
They’re emotional contracts of tat for tat dressed in wrapping paper
What if we stopped buying love and started giving from freedom instead?
Read on…
Substack: zurl.co/RUtlq
Patreon: zurl.co/d7UQ1
December 13, 2025 at 12:50 PM
Most Christmas gifts aren’t gifts at all
They’re emotional contracts of tat for tat dressed in wrapping paper
What if we stopped buying love and started giving from freedom instead?
Read on…
Substack: zurl.co/RUtlq
Patreon: zurl.co/d7UQ1
They’re emotional contracts of tat for tat dressed in wrapping paper
What if we stopped buying love and started giving from freedom instead?
Read on…
Substack: zurl.co/RUtlq
Patreon: zurl.co/d7UQ1
Christmas is not joy
It’s screaming at Santa, fighting for sold-out toys, overpaying for meaningless gifts, and pretending debt is love
Step back
Survive the holiday chaos without surrendering your mind
Patreon: zurl.co/Ept2n
Substack: zurl.co/da89R
It’s screaming at Santa, fighting for sold-out toys, overpaying for meaningless gifts, and pretending debt is love
Step back
Survive the holiday chaos without surrendering your mind
Patreon: zurl.co/Ept2n
Substack: zurl.co/da89R
December 12, 2025 at 12:03 PM
Christmas is not joy
It’s screaming at Santa, fighting for sold-out toys, overpaying for meaningless gifts, and pretending debt is love
Step back
Survive the holiday chaos without surrendering your mind
Patreon: zurl.co/Ept2n
Substack: zurl.co/da89R
It’s screaming at Santa, fighting for sold-out toys, overpaying for meaningless gifts, and pretending debt is love
Step back
Survive the holiday chaos without surrendering your mind
Patreon: zurl.co/Ept2n
Substack: zurl.co/da89R
One gift, one comment, one expectation can explode into consequences you never saw coming. Spinoza understood this long before psychology did.
Cut straight to the truth behind festive behaviour.
Read here ↓
Substack: zurl.co/hPQOW
Book: zurl.co/Wr5az
Cut straight to the truth behind festive behaviour.
Read here ↓
Substack: zurl.co/hPQOW
Book: zurl.co/Wr5az
December 11, 2025 at 12:24 PM
One gift, one comment, one expectation can explode into consequences you never saw coming. Spinoza understood this long before psychology did.
Cut straight to the truth behind festive behaviour.
Read here ↓
Substack: zurl.co/hPQOW
Book: zurl.co/Wr5az
Cut straight to the truth behind festive behaviour.
Read here ↓
Substack: zurl.co/hPQOW
Book: zurl.co/Wr5az
When you want what think you want - that’s desire or confusion
- Appetite is your body’s truth
- Desire is imagination
Learn the difference and your inner war ends: the body already knows.
Substack zurl.co/8fPXZ
Spinoza's Ethics zurl.co/dPYMC
- Appetite is your body’s truth
- Desire is imagination
Learn the difference and your inner war ends: the body already knows.
Substack zurl.co/8fPXZ
Spinoza's Ethics zurl.co/dPYMC
December 9, 2025 at 12:25 PM
When you want what think you want - that’s desire or confusion
- Appetite is your body’s truth
- Desire is imagination
Learn the difference and your inner war ends: the body already knows.
Substack zurl.co/8fPXZ
Spinoza's Ethics zurl.co/dPYMC
- Appetite is your body’s truth
- Desire is imagination
Learn the difference and your inner war ends: the body already knows.
Substack zurl.co/8fPXZ
Spinoza's Ethics zurl.co/dPYMC
Most people chase desires that aren’t theirs
Spinoza shows the split
Essence → Conatus → Appetite → Desire
Your body wants truth; your imagination wants applause
If you’re tired of living the wrong life, read this:
Substack: zurl.co/Mf5QL
Spinoza shows the split
Essence → Conatus → Appetite → Desire
Your body wants truth; your imagination wants applause
If you’re tired of living the wrong life, read this:
Substack: zurl.co/Mf5QL
December 8, 2025 at 12:43 PM
Most people chase desires that aren’t theirs
Spinoza shows the split
Essence → Conatus → Appetite → Desire
Your body wants truth; your imagination wants applause
If you’re tired of living the wrong life, read this:
Substack: zurl.co/Mf5QL
Spinoza shows the split
Essence → Conatus → Appetite → Desire
Your body wants truth; your imagination wants applause
If you’re tired of living the wrong life, read this:
Substack: zurl.co/Mf5QL
You’re not conflicted— Your ideas are
Spinoza explains why self-sabotage, confusion, and being stuck are thinking errors
Clarify the idea and desire realigns on its own
This changes everything
Substack zurl.co/kDt8s
Spinoza's Ethics zurl.co/Hp7IY
Spinoza explains why self-sabotage, confusion, and being stuck are thinking errors
Clarify the idea and desire realigns on its own
This changes everything
Substack zurl.co/kDt8s
Spinoza's Ethics zurl.co/Hp7IY
December 7, 2025 at 1:09 PM
You’re not conflicted— Your ideas are
Spinoza explains why self-sabotage, confusion, and being stuck are thinking errors
Clarify the idea and desire realigns on its own
This changes everything
Substack zurl.co/kDt8s
Spinoza's Ethics zurl.co/Hp7IY
Spinoza explains why self-sabotage, confusion, and being stuck are thinking errors
Clarify the idea and desire realigns on its own
This changes everything
Substack zurl.co/kDt8s
Spinoza's Ethics zurl.co/Hp7IY
You’re not chasing your desires — you’re obeying them.
If you’re ready to stop lying to yourself about who’s in charge of your life, read this.
It won’t make you comfortable — but it will make you conscious.
Substack zurl.co/dbQfj
Ethics zurl.co/9CARt
If you’re ready to stop lying to yourself about who’s in charge of your life, read this.
It won’t make you comfortable — but it will make you conscious.
Substack zurl.co/dbQfj
Ethics zurl.co/9CARt
December 6, 2025 at 12:57 PM
You’re not chasing your desires — you’re obeying them.
If you’re ready to stop lying to yourself about who’s in charge of your life, read this.
It won’t make you comfortable — but it will make you conscious.
Substack zurl.co/dbQfj
Ethics zurl.co/9CARt
If you’re ready to stop lying to yourself about who’s in charge of your life, read this.
It won’t make you comfortable — but it will make you conscious.
Substack zurl.co/dbQfj
Ethics zurl.co/9CARt
“Nothing can destroy itself.”
Spinoza’s Prop 4, Part 3 just hit
Your essence affirms existence—destruction always comes from outside.
New video breaking it down in plain, beautiful English (my fresh translation).
Watch + grab the book ↴ zurl.co/Qi2cn
Spinoza’s Prop 4, Part 3 just hit
Your essence affirms existence—destruction always comes from outside.
New video breaking it down in plain, beautiful English (my fresh translation).
Watch + grab the book ↴ zurl.co/Qi2cn
December 5, 2025 at 2:07 PM
“Nothing can destroy itself.”
Spinoza’s Prop 4, Part 3 just hit
Your essence affirms existence—destruction always comes from outside.
New video breaking it down in plain, beautiful English (my fresh translation).
Watch + grab the book ↴ zurl.co/Qi2cn
Spinoza’s Prop 4, Part 3 just hit
Your essence affirms existence—destruction always comes from outside.
New video breaking it down in plain, beautiful English (my fresh translation).
Watch + grab the book ↴ zurl.co/Qi2cn
Your most vicious self-talk isn’t yours. It was installed. The moment you externalise it, the spell breaks.
For this post: zurl.co/tHqC5
Patreon: zurl.co/ecvtn
Negative Philosophy & Martin Butler:
Patreon: zurl.co/9RpJ8
Substack: zurl.co/iX4rA
Books on Amazon: zurl.co/YHwbR
For this post: zurl.co/tHqC5
Patreon: zurl.co/ecvtn
Negative Philosophy & Martin Butler:
Patreon: zurl.co/9RpJ8
Substack: zurl.co/iX4rA
Books on Amazon: zurl.co/YHwbR
December 4, 2025 at 2:30 PM
Your most vicious self-talk isn’t yours. It was installed. The moment you externalise it, the spell breaks.
For this post: zurl.co/tHqC5
Patreon: zurl.co/ecvtn
Negative Philosophy & Martin Butler:
Patreon: zurl.co/9RpJ8
Substack: zurl.co/iX4rA
Books on Amazon: zurl.co/YHwbR
For this post: zurl.co/tHqC5
Patreon: zurl.co/ecvtn
Negative Philosophy & Martin Butler:
Patreon: zurl.co/9RpJ8
Substack: zurl.co/iX4rA
Books on Amazon: zurl.co/YHwbR
Conversations With Jelly
“Most people aren’t suffering from the world. They’re suffering from the story they insist the world must follow”
Martin Butler's powerful novel↓
zurl.co/lTIHv
Martin's Patreon↓
zurl.co/oKJZt
“Most people aren’t suffering from the world. They’re suffering from the story they insist the world must follow”
Martin Butler's powerful novel↓
zurl.co/lTIHv
Martin's Patreon↓
zurl.co/oKJZt
December 3, 2025 at 1:54 PM
Conversations With Jelly
“Most people aren’t suffering from the world. They’re suffering from the story they insist the world must follow”
Martin Butler's powerful novel↓
zurl.co/lTIHv
Martin's Patreon↓
zurl.co/oKJZt
“Most people aren’t suffering from the world. They’re suffering from the story they insist the world must follow”
Martin Butler's powerful novel↓
zurl.co/lTIHv
Martin's Patreon↓
zurl.co/oKJZt
— Words are cheap
— Ideas are cheap
— Desire is cheap
Learn why talking about change — blocks real change
— why does only action have value?
If it doesn’t touch your behavior, it isn’t yours
Listen here and start moving, not dreaming zurl.co/6RART
— Ideas are cheap
— Desire is cheap
Learn why talking about change — blocks real change
— why does only action have value?
If it doesn’t touch your behavior, it isn’t yours
Listen here and start moving, not dreaming zurl.co/6RART
December 2, 2025 at 2:04 PM
— Words are cheap
— Ideas are cheap
— Desire is cheap
Learn why talking about change — blocks real change
— why does only action have value?
If it doesn’t touch your behavior, it isn’t yours
Listen here and start moving, not dreaming zurl.co/6RART
— Ideas are cheap
— Desire is cheap
Learn why talking about change — blocks real change
— why does only action have value?
If it doesn’t touch your behavior, it isn’t yours
Listen here and start moving, not dreaming zurl.co/6RART
People never heal because they try to fix the feeling without healing the story
Trauma isn’t just emotional—it’s an outdated operating system
If you’re ready to update the code and see reality clearly, read the new article and subscribe: zurl.co/Wo9QC
Trauma isn’t just emotional—it’s an outdated operating system
If you’re ready to update the code and see reality clearly, read the new article and subscribe: zurl.co/Wo9QC
December 1, 2025 at 12:34 PM
People never heal because they try to fix the feeling without healing the story
Trauma isn’t just emotional—it’s an outdated operating system
If you’re ready to update the code and see reality clearly, read the new article and subscribe: zurl.co/Wo9QC
Trauma isn’t just emotional—it’s an outdated operating system
If you’re ready to update the code and see reality clearly, read the new article and subscribe: zurl.co/Wo9QC
We are shaped by the story we were forced to believe, not by what happened
This article follows a woman as she breaks free from inherited narratives and reclaims her own interpretation
Read / subscribe for the deeper journey about liberation:
zurl.co/dt8NO
This article follows a woman as she breaks free from inherited narratives and reclaims her own interpretation
Read / subscribe for the deeper journey about liberation:
zurl.co/dt8NO
November 30, 2025 at 1:18 PM
We are shaped by the story we were forced to believe, not by what happened
This article follows a woman as she breaks free from inherited narratives and reclaims her own interpretation
Read / subscribe for the deeper journey about liberation:
zurl.co/dt8NO
This article follows a woman as she breaks free from inherited narratives and reclaims her own interpretation
Read / subscribe for the deeper journey about liberation:
zurl.co/dt8NO
What if everything you ever believed about your motives was a lie?
Spinoza says you aren’t living for love or morality—you’re just trying to survive
And until you SEE that, you aren’t free at all
Your real life starts when the performance ends
Read: zurl.co/TzHYa
Spinoza says you aren’t living for love or morality—you’re just trying to survive
And until you SEE that, you aren’t free at all
Your real life starts when the performance ends
Read: zurl.co/TzHYa
November 29, 2025 at 1:22 PM
What if everything you ever believed about your motives was a lie?
Spinoza says you aren’t living for love or morality—you’re just trying to survive
And until you SEE that, you aren’t free at all
Your real life starts when the performance ends
Read: zurl.co/TzHYa
Spinoza says you aren’t living for love or morality—you’re just trying to survive
And until you SEE that, you aren’t free at all
Your real life starts when the performance ends
Read: zurl.co/TzHYa
You didn’t lose yourself — you gave yourself away in small pieces over years
Until one day you woke up exhausted from being everyone except the person you actually are
Deconstruction is about changing your clarity: zurl.co/71Rhh
Patreon: zurl.co/9AoRE
Until one day you woke up exhausted from being everyone except the person you actually are
Deconstruction is about changing your clarity: zurl.co/71Rhh
Patreon: zurl.co/9AoRE
November 28, 2025 at 1:00 PM
You didn’t lose yourself — you gave yourself away in small pieces over years
Until one day you woke up exhausted from being everyone except the person you actually are
Deconstruction is about changing your clarity: zurl.co/71Rhh
Patreon: zurl.co/9AoRE
Until one day you woke up exhausted from being everyone except the person you actually are
Deconstruction is about changing your clarity: zurl.co/71Rhh
Patreon: zurl.co/9AoRE
The heart of practice is simple
- sense the body, observe, understand
No gurus, no escapism—just real inner freedom through direct experience
If you seek transformation, this is where the work begins
Substack:zurl.co/FyIcb
Martin Butler Patreon:zurl.co/tUvIS
- sense the body, observe, understand
No gurus, no escapism—just real inner freedom through direct experience
If you seek transformation, this is where the work begins
Substack:zurl.co/FyIcb
Martin Butler Patreon:zurl.co/tUvIS
November 27, 2025 at 12:49 PM
The heart of practice is simple
- sense the body, observe, understand
No gurus, no escapism—just real inner freedom through direct experience
If you seek transformation, this is where the work begins
Substack:zurl.co/FyIcb
Martin Butler Patreon:zurl.co/tUvIS
- sense the body, observe, understand
No gurus, no escapism—just real inner freedom through direct experience
If you seek transformation, this is where the work begins
Substack:zurl.co/FyIcb
Martin Butler Patreon:zurl.co/tUvIS
Your brain lies to you — beautifully, convincingly, relentlessly
And your reactions reveal it
If you’re tired of suffering inside a story you didn’t choose, read this
It might piss you off… then free you:
zurl.co/AvDmd
And your reactions reveal it
If you’re tired of suffering inside a story you didn’t choose, read this
It might piss you off… then free you:
zurl.co/AvDmd
November 26, 2025 at 1:12 PM
Your brain lies to you — beautifully, convincingly, relentlessly
And your reactions reveal it
If you’re tired of suffering inside a story you didn’t choose, read this
It might piss you off… then free you:
zurl.co/AvDmd
And your reactions reveal it
If you’re tired of suffering inside a story you didn’t choose, read this
It might piss you off… then free you:
zurl.co/AvDmd
Your memories aren’t recordings — they’re reconstructions shaped by emotion, trauma, and survival. Why does the brain change the story?
For this post: zurl.co/JVh00
Martin Butler:
Patreon: zurl.co/z24Uz
Books on Amazon: zurl.co/suUJu
For this post: zurl.co/JVh00
Martin Butler:
Patreon: zurl.co/z24Uz
Books on Amazon: zurl.co/suUJu
November 25, 2025 at 2:48 PM
Your memories aren’t recordings — they’re reconstructions shaped by emotion, trauma, and survival. Why does the brain change the story?
For this post: zurl.co/JVh00
Martin Butler:
Patreon: zurl.co/z24Uz
Books on Amazon: zurl.co/suUJu
For this post: zurl.co/JVh00
Martin Butler:
Patreon: zurl.co/z24Uz
Books on Amazon: zurl.co/suUJu
You’re not overwhelmed
You’re misidentifying reality
Your emotions aren’t the truth — they’re predictions, memories, and misunderstandings
Spinoza knew
If you want the kind of clarity that destroys illusions, read this: zurl.co/Wv21c
Patreon: zurl.co/CDf8n
You’re misidentifying reality
Your emotions aren’t the truth — they’re predictions, memories, and misunderstandings
Spinoza knew
If you want the kind of clarity that destroys illusions, read this: zurl.co/Wv21c
Patreon: zurl.co/CDf8n
November 24, 2025 at 1:01 PM
You’re not overwhelmed
You’re misidentifying reality
Your emotions aren’t the truth — they’re predictions, memories, and misunderstandings
Spinoza knew
If you want the kind of clarity that destroys illusions, read this: zurl.co/Wv21c
Patreon: zurl.co/CDf8n
You’re misidentifying reality
Your emotions aren’t the truth — they’re predictions, memories, and misunderstandings
Spinoza knew
If you want the kind of clarity that destroys illusions, read this: zurl.co/Wv21c
Patreon: zurl.co/CDf8n
Our memories aren’t recordings
They’re reconstructions shaped to protect us
I explore how trauma, the conatus, and imagination create believable “truths”
Why realism means seeing what the mind is doing in real time:
zurl.co/oyZvk
Martin Butler: zurl.co/YinRD
They’re reconstructions shaped to protect us
I explore how trauma, the conatus, and imagination create believable “truths”
Why realism means seeing what the mind is doing in real time:
zurl.co/oyZvk
Martin Butler: zurl.co/YinRD
November 23, 2025 at 1:44 PM
Our memories aren’t recordings
They’re reconstructions shaped to protect us
I explore how trauma, the conatus, and imagination create believable “truths”
Why realism means seeing what the mind is doing in real time:
zurl.co/oyZvk
Martin Butler: zurl.co/YinRD
They’re reconstructions shaped to protect us
I explore how trauma, the conatus, and imagination create believable “truths”
Why realism means seeing what the mind is doing in real time:
zurl.co/oyZvk
Martin Butler: zurl.co/YinRD