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Mary Bowers @eatbemary.bsky.social · 5h

Fighting for truth had left me exhausted, depressed, financially strained, and exiled from most of my adoptive family. Would I do it again if given the choice? 💯 YES. Every damn time.

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Mary Bowers @eatbemary.bsky.social · 4d

I’m tired. I’m heartbroken 💔. Some days grief feels like too much to carry. But then I think of you, the #adopteevoices 🥚 who remind me that love, truth, and belonging are ours to live. We hold one another through the hurt, the healing, and defiant hope ❤️‍🩹.

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Dr. Sandra Steingraber 🏳️‍🌈 @ssteingraber1.bsky.social · 5d

🥚 Extraordinary apology from South Korean President to 200,000 Koreans sent abroad as adoptees, many of whom “discovered their records were falsified to portray them as abandoned orphans, while others were carelessly removed, or even stolen, from their birth families” 1/3

apnews.com/article/sout...

South Korea's president apologizes over poorly managed foreign adoption programs

South Korean President Lee Jae Myung has apologized for poorly managed foreign adoption programs that were rife with abuses and fraud.

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Mary Bowers @eatbemary.bsky.social · 7d

A wrenching discovery! Totally nuts! This is NOT a drill. Repeat. This is NOT a drill 🔧!

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Mary Bowers @eatbemary.bsky.social · 13d

#adopteevoices 🥚 meet @laurahigh5.bsky.social ❤️

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Mary Bowers @eatbemary.bsky.social · 13d

This is the one. There are also children in a gumball machine 😳

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Mary Bowers @eatbemary.bsky.social · 13d

📚 In "Why Was I Adopted?," there's a picture of children in a pet store window. It's been a while, but I think I remember a child on a leash. Not like the cute kind with the monkey backpack because the kid is a runner. Pretty sure it was a dog collar 🐶🐱👶🏻. Anyone else remember this book?

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Mary Bowers @eatbemary.bsky.social · 18d

I enjoy disorganized attachment, and that’s exactly the problem 🎢

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Mary Bowers @eatbemary.bsky.social · 29d

If not friend, why friend shaped? 🥚

List of members of The Congressional Coalition on Adoption (CCA) in the 119th US Congress.

Mary Bowers @eatbemary.bsky.social · 29d

In my experience, there was no "socondarily." If society is cool with telling me I was unwanted/ would have been thrown in a dumpster/ would have been a prostitute without adoption, then imagine how much more horrible people have been to my mother.

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Mary Bowers @eatbemary.bsky.social · 29d

No, because I'm pretty sure I'm probably already ☠️🥀 inside

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Mary Bowers @eatbemary.bsky.social · Sep 6

It's the signature line that angers me: "I swear under penalty of perjury that the information is true and correct." The threat of fines and imprisonment for failing to maintain socially accepted lies feels coercive.

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Mary Bowers @eatbemary.bsky.social · Aug 31

A person does not need to be a racist to participate in or perpetuate racist systems. It's important to listen and learn with open hearts and minds, especially when the person naming the harm is someone you claim to love as one of your own. #adopteevoices 🥚 www.channelnewsasia.com/watch/whats-...

What's Coming Up - Korean Adoptees And Their Journey To Reclaim Erased Histories In One "Orphan" Every Hour

Nearly 250,000 Korean children were adopted to the West as "orphans". Were they lucky to be rescued, or does the truth tell a different story? Find out in One "Orphan" Every Hour. Premiering 30 Augus...

www.channelnewsasia.com

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Mary Bowers @eatbemary.bsky.social · Aug 31

After filming this documentary, I became 1 of 56 resolved cases in Korea's TRC #adoption investigation, confirming human rights violations. 311 remain unresolved. Thanks @channelnewsasia.bsky.social for telling our stories 🥚.

Enjoy the videos and music that you love, upload original content and share it all with friends, family and the world on YouTube.

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Mary Bowers @eatbemary.bsky.social · Aug 28

I grew up believing I was an orphan. The truth told a different story 💔. See my story in One Orphan Every Hour this Sat, Aug 30 at 9pm SGT @channelnewsasia.bsky.social 🥚. #Korea #AdopteeVoices #adoptionjourney #adoptionstory #adoption

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Mary Bowers @eatbemary.bsky.social · Aug 22

It's totally a coincidence. Can't possibly be related, right? 🧮

Chart showing Korea's rapidly declining birth rate relative to total population and net reproduction rate

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Mary Bowers @eatbemary.bsky.social · Aug 22

I hate the phrase "decision to abandon a baby." It's not a decision if there are no other choices.

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Mary Bowers @eatbemary.bsky.social · Aug 21

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Aengus Kane (he/him) @aenguskane.bsky.social · Aug 21

1) Translation from Google:

“I remember sneaking into my parents' room and first looking at my adoption record. I was around ten years old, and I was so curious to see what it said. Nothing significant was written there.

There was no mention of my biological parents' names, no information…

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Mary Bowers @eatbemary.bsky.social · Aug 21

#Korean #Adoption 🥚. Giving new meaning to pork barrel politics 🐷
www.hani.co.kr/arti/opinion...

수입산 돼지고기 냉동창고에 입양기록물 내팽개친 국가의 폭력 [왜냐면]

김오묘 | 입양기록긴급행동(EARS) 대표· 미국 보스턴칼리지 교수 부모님 방에 몰래 들어가서 처음 내 입양기록을 들여다본 때를 기억한다. 열살 무렵이었는데, 뭐가 쓰여있는지 너무 궁금했다. 중요한 내용은 없었다. 친부모님의 이름도, 내 출생에 관한 정보도 없이 그저

www.hani.co.kr

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Mary Bowers @eatbemary.bsky.social · Aug 21

That's my little brother and me. We found each other 2 yrs ago through DNA testing. I know it's difficult for him to talk about adoption. I'm so proud of him for being courageous and telling his story 🥹. Documentary airs in Asia on Aug 30 and will be available on the CNA YouTube channel afterward

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Mary Bowers @eatbemary.bsky.social · Aug 21

#Korean #Adoption 🥚. Giving new meaning to pork barrel politics 🐷
www.hani.co.kr/arti/opinion...

수입산 돼지고기 냉동창고에 입양기록물 내팽개친 국가의 폭력 [왜냐면]

김오묘 | 입양기록긴급행동(EARS) 대표· 미국 보스턴칼리지 교수 부모님 방에 몰래 들어가서 처음 내 입양기록을 들여다본 때를 기억한다. 열살 무렵이었는데, 뭐가 쓰여있는지 너무 궁금했다. 중요한 내용은 없었다. 친부모님의 이름도, 내 출생에 관한 정보도 없이 그저

www.hani.co.kr

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Mary Bowers @eatbemary.bsky.social · Aug 20

Happy to report that those children have grown up to find success as

SLOW
MEN
AT WORK
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Mary Bowers @eatbemary.bsky.social · Aug 20

I will never get to teach my little brother how to talk, to read, to do all the little things older siblings do for the younger ones. Those moments are irreplaceable.

Chase Malmgren and Mary Bowers, separated siblings who would find each other anywhere in spite of a system and society that would have been perfectly fine with them never knowing the other even existed

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Mary Bowers @eatbemary.bsky.social · Aug 20

The hardest part of grieving is that adoptees are told we should "be grateful". "Be grateful you were adopted." "Be grateful you found your family." My heart and families are broken and society tells me I should be buying party balloons 💔. That's the most devastating part for me.

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Mary Bowers @eatbemary.bsky.social · Aug 20

I had no idea how much anger I could feel until I found my little brother. Now, I understand what was stolen from us. Society shames adoptees for feeling angry. If you aren't angry about systemic child abuse, corruption, and violations of human rights, maybe it's time to ask why. #adoption 🥚

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