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elephantherbs.bsky.social
@elephantherbs.bsky.social
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An account for a mish-mosh of things. Books, learning, art, humor, advocacy and community, my personal political opinions, Fandom (mostly Helluva Boss and Hazbin Hotel) and anything else that catches my fancy.
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A lot of these comments under this don't seem to realize as far as misogyny and femecide the USA is middle ground on the severity. Many other countries are far worse for women and children. This is an important issue but this is very split, unhealthy thinking. Maga is awful but there is worse.
April 21, 2025 at 1:36 AM
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Seen in the comment thread of a short by GenericArtDad on YouTube, regarding tariffs.
Felt it was good to spread and info people, let your elders and others know so they don't get put at risk.
Comment from YouTube by user doylemclaren2956 stating: Dawg the amount of customs-related call center scams is about to SKYTOCKET because now it'll be a common, legitimate issue thst occurs so more people will be susceptible to believe it (if that makes sense). Idk why it didn't hit me until your video, bit this is going to go from a poorly-crafted scam script, to a wildly-successful gift over the next few weeks my goodness.
April 15, 2025 at 12:35 PM
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Found this year's ago on Facebook. I can't make out the artists name in the corner well enough so hopefully someone else can and mention it. Always loved it.
An artists depiction of the statue of liberty and the lady of justice statue kissing
March 30, 2025 at 3:29 PM
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Oh this is very funny
So @deonandan.bsky.social is a coward too. Got it.
A screenshot of user Raywat Deonandan tag @deonandan.bsky.social showing he has blocked me because I called him out on his woman-blaming, misogynistic bullshit.
March 9, 2025 at 12:08 PM
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My mom played it in the other room and I heard it and had to tune it out. I immediately recognized the gaslighting and manipulation being used. 47 and 1st Lady in Waiting used a lot of these tactics on the wheel.
The wheel chart of violence and abuse, power and control and what behaviors are considered such. Factors include using emotional abuse, economic abuse, minimizing, denial and blaming or shifting blame, using threats or coercion and using intimidation. 47 and his 1st lady in waiting used many of these tactics while speaking with Ukrainian hero Zelenskyy today.
March 1, 2025 at 3:08 AM
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More DV info graphs!
An image of 4 different colored pillars with a grey top "roof" that says "Four Pillars of Abuse." The pillars from left to right read: Entitlement and Objectification. Down that Pillar it reads: "I deserve" mindset + societal, familial, and religious scripting + emphasis on gender roles vs healthy relationships + women seen as objects products. Pillar 2: control, manipulation, lies and secrecy Down the Pillar reads: calculated behaviors + not a lack of self control + manipulation to achieve a goal + good guy facade Pillar 3: compulsive behaviors Down the Pillar reads: lack of integrity (relational and personal), sexual acting out, lack of consent, lack of consideration for wife's needs (poster note: it can be a partner as well as a spouse, it is not exclusive) Pillar 4: lack of accountability Down the Pillar reads: no empathy + no remorse + no restitution The image ends with the logo for Betrayal Trauma Recovery and the website btr.org
February 22, 2025 at 10:08 AM
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Yeah it's this one I usually get
February 7, 2025 at 11:13 PM
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Either the intern posting these is a joke or you are the biggest fucking puppet on capital hill bro. What was brewing in the smoke of the two lone brain cells you were rubbing together as you typed this post?
Well known meme of a man with Caucasian skin, light brown/dark blonde hair and a yellow shirt aggressively pointing at something in blame, the thing he is point at is a mirror, showing is own reflection blaming himself.
February 4, 2025 at 5:00 AM
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I'll add more later but the I need a break from the alt text.
A screenshot from an Instagram account called "the.love.therapist", the image shared by the account it titled "A relationship becomes emotionally unsafe when there is" and proceeds to have a itemized list. The list says in order: Blaming, shaming or criticizing. Not following through with promises. Turning away from bids for attention. Ignoring. Inconsistency and unpredictability. Turning your back, rolling your eyes, withholding touch or other hurtful body language. Rejection, dismissal or invalidation. Dishonesty, lies or secrets. Retaliation, manipulation or playing games. Power struggles - seeking power or being overly controlling (poster note not in text: any attempt to control in a relationship is over controlling. There is no healthy for of controlling someone else in a relationship). Disrespected or ignored boundaries. Inability to let go of toxic thoughts about your partner. Resentments are fed or scores are kept and used against each other. Fear of brining up topics or having difficult conversations. Fear of sharing your thoughts and feelings. You are working against each other rather than a team. Verbal threats, accusations or name calling. Defensiveness. Frequent emotional inconsistency and mood instability. End of image text. Image title says" DEEP Technique, with a period between each letter in deep. Subtitle "a communication technique used for interacting with narcissists and toxic individuals." The acronym reads as follows: D is for Don't Defend: Do not defend your truth or perspective. Do not spend your efforts trying to convince someone who does not want to understand you. E is for Don't Engage: Do not engage in a narcissists manipulation. Be brief when sharing information and state facts. E is for Don't Explain: Do not explain yourself to the narcissists. Protect your peace by not going into a heavy discussion with someone who refuses to see a world outside of themselves. P is for Don't Personalize: Do not personalize the narcissists behaviors. The narcissists responses, and behaviors are all about them. Since it is their issue leave it with them. Credits at the bottom say: Created by Dr. Ramani Durvasula, adapted by Angel M. Hoodye LPC-S CART life coach. Flourishing hope counseling, PLLC | @flourishinghope.com An image credited to @alyssamariewellness and the website alyssamariewellness.com of a cycle wheel graph depicting a healthy relationship cycle. In clockwise order the text reads through the cycle as follows: Conflict happens and a concern is brought up. This is listening and curiosity. There can be defensiveness, but there is a general sense of respect and human dignity. There is conversation about "where do we go from here?" Reciprocity comes into play. There's a felt sense of safety overall. Solidifies the health of the relationship. It feels safe to continue communicating the next time there is Conflict. Neither version shrinks themselves to a version they can no longer recognize. End image text. Image entitled "Types of Narcissistic behavior". Green font colors the titles of each type. As follows: Stonewalling: passive-aggressive behavior like silent treatment and body language that seems angry, resentful or hostile. Scare mongering: any attempts to elicit fear and anxiety. Often involves threats. Guilt tripping: attempts to elicit sympathy to hook you into a caretaker or savior role. False hope: False Promises used to manipulate you into doing what they want. (E.g. hoovering). Intrigue: vague or brief information that triggers your anxiety or intrigue. Triggering emotional response: using your vulnerabilities and emotional triggers to project, shift blame, gaslight, invalidate or manipulate you. Website title at the bottom reads: hopefulpanda.com End of image text.
February 2, 2025 at 4:15 AM
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Hearing that Domestic Violence info is gone especially in a time like right now, I'd like to offer the info graphics I have collected for people's knowledge (this will be a thread). I don't have much for the other stuff but I do have this.
A wheel chart showing the aspects of nonviolence and mutual respect. The chart is divided into 8 pie slices and is as follow clockwise from the top: 1. Non-threatening behavior: talking and acting so all family members feel safe and comfortable expressing themselves and doing things 2. Being trustworthy: developing/accepting guidelines (not on image, this does include boundaries), being reliable and honest 3. Communicating respectfully: expressing your needs and feelings willingly and respectfully. Being willing to compromise. 4. Problem solving: being willing to listen, to value each other's position and work towards a compromise 5. Respecting your home: valuing your home, respecting other family members property, problem solving respectfully when having conflict. 6. Being accountable to family: accepting responsibility for your behavior, admitting being wrong, communicating truthfully 7. Respecting other family members needs: thinking through how your behavior affects others, being aware of others needs. 8. Choosing to stay non-violent: stopping yourself when you feel like hurting a family member, staying respectful when you have conflict. End of image text Two wheels showing a pie chart of 8 each depicting violence power and control, and nonviolence equality. The subtext is too small for me to read minimized so I can only list the pie slice titles: Violence, the wheel on top: 1. Using intimidation 2. Using emotional abuse 3. Using isolation 4. Minimizing, denying and blaming 5. Using children (note by poster, not on image: this refers to using children as leverage, pawns or ammo to manipulate, this can also refer to abuse directly to the child) 6. Using male privledge (poster note, not on image: these images were made for women's DV shelters, please remember women can also use societal gendered expectations to leverage as an abuser, however the majority of DV cases are perpetrated by men) 7. Using economic abuse 8. Using coercion and threats Nonviolence, the bottom wheel 1. Non-threatening behaviors 2. Respect 3. Trust and support 4. Honesty and accountability 5. Responsible parenting 6. Shared responsibility 7. Economic partnership 8. Negotiation and fairness
February 2, 2025 at 3:43 AM
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This is your visual reminder to stop doomscrolling, take a deep breath, and go read a book or something that doesn't involve all...this -gestures vaguely to the United States of Disaster-
Give your brain a breather and join #booksky #booktok for a little hit. Your brain will thank you
A picture taken from above of the book Stephen Kings "IT" on a surface with a crocheted black, grey and pink blanket underneath. The cover of the book is all white with the author, title and details in various shades of red and the face of Pennywise the clown without a head in the center.
January 30, 2025 at 12:37 PM
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We are no longer tapping the sign, we are slamming our hand on the sign extremely hard and screaming the words at the top of our lungs
January 28, 2025 at 11:22 AM
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Without downloading any new pics/videos, where are you mentally?
January 23, 2025 at 9:43 PM
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Please be for real right now
January 22, 2025 at 1:37 AM
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And the other is artsjasmine
January 21, 2025 at 10:36 PM
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I'm still learning this site so bear with me
The one is angelina26
January 21, 2025 at 10:36 PM
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It seems to have not posted all photos. Here is one
January 21, 2025 at 10:33 PM
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People who follow artists please beware of these two. Both came into my DMs uninvited trying to trick me into buying artwork without my consent to pay for it. They way they approached this was extremely unethical and predatory and they did not say upfront they are looking for paid work until I asked
January 21, 2025 at 10:32 PM