Ellecia Paine, your relationship coach
@ellecia.bsky.social
Ethically sourced, free range, non-monogamy coach
Host of Nope! We’re Not Monogamous
Host of Nope! We’re Not Monogamous
Real talk: What was it about the monogamous box that made you feel small, stuck, or like you were disappearing? No shade to monogamy—just space for honest reflection.
#polyamory #podcast #nonmonogamous #ethicalnonmonogamy #consensualnonmonogamy #nopewerenotmonogamous
#polyamory #podcast #nonmonogamous #ethicalnonmonogamy #consensualnonmonogamy #nopewerenotmonogamous
August 15, 2025 at 5:01 PM
Real talk: What was it about the monogamous box that made you feel small, stuck, or like you were disappearing? No shade to monogamy—just space for honest reflection.
#polyamory #podcast #nonmonogamous #ethicalnonmonogamy #consensualnonmonogamy #nopewerenotmonogamous
#polyamory #podcast #nonmonogamous #ethicalnonmonogamy #consensualnonmonogamy #nopewerenotmonogamous
You’ve done the work. You’ve twisted and questioned and over-explained. But maybe the issue isn’t you. Maybe it’s the box you were handed. Let’s break it open. #polyamory #podcast #nonmonogamous #ethicalnonmonogamy #consensualnonmonogamy #nopewerenotmonogamous
August 12, 2025 at 5:01 PM
You’ve done the work. You’ve twisted and questioned and over-explained. But maybe the issue isn’t you. Maybe it’s the box you were handed. Let’s break it open. #polyamory #podcast #nonmonogamous #ethicalnonmonogamy #consensualnonmonogamy #nopewerenotmonogamous
When you hear “freedom in love,” what comes to mind? Drop three words that describe what your version of liberated love feels like. There’s no wrong answer. 🖤
#polyamory #podcast #nonmonogamous #ethicalnonmonogamy #consensualnonmonogamy #mondayquestion
#polyamory #podcast #nonmonogamous #ethicalnonmonogamy #consensualnonmonogamy #mondayquestion
August 11, 2025 at 5:01 PM
When you hear “freedom in love,” what comes to mind? Drop three words that describe what your version of liberated love feels like. There’s no wrong answer. 🖤
#polyamory #podcast #nonmonogamous #ethicalnonmonogamy #consensualnonmonogamy #mondayquestion
#polyamory #podcast #nonmonogamous #ethicalnonmonogamy #consensualnonmonogamy #mondayquestion
Let’s celebrate the unshrinking. 🙌 What’s something you stopped doing just to be palatable—and what beauty, clarity, or connection took its place?
August 8, 2025 at 5:01 PM
Let’s celebrate the unshrinking. 🙌 What’s something you stopped doing just to be palatable—and what beauty, clarity, or connection took its place?
Sometimes the right relationship isn’t a person—it’s the structure.
Have you ever felt more grounded, more free, more you when you stepped into a new way of loving?
Tell me what changed.
#polyamory #podcast #nonmonogamous #ethicalnonmonogamy #consensualnonmonogamy #nopewerenotmonogamous
Have you ever felt more grounded, more free, more you when you stepped into a new way of loving?
Tell me what changed.
#polyamory #podcast #nonmonogamous #ethicalnonmonogamy #consensualnonmonogamy #nopewerenotmonogamous
August 1, 2025 at 5:00 PM
Sometimes the right relationship isn’t a person—it’s the structure.
Have you ever felt more grounded, more free, more you when you stepped into a new way of loving?
Tell me what changed.
#polyamory #podcast #nonmonogamous #ethicalnonmonogamy #consensualnonmonogamy #nopewerenotmonogamous
Have you ever felt more grounded, more free, more you when you stepped into a new way of loving?
Tell me what changed.
#polyamory #podcast #nonmonogamous #ethicalnonmonogamy #consensualnonmonogamy #nopewerenotmonogamous
You keep explaining yourself. Softening your language. Making your relationship sound “palatable.”
And still, they don’t get it. That’s not safety. That’s performance.
And still, they don’t get it. That’s not safety. That’s performance.
July 30, 2025 at 5:02 PM
You keep explaining yourself. Softening your language. Making your relationship sound “palatable.”
And still, they don’t get it. That’s not safety. That’s performance.
And still, they don’t get it. That’s not safety. That’s performance.
Ever walked away from a conversation feeling like you had to translate your love life just to be understood? That tension you felt—it’s real. And it’s exhausting. Let’s talk about what actual safety feels like in love.
July 29, 2025 at 5:02 PM
Ever walked away from a conversation feeling like you had to translate your love life just to be understood? That tension you felt—it’s real. And it’s exhausting. Let’s talk about what actual safety feels like in love.
You know that rare, sacred feeling of not needing to shrink? Yeah, let’s talk about that. When’s the last time you felt completely safe to be 100% yourself? 👇#polyamory #podcast #nonmonogamous #ethicalnonmonogamy #consensualnonmonogamy #mondayquestion
July 28, 2025 at 5:02 PM
You know that rare, sacred feeling of not needing to shrink? Yeah, let’s talk about that. When’s the last time you felt completely safe to be 100% yourself? 👇#polyamory #podcast #nonmonogamous #ethicalnonmonogamy #consensualnonmonogamy #mondayquestion
There’s always that moment—a quiet nudge or a loud internal scream—that says: “This isn’t it.”
When did you first start questioning the relationship norms you were handed?
Drop it below 👇 I’d love to hear.
When did you first start questioning the relationship norms you were handed?
Drop it below 👇 I’d love to hear.
July 25, 2025 at 4:02 PM
There’s always that moment—a quiet nudge or a loud internal scream—that says: “This isn’t it.”
When did you first start questioning the relationship norms you were handed?
Drop it below 👇 I’d love to hear.
When did you first start questioning the relationship norms you were handed?
Drop it below 👇 I’d love to hear.
POV: You want more love, more truth, more YOU—and you’re tired of being told that makes you selfish.
This week’s episode of Nope! We’re Not Monogamous is your callout and your permission slip.
Because you’re not too much.
You’re just done performing someone else’s version of “enough.”
🎧 Link in bio.
This week’s episode of Nope! We’re Not Monogamous is your callout and your permission slip.
Because you’re not too much.
You’re just done performing someone else’s version of “enough.”
🎧 Link in bio.
July 24, 2025 at 4:31 PM
POV: You want more love, more truth, more YOU—and you’re tired of being told that makes you selfish.
This week’s episode of Nope! We’re Not Monogamous is your callout and your permission slip.
Because you’re not too much.
You’re just done performing someone else’s version of “enough.”
🎧 Link in bio.
This week’s episode of Nope! We’re Not Monogamous is your callout and your permission slip.
Because you’re not too much.
You’re just done performing someone else’s version of “enough.”
🎧 Link in bio.
Do you ever feel like your desires make you selfish or "too much"? You’ve been taught that “more” makes you greedy. So every time you feel a deeper desire—more love, more freedom, more connection—you wonder if you’re doing it wrong. But what if more is a sign you’re finally telling the truth?
July 23, 2025 at 5:02 PM
Do you ever feel like your desires make you selfish or "too much"? You’ve been taught that “more” makes you greedy. So every time you feel a deeper desire—more love, more freedom, more connection—you wonder if you’re doing it wrong. But what if more is a sign you’re finally telling the truth?
You’re not looking to just collect more partners You’re craving more truth. More alignment. More YOU. That’s not selfish—it’s self-awareness. That’s not chaos—it’s clarity.
#polyamory #podcast #nonmonogamous #ethicalnonmonogamy #consensualnonmonogamy #nopewerenotmonogamous
#polyamory #podcast #nonmonogamous #ethicalnonmonogamy #consensualnonmonogamy #nopewerenotmonogamous
July 22, 2025 at 4:30 PM
You’re not looking to just collect more partners You’re craving more truth. More alignment. More YOU. That’s not selfish—it’s self-awareness. That’s not chaos—it’s clarity.
#polyamory #podcast #nonmonogamous #ethicalnonmonogamy #consensualnonmonogamy #nopewerenotmonogamous
#polyamory #podcast #nonmonogamous #ethicalnonmonogamy #consensualnonmonogamy #nopewerenotmonogamous
Ever bite your tongue because you didn’t think they’d understand? 😬 Let’s change that. Drop it below—what’s one thing you’ve always wanted in love but kept quiet about? No judgment here. 💬
#polyamory #podcast #nonmonogamous #ethicalnonmonogamy #consensualnonmonogamy #mondayquestion
#polyamory #podcast #nonmonogamous #ethicalnonmonogamy #consensualnonmonogamy #mondayquestion
July 21, 2025 at 5:02 PM
Ever bite your tongue because you didn’t think they’d understand? 😬 Let’s change that. Drop it below—what’s one thing you’ve always wanted in love but kept quiet about? No judgment here. 💬
#polyamory #podcast #nonmonogamous #ethicalnonmonogamy #consensualnonmonogamy #mondayquestion
#polyamory #podcast #nonmonogamous #ethicalnonmonogamy #consensualnonmonogamy #mondayquestion
When the mind says yes but the body says no, healing is needed. Check out the full episode with Dedeker Winston from Multiamory and Orit Krug, we chat about so many good somatic tools! #polyamory #podcast #nonmonogamy #relationshiphealing
July 18, 2025 at 5:02 PM
When the mind says yes but the body says no, healing is needed. Check out the full episode with Dedeker Winston from Multiamory and Orit Krug, we chat about so many good somatic tools! #polyamory #podcast #nonmonogamy #relationshiphealing
Struggling to understand your own reactions? Learn why we can't lie to our nervous systems. @Orit.krug explains why sometimes 'it's okay' just isn't. 🎧 Learn more in the latest episode of Nope! We're Not Monogamous!
July 17, 2025 at 7:02 PM
Struggling to understand your own reactions? Learn why we can't lie to our nervous systems. @Orit.krug explains why sometimes 'it's okay' just isn't. 🎧 Learn more in the latest episode of Nope! We're Not Monogamous!
In this week’s episode of Nope! We’re Not Monogamous, I’m joined by @dedekerwinston from the @Multiamory_podcast and dance/movement therapist @orit.krug to talk about what actually happens in your body when you're trying to be the “chill polyam partner”
July 17, 2025 at 4:31 PM
In this week’s episode of Nope! We’re Not Monogamous, I’m joined by @dedekerwinston from the @Multiamory_podcast and dance/movement therapist @orit.krug to talk about what actually happens in your body when you're trying to be the “chill polyam partner”
In this week’s episode of Nope! We’re Not Monogamous, I’m joined by the amazing Jamie Love of Sex Positive World—a global leader in creating consent-forward, inclusive, and deeply healing spaces for connection and intimacy.
July 10, 2025 at 4:03 PM
In this week’s episode of Nope! We’re Not Monogamous, I’m joined by the amazing Jamie Love of Sex Positive World—a global leader in creating consent-forward, inclusive, and deeply healing spaces for connection and intimacy.
If I were to create a training on practical tools for non-monogamy, would you want access?
Type “Tools” in the comments! 🛠️ #relationshipcoaching #nonmonogamytools #polyamory #ethicalnonmonogamy #consensualnonmonogamy
Type “Tools” in the comments! 🛠️ #relationshipcoaching #nonmonogamytools #polyamory #ethicalnonmonogamy #consensualnonmonogamy
July 9, 2025 at 4:02 PM
If I were to create a training on practical tools for non-monogamy, would you want access?
Type “Tools” in the comments! 🛠️ #relationshipcoaching #nonmonogamytools #polyamory #ethicalnonmonogamy #consensualnonmonogamy
Type “Tools” in the comments! 🛠️ #relationshipcoaching #nonmonogamytools #polyamory #ethicalnonmonogamy #consensualnonmonogamy
What’s one practical tool or tip you’ve used that made a real difference in your non-monogamous relationships?
#polyamory #ethicalnonmonogamy #consensualnonmonogamy #relationshipcoach
#polyamory #ethicalnonmonogamy #consensualnonmonogamy #relationshipcoach
July 7, 2025 at 4:03 PM
What’s one practical tool or tip you’ve used that made a real difference in your non-monogamous relationships?
#polyamory #ethicalnonmonogamy #consensualnonmonogamy #relationshipcoach
#polyamory #ethicalnonmonogamy #consensualnonmonogamy #relationshipcoach
Let me know: what's your biggest challenge at social gatherings with multiple partners?
March 19, 2025 at 4:00 PM
Let me know: what's your biggest challenge at social gatherings with multiple partners?
What's your biggest challenge/fear/concern about social events with multiple partners?
March 17, 2025 at 5:01 PM
What's your biggest challenge/fear/concern about social events with multiple partners?
You deserve relationships that feel like coming home to yourself, not leaving yourself at the door when you walk in.
#nonmonogamy #polyamory #podcast #ethicalnonmonogamy #consensualnonmonogamy
#nonmonogamy #polyamory #podcast #ethicalnonmonogamy #consensualnonmonogamy
March 15, 2025 at 5:00 PM
You deserve relationships that feel like coming home to yourself, not leaving yourself at the door when you walk in.
#nonmonogamy #polyamory #podcast #ethicalnonmonogamy #consensualnonmonogamy
#nonmonogamy #polyamory #podcast #ethicalnonmonogamy #consensualnonmonogamy
What's your biggest challenge in creating authentic relationships?
a) Overcoming inherited beliefs
b) Communicating desires clearly
c) Balancing personal needs
a) Overcoming inherited beliefs
b) Communicating desires clearly
c) Balancing personal needs
March 11, 2025 at 5:01 PM
What's your biggest challenge in creating authentic relationships?
a) Overcoming inherited beliefs
b) Communicating desires clearly
c) Balancing personal needs
a) Overcoming inherited beliefs
b) Communicating desires clearly
c) Balancing personal needs
You know the one
March 10, 2025 at 5:00 PM
You know the one