A person in grief does not need cheering up. The flow of happiness and joy still happens but it isn’t because the actions - it’s because there is a stillness of sadness where joy can escape.

If you really want to help a griever, tell them something beyond future aspirations. “It will get better” hurts more than an acknowledgment of current pain.

I informed an acquaintance of the loss of my husband today. She didn’t react. She said nothing. She just asked me how I was enjoying the weather. We can do better. Humans being humans.

I think people walking in grief need to clap back and ask for what you need. And if you have people not showing up - inform them or search for another to help. And if you don’t know how to ask- we as grieves need to use our tools or AI or Google to help us. #grief

People always say, “I don’t know what to say or do for people in grief.” Exciting news! 🚨📰We have Google and AI that will give answers on what to do. You have to decide to do it and that’s what you don’t know how to do.

New to Grief? Here is how I plan my day I divide it into 3 wins a day: physical, mental and spiritual. Then, schedule your day into 3 hour increments blocks. #grief

@bsky.app is giving 2008 Tw vibes and I am here for it. I love talking…ergh …typing this way. I love thinking in short spurts of thought. It’s gotten me through post election November.

My 6 year old is learning to roller skate. It reminds me of how hard it is to learn something new. Grief makes you feel like you are on roller skates in the dark on a slippery path and you are hungry and tired and yet a slobbery tiger with big teeth is chasing you. #grief

If you think you know how long and when a person grieves it’s the first sign that your empathy meter is off. And, just when you think they “should” be fine - they aren’t.

What will happen when Boomers are out of power and Gen X rises up?

Grief is communicating what you need. And then saying it again. And, again. No really - this is what I need.

Grief is not an overt sadness 100% of the time. It’s the work of figuring out how to establish a new life. You miss the person you lost desperately and to your very core. You also have the immense work of building a life with new norms. That’s part of the exhaustion you see on griever’s faces.

At an in person grief group…someone reacted to a surprising statement made by another person about the weather with the comment “Good grief!” Ummmm….

My grief journey started 102 days ago with the loss of my husband. I am learning how ridiculous grief is handled in our American culture. Follow me as I learn to handle life walking in #grief #bkueskynewbie