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Etiquetteer
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Etiquette writer and advisor. Twitter refugee.

Encouraging Perfect Propriety in an Imperfect World since 2001.

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December 29, 2025 at 3:26 PM
With 2026 firmly on the horizon, Etiquetteer suggests what's In and Out for Perfect Propriety:

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In and Out for 2026, Vol. 24, Issue 41 — Etiquetteer
“Fast away the Old Year passes,” as the carol continues. With New Year’s Day very much on the horizon, Etiquetteer wants to guide us into a more Perfectly Proper 2026 with a few Deft and Tasteful Sugg...
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December 28, 2025 at 4:05 PM
And have you, in fact, started your thank-you notes yet?
December 27, 2025 at 2:15 PM
Etiquetteer would like to wish you a Perfectly Proper #nationalthankyounoteday. If you haven't already, it is absolutely time to sit down and express handwritten #thanks for gifts received. You can do it!

#etiquette #manners #correspondence #christmas #boxingday
December 26, 2025 at 5:02 PM
Etiquetteer would like to wish you a Perfectly Proper Christmas Day.
December 25, 2025 at 1:54 PM
The friend of a reader has just asked to be referred to as “Doctor,” though their degree isn’t medical. Is this Perfectly Proper? Etiquetteer recommends kindness, and also brings up such disparate characters as Jill Biden, Aletta Jacobs, and the Duchess of Kent.

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Forms of Address, Vol. 24, Issue 40 — Etiquetteer
Dear Etiquetteer: I’m writing to inquire about the proper forms of address for those with advanced academic achievement. A hardworking academic friend recently earned a doctorate in a non-m...
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December 21, 2025 at 4:34 PM
Etiquetteer took umbrage at the suggestion of a Respected Etiquette Mentor that “Nobody cares” about your holiday newsletter. So Etiquetteer puts forward today a few Perfectly Proper guidelines for this Joyous Ritual that a lot of people do, in fact, care about.

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Holiday Newsletters, Vol. 24, Issue 39 — Etiquetteer
Along with cranberry sauce , another hot-button seasonal issue seems to be the family newsletters so many people include in their holidays cards. In fact, Etiquetteer was shocked to see a Respected E...
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December 14, 2025 at 4:00 PM
Table manners, financial gifts at a baby shower . . . and what to do when you've slept through a holiday party.

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More Salmagundi, Vol. 24, Issue 38 — Etiquetteer
Dear Etiquetteer: Is it proper, while eating at the dinner table, for me to rotate my plate in order to slice something more easily? Or is it just being practical? Dear Cutting: Actually, it’s neit...
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December 7, 2025 at 4:44 PM
In the words of the late Mrs. Honeychurch, "Must he sneer and spoil everyone's pleasure?"

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November 30, 2025 at 3:52 PM
#Thanksgiving is well and truly done, and Etiquetteer sweeps up a few of the leftovers to share today, including cranberry sauce, sweet potato casserole, Actual Leftovers, Billie Holliday, and Mariah Carey.

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Leftovers from Thanksgiving, Vol. 24, Issue 37 — Etiquetteer
Did everyone have a lovely and Perfectly Proper Thanksgiving? Did anyone open (or close) a can of worms by saying “Quiet, Piggy?” Did it feel like a dress rehearsal for the next Great Feast in just a ...
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November 30, 2025 at 2:43 PM
Well . . . did anyone have to say "Quiet, Piggie" at #Thanksgiving yesterday? How did it go?

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November 28, 2025 at 2:54 PM
And another thing: the ladle on the gravy boat is not for pouring, but the place to rest the ladle. This is especially true if the gravy boat's underplate is attached. Otherwise, you end up with a mess. #thanksgiving
November 27, 2025 at 5:40 PM
I do believe it was Mrs. Beeton who said "When pastry comes out, meat may go in." Awfully important when one considers the cooking order for #thanksgiving and the other Great Feasts.
November 27, 2025 at 1:48 PM
Etiquetteer would like to wish you a Perfectly Proper Thanksgiving Day.
November 27, 2025 at 11:49 AM
Today Etiquetteer tossed together a few little bits, such as “to the manor/manner born,” the formality of peas, and what to do with that soup spoon.

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Salmagundi, Vol. 24, Issue 36 — Etiquetteer
It’s been awhile since Etiquetteer has shared a column of Random Issues, but with Thanksgiving tomorrow, what could be more Perfectly Proper than to sweep up all the oddments in the kitchen to produce...
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November 26, 2025 at 3:42 PM
Etiquetteer would like to wish you a Perfectly Proper National Princess Day with this commentary on What We Expect of a Princess from Volume 19.

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What We Expect of a Princess, Vol. 19, Issue 65 — Etiquetteer
Disney has taught us to think of princesses as very beautiful young women who wear the Most Enormous Dresses in the World, tiaras, and the adoration of the Handsome Man of Their Choice, Usually a Prin...
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November 18, 2025 at 2:59 PM
Etiquetteer would like to wish you a #PerfectlyProper #WorldKindnessDay.

Etiquette has changed a lot in the last 50 years, to be used less as a tool for exclusion and more as a way to include as many people as possible in pleasant community.

We can all of us do better. When in doubt, #bekind.
November 13, 2025 at 7:28 PM
Have you been a Holiday Orphan? Etiquetteer has a few tips for how to get through a Great Feast with someone else's family.

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#etiquette #manners #thanksgiving
Tips for Holiday Orphans, Vol. 24, Issue 34 — Etiquetteer
The Time of Great Feasts is almost upon us; November 27 is Thanksgiving this year, less than three weeks away. So right about now hosts will start checking in with friends, relations, and colleagues w...
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November 9, 2025 at 4:05 PM
Now that #Halloween has passed, Etiquetteer meditates on the seasons of seasonal decorations, Christmas Creep, and when it's #PerfectlyProper to start listening to Mariah Carey.

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Seasonal Decorations, Vol. 24, Issue 33 — Etiquetteer
“To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven.” — Ecclesiastes 3:1 “It’s decorative gourd season, [Insert Excessive Profanity Here].” — Colin Nissan, McSweeney’...
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November 2, 2025 at 6:51 PM
Etiquetteer would like to wish you a Perfectly Proper Hallowe'en.
October 31, 2025 at 5:02 PM
Today Etiquetteer sympathizes with a reader who believes a meal should be shared — even if that means waiting to start until everyone has been served:

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#etiquette #manners #tablemanners #patience
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October 22, 2025 at 3:13 PM