Hillary Melchiors
@hillarymelchiors.bsky.social
Doula, writer, medical anthropologist, The Birth Geeks podcaster, small business owner, fierce Midwestern mama 🐻
Oh this could be fun, but it's definitely going to be bougie on a budget. JS.
January 1, 2026 at 7:22 PM
Oh this could be fun, but it's definitely going to be bougie on a budget. JS.
Me: Do you want to watch a show together?
Kid2: Nah, I'm going to watch a show I've been watching on my own. **Turns on TV & starts watching Arrested Development.**
Me: (whispers) So proud.
Kid2: Nah, I'm going to watch a show I've been watching on my own. **Turns on TV & starts watching Arrested Development.**
Me: (whispers) So proud.
December 30, 2025 at 1:49 AM
Me: Do you want to watch a show together?
Kid2: Nah, I'm going to watch a show I've been watching on my own. **Turns on TV & starts watching Arrested Development.**
Me: (whispers) So proud.
Kid2: Nah, I'm going to watch a show I've been watching on my own. **Turns on TV & starts watching Arrested Development.**
Me: (whispers) So proud.
The number of times I have searched Libby for a smutty audiobook and my library only has the German version is definitely not zero. Might we have a German speaker in my library's acquisitions?
December 29, 2025 at 4:22 PM
The number of times I have searched Libby for a smutty audiobook and my library only has the German version is definitely not zero. Might we have a German speaker in my library's acquisitions?
Overheard at a store today.
3 year old: I smell like Mommy.
Mom: Mommy doesn't smell like mayonnaise.
3 year old: I smell like Mommy.
Mom: Mommy doesn't smell like mayonnaise.
December 26, 2025 at 7:48 PM
Overheard at a store today.
3 year old: I smell like Mommy.
Mom: Mommy doesn't smell like mayonnaise.
3 year old: I smell like Mommy.
Mom: Mommy doesn't smell like mayonnaise.
Word choice question: when describing a space that is cozy & comforting in a private residence, what word would you choose to describe it?
A. Homely
B. Homey
A. Homely
B. Homey
December 18, 2025 at 10:56 PM
Word choice question: when describing a space that is cozy & comforting in a private residence, what word would you choose to describe it?
A. Homely
B. Homey
A. Homely
B. Homey
The way that this fiction author just perpetuated the terrible medical phrase "healthy mom, healthy baby is all that matters." 🙄🤮
#dobetter #doulaprobs
#dobetter #doulaprobs
December 17, 2025 at 2:17 AM
The way that this fiction author just perpetuated the terrible medical phrase "healthy mom, healthy baby is all that matters." 🙄🤮
#dobetter #doulaprobs
#dobetter #doulaprobs
Of course my state rep who supports conversion therapy also voted in support of the idiotic redistricting. 🙄 What an embarrassment! #HoosierVoter
December 5, 2025 at 9:14 PM
Of course my state rep who supports conversion therapy also voted in support of the idiotic redistricting. 🙄 What an embarrassment! #HoosierVoter
Another waiting room, another boomer watching videos on their phone at full volume.
November 25, 2025 at 3:49 PM
Another waiting room, another boomer watching videos on their phone at full volume.
Today I learned that gophers can whisper. I also got to chat with my teen about "Humanity's Temporal Range" & Hoosier authors. Thanks @johngreensbluesky.bsky.social !
November 19, 2025 at 3:25 AM
Today I learned that gophers can whisper. I also got to chat with my teen about "Humanity's Temporal Range" & Hoosier authors. Thanks @johngreensbluesky.bsky.social !
I do not feel I was adequately warned about the arts and crafts part of having a senior child involved in school activities. Is this a Midwest specific thing? I've also gotten minimal guidance on what things are supposed to look like, and my kid assures me I am very extra. 🤷
November 6, 2025 at 4:04 AM
I do not feel I was adequately warned about the arts and crafts part of having a senior child involved in school activities. Is this a Midwest specific thing? I've also gotten minimal guidance on what things are supposed to look like, and my kid assures me I am very extra. 🤷
As someone who watches a LOT of softball, listening to baseball chatter about pitchers is fascinating!
November 2, 2025 at 3:33 AM
As someone who watches a LOT of softball, listening to baseball chatter about pitchers is fascinating!
That moment when you realize you do not have the capacity to deal with one single speck of our VERY dysfunctional healthcare system again today. Phew.
October 30, 2025 at 4:03 PM
That moment when you realize you do not have the capacity to deal with one single speck of our VERY dysfunctional healthcare system again today. Phew.
Are any anthropologists talking about the cross-cultural phenomenon of exporting "Love is Blind?" I'm fascinated about how this translates in the German context.
October 12, 2025 at 12:15 AM
Are any anthropologists talking about the cross-cultural phenomenon of exporting "Love is Blind?" I'm fascinated about how this translates in the German context.
I met someone today. Their partner introduced me as a doula. Their response, "Oh yes, clearly. You have doula energy."
October 11, 2025 at 11:30 PM
I met someone today. Their partner introduced me as a doula. Their response, "Oh yes, clearly. You have doula energy."
Can I actually learn Spanish from commercials? Probably not, but I'm sure gonna keep trying to pick out words I know and using context clues to figure out what's going on.
October 6, 2025 at 1:54 AM
Can I actually learn Spanish from commercials? Probably not, but I'm sure gonna keep trying to pick out words I know and using context clues to figure out what's going on.
Things I'm so proud that our kids ask regularly when presented with information:
-Is that true?
-How do you know it's true?
-Can you share the source with me?
Now if only I could get our parents to do the same.
-Is that true?
-How do you know it's true?
-Can you share the source with me?
Now if only I could get our parents to do the same.
October 5, 2025 at 3:05 PM
Things I'm so proud that our kids ask regularly when presented with information:
-Is that true?
-How do you know it's true?
-Can you share the source with me?
Now if only I could get our parents to do the same.
-Is that true?
-How do you know it's true?
-Can you share the source with me?
Now if only I could get our parents to do the same.
The ideals we were sold of meritocracy and equal opportunity are very hard lies to shake off, and once you do, it becomes hard to stay quiet about the terribleness you notice.
October 1, 2025 at 5:49 PM
The ideals we were sold of meritocracy and equal opportunity are very hard lies to shake off, and once you do, it becomes hard to stay quiet about the terribleness you notice.
"You have to look squarely at the darkest aspects of what America is in order to fully truly love what America is supposed to be." I needed these words from @rhodesben.bsky.social today. #AftertheFall
September 28, 2025 at 9:17 PM
"You have to look squarely at the darkest aspects of what America is in order to fully truly love what America is supposed to be." I needed these words from @rhodesben.bsky.social today. #AftertheFall
Today my child told me that she looked up my dissertation to see what citation style I used. Her comment, "that bibliography was insane mom, and you had to actually type those out!"
September 26, 2025 at 2:35 AM
Today my child told me that she looked up my dissertation to see what citation style I used. Her comment, "that bibliography was insane mom, and you had to actually type those out!"
"Loving ourselves and each other deepens our disruption of the dominant systems. They want us unwell, fearful, exhausted, and without deep self-love because you are easier to manipulate when you are distracted by what is not real or true."
Tricia Hersey
Rest is Resistance
Tricia Hersey
Rest is Resistance
September 2, 2025 at 5:25 PM
"Loving ourselves and each other deepens our disruption of the dominant systems. They want us unwell, fearful, exhausted, and without deep self-love because you are easier to manipulate when you are distracted by what is not real or true."
Tricia Hersey
Rest is Resistance
Tricia Hersey
Rest is Resistance
"I used to think that memories were less painful when you held them close. I think perhaps that isn't true though. Now I think pain loses power when we share it."
Kristin Harmel
The Book of Lost Names
Kristin Harmel
The Book of Lost Names
August 27, 2025 at 10:37 PM
"I used to think that memories were less painful when you held them close. I think perhaps that isn't true though. Now I think pain loses power when we share it."
Kristin Harmel
The Book of Lost Names
Kristin Harmel
The Book of Lost Names
Playlist suggestions for the theme karmic revenge?
August 16, 2025 at 1:01 AM
Playlist suggestions for the theme karmic revenge?
Big revenge energy today. Writing is definitely in order.
August 11, 2025 at 1:32 PM
Big revenge energy today. Writing is definitely in order.
Listening to our 15 year rap every word of Baby Got Back perfectly was a fantastic moment for me today.
August 10, 2025 at 6:56 PM
Listening to our 15 year rap every word of Baby Got Back perfectly was a fantastic moment for me today.
"His harm, I thought, was in not understanding that he still had the ability to cause it."
-Esi Adugyan
-Esi Adugyan
August 9, 2025 at 1:11 PM
"His harm, I thought, was in not understanding that he still had the ability to cause it."
-Esi Adugyan
-Esi Adugyan